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Embracing Forgiveness: Living with Eternal Purpose

by mynewlifechurch
on Jan 26, 2025

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Embracing Forgiveness: Living with Eternal Purpose

Devotional

Day 1: Embracing Life's Brevity

Life is fleeting, and this realization should shift our focus from temporary pursuits to eternal legacies. Often, we become consumed with the busyness of life, chasing after achievements and material possessions that ultimately hold no lasting value. Attending funerals can serve as a poignant reminder of life's brevity, prompting us to reflect on how we will be remembered and the impact of our lives. In these moments, we are reminded that the stories shared are not about wealth or accolades but about love, devotion, and the difference we made in the lives of others. [18:52]

"So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom." (Psalm 90:12, ESV)

Reflection: What is one temporary pursuit you can let go of today to focus more on building an eternal legacy?


Day 2: The Necessity of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a central theme in Scripture, highlighting our need for it and God's command to forgive others. It is essential for receiving God's forgiveness and living in freedom. Jesus taught that forgiving others is not optional but a requirement for those who wish to experience the fullness of God's grace. Yet, many struggle with forgiveness, often due to the misconception that it condones the wrong done to them. Instead, forgiveness is about releasing the hold that past hurts have on us, allowing us to move forward in freedom and peace. [23:36]

"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you." (Colossians 3:13, ESV)

Reflection: Is there someone you need to forgive today? What steps can you take to begin this process?


Day 3: Breaking Free from Bitterness

Unforgiveness traps us in bitterness, preventing us from experiencing the joy and freedom Christ offers. Recognizing these traps helps us choose a different path. Bitterness can consume our thoughts and emotions, leading to a life filled with resentment and anger. By choosing to forgive, we break free from these chains, allowing ourselves to experience the abundant life that Christ promises. This choice is not easy, but it is necessary for our spiritual and emotional well-being. [29:15]

"Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice." (Ephesians 4:31, ESV)

Reflection: What is one area of bitterness in your life that you can surrender to God today?


Day 4: The Path to Joy and Peace

Embracing forgiveness involves living like time is limited, processing pain properly, exchanging revenge for freedom, and separating forgiveness from trust. These steps lead to a life of joy and peace. Forgiveness is a deliberate choice that requires us to let go of the desire for revenge and instead seek healing and restoration. It is important to understand that forgiveness does not mean forgetting or excusing the wrong but choosing to release its hold on us. By doing so, we open ourselves to the joy and peace that God desires for us. [32:17]

"Make every effort to live in peace with everyone and to be holy; without holiness, no one will see the Lord." (Hebrews 12:14, ESV)

Reflection: How can you actively pursue peace in a relationship that has been strained by unforgiveness?


Day 5: Seeking Help in Forgiveness

Forgiveness is a choice we must make, but we don't have to process pain alone. Seeking help from trusted friends, leaders, or counselors can aid in this journey, allowing us to experience God's freedom. It is important to recognize that forgiveness is a process that may require support and guidance from others. By reaching out for help, we can gain new perspectives and find the strength to forgive, ultimately leading to a life marked by freedom and joy. [35:23]

"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing." (1 Thessalonians 5:11, ESV)

Reflection: Who can you reach out to for support in your journey of forgiveness today?

Sermon Summary

If you only had 30 days left to live, how would you spend those days? This question challenges us to focus on what truly matters in life. Often, we get caught up in the temporary, neglecting the eternal. Attending funerals can be a powerful reminder of life's brevity and the importance of leaving a meaningful legacy. At funerals, we don't hear about material possessions or career achievements; instead, we hear stories of love, devotion, and impact. This reflection leads us to consider the significance of forgiveness, a central theme in our faith.

Forgiveness is at the heart of why God sent Jesus to earth. It is a recurring theme in Scripture, emphasizing our desperate need for it. Jesus taught that forgiving others is essential for receiving God's forgiveness. Yet, many of us struggle with forgiveness due to various traps: living as if time is limitless, allowing pain to prevent us from processing forgiveness, waiting to forgive as a means of getting even, and fearing further hurt. These traps lead to bitterness, robbing us of the joy and freedom Christ offers.

To embrace forgiveness, we must live like time is limited, process pain properly, exchange the goal of getting even for living in freedom, and separate forgiveness from trust. Forgiveness is a choice we must make, but we don't have to process pain alone. Seeking help from trusted friends, life group leaders, pastors, or counselors can aid in this journey. By choosing forgiveness, we release the weight of unforgiveness, experience more joy and peace, and leave a legacy that glorifies God.

