Transforming Marriages Through Gospel-Centered Love and Service
Summary
In today's sermon, we delved into the profound truths of the Gospel and how they apply to our family lives, particularly our marriages. We began by acknowledging that family is a concept that touches everyone, whether we are married, preparing for marriage, or living as children within a family. Our focus is on creating a family centered on the Gospel message, learning from the teachings of Christ and the apostles about marriage.
We explored Ephesians 5:21, where the Apostle Paul encapsulates the essence of a Gospel-centered family: mutual submission out of reverence for Christ. This mutual submission is not about one person dominating or being favored over another; it is about mutual respect and reverence for the Lord, leading us to submit to one another. This submission is not about subservience or being trampled upon; it is about laying down our weapons, our desires for control and power, and choosing peace over conflict.
We discussed the common issues that plague marriages, such as conflict, comparison, and competition, which stem from a deeper struggle for power. These issues are contrary to the Gospel, which teaches us that we are all equally flawed and in need of Christ's saving grace. The Gospel also teaches us that we are loved by God and that Christ died for us while we were still sinners, not because we were deserving, but precisely because we were not.
The transformative power of the Gospel in our marriages begins when we choose to lose – to give up our selfish desires and embrace the way of Christ, who came not to be served but to serve. This principle of losing to gain is central to our salvation and should be central to our marriages. We are called to a new way of living that influences all aspects of our lives, including our relationships.
We must learn to love our spouses genuinely, as Christ loved us. This love is not about fear or being taken advantage of; it is about serving one another in love. We must ask ourselves and our family members, "How can I serve you today?" This simple question can revolutionize our family dynamics and align our homes with the principles of the Gospel.
Key Takeaways:
- Mutual submission in marriage is not about one person having authority over the other; it is about both partners serving each other out of love for Christ. This creates a dynamic where power struggles are replaced with acts of service, reflecting the heart of the Gospel. [37:03]
- The Gospel calls us to a radical way of living where losing is actually gaining. In our marriages, this means choosing to give up our own preferences and desires for the sake of our spouse, which leads to a deeper, more fulfilling union. [29:04]
- Conflict, comparison, and competition are signs of a power struggle within a marriage. The Gospel teaches us to lay down our desire for control and instead seek to build each other up, fostering a partnership that glorifies God. [21:05]
- Love in a Gospel-centered marriage is not rooted in fear or selfishness. It is a love that serves, sacrifices, and seeks the best for the other person. When we love as Christ loves, we transform not only our marriages but also our entire family dynamic. [49:58]
- The question "How can I serve you today?" can change the atmosphere of our homes. It shifts the focus from what we can get to what we can give, embodying the servant-hearted nature of Jesus and promoting a culture of mutual care and support within the family. [41:54]
Study Guide
### Bible Study Discussion Guide
#### Bible Reading
- Ephesians 5:21: "Sujeitem-se uns aos outros, por temor a Cristo."
#### Observation Questions
1. O que significa "sujeitar-se uns aos outros" em Efésios 5:21? Como isso se aplica ao contexto de um casamento centrado no evangelho?
2. Quais são os problemas comuns mencionados no sermão que afetam os casamentos, e como eles se relacionam com a luta pelo poder? [19:40]
3. Como o sermão descreve a diferença entre submissão mútua e subserviência? [35:01]
4. Qual é a importância da pergunta "Como posso te servir hoje?" no contexto de um casamento centrado no evangelho? [41:06]
#### Interpretation Questions
1. Como a ideia de "perder para ganhar" apresentada no sermão se alinha com os ensinamentos de Jesus sobre a vida cristã? [22:25]
2. De que maneira a competição e a comparação podem minar um casamento, segundo o sermão? [15:09]
3. Por que o sermão enfatiza que o amor verdadeiro lança fora o medo? Como isso se aplica ao contexto de um casamento? [49:58]
4. Como a prática de servir uns aos outros pode transformar a dinâmica de poder dentro de um casamento? [41:54]
#### Application Questions
1. Pense em um conflito recente em seu casamento ou família. Como a prática de "sujeitar-se uns aos outros" poderia ter mudado a situação? [34:16]
2. Quais são algumas maneiras práticas de "perder para ganhar" que você pode implementar em seu casamento ou relacionamentos familiares esta semana? [22:25]
3. Como você pode começar a fazer a pergunta "Como posso te servir hoje?" em sua casa? Quais mudanças você espera ver? [41:06]
4. Identifique uma área em seu casamento onde a competição ou comparação tem sido um problema. O que você pode fazer para mudar essa dinâmica? [15:09]
5. Reflita sobre um momento em que você teve medo de servir seu cônjuge ou família. Como o entendimento do amor perfeito de Cristo pode ajudar a superar esse medo? [49:58]
6. Como você pode criar um ambiente em sua casa onde todos se sintam seguros para servir uns aos outros sem medo de serem aproveitados? [46:21]
7. Pense em uma maneira específica de demonstrar amor sacrificial a seu cônjuge ou família esta semana. Como isso pode refletir o amor de Cristo? [32:13]
Devotional
Day 1: Serving in Mutual Submission
Mutual submission within marriage is a profound expression of love that mirrors the relationship between Christ and the Church. It is a voluntary act of placing one's spouse's needs and well-being above one's own, not out of obligation or fear, but out of reverence for Christ. This kind of submission is a powerful antidote to the power struggles that can so easily entangle a marriage. When both partners commit to this principle, they create an environment of peace and respect, where each person feels valued and loved. It is a radical departure from the world's view of power and control, inviting couples to experience a deeper, more intimate connection that reflects the unity and selflessness of Jesus.
"Submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ." - Ephesians 5:21 (ESV)
Reflection: How can you demonstrate mutual submission in your marriage today, choosing to serve your spouse's needs above your own?
Day 2: Embracing the Way of Losing to Gain
The Gospel turns the world's understanding of winning and losing on its head. In the kingdom of God, to lose is to gain. This paradox is especially true in marriage, where giving up one's rights and preferences for the sake of the other can lead to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship. It is about embracing the way of Christ, who, though He was God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself for our sake. When spouses adopt this mindset, they are not losing but gaining a richer, more loving partnership that reflects the sacrificial love of Christ.
"For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it." - Matthew 16:25 (ESV)
Reflection: What is one preference or desire you can set aside for the benefit of your spouse today?
Day 3: Overcoming Power Struggles with Gospel Love
Power struggles in marriage often manifest as conflict, comparison, and competition, but the Gospel calls us to a different standard. Instead of vying for control, we are to lay down our lives for one another, seeking to build each other up in love. This approach fosters a partnership that glorifies God and exemplifies the humility and selflessness of Christ. When we let go of our desire for dominance and instead focus on supporting and encouraging our spouse, we create a marriage that is a testament to the transformative power of the Gospel.
"Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself." - Philippians 2:3 (ESV)
Reflection: In what ways can you relinquish control in your marriage to foster a more supportive and God-honoring partnership?
Day 4: Serving with Christ-like Love
Love in a Gospel-centered marriage is characterized by service, sacrifice, and the pursuit of the other's highest good. It is a love that is not rooted in fear or selfishness but in the example of Christ, who loved us and gave Himself up for us. When we love our spouses with this kind of selfless love, we not only transform our marriages but also our entire family dynamic. This love is active and intentional, always seeking ways to serve and uplift the other person.
"By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers." - 1 John 3:16 (ESV)
Reflection: How can you embody Christ-like love in your marriage today through a specific act of service or sacrifice?
Day 5: Cultivating a Culture of Service in the Family
Asking "How can I serve you today?" can revolutionize the atmosphere of our homes. This simple question shifts the focus from self-centeredness to a culture of mutual care and support. It embodies the servant-hearted nature of Jesus and promotes a family dynamic that is aligned with the principles of the Gospel. When family members prioritize serving one another, they experience the joy and fulfillment that comes from living out the love and humility of Christ.
"As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace." - 1 Peter 4:10 (ESV)
Reflection: What is one way you can serve a family member today, and how can you make this a regular part of your family life?
Quotes
1) "Manifesto a partir da nossa doação, da nossa entrega. Jesus Cristo perdeu a vida dele para que nós pudéssemos ganhar vida de verdade." [33:31](Download | Download)
2) "Sujeição não é subserviência, não é se fazer de capacho para ninguém. Isso não é a submissão que as Escrituras estão falando." [35:01](Download | Download)
3) "Submissão mútua é um entregar das armas. Eu sei que você tem suas armas, eu sei que você tem sua capacidade de argumentar... sujeição é entregar as armas." [36:18](Download | Download)
4) "Como que eu posso te servir hoje?... essa pergunta muda dinâmica de poder dentro da casa... É o que eu vou fazer por você para que você prospere." [41:54](Download | Download)
5) "Temos medo de fazer essa pergunta porque nós não aprendemos a amar. Nós não amamos como convém." [48:31](Download | Download)
6) "No amor não há medo, ao contrário, o perfeito amor lança fora o medo... o verdadeiro amor nos abandonamos os nossos medos porque nós estamos em um relacionamento de mutualidade." [49:58](Download | Download)
7) "Se você conhece a Cristo Jesus, você tem a fonte inesgotável de amor... em Cristo Jesus você tem um pai amoroso, um Redentor amoroso." [49:13](Download | Download)
8) "Sujeitaram uns aos outros... é escolher perder seu tempo, é escolher perder seus hobbies, escolher perder promoção no trabalho porque você prefere a sua família que o seu trabalho." [38:29](Download | Download)
9) "Quem que é o dono dessa família é o Senhor... é para ele que nós prestamos conta, sujeitaram uns aos outros." [37:49](Download | Download)
10) "O princípio do Evangelho que nós encontramos em todos os lugares: perder aquilo que mais importa para você ganhar o seu cônjuge e sua esposa, o seu marido." [33:31](Download | Download)
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