Transformative Amends: Embracing Authenticity and Restitution
Summary
In our ongoing series, "The Power to Change," we are exploring the transformative journey of the 12 steps, rooted in biblical principles. Today, we focus on Step Nine: making direct amends to those we have harmed, except when doing so would cause further injury. This step is not just about acknowledging our wrongs but actively seeking to repair the damage we've done, inspired by the story of Zacchaeus in Luke 19. Zacchaeus, a chief tax collector, was despised for his betrayal and greed. Yet, when he encountered Jesus, he was moved to give half of his wealth to the poor and repay those he had cheated fourfold. This act of restitution was a profound demonstration of his changed heart and understanding of Jesus' teachings.
The process of making amends involves several steps. First, we must write down the specifics of our wrongs and determine what actions are necessary to make things right. This requires prayerful reflection and consultation with a spiritually mature mentor to ensure our actions are appropriate and not self-serving. The act of making amends is not about groveling but about being forthright and generous, even when it is difficult or humiliating. It is a testament to the authenticity of our faith and the sincerity of our repentance.
We must also confront our resistance to making amends. This resistance often stems from fear or pride, but we are called to lay down our rights and meet others where they are, even if it means personal sacrifice. However, there are exceptions where making amends could cause more harm than good, such as in cases involving adultery or crimes. In these situations, we must carefully discern the potential impact and seek guidance from God and our mentors.
Ultimately, the journey of making amends is about exchanging our will for God's will, allowing His transformative power to work in our lives. It is a step towards experiencing the fullness of life that Jesus promises, free from the burdens of guilt and shame. As we take these steps, we are reminded that we are not alone; God is with us, guiding us towards healing and reconciliation.
Key Takeaways:
1. Authenticity in Faith: The world seeks authentic believers who practice their faith genuinely, admitting their mistakes and making restitution. This authenticity, as demonstrated by Zacchaeus, can powerfully testify to the transformative power of Christ. [04:41]
2. The Power of Restitution: Making amends is not just about saying sorry; it's about taking concrete actions to repair the harm done. This process requires humility and courage, reflecting a heart truly transformed by God's grace. [11:28]
3. Overcoming Resistance: Resistance to making amends is natural, often fueled by fear or pride. However, we are called to confront this resistance, understanding that true freedom and peace come from aligning our will with God's. [21:03]
4. Discernment in Action: While making amends is crucial, discernment is needed to avoid causing further harm. This involves prayerful reflection and seeking guidance from spiritually mature mentors to navigate complex situations wisely. [29:35]
5. The Role of Accountability: Sharing our intentions with others and seeking their support can provide the accountability needed to follow through with making amends. This communal aspect strengthens our resolve and encourages us to act with integrity. [38:54]
Youtube Chapters:
- [00:00] - Welcome
- [02:00] - Introduction to the Series
- [04:41] - The Story of Zacchaeus
- [08:31] - Zacchaeus' Transformation
- [11:28] - The Crowd's Reaction
- [14:42] - Biblical Principles of Restitution
- [17:45] - The Heart of the Matter
- [21:03] - Steps to Making Amends
- [25:00] - The Importance of Reparations
- [29:35] - Dealing with Resistance
- [34:13] - Exceptions and Discernment
- [38:54] - The Role of Accountability
- [41:36] - Challenge and Call to Action
- [44:00] - Closing Prayer
Study Guide
Bible Study Discussion Guide: The Power to Change - Step Nine
Bible Reading:
- Luke 19:1-10
Observation Questions:
1. What actions did Zacchaeus take after his encounter with Jesus, and how did these actions demonstrate his transformation? [11:28]
2. How did the crowd react to Jesus choosing to visit Zacchaeus, and what does this reveal about their perception of Zacchaeus? [08:31]
3. What specific steps are involved in making amends according to the sermon, and how do they relate to Zacchaeus' actions? [21:03]
Interpretation Questions:
1. How does Zacchaeus' willingness to give away half of his wealth and repay fourfold reflect the biblical principle of restitution? [14:42]
2. In what ways does the story of Zacchaeus challenge common perceptions of who is worthy of Jesus' attention and grace? [17:45]
3. How does the sermon suggest we should handle situations where making amends could potentially cause more harm than good? [34:13]
Application Questions:
1. Reflect on a time when you resisted making amends due to fear or pride. What steps can you take to overcome this resistance in the future? [29:35]
2. Identify a "copper nail" in your life that you need to address. What specific action can you take this week to make amends? [41:36]
3. How can you ensure that your actions in making amends are not self-serving but genuinely aimed at repairing harm and restoring relationships? [21:03]
4. Consider a situation where making amends might cause more harm than good. How can you seek guidance and discernment in such cases? [34:13]
5. How can you involve a spiritually mature mentor in your journey of making amends, and what role can they play in providing accountability? [38:54]
6. What personal sacrifices might you need to make to align your will with God's will in the process of making amends? [29:35]
7. How can the story of Zacchaeus inspire you to live out your faith authentically, especially in admitting mistakes and making restitution? [04:41]
Devotional
Day 1: Authenticity in Faith
Authenticity in faith is demonstrated through genuine actions that reflect a transformed heart. Zacchaeus, a chief tax collector, exemplified this when he encountered Jesus and chose to make amends for his past wrongs. His decision to give half of his wealth to the poor and repay those he had cheated fourfold was a testament to the sincerity of his repentance and the transformative power of Christ. This authenticity is not just about admitting mistakes but actively seeking to repair the damage done, which can powerfully testify to the world about the reality of one's faith. [04:41]
"Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good." (Romans 12:9, ESV)
Reflection: In what ways can you demonstrate genuine faith through your actions today, especially in areas where you have previously fallen short?
Day 2: The Power of Restitution
Restitution is a powerful act that goes beyond mere apologies, requiring concrete actions to repair the harm done. This process, as seen in the story of Zacchaeus, involves humility and courage, reflecting a heart truly transformed by God's grace. Making amends is not about groveling but about being forthright and generous, even when it is difficult or humiliating. It is a testament to the authenticity of one's faith and the sincerity of one's repentance, showing a commitment to living out the teachings of Christ in practical ways. [11:28]
"If a man steals an ox or a sheep, and kills it or sells it, he shall repay five oxen for an ox, and four sheep for a sheep." (Exodus 22:1, ESV)
Reflection: Is there someone you need to make amends with today? What specific actions can you take to begin this process of restitution?
Day 3: Overcoming Resistance
Resistance to making amends often stems from fear or pride, but true freedom and peace come from aligning one's will with God's. This resistance must be confronted, as it can hinder the transformative journey of faith. By laying down personal rights and meeting others where they are, even if it means personal sacrifice, believers can experience the fullness of life that Jesus promises. Overcoming this resistance requires courage and a willingness to trust in God's guidance and strength. [21:03]
"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." (Romans 12:21, ESV)
Reflection: What fears or prideful thoughts are holding you back from making amends? How can you confront these barriers with God's help today?
Day 4: Discernment in Action
While making amends is crucial, discernment is needed to avoid causing further harm. In situations where making amends could lead to more damage, such as in cases involving adultery or crimes, careful reflection and guidance from spiritually mature mentors are essential. This discernment involves prayerful consideration of the potential impact of one's actions and seeking God's wisdom to navigate complex situations wisely. It is about exchanging one's will for God's will, allowing His transformative power to work in one's life. [29:35]
"Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning." (Proverbs 9:9, ESV)
Reflection: Are there situations in your life where making amends could cause more harm than good? How can you seek God's guidance and wisdom in these cases?
Day 5: The Role of Accountability
Accountability plays a vital role in the process of making amends. Sharing one's intentions with others and seeking their support can provide the necessary accountability to follow through with making amends. This communal aspect strengthens one's resolve and encourages acting with integrity. By involving others in the journey of restitution, believers can experience the support and encouragement needed to live out their faith authentically and courageously. [38:54]
"Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working." (James 5:16, ESV)
Reflection: Who can you trust to hold you accountable in your journey of making amends? How can you involve them in your process today?
