Transforming Identity: From Old Self to New Life

We live in a culture that tells us to look inward for our identity, to “live your truth,” and to protect those parts of ourselves that feel most intrinsic—even when they’re broken or sinful. It’s easy to excuse our flaws as “just who I am,” whether it’s a temper, a tendency to avoid apologies, or habits we chalk up to our family or culture. But the gospel calls us to something radically different. In Christ, nothing about us is off-limits to God. Jesus didn’t come to simply forgive our past; He came to transform our present and future, to crucify the old self and raise us into a new life.

Paul’s words in Colossians 3 show us that following Jesus is not about managing or excusing our old patterns, but about a total reorientation of our identity and desires. We are called to set our hearts and minds on things above, not on the shifting sands of our feelings or the messages of our culture. This means intentionally limiting the voices that pull us away from Christ and saturating ourselves in God’s Word, prayer, worship, and honest community. If we don’t set our hearts and minds on Christ, we will unconsciously drift, shaped by a thousand voices we never meant to follow.

Paul is clear: we don’t get to keep the old self. We are to put to death whatever belongs to our earthly nature—not just the obvious sins, but also the hidden ones we justify or spiritualize. There’s a difference between struggling with sin and surrendering to it. The mark of the righteous is not perfection, but a willingness to get up and fight again, refusing to make peace with the parts of us that don’t reflect Jesus.

But the story doesn’t end with death. In Christ, we are given a new self, rewired to reflect His character—compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, and above all, love. This new way of being doesn’t happen by accident. It requires our participation, our willingness to surrender every part of ourselves to Christ’s transforming work. The invitation is to let Jesus into even the parts we’ve protected or excused, trusting that resurrection life begins where we let Him in. You are chosen, holy, and dearly loved—so live like it, clothed in the character of Christ.

Key Takeaways

• 1. True identity is found not by looking inward, but by looking upward to Christ. Our culture tells us to define ourselves by our desires and feelings, but Scripture calls us to set our hearts and minds on things above, anchoring our identity in Jesus rather than in ourselves or our backgrounds. This reorientation is the foundation for real transformation. [10:50]
• 2. Nothing in our lives should be off-limits to God. The parts of ourselves we excuse as “just who I am”—whether rooted in personality, family, or culture—are often the very places Jesus wants to transform. Surrendering these areas is not about losing ourselves, but about allowing Christ to reclaim and renew us. [20:04]
• 3. The call to “put to death” our old self is active and ongoing. We are not called to manage, minimize, or spiritualize our sin, but to decisively kill it—both the obvious and the hidden. There is a profound difference between struggling with sin and surrendering to it; the former keeps us in the fight, the latter keeps us in bondage. [17:37]
• 4. Transformation is a process, not an instant event. Paul says our new self is “being renewed,” reminding us that growth in Christlikeness is gradual and requires perseverance. The mark of the righteous is not that they never fall, but that they rise again and again, refusing to settle for less than what Christ offers. [21:15]
• 5. The new self in Christ is marked by compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, and love. These virtues are not just ideals, but the clothing of our new identity. Living this way requires intentional participation—immersing ourselves in God’s Word, honest community, worship, and gratitude—so that Christ’s character is formed in us and overflows into every part of our lives. [25:07]

Youtube Chapters

• [00:00] - Welcome
• [00:25] - The “This Is Just Who I Am” Road
• [02:38] - Cultural and Personal Excuses
• [03:54] - Where Identity Comes From
• [05:08] - The Sacredness of Desire in Our Culture
• [06:23] - Disney, Taylor Swift, and “Live Your Truth”
• [08:17] - What If Your Heart Lies?
• [09:35] - Three Moves Jesus Makes in Us
• [10:05] - Raised with Christ: A New Identity
• [12:39] - Setting Your Heart and Mind on Things Above
• [15:01] - You Don’t Get to Keep the Old You
• [17:37] - Put to Death the Old Self
• [21:15] - The Process of Renewal
• [23:55] - Clothed in Christ: The New Self
• [28:12] - Forgiveness and Love as the Center
• [30:39] - Transformation Requires Participation
• [32:40] - The Lie of “This Is Just Who I Am”
• [33:57] - The Invitation to Resurrection Life
• [35:19] - Closing Prayer

Bible Reading

Colossians 3:1-17 (ESV) —
> 1 If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.
> 2 Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth.
> 3 For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.
> 4 When Christ who is your life appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.
> 5 Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.
> 6 On account of these the wrath of God is coming.
> 7 In these you too once walked, when you were living in them.
> 8 But now you must put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and obscene talk from your mouth.
> 9 Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices
> 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator.
> 11 Here there is not Greek and Jew, circumcised and uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave, free; but Christ is all, and in all.
> 12 Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience,
> 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.
> 14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.
> 15 And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful.
> 16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.
> 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

Observation Questions

1. According to Colossians 3:1-2, what are believers instructed to set their hearts and minds on, and why?
2. In verses 5-9, what specific behaviors and attitudes does Paul say must be “put to death” or “put away”?
3. What does Paul say about the “new self” in verse 10? How is it described?
4. In verses 12-14, what qualities does Paul say should “clothe” those who are in Christ? How are these different from the old self?
5. The sermon mentions that “nothing about us should be off limits to God.” What are some examples given of things people tend to excuse or protect? [[02:05]]

Interpretation Questions

1. The sermon contrasts the cultural message of “look inward” with Paul’s call to “set your hearts and minds on things above.” Why is this reorientation so foundational for Christian transformation? [[10:50]]
2. What is the difference between struggling with sin and surrendering to it, according to the sermon? Why does this distinction matter for spiritual growth? [[21:15]]
3. The sermon says, “If there is any part of you that is off limits to Christ, then that’s probably the exact part he wants access to.” Why might we be tempted to protect certain parts of ourselves from God, and what does surrender look like in those areas? [[20:04]]
4. Paul describes the new self as “being renewed.” What does this ongoing process of renewal look like in real life, and how does it challenge the idea that change should be instant or easy? [[21:15]]

Application Questions

1. The sermon challenges us to identify areas we excuse as “just who I am.” What is one personality trait, habit, or attitude you tend to excuse or protect? How might you begin to surrender this area to Christ? [[02:05]]
2. Paul calls us to “put to death” both obvious and hidden sins. Is there a hidden attitude or behavior in your life that you have justified or spiritualized? What would it look like to actively fight against it this week? [[18:50]]
3. The sermon suggests limiting the voices that pull us away from Christ and increasing our intake of God’s Word, prayer, worship, and honest community. What is one practical step you can take this week to “set your heart and mind on things above”? [[12:39]]
4. The new self is marked by compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, patience, forgiveness, and love. Which of these qualities do you find most challenging to “put on” in your daily life? What is one situation where you could intentionally practice it this week? [[25:07]]
5. The sermon says, “The mark of the righteous is not perfection, but a willingness to get up and fight again.” When you fall back into old patterns, what helps you get up and keep going? How can the group support you in this? [[21:57]]
6. The message warns that if we don’t intentionally set our hearts and minds on Christ, we will unconsciously drift. What are some “voices” (media, relationships, habits) that most influence your thinking and desires? How can you be more discerning about these influences? [[13:53]]
7. The invitation is to let Jesus into even the parts we’ve protected or excused. What is one area of your life where you sense God inviting you to trust Him for transformation? What would it look like to take a step of faith in that area this week? [[33:57]]