Ultimately, we will stand before the Lord and give an account of our lives. The words we long to hear are "Well done." Choosing forgiveness, even when it's difficult, aligns us with God's will and allows us to experience His freedom. Let us be a people marked by forgiveness, modeling it for those around us, and honoring God in our relationships.


Key Takeaways
  • 1. Life's brevity should shift our focus from temporary pursuits to eternal legacies. Attending funerals reminds us of this, prompting us to consider how we will be remembered and the impact of our lives. [18:52]
  • 2. Forgiveness is a central theme in Scripture, highlighting our need for it and God's command to forgive others. It is essential for receiving God's forgiveness and living in freedom. [23:36]
  • 3. Unforgiveness traps us in bitterness, preventing us from experiencing the joy and freedom Christ offers. Recognizing these traps helps us choose a different path. [29:15]
  • 4. Embracing forgiveness involves living like time is limited, processing pain properly, exchanging revenge for freedom, and separating forgiveness from trust. These steps lead to a life of joy and peace. [32:17]
  • 5. Forgiveness is a choice we must make, but we don't have to process pain alone. Seeking help from trusted friends, leaders, or counselors can aid in this journey, allowing us to experience God's freedom. [35:23]
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Youtube Chapters
  • [00:00] - Welcome
  • [15:28] - Reflecting on Life's Brevity
  • [17:07] - The Impact of Funerals
  • [18:04] - Questions of Legacy
  • [18:52] - The Value of Eternal Focus
  • [19:36] - Legacy Over Accomplishments
  • [21:24] - Gratitude and Relationships
  • [22:09] - The Importance of Forgiveness
  • [23:36] - Jesus' Teaching on Forgiveness
  • [24:30] - Struggles with Forgiveness
  • [25:23] - Traps of Unforgiveness
  • [26:09] - Pain and Forgiveness
  • [27:56] - The Cost of Unforgiveness
  • [29:15] - Bitterness and Its Effects
  • [32:17] - Choosing a Different Ending
  • [32:56] - Embracing Forgiveness
  • [35:23] - Seeking Help in Forgiveness
  • [36:20] - Living in Freedom
  • [39:48] - Separating Forgiveness and Trust
  • [41:24] - The Weight of Unforgiveness
  • [42:07] - Choosing the Better End
  • [44:12] - Prayer and Response

