Transformative Conduct: Wives and Unbelieving Husbands

"Likewise wives be subject to your own husbands so that even if some do not obey the word they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful & pure conduct do not let your adorning be external the braiding of hair the putting on a gold jewelry the clothing you wear but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which in God's sight is very precious." [00:01:59]

"Beloved I urge you as sojourners and exiles now that's very important in this letter Christians are sojourners and exiles were refugees away from heaven our true home and in this world how are we to live in this world I urge you abstain from passions that of the flesh that wage war against your soul keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable beautiful so that when they speak against you as evildoers which are not they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation." [00:03:50]

"The goal of this instruction for us as sojourners and exiles is that we might turn slander speaking against you as evildoers into God glorifying affirmation on the day of visitation which I think means God's visiting them in their conversion and bringing them to see the truth about Christ and those who represent him now with that as the background here Peter begins to give concrete illustrations or instances of what such beautiful conduct to keep your conduct among the Gentiles on or but what it looks like." [00:04:38]

"Servants you be subject to your masters with all respect not only to the good and gentle but also to the unjust so he's dealing with each situation where you may have a a leader who is falling short of the God appointed role so back here to us likewise wives be subject to your own husbands and notice that word own husbands and that's crucial because it means that wives don't have the same kind of submission towards every man in that they do towards their own husband's." [00:05:57]

"Now I am calling wives to be subject to your own husband so there's a kind of subjection that is as to their own husbands and that's what we want to deal with in these sessions is what what marks this subjection as unique to among all the subjection that one could have like like child to parent or employee to employer or student to teacher or church member to elder or what's the role in in the Army private to sergeant there are all kinds of roles in life and he's trying to unpack several of them for us here." [00:07:10]

"Here a wife finds herself as a lone exile in a marriage she's exiled in this marriage because the the hut some of these husbands do not obey the word now what does that mean does it mean they're Christians but they sometimes don't obey or doesn't mean they're not believers I think it means they're not believers and here's why chapter 2 verse so the honor is for you who believe but for those who do not believe the stone that the builders rejected has become the cornerstone and a stone of stumbling and a rock of offense they stumbled because they disobey the word." [00:08:10]

"Disobey the words and disobey the word is do not believe they're not your believers or not believers and this is described as disobeying the word or here in chapter 4 verse 17 it is time for judgment to begin with the household of God if it begins with us what will be the outcome of those who do not obey obey the gospel so obeying the gospel is the opposite of disobeying the word which is what we have here even if some of these husbands do not obey the word that is they're not Christian." [00:09:01]

"That's what I meant when I said this why finds herself not only exiled in culture but exiled as it were in marriage and Peter has instructions for a woman who finds herself married to a man who is not of the same homeland not of the same country as her namely heaven that's the crucial thing that's what we're going to look at shortly so let's sum up likewise meaning this is another instance of how beautiful behavior among the Gentiles is supposed to work itself out as we are aliens and exiles and here particularly a wife married to an unbelieving husband is to be subject to her own husband not every husband and in a particular way that will be unpacking." [00:09:53]

"Likewise wives be subject to your own husbands so that even if some do not obey the word they may be won without a word by the country for their wife that's where we're going next." [00:10:36]

"Father as we ponder the role of a wife in a marriage that's not ideal because of the difference between their orientation on the Word of God and whether they are believing it or not I pray that you would give us both understanding of what's here and a sense of compassion and courage as we either are in this situation or know people who are we want to represent Christ our true king our true master in these kinds of relationships so come and and give your help now I pray in Jesus name Amen." [00:01:01]

"Let's back up and make sure that we get the big picture in mind here because we won't grasp properly how Peter is thinking about wives in this marriage unless we see it in the sequence here so I'm going back to 211 where this all starts beloved I urge you as sojourners and exiles now that's very important in this letter Christians are sojourners and exiles were refugees away from heaven our true home and in this world how are we to live in this world I urge you abstain from passions that of the flesh that wage war against your soul keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable beautiful so that when they speak against you as evildoers which are not they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation." [00:03:36]

"Peter emphasizes that the adornment of a wife should not be external but should reflect the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in God's sight. This inner beauty is exemplified by the holy women of the past, like Sarah, who submitted to their husbands out of hope in God. The passage encourages wives to do good and not fear anything frightening, trusting in God's sovereignty and the power of their conduct to influence their husbands." [00:02:31]