Each of us experiences a daily struggle between our natural inclination to focus on ourselves—our me-centeredness—and the call to live out of a God-centeredness that reflects Christ’s character. This tension is not just a psychological reality but a spiritual one, as described by Paul, who urges us not to use our freedom to indulge our sinful nature but to serve one another in love. The evidence of me-centeredness often appears in our relationships, surfacing as anger, jealousy, or division, especially when our pride or comfort is threatened. Yet, God calls us to recognize this battle and to intentionally choose the way of the Spirit, allowing His love to guide our actions and interactions with others. [17:18]
Galatians 5:13-17 (ESV)
"For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: 'You shall love your neighbor as yourself.' But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another. But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do."
Reflection: Where have you noticed your me-centeredness surfacing in your relationships this week, and what would it look like to intentionally choose a God-centered response in one of those moments today?
God has placed His Holy Spirit within us, and as we surrender our me-centeredness, the Spirit produces beautiful fruit in our lives—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. These qualities are not just for our own benefit but are meant to be seen and experienced by those around us, especially in moments of tension or disagreement. When we allow the Spirit to lead, our interactions become marked by Christlike character, and God delights in seeing this fruit grow in us, just as a gardener rejoices over a flourishing harvest. [22:40]
Galatians 5:22-25 (ESV)
"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit."
Reflection: Which fruit of the Spirit do you sense God inviting you to cultivate more intentionally this week, and how might you practice it in a specific relationship or situation?
Repentance is not a one-time event but a daily, even moment-by-moment, practice of recognizing when our me-centeredness has taken over and choosing to turn back toward God’s way. This means honestly confessing when we’ve acted out of selfishness, frustration, or pride, and asking God to help us respond with love, patience, or gentleness instead. Even in small, everyday moments—like a harsh word to a loved one or a judgmental thought toward a stranger—God invites us to turn, receive His forgiveness, and let His Spirit shape our next response. [29:55]
Acts 3:19 (ESV)
"Repent therefore, and turn back, that your sins may be blotted out,"
Reflection: Think of a recent moment when your me-centeredness came to the surface; what would it look like to pause, repent, and invite God’s Spirit to guide your next words or actions?
In a world marked by division, anger, and “righteous” outrage, God calls us to respond differently—not by mirroring the hostility around us, but by extending love, gentleness, and kindness, even to those with whom we deeply disagree. Jesus modeled this on the cross, forgiving those who wronged Him, and He gives us the same Spirit to empower us to do likewise. Our responsibility is not to control how others receive our love, but to faithfully offer it, trusting that God can use our Christlike responses to reveal His heart to a divided world. [34:41]
Romans 12:17-21 (ESV)
"Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, 'Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.' To the contrary, 'if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.' Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."
Reflection: Who is one person you find difficult to love or remain gentle with right now, and what is one practical way you can extend God’s kindness to them this week?
While it’s easy to look for change in leaders, policies, or circumstances, God reminds us that transformation begins in our own hearts. As we recognize and surrender our me-centeredness, allowing God’s Spirit to bring forth Christlike character in us, we become agents of change in our families, communities, and beyond. God delights in the growth He sees in us, and even small acts of love, patience, or self-control can ripple outward, making holy ground wherever we go and offering hope to a hurting world. [38:30]
Matthew 5:14-16 (ESV)
"You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven."
Reflection: What is one area of your life where you sense God inviting you to let His light shine more brightly, and how can you take a concrete step to reflect His character in that place today?
This week, we wrestled with the tension between believing in God internally and living out that faith externally, especially in a world marked by pain, division, and confusion. Recent tragedies and the heaviness of the news cycle have left many of us feeling overwhelmed, unsure of how to respond or even what to pray. Yet, in these moments, we are reminded that God’s presence is not confined to a church building—He meets us wherever we are, inviting us to bring our burdens and uncertainties to Him.
We explored the reality that, while we may profess faith and experience God’s peace, joy, and contentment on the inside, our outward actions often betray anxiety, anger, or apathy. This disconnect is rooted in what my spiritual director calls “me-centeredness”—a tendency for our own desires, frustrations, and pride to bubble to the surface, especially when we’re pressed by life’s challenges. This is not just a psychological observation but a biblical truth, as Paul writes in Galatians about the ongoing battle between our sinful nature and the Spirit.