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Forgiveness is at the heart of why God sent his son Jesus to this earth. He sent him here to live a sinless life for us, to be crucified on the cross, to pay for our sins so that we can be forgiven. And if you read through scripture, you don't have to read very far before you see God begin to talk about forgiveness. [00:22:09] (20 seconds) Edit Clip
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Matthew 6 verses 14 and 15, this is our foundational scripture for today. Jesus said this, if you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your father will not forgive your sins. [00:22:57] (18 seconds) Edit Clip
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Forgiveness, it clearly matters to God, both that we are forgiven and that we forgive others. And today we're going to focus on the latter of those two, the decision to forgive others and how it impacts the quality of our life. So at all of our campuses, even those of you that are with us through New Life Online, wherever you're joining us from today, I want you to raise your hand if you've ever had difficulty forgiving someone. [00:23:42] (26 seconds) Edit Clip
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We're going to look at four reasons or four traps of unforgiveness. Now, this is not an exhaustive list. You might have one or two things that you would add to this list, but for the sake of time today, we're going to look at four traps of unforgiveness. Why don't we forgive? The first trap that I would present is this. We live like time is limitless. [00:25:01] (23 seconds) Edit Clip
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We live as if we are going to have more time and another opportunity, forgive. So we put it off. We think we'll have time to forgive later. So we procrastinate and we get distracted by other things. And we choose not to forgive because we think time is limitless. If we only have 30 days to live though, I don't think we would procrastinate with forgiveness. [00:25:23] (27 seconds) Edit Clip
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The number one effect caused by unforgiveness is bitterness. Say bitterness. Bitterness. It's difficult for your life to be full of joy when your heart is filled with bitterness. And if we never rip out that root of unforgiveness from our heart, then what is it going to produce? It's going to produce a bitter life, a resentful life, a life that looks around at all of the other people and you're upset that they seem to have more joy, more resentment. [00:28:41] (34 seconds) Edit Clip
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You see, when you choose not to forgive, your life lacks the freedom that Christ offers. How many of you want the freedom that Christ offers? I think we all do. I think we all do, or we wouldn't be sitting here. We wouldn't be joining through New Life Online. We wouldn't be at one of our other campuses. We wouldn't be sitting here today gathering to worship God, to hear a message from God's word, if we didn't want to live in the freedom that Christ offers. [00:29:46] (29 seconds) Edit Clip
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Live like time is limited. Don't put off forgiveness to tomorrow when you can do it today. Live like time is limited. James 4, the last part of verse 14 says, your life is like the morning fog. It's here a little while, then it's gone. It's good to not live in denial of that truth. So live like time is limited. And when you realize that it is limited, man, it enriches all the time that you do have left. [00:32:56] (32 seconds) Edit Clip
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Exchange the goal of trying to get even and getting revenge. Because you know what? Even if you accomplish that, even if you succeed at that, is that going to make your life better? No. So exchange the goal of trying to get even for the goal of living in freedom. Go back to our foundational scripture again. Matthew 6, 14 through 15. If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your father will not forgive your sins. [00:36:20] (30 seconds) Edit Clip
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Forgiveness is at the heart of why God sent his son Jesus to this earth. He sent him here to live a sinless life for us, to be crucified on the cross, to pay for our sins so that we can be forgiven. And if you read through scripture, you don't have to read very far before you see God begin to talk about forgiveness. [00:22:09] (20 seconds) Edit Clip
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Matthew 6 verses 14 and 15, this is our foundational scripture for today. Jesus said this, if you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your father will not forgive your sins. [00:22:57] (18 seconds) Edit Clip
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Forgiveness, it clearly matters to God, both that we are forgiven and that we forgive others. And today we're going to focus on the latter of those two, the decision to forgive others and how it impacts the quality of our life. So at all of our campuses, even those of you that are with us through New Life Online, wherever you're joining us from today, I want you to raise your hand if you've ever had difficulty forgiving someone. [00:23:42] (26 seconds) Edit Clip
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We're going to look at four reasons or four traps of unforgiveness. Now, this is not an exhaustive list. You might have one or two things that you would add to this list, but for the sake of time today, we're going to look at four traps of unforgiveness. Why don't we forgive? The first trap that I would present is this. We live like time is limitless. [00:25:01] (23 seconds) Edit Clip
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We live as if we are going to have more time and another opportunity, forgive. So we put it off. We think we'll have time to forgive later. So we procrastinate and we get distracted by other things. And we choose not to forgive because we think time is limitless. If we only have 30 days to live though, I don't think we would procrastinate with forgiveness. [00:25:23] (27 seconds) Edit Clip
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The number one effect caused by unforgiveness is bitterness. Say bitterness. Bitterness. It's difficult for your life to be full of joy when your heart is filled with bitterness. And if we never rip out that root of unforgiveness from our heart, then what is it going to produce? It's going to produce a bitter life, a resentful life, a life that looks around at all of the other people and you're upset that they seem to have more joy, more resentment. [00:28:41] (34 seconds) Edit Clip
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You see, when you choose not to forgive, your life lacks the freedom that Christ offers. How many of you want the freedom that Christ offers? I think we all do. I think we all do, or we wouldn't be sitting here. We wouldn't be joining through New Life Online. We wouldn't be at one of our other campuses. We wouldn't be sitting here today gathering to worship God, to hear a message from God's word, if we didn't want to live in the freedom that Christ offers. [00:29:46] (29 seconds) Edit Clip
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Live like time is limited. Don't put off forgiveness to tomorrow when you can do it today. Live like time is limited. James 4, the last part of verse 14 says, your life is like the morning fog. It's here a little while, then it's gone. It's good to not live in denial of that truth. So live like time is limited. And when you realize that it is limited, man, it enriches all the time that you do have left. [00:32:56] (32 seconds) Edit Clip
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Exchange the goal of trying to get even and getting revenge. Because you know what? Even if you accomplish that, even if you succeed at that, is that going to make your life better? No. So exchange the goal of trying to get even for the goal of living in freedom. Go back to our foundational scripture again. Matthew 6, 14 through 15. If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your father will not forgive your sins. [00:36:20] (30 seconds) Edit Clip
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If you only had 30 days left to live, how would you spend those 30 days? That's been a big question that we've been focusing on in this series. It's 30 days to live. If you only had 30 days left to live, how would you spend those days? We're going to talk more about that today.

