Understanding Marriage, Divorce, and Singleness in Christ

 

Summary

In today's message, we explored the complexities of marriage, divorce, and singleness as outlined in 1 Corinthians 7. The city of Corinth, where Paul established the first Christian church, was a place of moral corruption, with pagan worship practices that included drunken orgies and temple prostitution. This context is crucial to understanding the challenges faced by the early Christians in Corinth, many of whom came from backgrounds steeped in these practices. Paul addresses these issues by emphasizing the sanctity of marriage and the importance of understanding God's original design for human relationships.

We began by examining the different types of marriages in Corinth, including common law, arranged, and traditional marriages, and how these reflect the cultural backdrop of the time. The statistics on divorce rates in modern America were also discussed, highlighting the increasing challenges in maintaining marital commitments. The message stressed the importance of understanding both the holiness and grace of God, recognizing that while God hates divorce, He is also a God of mercy and forgiveness.

The sermon delved into the biblical foundation of marriage, starting from Genesis, where God created man and woman and established the marital relationship. It was emphasized that this relationship is a divine creation, not a human invention. The message also touched on the issue of divorce, referencing Moses' allowance for it due to the hardness of human hearts, and how Jesus reaffirmed the sanctity of marriage, allowing divorce only in cases of sexual immorality.

Paul's advice in 1 Corinthians 7 was explored, where he suggests that singleness can be beneficial for ministry, but acknowledges that not everyone has the gift of celibacy. He advises those who cannot remain single to marry, to avoid sexual sin. The message concluded with practical advice for those who are divorced, emphasizing the importance of seeking forgiveness, repairing relationships where possible, and understanding that God is ready to forgive and restore.

Key Takeaways:

- The city of Corinth was a place of moral corruption, and the early Christians faced significant challenges in breaking away from their past pagan practices. Understanding this context helps us appreciate the transformative power of the Gospel in their lives. [27:30]

- Marriage is a divine institution established by God, and it reflects His original design for human relationships. Despite cultural variations, the essence of marriage as a covenant between a man and a woman remains unchanged. [36:49]

- Divorce is a deviation from God's plan, but it is permitted in cases of sexual immorality or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse. God's grace and forgiveness are available to those who seek it, even in the aftermath of divorce. [42:53]

- Singleness can be a gift that allows for undivided devotion to God, but it is not a requirement. Paul acknowledges that not everyone has the capacity for celibacy, and marriage is a legitimate and honorable choice for those who desire it. [50:10]

- For those who have experienced divorce, it is important to seek God's forgiveness, repair damaged relationships where possible, and not let past failures define their future. God is a God of second chances, and He opens doors for service and restoration. [01:10:41]

Youtube Chapters:

- [00:00] - Welcome
- [19:49] - Offering and Prayer
- [20:24] - Introduction to Corinth
- [27:30] - Corinth's Cultural Context
- [30:43] - Types of Marriages in Corinth
- [34:26] - Biblical Foundation of Marriage
- [35:57] - God's Design for Companionship
- [38:01] - Human Interference in God's Plan
- [39:04] - God's View on Divorce
- [40:17] - Jesus' Teaching on Divorce
- [41:19] - Marriage as a Covenant
- [44:06] - The Gift of Singleness
- [45:51] - Paul's Advice on Marriage
- [50:10] - Singleness and Ministry
- [01:10:41] - Forgiveness and Restoration

Study Guide

### Bible Study Discussion Guide

#### Bible Reading
1. 1 Corinthians 7 - This chapter provides the primary text for the sermon, discussing marriage, divorce, and singleness.
2. Genesis 1:26-27 - This passage is referenced to discuss God's creation of man and woman and the establishment of marriage.
3. Matthew 19:3-9 - Jesus' teaching on marriage and divorce is referenced to highlight the sanctity of marriage and the conditions under which divorce is permissible.