Paul’s words remind us that, though we are called to freedom in Christ, we must not use that freedom to indulge our me-centeredness. Instead, we are to serve one another in love, allowing the Holy Spirit to guide our lives. The fruits of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control—are not just ideals but real possibilities for us, even in the most difficult relationships and situations. These fruits are deeply relational, meant to be lived out in community, especially when we disagree or are hurt.
The path forward is not about waiting for external change—new leaders or policies—but about beginning with ourselves. Repentance is not a one-time event but a daily, even moment-by-moment, turning from me-centeredness to God-centeredness. Whether it’s in our families, friendships, or even in how we respond to strangers on the road, we are invited to recognize when our old nature surfaces, confess it, and allow the Spirit to bring forth Christlike character. God delights in the growth He sees in us, celebrating every moment when His love, patience, and gentleness come to the surface. This is how transformation begins—one surrendered heart at a time.
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Galatians 5:13-26 (ESV) —
> 13 For you were called to freedom, brothers. Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. 14 For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” 15 But if you bite and devour one another, watch out that you are not consumed by one another.
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> 16 But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. 17 For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. 18 But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
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> 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law. 24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
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> 25 If we live by the Spirit, let us also keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited, provoking one another, envying one another.
Sometimes we say on the inside, I believe in your peace for me, but on the outside I live an anxious life and the people around me see an anxious life. Sometimes we say on the inside, I experience a joy that comes from you, but on the outside my circumstances don't make me live with that joy and people don't see it at all. Sometimes on the inside we say, I have a contentment, but on the outside it's an anger. And we're going, dang it, why can't I take the things that are happening on the inside and let that be seen on the outside? [00:11:26]
All these things that you're doing on me on the inside is not translating to how I'm living my life on the outside. This whole subject is one that's a growing edge for me in my life and my awareness of. And many of you know that I've been spending time with a spiritual director in my life and a therapist. And one of his primary points, and I've shared this with you guys, one of his primary points is this. There is a me -centeredness in all of us. There's a me -centeredness. There's a God -centeredness, too, for those that believe in Jesus. There's a God -centeredness, too. But there is a me -centeredness. And that me -centeredness tends to live on the surface. [00:13:24]
A me -centeredness in us is the first thing that shows up in our life to the people around us. He says in marriage it happens all the time, daily. Daily there's moments where your me -centeredness shows up. You wake up in the morning and you didn't sleep very well because your wife's CPAP was blowing in your face. Again, total hypothetical. And so you wake up and you've had a horrible night's sleep. And what's the first thing that comes out of your mouth? You're frustrated with her for doing something healthy. You're frustrated. And that's the me -centeredness that comes out. [00:14:22]
That's our me -centeredness that comes out sideways. That comes out at work. We're going to stop at Starbucks and get your coffee and you didn't. And so now you're agitated and you take it out on your people at work. And that's your me -centeredness that's coming out every single day. Comes out with your friendships. You guys, this is why college students, why they have so much trouble with their roommates. You go into college and you're struggling with your loneliness. You're struggling with your identity and saying, who am I now? 40 ,000 people. There was, you know, this many in high school and I got 40 ,000 people. What is? Who am I? And you're struggling with that. And that's pushing something to the top. And that's your me -centeredness that's coming to the top. [00:15:11]
You got something going on the inside and I'm swearing at this person because they cut me off. That's our me -centeredness. Now, when I do that with my wife in the car, Jackie will add something to it. She'll say, and 10 o 'clock on Sunday mornings is Ascent Church and here's your pastor, Bill Stevens. Thank you. That just makes me feel even more like, God, what's going on? That's our me -centeredness. All the time, every day. [00:16:18]
This is not just a psychological term that my therapist came up with. This is biblical truth. Paul was a writer of much of the New Testament. And he wrote this letter to these people in a place called Galatia, which is now present -day Turkey. And what he did is he wrote these letters and then they went to little house churches and they were distributed from house church to house church. And that became a letter that then people started to know more about. And that's the letter to the Galatians. [00:16:50]
Paul was saying, you know, there is a new covenant and that new covenant is in Jesus. We're never going to be able to live up to all those rules. And he says, but Jesus has died for us and he has, and he's rose from the grave and he has extended his grace to us. And so we have a freedom in Christ. And so he writes about that freedom in Galatians. And he says this, he says, he says, for you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters, but don't use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature. Okay. Some translations say your human nature. Some translations say your lower nature. Some say your God -centeredness or your me -centeredness. This is the me -centeredness. Don't use your freedom to satisfy your me -centeredness. Instead, use your freedom to serve one another in love. [00:17:32]