Quotes
"We're using as the framework of this series 12 steps that have been used now for almost 100 years to help people who were powerless and there was no hope, find hope. But we're going back to the original principles that these 12 steps sprung from, which was a group called the Oxford Group, which happened to be a Bible study." [00:06:06] (24 seconds)
"And that in essence, on one hand, he thought he was going to ruin his testimony, but the opposite. It happened and I kind of put it out there that I actually think the world isn't looking for a people that have it all together and are morally correct. They're looking for authentic people that are practicing their faith authentically which means when they mess up they say so and they make restitution." [00:02:10] (24 seconds)
"Now before we go into step nine I actually want to give you a preview of what those who have done this, including step nine, have found as a result. And it's it's a pretty encouraging fundamental list if you would. So the big book, which talks about, was the initial writing that talks about the power to change in these 12 principles, says this. It says, if we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are halfway through." [00:03:44] (33 seconds)
"Zacchaeus has a proper response. And it's twofold. Let me talk about the second part. The second part is he understands he is charged more than he should. And so he is going to make restitution. Now, we're going to see this later. I'll read you some of the Hebrew Scriptures. But the Hebrew Scriptures, Old Testament, is filled with passages that actually say that if you steal something, if you steal a loaf of bread, you are to return the loaf of bread plus 20%." [00:13:38] (33 seconds)
"Before I move on, I just want to pause real quickly and just say, if you're here today and you feel like if the folks on my right and left only knew my story, I should not be here. I'm hoping that God would make an exception, but I don't feel like God would make an exception. Let me just tell you, the more you read and get to know the scriptures, the more I hope you come to understand you are the person that Jesus left the throne of heaven for." [00:18:36] (34 seconds)
"In the book, 12 Step Sponsorship, it says this about this step. It says, step nine calls for two sets of actions. In order to work this step, we determine after prayer and consultation with our sponsor, the specific amends we need to make to each person that we have harmed. What must we do in order to repair to the best of our ability, the damage we have done, make the actual amends to each person on our eighth step list." [00:21:03] (30 seconds)
"Again, in the book, 12 Steps Sponsorship. It puts it this way. Some amends are straightforward. If we skipped out on our debts, we repay them. If we stole money, we repay that too, even if we have to borrow the funds to do it. If we damaged a car, we repair it. If we ruin somebody's reputation by telling lies, we go to those whom we have told the lies to and tell the truth, even if it ruins our own reputation." [00:22:43] (31 seconds)
"The 12 -cent sponsorship says it plainly this way. It's not enough just to apologize if anything more can be done. We're not only supposed to be generous in our love when it feels good. We're supposed to be generous in our I'm sorry and making things right when it's humiliating and hard. And quite honestly, I think that will make a bigger impression on the world than just you're a volunteer and you're giving to good causes. Because a lot of the world volunteers and give good causes. But very, very few folks, very few folks are generous when they have wronged someone and go above and beyond. We'll admit it, let alone apologize for it and make it right." [00:28:09] (51 seconds)
"Remember this step is not about them or their issues it's about us and our issues it's what god is doing in us the big book puts it this way we never we never trying to tell him in making amends we never trying to tell him what he should do his faults are not discussed we stick to our own if our manner is calm frank and open we will be gratified with the results many of us and when i say us i mean me but i want to include you so i feel better okay many times i go and i own up to something but in the back of my mind i'm like okay now here's your opportunity because we both know who was to blame and then i get upset because they didn't own it or there was a or they owned a little bit and then there was the butt afterwards right but the very fact that i'm doing that means that i have not let gone and i'm not ready to make amends and own my part we we go to that we go to that person and and it's not our role to say this with this we have to be careful of i'm sorry for doing this but i felt that you did yeah yeah yeah no it's simply i'm sorry that i reacted that way you leave alone why you reacted that's between them and the and god and their higher power but between you and you god you just own what was yours you need it you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to make things right within i would say within reason some people can be unreasonable it's as much as it depends on you even if it involves personal sacrifice matter of fact i would say it's probably better if it involves personal sacrifice because the whole idea this right it's exchanging our will for god's will which means what our will has to die if it comes easy i can guarantee" [00:32:10] (118 seconds)
"Number two, there will be those whom we can make only partial restitution, lest complete disclosure to them or others does more harm than good. And we'll talk about that. Number three, there will be other cases where action ought to be deferred. Not now. It's best to be waited upon. And four, and still others, in which by the very nature of the situation, we shall never be able to make direct contact at all. So all that is saying is, is that as you wrestle over this, though I would say 80 plus percent of things you can act on, there will be a small percentage of things that will cause harm and it doesn't really serve anyone." [00:35:14] (43 seconds)
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