#### Observation Questions
1. What were the three types of marriages mentioned in the sermon that existed in Corinth? How did these reflect the cultural backdrop of the time? [30:43]
2. According to the sermon, what are the two legitimate reasons for divorce mentioned in the Bible? [01:05:44]
3. How does Paul describe the benefits of singleness in 1 Corinthians 7, and what advice does he give to those who cannot remain single? [50:10]
4. What does the sermon say about the transformative power of the Gospel in the lives of early Christians in Corinth? [27:30]

#### Interpretation Questions
1. How does the cultural context of Corinth help us understand the challenges faced by early Christians regarding marriage and relationships? [27:30]
2. In what ways does the sermon suggest that marriage is a divine institution, and how does this understanding impact our view of marriage today? [36:49]
3. How does the sermon reconcile the holiness of God with His grace and forgiveness, especially in the context of divorce? [45:13]
4. What does the sermon imply about the role of singleness in ministry, and how does it relate to Paul's personal experience? [50:10]

#### Application Questions
1. Reflect on your own cultural context. How does it influence your understanding and practice of marriage? Are there aspects you need to align more closely with biblical teachings? [27:30]
2. If you are married, how can you strengthen your marriage to reflect the divine institution God intended? What specific steps can you take this week to honor your marriage covenant? [36:49]
3. For those who have experienced divorce, what steps can you take to seek forgiveness and repair relationships? How can you embrace God's grace and move forward? [01:10:41]
4. If you are single, how can you use your singleness as a gift for undivided devotion to God? What practical ways can you serve in your community or church? [50:10]
5. How can you support friends or family members who are struggling with issues related to marriage or divorce? What specific actions can you take to offer them grace and understanding? [01:08:47]
6. Consider the sermon’s emphasis on God being a God of second chances. How can you apply this understanding to your own life or to someone you know who needs a fresh start? [01:10:41]
7. How can you ensure that your past failures do not define your future? What steps can you take to embrace the new opportunities God provides for service and restoration? [01:10:41]

Devotional

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Day 1: The Transformative Power of the Gospel
Description: The city of Corinth was notorious for its moral corruption, with practices such as temple prostitution and drunken orgies being commonplace. This was the environment in which the early Christians found themselves, many of whom had backgrounds steeped in these pagan practices. The transformative power of the Gospel was evident as these individuals broke away from their past and embraced a new way of life in Christ. Understanding this context helps us appreciate the profound change that the Gospel can bring into our lives, no matter our past. [27:30]

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 (ESV): "Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God."

Reflection: What past habits or mindsets do you need to surrender to God today to fully embrace the transformative power of the Gospel in your life?


Day 2: Marriage as a Divine Covenant
Description: Marriage is not merely a human invention but a divine institution established by God. It reflects His original design for human relationships, as seen in the creation of man and woman in Genesis. Despite cultural variations in how marriage is practiced, the essence of marriage as a covenant between a man and a woman remains unchanged. This understanding calls us to honor and uphold the sanctity of marriage, recognizing it as a reflection of God's covenantal love. [36:49]

Ephesians 5:31-32 (ESV): "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church."

Reflection: How can you honor the covenant of marriage in your own life or in the lives of those around you, reflecting God's love and commitment?


Day 3: Grace and Forgiveness in the Face of Divorce
Description: Divorce is a deviation from God's original plan for marriage, yet it is permitted in cases of sexual immorality or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse. While God hates divorce, He is also a God of grace and forgiveness, offering mercy to those who seek it. This understanding encourages us to approach the topic of divorce with compassion and a readiness to extend God's grace to those who have experienced it. [42:53]

Malachi 2:16 (ESV): "For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless."

Reflection: Is there someone in your life who has experienced divorce that you can reach out to with compassion and grace today?


Day 4: The Gift and Calling of Singleness
Description: Singleness is often viewed as a lesser state compared to marriage, yet Paul presents it as a gift that allows for undivided devotion to God. Not everyone has the capacity for celibacy, and marriage is a legitimate and honorable choice for those who desire it. This perspective invites us to value singleness as a unique calling and opportunity for service in God's kingdom, rather than a state to be pitied or rushed through. [50:10]

1 Corinthians 7:32-34 (ESV): "I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided."

Reflection: How can you embrace your current season of life, whether single or married, as an opportunity to serve God more fully?