But before we jump into today's message, Kearney Campus, can we greet everybody that's with us through New Life Online with Pastor Robert, everybody in Ogallala with Pastor Wes and Kim in North Platte, Pastor Tyler and Sarah, and in Holdridge with Pastor Russell and Deanna. Welcome to everybody that's a part of New Life today.

So like I said, if you only had 30 days left to live, how would you spend those 30 days? If you only had 30 days left to live, that's what we're focused on in this series. If you only had 30 days left to live, I'm willing to guess that you would be more focused on the legacy that you're going to leave than the bucket list items that you want to cross off before your time's over.

If you only had 30 days left to live, I think you and I, we would spend those days differently than we typically spend our days. I think, hopefully, we would be more focused on eternal things than temporal things.

But just for a moment, and I apologize if you think this is morbid, all right? We won't spend a lot of time here in case it causes you some anxiety, but I want you to just picture for a moment that you're at peace, you're not in pain, but you're laying on your deathbed.

And you don't have a ton of time left, maybe a couple of days, we're getting towards the end of the 30 days left. Maybe it's just a few hours left that you have to live. You know a few things that I don't think you're probably going to say to your loved ones that have gathered around you?

I'm going to guess you're probably not going to say to them, "Man, I wish I'd have bought more stuff. I wish I'd have taken that last work meeting. I can't believe I missed it. You know, I just wish I would have worried more." I really think that would have made my life better.

For me personally, I hope that when I'm on my deathbed, I'm not asking, "Did the Celtics win last night? Who do they play tomorrow night?" I don't think I'm gonna be asking my wife, Tiffany, "Hey, can you hand me my phone so I can doom scroll through social media just a little bit more?"

But we tend to spend our days doing things that if we knew, man, we've only got 30 days left, man, I think we would change some of our focus, change the way that we invest or spend or use those last few days.

With all joking aside, I've attended two funerals recently. Both of them happened to be here at the Kearney campus. I attended the funeral of Nancy Scheffler and of David Brown. And I was reminded of how powerful attending a funeral can be.

When you attend a funeral, you walk in with a different mentality. You walk into a funeral different than you walk into work. You walk into a funeral differently than you walk into a restaurant when you're gonna sit down and eat. You walk into a funeral differently than you walk into your house after a long day of work.

It's natural for you to be thinking about what's next for me after this life when you walk into a funeral. With your loved ones passing, you tend to ask some big questions that maybe you don't think about often when life is going well and no one that you know or love or care deeply about has passed away recently.

When you walk in, though, you ask these kinds of questions. You're thinking, "What's gonna happen to me when I die? What's gonna happen to me when I pass away? Where am I going to go? What is next for me?" You may ask the question of "How am I gonna be remembered? What are my loved ones gonna be saying about me at my funeral and beyond? What stories are they gonna tell about me? How is my memory maybe gonna be kept alive through my loved one?"

Attending a funeral every so often, it's a really healthy thing to do because it reminds us of the brevity of life, that our days are numbered, that our days aren't going to just last forever in this life. And so when we attend a funeral, it can be a really healthy thing.

Ecclesiastes chapter seven, verse two, says this about funerals: "Better to spend your time at funerals than at parties. After all, everyone dies, so the living should take this to heart." Better to spend your time at funerals than at parties.

Now, it doesn't necessarily say that every funeral is gonna be more enjoyable than parties. But there's this comparison, there's a contrast going on here. That at funerals, what are we tending to do? We're tending to think about eternity. Things that are eternal, and that's really healthy for us.

Because when we're at parties or we're just going about our everyday life, it's so easy to just be consumed by the temporary. So it's really healthy for us to think about eternity, to attend funerals, and at these last two funerals for Nancy and for David, powerful moments happen when we got to the eulogy, where loved ones stood up and they shared stories and they shared memories about the person that had passed away.

You know, they didn't talk about how much money the person had made. I don't know how much money Nancy made or David made. They didn't talk about all of the career accomplishments. They didn't talk about their education.

Now, I think we should work hard. I think we should, you know, get an education. I think we should give our best at work. There's nothing wrong with making money, but so often we get focused on the wrong things.

And at these funerals, loved ones got up and they shared, they described the legacy that the person that passed away was leaving behind. They shared how their lives have been impacted by a father's unconditional love. They talked about how their grandmother was devoted in her prayer life.

