Transformative Love: Redefining Identity Through the Gospel

"Paul reframes Onesimus's story. He was gone for a little while but not for a bad purpose but so that now when he returns Philemon could look at Onesimus not as this property this thing that he owned that was useless to him remember Onesimus name means useful but now as a useful brother in Christ someone who was gone who was I'm guessing that a slave who was useless who was looking to run away probably wasn't a standout slave he probably wasn't Philemon's favorite choice for giving accolades to he was probably lazy and looking for every opportunity to get out of work and that's why he ran away can't imagine being a slave would be fun but now because of his uh being born into Christ Onesimus could be looked at as a Christian brother the truth is that in Christ our value is not based on our status no matter where we have uh our status in the world whether we're uh billionaires telling uh people how they can be better and be like us or whether we're trash men or uh custodians or whether we're uh laborers in the field we all have the same value and status to Christ and to each other we're brothers and sisters in Christ and we have identity that's found in him we are all now heirs to the throne of God we are sons and daughters of the king princes and princesses no longer slaves." [00:06:13]

"Next thing we see is the cost of love and acceptance in Philemon 17 or in Philemon 1 17 it says so if you consider me your partner receive him as you would receive me if he has wronged you at all or owes you anything charge that to my account I Paul write this with my own hand I will repay it to say nothing of your owing me even your own self see in this passage this part Paul asked Philemon to receive Onesimus as he would receive Paul himself now remember Paul was well known Christian missionary in the world as they knew at that time remember Paul had been a Christian hunter he was like the guy who went out looking for Christians to kill so he was already infamous among Christian people trust me if someone is looking to get you you typically know there is someone out to get and then God works a miraculous miracle and calls Paul to himself and Paul becomes infamous for his love and sacrifice to Christ and the things that he writes and the things that happen the things that people see happen in being bitten by a snake and living being uh wrecked on a ship and living being a prisoner to the Roman empire and living all of these things being imprisoned and getting out of prison all of these things make him infamous in the world and so he was well received everywhere he went and Paul is saying to Philemon here is this man who was a useless slave to you who is now your brother in Christ receive him as you would receive me." [00:08:24]

"So he's asking him roll out the red carpet give him all of the the accolades and give him the the welcome that you would give to me your dear friend and brother and Paul's writing this saying listen I am writing this with my own hands I'm not using a scribe to tell you what to do I am physically taking the time and effort to write this letter to you to implore you to treat him and to receive him as a Christian brother that is now useful to you Paul is asking uh Onesimus to go back which could be scary right because he had been a runaway slave go back to his master and he's asking Philemon to receive Onesimus as a Christian brother and Paul is taking on Onesimus's debts he's saying to Philemon if he owes you anything which by the way he did because he was his property whatever Philemon had paid for Onesimus Onesimus owed to Philemon because he was his property Paul here is uh uh exampling and modeling what Christ does for us by saying whatever he owes you charge to my account Onesimus owed a debt to Philemon that he couldn't pay he didn't have it he couldn't pay him he was just this poor slave and Paul a Roman citizen is saying whatever he owes put on my account." [00:12:01]

"The truth is that loving God and loving other people requires sacrifice it means seeing other people as Christ sees them and being willing to bear burdens for their sake we can look around in this room and there are people who need our help more than they can give us there there are people in our lives who need us more than we need them there are people in our lives that we need more than they need us." [00:12:05]

"But because of the love that we had for each other we're there for each other I don't remember what night it was but the night that Brizzy got sick she got sick at night in the middle of the night and was sick all night so I stayed up all night dealing with her sickness because Christy was sick and couldn't deal with Brizzy's sickness why did I do that because it was fun no it was not fun but because I love what supported me my wife because trust me there was a part of me that was like Christy come deal with us but I knew she wasn't able to so I did it did I do it as good as she would no but I did it because love requires sacrifice anytime we are in a loving relationship with people it requires some sort of sacrifice love isn't just this feeling that we get that's all oogley googly that's a real word you can look it up in the dictionary love is a choice that we make to sacrifice our own for others and how do we know this love because it's the love that Christ demonstrated towards us in that while we were yet sinners he died for us." [00:14:50]