See, that's a contradiction. You've got your me -centeredness that is about me. Serve one another in love is about somebody else. And those two things are clashing. For the whole lot can be summed up. All of what you're trying to live by in the Old Testament can be summed up in this one command. Love your neighbor as you love yourself. That pulls it away from my me -centeredness. [00:18:18]
But if you're always biting and devouring one another, watch out. Beware of destroying one another. Uh -oh. We're getting into a little more of our feelings around this country? We're biting and devouring one another. Be care of destroying one another. Our me -centeredness is coming out in pretty primary ways. And you just kind of think, well, that's Christians and non -Christians. But no, I think it's happening primarily within the Christian world. Within people that say they're believers in Jesus and they're devouring one another. Because you believe it this way and you believe it this way. And so it's saying, be careful. Here comes a lot of me -centeredness in a lot of that. [00:18:42]
See, your me -centeredness wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting. each other so that you're not free to carry out your good intentions they're fighting each other my me -centeredness and my God -centeredness. [00:19:36]
We've got this pure asphalt faith which is in itself probably a problem because I think God wants that faith to be active and moving and we just say but it's pretty at least and then the me centeredness comes up and bubbles up some emotion presses it and that me centeredness bubbles up and it affects the way we see our faith and it affects the way we live our lives that's what Paul is getting at here. [00:20:53]
What we need to know from this example is almost all of these are interrelational because he is very concerned with how our me centeredness is affecting how I'm walking and engaging with everybody else most of these are interrelational when you look at something like envy see we think envy and we go I'm just envious someone else has money and I don't I wish I had that money but that's not the grit the Greek word for this is pithanos and the pithanos what that really means is it's it's not wishing you had what others have it's the spirit that grudges the fact that the other person has these things at all do you see the difference it's it's it's I'm mad I'm upset with that person that they got to have that. [00:21:43]
The tragedy of life is that people who hold different views very often finish up by disliking not each other's views but each other is that not true in what's happening in our life today I want to see by a show of hands how many of you have a family member that has a different ideology or theology than you and you're really having trouble staying connected in relationship with them keep your hands up because I'm going to keep and see how many of you have a friend that you've had a close friendship with and now it's a harder friendship because of the ideology or theology of what they hold the rest of you that are not raising your hands there's a me centeredness in you we have that and its effects. [00:24:04]
Paul says there's a godliness in each one of us he says there is this this me centeredness but there's also a God centeredness that comes from one person from Jesus through his Holy Spirit you guys there was only one person that's ever walked this earth with it with only godliness there's only one person and that was Jesus and he walked on this earth and the people that disagreed with him he responded with godliness when there's people that were frustrated he's responded with godliness when his friends doubted him he responded with godliness when he went to the cross and had nails in his hands and his feet and he looked out at people mocking him and cheering it and and saying yes see look at here's the king of kings right and they're yelling that stuff out in that pain on that place and he still looks out at everybody and says forgive them father for they know not what they do. [00:25:58]
But we say but that's Jesus but the Holy Spirit that is connected to Jesus and God the third member of the Trinity that Holy Spirit Jesus gives to us and he says and now that resides in you and so that power that I had on the cross to forgive my enemies that power is in you that Holy Spirit is in every one of us we have a me centeredness that boils to the top because of our emotions and the things that press it to the top but there's also a godliness that sits right there waiting to be pressed to the top it's it's not far away you don't have to look far it's right there it's just deeper and we got to get past our me centeredness to that. [00:27:08]
This is how he describes it he says this is the Holy Spirit and the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives it produces love and joy and peace it produces patience and kindness and goodness it produces faithfulness and gentleness and self -control that's what can come to the surface as we recognize the God centeredness that's also in every single one of us and he says there's no law against these things you got you got laws and you've been trying to live the laws there's no law against this there's nothing that says hold it up hold it back from people that don't deserve it and there's nothing that says you've given too much of it it's time to not give so much there's no law against it this is the God centeredness that's in every one of us that has an unlimited potential when we live to it. [00:27:50]