And she would walk circles in her basement, praying for all of her family, including her grandchildren. And her grandchildren got up and they boasted about their grandmother's prayer life and how they had seen so many answered prayers in their life. And they traced it back to their grandmother's love and devotion to prayer.

If you had only 30 days to live, I'm willing to guess that you would focus more on the legacy that you're going to leave behind than all of the bucket list items that you're trying to cross off.

As we've talked about in this series, you'd express gratitude to God for the things in your life that have made it a rich and fulfilling life. You'd express gratitude for the goodness of God and the faithfulness of God if you only had 30 days left to live.

If you only had 30 days left to live, you'd want to make sure that your loved ones know how much you love them. Last week, Pastor Jeff challenged us all to love more, that that's something that we would want to do if we knew, man, we only have just a few days left in this life.

I think another thing that we would focus on if we knew that we only had 30 days left to live would be our relationships. Are there any relationships that are fractured? Are there any relationships that are in need of repair? Because perhaps I haven't forgiven or I haven't asked for forgiveness.

This leads us to our topic today. We're going to talk about forgiveness. Forgiveness is at the heart of why God sent his son Jesus to this earth. He sent him here to live a sinless life for us, to be crucified on the cross, to pay for our sins so that we can be forgiven.

And if you read through scripture, you don't have to read very far before you see God begin to talk about forgiveness. And as you read through the Bible, you see that this is a theme that matters dearly to God. It's a theme that pops up over and over and over in scripture. Why? Because you and me, we are in desperate need of forgiveness.

If you believe that is true, say amen. That we are in desperate need of forgiveness. Matthew 6 verses 14 and 15, this is our foundational scripture for today. Jesus said this: "If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your father will not forgive your sins."

Now, if this verse is something that you've read many times over the years, unfortunately, there's a chance that you've grown desensitized to just how profound this is. If this is your first time hearing it, you're probably sitting there thinking, "Wow, that's a really big deal. I need to make sure I get this right."

If you're like me, you don't want to put a cap on the amount of forgiveness. If you're like me, you don't want to limit the forgiveness that the Father will extend your way. Amen.

Forgiveness, it clearly matters to God, both that we are forgiven and that we forgive others. And today we're going to focus on the latter of those two, the decision to forgive others and how it impacts the quality of our life.

So at all of our campuses, even those of you that are with us through New Life Online, wherever you're joining us from today, I want you to raise your hand if you've ever had difficulty forgiving someone. I'm not going to ask you to go any further than that. You don't have to tell us any of the details. You don't have to tell us who it was, especially if it's the person sitting next to you.

But all of us, at some point in our life, we've had difficulty forgiving somebody. We've all struggled with it. It's something that the enemy loves that we struggle with. He loves when we don't live in the freedom that Christ offers because we're so torn up in this relationship and we're having trouble forgiving.

If forgiveness is such a big deal to God, why is it that we so often struggle to forgive? We're going to look at four reasons or four traps of unforgiveness. Now, this is not an exhaustive list. You might have one or two things that you would add to this list, but for the sake of time today, we're going to look at four traps of unforgiveness.

Why don't we forgive? The first trap that I would present is this: We live like time is limitless. We live as if we are going to have more time and another opportunity to forgive. So we put it off. We think we'll have time to forgive later. So we procrastinate and we get distracted by other things. And we choose not to forgive because we think time is limitless.

If we only have 30 days to live, though, I don't think we would procrastinate with forgiveness. We would want to make sure before our life is over this side of heaven, that we have extended all the forgiveness that we are to forgive.

Now, number two, pain prevents us from processing forgiveness properly. I used to be an elementary teacher. I love alliteration. Pain prevents us from processing forgiveness properly. When we're hurt, we go into self-preservation mode. We're like the hedgehog that just curls up in a ball and just wants to be protected.

When we're hurt, we look for ways to cope that are just going to make us feel good. They're going to distract us. They're going to help us numb out and not deal with the pain. Unfortunately, it's all too easy to find ways to cope. It simply masks the pain, doesn't actually process the pain, doesn't actually help the pain to go away for good.

We get stuck in vicious cycles that mask the pain, and we wind up never dealing with the root of the pain. We never end up dealing with the lack of forgiveness.

So why don't we forgive? We live like time is limitless. Pain prevents us from processing forgiveness properly.

Number three, we wait to forgive as a way to get even. Now, you've probably never done that. That's probably just me, all right? That you've waited to forgive because you thought, "If I don't forgive, if I hold out just a little bit longer, then it's going to help me get even." And your focus is not on forgiveness. It's on getting even.