"Greater love has no man than this then he laid down his life for his friends and Jesus did that the Bible says that God calls us friends and he laid down his life for us and sacrificed for us he didn't deserve what he got and we don't deserve what we got from him in that sacrifice and here in Philemon Paul is saying to Philemon accept this brother who was useless to you and it's going to be a sacrifice can you imagine think about the person who has hurt you the most in your life it probably won't be hard for you to think of somebody then imagine having the the person you think the most of the person who's done the most for you in your life." [00:16:03]

"Life call you up send you a text write you an email or come to a person and say here's that person that hurt you the most I know you don't like them I know you don't want to be around them but count what they did towards you against me and accept them as a brother or sister in Christ and now is useful to you." [00:16:53]

"Third sorry we need to be living as a gospel centered community look at verse 20 yes brother I want some benefit from you in the Lord refresh my heart in Christ confident of your obedience I write to you knowing that you will do even more than I say at the same time prepare a question for me for I am hoping that through your prayers I will be given graciously given to you a path for my fellow prisoner in Christ Jesus is bringing to you and so do mark there is starkest demons and my fellow workers the grace of the Lord Jesus Christ be with your spirit the church our church the capital C church that means the worldwide church." [00:18:20]

"It is a community and Paul expresses his confidence that Philemon will do even more than what he asked him to do he's gonna welcome Onesimus he's going to welcome other brothers and sisters in Christ and to treat them fairly and to treat them kindly Paul's closing remarks highlight the unity that should be found in the in the church faith is lived out in community and shaped by love and grace the grace and love that we have from Christ and we should show to one another the church is a family and our relationship should reflect the love and unity of Christ part of the reason why we've made Sunday Funday not just like a thing that we do as a church and we're trying to weave it into how we invite people to join our fellowship is because listen if we're honest coming to a church service and asking people to sit through it can be a little bit intimidating right I don't know the songs I don't know the people I don't know the pastor I don't like to be preached at the church is full of hypocrites all these excuses people can make up and oftentimes are about let's be honest the church is full of hypocrites I being one of them I say what I think you should do but then don't do myself but having a dinner a meal together this community fellowship of sitting there and breaking bread and telling stories allows people to see that we are just people a few weeks ago I don't know if I've told you this before but Justin and I were sitting back there talking to Chris while we were eating and Justin was talking about the crazy things that have happened in this life and when you would finish a story I would tell the story similar but vastly different because of the life experience that I have is vastly different than pastor Justin's he talked about stabbing the resource officer at school and he was in ninth grade getting arrested and I talked about the time I almost got arrested for accounting." [00:19:09]

"We went on like that and Chris was just sitting there not amused I'm sure mostly at my stories but it gives us an opportunity to share our lives in a very non -threatening way it's hard to feel threatened when you're just sitting there eating food some of my best memories and the way I get to know people are over breaking bread with them and eating and enjoying a meal and so this is a way that we can show people who we think might be interested in being part of God's family that we are a loving unified caring family by inviting them to come have a meal with us I think it's much less intimidating than asking them to sit through a service not that I'm suggesting you don't invite them to sit through a service I would love that but the truth is the church is a family and our relationship should reflect the love and unity that we have with each other through Christ so the questions this morning are these how do you define your identity do you see yourself as Christ sees you or do you see yourself as the world sees you do you have a lot of negative self -talk I do this all the time nobody likes me nobody wants to be around me I'm a loser you don't all have to shake your head it's an agreement I see that." [00:21:34]

"But Christ sees us as his precious creation he wants to be in a relationship with us this is why he came and died on the cross for us he wants to be reconciled to us he wants to spend eternity with us and if the God created the universe thinks enough of you to die for you and spend wants to spend eternity with you then you should be able to look at yourself and say I am worthy of the love of God that I am worthy of love of other people and I should act therefore that way and should also love other people that way are you willing to welcome others and love others regardless of their past or their status if somebody some Sunday morning were to come stumbling in that had just jumped off a train and they're dirty and unclean and unshaven and hungry and cold would we welcome them just like we would welcome someone who walked in after getting out of a limousine and an Armani suit." [00:24:01]

"We need to be willing to love and care about others because everyone I say this all the time who has ever been created who has ever been born whoever lived whoever will live has been created in the image and likeness of God and is therefore worthy to be welcomed and loved." [00:24:59]