Let us walk and follow the spirits leading in every part of our lives let's walk in step with that spirit and so we take it first and we think about it for our own lives that there is a love that's in there it's go I gotta I gotta love myself better and God's given me the ability to it if I get past my me centeredness I gotta have peace and joy I gotta discover that in my own life patience and kindness I gotta be more kind to myself and good and gentle and I even got I even God even gives me a self -control in that but just like his list for everybody else and it's interrelational this list is too when you break down those Greek words for each one of those things almost all of them are all focused on somebody else because remember this is what's coming out and that other people are seeing and so what's coming out is a love for somebody and says this can if we find that godliness in us through it through the Holy Spirit I can love you better I can I can help you to experience joy and I want to have joy in this relationship I want there to be peace between us I want to be patient when when you're saying something that I don't agree with I'm gonna be patient and I'll be kind to you and gentle to you God knows this world this country needs a whole lot more kindness and gentleness and goodness and faithfulness and God even gives a self -control that says when you're about to push that button to send to post something on your on your Instagram that you right before you push that that you know is going to be a zinger that's the one side is going to love and the other side is going to hate that he gives us the self -control to stop for a second and reassess will this be received with love and then maybe to self -control on that email to somebody or that confrontation you want to have with a friend how do I do this in a way that is loving that is caring that is gentle that is kind see that's what he's asking us to do. [00:28:53]
This is about the word repentance this is what my therapist says to me he says Bill you got to repent multiple times a day repent I know that's a scary word that you hear in high church but repent repent just means turn turn I have a me -centeredness a God -centeredness turn from that me -centeredness to that God -centeredness it's there and so every day we got to recognize multiple times a day what's it look like to turn from that sinful nature that human nature to that God nature that's sitting there with us. [00:31:20]
When you're in the morning and you take it out on your spouse you just go man I got I know that's my me -centeredness it's recognizing earlier it's where it's confessing that to God it's repentant now don't go to your wife and say that wasn't me that was my me -centeredness you know that doesn't help but we can say I recognize it forgive me I'm sorry that that and that's a recognition of an allowing the God -centeredness to come out even when you're driving and that person cuts you off and you swear like crazy and nobody else is in the car nobody else heard it and you still wonder where did that come from we can still say okay God I recognize that that is my me -centeredness and I want to confess that to you and I want to help me to bring out a God -centeredness and you know what you might do at that point you might pray for him. [00:31:51]
What if instead you prayed they're in a hurry for some reason and I'm gonna pray for whatever they're hurrying to that is a me -centeredness that turns to a God -centeredness okay that's fine with driving down the road but what about the intensity of what we have felt this week what about that what do I do there let's go to the Lord let's ask him what do I do I'm so angry at what I have seen this week and Jesus it's a righteous anger I looked up the definition of righteous anger look what it says a feeling of intense displeasure or anger towards actual evil sin or injustice that aligns with a moral or divine standards such as God's character does that define some of our feelings Jesus I have a righteous anger against this person and Jesus sits there and says that's interesting because I just heard that from this this guy and it was a different angle than what you're taking and they had a same righteous anger but it was different he says and I see that and I recognize yeah there's some mixed up thoughts and there's some things that aren't aligning between you two but here's what I want you to do you got a God -centeredness in you I want you to go to that God -centeredness yeah but Jesus this guy's wrong and there's your me -centeredness again go to a God -centeredness I've given you love and peace and kindness extend that to him I can't yes you can I did it on the cross and I'm giving you that same power yes you can what if he doesn't receive it that's not for you to own it's not for you to own how he receives it how she receives it it's for you to just extend it what if they're not even sitting here they don't even believe in you that's even more where I need to extend all the things that I've put in you my love and my gentleness extend it there too and they will see something different. [00:32:53]
How much does God delight when he says I'm growing something in you it's a fruit that comes from the gift I've given you with the Holy Spirit do you know how much God delights in in a moment where you know your me -centeredness could easily come out and instead it's patience do you know how much God delights when your me -centeredness and your righteous anger comes out and God said and then gentleness comes out he delights because look what I'm growing I'm growing in you a Christ -like character and that's what I absolutely want that's my whole goal in my life is that we become more Christ -like and I'm growing in you that. [00:36:28]
How does this whole thing end with all the stuff that we're seeing in this country how does it end is it going to take a new leader is it going to take new policies is that how it's going to end I don't know but here's what we do know we know we know where it begins it doesn't begin with someplace else that you're looking it begins right here recognize it surrender it dig through it and ask the Lord to bring out the God -centeredness that's in every one of us that can change the world at least our part of it. [00:37:47]
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