I've heard it said before, though, that withholding forgiveness from somebody else is like you drinking the poison and expecting them to die, or at least maybe get really sick. All right? Who ends up getting hurt the most when you choose not to forgive? You do. I do when I choose not to forgive.

So don't buy the lie that waiting to forgive is somehow going to make your situation better. It's not. It's not going to make it any better.

And then the fourth one, and this is one I have tons and tons of empathy for, because I found myself in this one more than once. We don't forgive because we don't want to get hurt again. We're afraid that if we forgive the person that has hurt us, that we will put ourselves in a position only to be hurt again and again and again.

So what's at stake? What's going to happen if you choose to just stay in one or more of these traps of unforgiveness? What's going to happen if you never take the step of forgiveness? The number one effect caused by unforgiveness is bitterness. Say bitterness. Bitterness.

It's difficult for your life to be full of joy when your heart is filled with bitterness. And if we never rip out that root of unforgiveness from our heart, then what is it going to produce? It's going to produce a bitter life, a resentful life, a life that looks around at all of the other people and you're upset that they seem to have more joy, more peace, more love, that they're getting more out of life than you.

We'll grow bitter if we stay in one of the traps of unforgiveness. Hebrews 12 verses 14 through 15 says it this way: "Work at living in peace with everyone and work at living a holy life. For those who are not holy will not see the Lord. Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. And then get this, watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many."

You see, when you choose not to forgive, your life lacks the freedom that Christ offers. How many of you want the freedom that Christ offers? I think we all do. I think we all do, or we wouldn't be sitting here. We wouldn't be joining through New Life Online. We wouldn't be at one of our other campuses. We wouldn't be sitting here today gathering to worship God, to hear a message from God's word, if we didn't want to live in the freedom that Christ offers.

So let's figure out how we can change the end of our life. If we only had 30 days left, we wouldn't be sitting here. We wouldn't be sitting here. We wouldn't be sitting here. If we only had 30 days left to live, let's talk about how we can change our ending.

Now, I'm going to pull back the curtain a little bit on my life and my upbringing. How many of you guys love movies? Anybody love movies? All right. Real quick, I want you to think of the movie that you have watched more than any other movie in your life. And tell your neighbor, just real quick, type it in the chat, what's the movie that you have watched more than any other movie in your life?

Now, I'm going to share with you the movie that I've watched more than any other movie in my life. And some of you are going to judge me. Some of you are probably going to walk out. Some of you, like John over here, are going to think, "I'm not going to listen to another word he says." All right?

But the movie that I've watched more than any other movie in my life, I'm not endorsing it necessarily. I'm just telling you the truth, is the movie Clue. The movie Clue, it's based on the old board game where you got to figure out who done it, where the murder happened, what weapon did they use.

And my opinion is, I'm not going to listen to another movie in my life. My family, we grew up playing that game all the time with my cousins and my grandparents. And we watched the movie based on that board game. I've watched it more than any other movie in my life.

And you're probably thinking, "Why are we talking about the movie Clue?" Well, because I've never talked about it in a message before and I wanted to throw it in. No, I'm just joking. But here's the deal. Here's the unique thing about Clue. Clue, if you went to see it in the movie theater, you actually didn't know how the movie was going to end because there were three different endings to the movie that they filmed.

And based on which theater you went, you got a different ending. I thought that was super cool, super creative. And so why do I bring it up? Here's the deal. If you're struggling with some bitterness, you're struggling with some unforgiveness in your life.

And we're in this series considering like, man, what if we only had 30 days left to live? What if we only had 10 days left to live? Here's the deal. Your life doesn't have to end with the bitterness. Your life doesn't have to end with unforgiveness. You can choose a different ending. You can choose a different ending.

So let's talk about four ways that you can embrace forgiveness. And it's basically take the four traps of unforgiveness and do the opposite.

Number one, live like time is limited. Live like time is limited. Don't put off forgiveness to tomorrow when you can do it today. Live like time is limited. James 4, the last part of verse 14 says, "Your life is like the morning fog. It's here a little while, then it's gone." It's good to not live in denial of that truth.

So live like time is limited. And when you realize that it is limited, man, it enriches all the time that you do have left.

So number one, live like time is limited. Number two, process pain properly. Process pain properly. One of the most important concepts to grasp is that forgiveness is a choice you alone can make. No one can choose forgiveness for you. No one can do the act and the hard work of forgiveness for yourself.