Day 5: Restoration and New Beginnings After Divorce
Description: For those who have experienced divorce, it is important to seek God's forgiveness and repair damaged relationships where possible. Past failures do not define one's future, as God is a God of second chances, ready to forgive and restore. This message of hope encourages individuals to move forward with confidence, knowing that God opens doors for service and restoration, regardless of past mistakes. [01:10:41]

Isaiah 43:18-19 (ESV): "Remember not the former things, nor consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing; now it springs forth, do you not perceive it? I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert."

Reflection: What steps can you take today to embrace God's forgiveness and pursue restoration in your life, trusting in His promise of new beginnings?

Quotes

"Corinth was a very corrupt city. It was corrupt because of the worship that was involved in the city. The city had two really, really big temples there. Both of them were to pagan gods. One was Tobaccus, the god of wine. And the way they worshiped was interesting. They were to pagan gods and drunken orgies." [00:27:08]

"And then there was the god Diana that was the goddess of love. And there were over a thousand prostitutes, both male and female, in the temple worship there in Corinth. And so when Paul came to the city of Corinth and started the first Baptist church there, and when he started the first church, the first Christian congregation there, he established it on the ground. The bedrock of the Christian faith. But understanding the people that were being saved were coming from a very primitive and a very vile and a very terrible background." [00:27:30]

"So they came from the worship of Bacchus, the god of wine, who, when they worshiped, it was a drunken orgy. Or when they went to the temple of Diana, they went down and they paid for temple prostitutes, both male and female. So you see, when they come to Christ, they've got a lot of baggage. Along with that, there was slavery in the city. Along with that, there was a hierarchy of those who owned the slaves. They could do with the slaves what they wanted to. And you can imagine where that went." [00:28:10]

"In the city of Corinth, and in the culture of the day, there were three kinds of marriages. Number one, there was the common law marriage. There was that marriage where if they lived together for a year, they were considered in the community and by the government as man and woman. By the way, people are not aware of that in the state of Alabama. If you live with somebody for a year, you are considered by the state of Alabama to be married." [00:28:49]

"Now, Moses wrote, a bill of divorcement. And we're going to learn why in just a minute. But do you understand, we're just a few books over in the Bible. And man has already messed up God's plan. And when man gets involved, when we as human beings get involved in God's plan, a lot of times we mess that plan up. I was just thinking about this. He had 60 years." [00:39:04]

"Malachi, the prophet, reminds us this. For the Lord, the God of Israel said, I hate the putting of what? Putting away. I hate divorce, is what God says. That's what he read. The prophet, the very last book of the Old Testament, the Bible says that the prophet says about God's nature, although we're getting to the end of the Old Testament, God has not changed his mind." [00:39:38]

"Paul evidently did not because we believe that Paul was married and most likely his wife, he was a member of the Sanhedrin, and so he had to be married, one of the 70 rulers of Israel. He had to be married. That was a rule. And so since he was a ruler of the Sanhedrin, one of two things happened. His wife died or his wife divorced him." [00:47:47]

"Much of the writings in the first century says that his wife left after he became Christian because she lost the relationship of the man who was on the Sanhedrin. Now, it's good for a man not to have to have the physical relationship, but if you have the physical relationship, if you have to have the physical relationship, you get married to avoid sexual sins." [00:48:06]

"Now, the overriding principle is this. It's better to marry than to burn. Watch this. So what happens if I'm divorced and I'm the guilty person and I'm the one that sinned? And we have some folks in the room that way. Psalm 86 .5 says, For thou, O Lord, art good and ready to forgive." [01:06:21]

"And plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon him. All you can do is throw yourself on the mercy of God and his goodness and say, God forgive me. Watch this. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. All unrighteousness but being unfaithful. Is that what that says?" [01:06:41]

"Don't let your past define who you are. You determine I'm going to live for God. If people won't let you, you just listen. Here's my advice. If you're divorced, go through every door that God opens. Don't push any doors open. You go through every door of service that God opens, you will absolutely be amazed. We serve a God that's ready, willing, and able to forgive. Do you know what?" [01:10:39]

"If we just started talking about the people in the Bible who had really terrible relationships issues that ended in divorce or multiple marriages, we'd have a list of the who's who in Hebrews chapter 11. Did you know that? That's who we'd have. We'd have the Hebrews chapter 11 faithful. Don't let the devil count you out because of your spouse's failure or your own failure. Let's stand together for prayer." [01:11:08]

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