It's a process you don't have to go through alone. Yes, you have to forgive on your own. That's the decision. That's a responsibility you can't give to somebody else. But getting there and processing pain, you don't have to do that alone.

Galatians 6:2 encourages us this way: "Share each other's burdens and in this way obey the law of Christ." Now, so often we deal with emotional pain, psychological pain, spiritual pain differently than we do physical pain.

What do I mean by that? If I broke my leg, you better believe I'm going to the doctor. I'm not going to just hobble around on my leg that's broken, hoping that I'm smart enough to get it figured out so I can get to a place where I'm healed again and I'm healthy again. I'm going to go seek some help from a medical professional. I'm going to go see a doctor. I might even need to then see a physical therapist.

And so if we're willing to get help with our physical pain, I want to encourage you today, get help with emotional pain, psychological pain, spiritual pain. Get some assistance from a trusted friend. Because you know what? That friend, it would give them honor and they would see it as a privilege if you shared your burden with them so they could walk with you.

They could help you process that pain. They would probably be upset with you if they realized that you were dealing with some pain and you weren't trusting them with it. You weren't opening up to them about it.

So go to a trusted friend. Go to a life group leader. We've got life groups at all of our campuses and I guarantee you, because I know the heart of our life group leaders, they want to help you process your pain.

So open up to a life group leader. You could also go to a pastor. I know our pastoral staff, they would love to help you process your pain properly. And then one other option that just continues to be something that God blesses, that God is using to bring healing and freedom and restoration is New Life City Care Counseling.

We've got Pastor Nate, we've got Amanda, and we've got a new intern, Trey Ann. I got to brag about Trey Ann. She's one of our worship leaders here at the Kearney campus. She's interning. And I'm telling you, those three individuals would love to help you process your pain properly.

Take a step of vulnerability this week. Don't put it off. Don't live as if time is, you know, limitless and you'll be able to do that later. If you've got pain from a relationship that has been fractured and there's unforgiveness in your life, don't wait. Don't wait. Take a step to forgive today and it might just be reaching out and sharing your burden with God or someone else.

Number three. Number three. A way that you can embrace forgiveness: Exchange the goal of getting even for the goal of living in freedom. Exchange the goal of trying to get even and getting revenge. Because you know what? Even if you accomplish that, even if you succeed at that, is that going to make your life better? No.

So exchange the goal of trying to get even for the goal of living in freedom. Go back to our foundational scripture again. Matthew 6:14-15: "If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your father will not forgive your sins."

Start forgiving today and never stop forgiving. You'll never experience freedom when your goal is getting even. You'll never live in the abundant life that Jesus offers you when your goal is to get even and to hurt somebody as much as they've hurt you.

So exchange that goal and make it the goal of living in freedom. And then the last one is to separate forgiveness and trust. Separate forgiveness and trust. They're as connected and inseparable. Separate forgiveness and trust. They're two different things.

A few years back, I went through a book study of the book, The Purpose Driven Life, and I met with my friend John and my friend Wesley, who is now Pastor Wes out at the Ogallala campus. The three of us, we were each reading through this book, and we'd meet once a week and we'd chat about it. And we'd talk about it. And we'd talk about it.

And I'm telling you, if you've never done that, there's like a thousand different good books. Pick a good book and get some people, some friends, two or three or five, and go through it and discuss it and talk through what God is speaking to you and what he's revealing to you as you read through this book. That's what we did.

And all these years later, there's a principle that I learned from that book that really, truly changed my whole view of forgiveness. So I want to share it with you. It's kind of a lengthy quote, but as he's talking about forgiveness and trust, Pastor Rick Warren shares this.

He says, "Many people are reluctant to show mercy or forgiveness because they don't understand the difference between trust and forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past. Trust has to do with future behavior. Forgiveness must be immediate, whether or not the person asks for it. Trust must be rebuilt over time.

If someone hurts you repeatedly, you're commanded by God to forgive them instantly. But, this is a big one, you've got to get this, you are not expected to trust them immediately. And you are not expected to continue allowing them to hurt you. God wants you to live in freedom. And so that's why he commands you to forgive and to forgive instantly, whether you think they deserve it, whether they've asked for it, that does not matter.

Because God has commanded you to forgive. So forgive and forgive instantly. But if you have found yourself in some sort of relationship that has been incredibly painful, and you would say, "Well, I forgave and then they hurt me again. And I forgave, and they hurt me again. And I forgave, and they hurt me again."

I want you to hear this. Forgiveness, continue to forgive. Continue to forgive because God loves you and he wants you to work or walk in freedom. He wants your heart to be healthy and he knows that if you leave unforgiveness in your heart, it will grow bitterness and he does not want that for you.

But here's the deal, you don't have to continue to trust them. You don't have to allow them to continue to hurt you. So separate forgiveness and trust.

What will happen if you embrace forgiveness? If you take some of these things that we talked about today and you embrace forgiveness, well here's the deal, if you embrace forgiveness, you're going to stop carrying around the weight of unforgiveness.

And it's a weight that sometimes we've grown so accustomed to that we forget that we're carrying it. But when you start to forgive, you'll realize, "Wow, I feel lighter. I'm experiencing more joy, more peace." It's because you're not carrying around the weight of unforgiveness.

So in closing, I want you to consider that question one more time. If you only had 30 days left to live, how would you invest those days? How would you spend those days?

See, when your 30 days are up, when your life is over, which story ending do you want told about you? Do you want the story to be that, man, you held a grudge? You held it to the bitter end. Emphasis on bitter end.

Or two, that you embrace forgiveness and in doing so, you chose the better end. The choice is yours. The choice is yours. Will you withhold forgiveness in doing so, only hurt you and those that are close to you? Or will you, in an act of obedience and worship to your heavenly father, choose to forgive?

And in doing so, leave a legacy that brings God glory, let you experience the freedom that he has to offer, and inspire your loved ones to also choose to forgive.

I want you to hear these words from Ephesians 4 verses 31 through 32: "Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you."

See, the Bible tells us that each one of us one day we will stand before the Lord or maybe we'll kneel before the Lord. We're going to give an account for how we spend our life. And the words each one of us is wanting to hear, each one of us longs to hear is, "Well done, well done."

I invite you to close your eyes for a moment and to the best of your ability imagine that moment that you're standing or you're kneeling before the Lord. Your life here on this earth is over and you've come face to face with the God that loves you. Wouldn't it be incredible to hear him say this: "Even when the pain was intense, even when it wasn't your fault, even when you had already done it, you chose to forgive just as I forgave you. Well done."

You can open up your eyes and why don't you stand with me? And we're going to pray and then we're going to go into a time of worship. We're going to respond to our Heavenly Father.

So I invite you to close your eyes, bow your heads, and let us pray.

Father, thank you for this command to forgive. We trust that you know what is best for us. Because your thoughts and your ways are far beyond our thoughts and our ways. And what we would maybe want to do if it was left up to us.

But God, you've commanded us to forgive. So may we be a people that are marked by forgiveness. May our lives be ones that model forgiveness for those around us.

Lord, I pray right now for those that are struggling with understanding. I pray right now for those that are struggling with unforgiveness because of pain, because of things that were said to them or done to them.

Lord, I pray right now that they would experience your peace. That your love, your grace, your mercy would wash over them right now. That they would have a revelation of your love.

God, may we be a church that chooses to honor you, to worship you, to obey you as we forgive. God, I pray for restoration in relationships. Lift the weight of unforgiveness from our shoulders, God.

Do a work in our heart to make us healthy and whole as we live to worship you and to glorify you. We pray this in Jesus' name. And everybody said, amen.

Subject: Embracing Forgiveness: Living with Eternal Purpose



Dear mynewlifechurch,



I hope my email finds you reflecting on the importance of forgiveness as we consider how we would spend our last days on earth.



Last Sunday, we explored the profound question of how we would live if we only had 30 days left. We learned that in such a scenario, our focus would likely shift from temporary pursuits to the legacy we leave behind, emphasizing the need for forgiveness in our relationships. We discussed the traps of unforgiveness that can weigh us down, such as living as if time is limitless and allowing pain to prevent us from processing our feelings. Ultimately, we were reminded that forgiveness is not just a command from God but a pathway to freedom and joy in our lives.



As we move forward, I challenge you to take a moment this week to reflect on any relationships that may need healing. Are there areas where you’ve been holding onto bitterness or resentment? Remember, forgiveness is a choice that can lighten your heart and restore your peace. Let’s commit to living with urgency, embracing the freedom that comes from forgiving others, and leaving a legacy that glorifies God.



Blessings,

mynewlifechurch Team

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