It's Time to Heal | Pastor Mike Frisch | Active Church Yucaipa

Reactions speak louder than words because they reveal what is going on beneath the surface. Unhealed wounds often get stirred in real time, and a small moment can bring out a much bigger reaction because pain from previous moments is still carrying weight. Overreaction costs influence, integrity, authority, and trust, especially when the people closest to someone have to manage that person’s emotions instead of bringing their own hard and heavy things.

Luke’s account of the bleeding woman shows a way forward. Jesus is on the way to heal Jairus’s daughter when a woman, wounded and bleeding for twelve years, reaches for the edge of his cloak and is immediately healed. Malachi’s promise gives that moment its deeper meaning: the Sun of Righteousness would rise with healing in his rays, his wings, his corner, his edge. The woman does not merely reach for fabric. Her faith reaches for the fulfilled promise of God in Jesus, Emmanuel, God with us.

Jesus recognizes that power has gone out from him because somebody in the crowd knows exactly who he is. The woman comes trembling because the old understanding of holiness has taught her that unclean people make clean people unclean. Jesus reverses that expectation. Her uncleanness does not make him dirty; his holiness makes her clean. Holiness begins and ends with what God does, and holy behavior becomes a response to the rescue and redemption God has already given.

Jesus calls the woman “daughter,” not by the name of her wound. Jesus heals more than her body. Jesus heals her name, gives her peace, and affirms the faith that took God up on his promise. That same movement gives a practical path for reactions that keep showing up: acknowledge the wound, ask for support, and start one healing habit.

The wound beneath a reaction becomes visible when a two becomes a ten, when the same pattern appears with different people, when certain topics cannot be named, when shame follows an outburst, or when “it is what it is” becomes an excuse. Healing does not start until the need for healing is acknowledged. Jesus invites anxious, weary, weak people to come to him because he cares, and the people of God become part of that healing through prayer, confession, and honest support.

One healing habit can signal to the soul that healing is happening. Reconciliation can mean owning one slice of the pie. Patience can mean being quick to listen and slow to speak. Gratitude can push back against the cynicism and bitterness that make everything feel like a reason to react. The better story sits on the other side of choosing to acknowledge, ask, and start.

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Key Takeaways

• 1. Acknowledge the wound beneath reactions Unhealed pain often turns small moments into big reactions. A reaction that feels out of proportion may be revealing something deeper than present frustration. Healing begins when the wound is named instead of defended, dismissed, or excused. [60:39]
• 2. Jesus fulfills God’s healing promise The woman reaches for the edge of Jesus’ cloak because she believes the Messiah has healing in his rays, wings, and edges. Her faith is not vague optimism; it is trust that God has come through on his promise. Jesus remains the place where wounded people find redemption, reconciliation, and peace. [50:00]
• 3. Holiness moves toward wounded people Jesus does not become unclean when the woman touches him. His holiness makes her clean, overturning the fear that uncleanness is contagious while holiness is fragile. God’s people can engage broken and hurting people because Christ’s redeeming power is greater than the mess. [54:06]
• 4. Support belongs in the healing journey Jesus invites vulnerable people to bring anxiety to him because he cares for them. James also pictures healing happening through honest confession, prayer, and trusted people in the church. Isolation may feel safer, but hidden wounds usually keep shaping the same painful reactions. [65:17]
• 5. One habit can change direction A small practice of patience, gratitude, prayer, or reconciliation can communicate something new to the soul. Healing habits do not deny the wound; they create room for God’s work to reshape a person’s response. The first faithful step can become the beginning of a better story.
  
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Youtube Chapters

• [00:00] - Welcome
• [38:36] - Reactions Reveal Unhealed Wounds
• [41:18] - What Overreactions Cost
• [43:38] - The Woman Who Reached for Jesus
• [46:29] - Healing in the Messiah’s Wings
• [51:37] - Somebody Knows Who Jesus Is
• [52:24] - Jesus Redefines Holiness
• [57:31] - Daughter, Your Faith Has Healed You
• [59:32] - Acknowledge the Wound
• [64:57] - Ask for Support and Healing
• [68:35] - Start One Healing Habit
• [72:24] - Jesus Heals Her Name
• [73:44] - Heal the Wound Beneath the Reaction

Bible Reading

Luke 8:42-48
“As Jesus went, the people pressed around him. And there was a woman who had had a discharge of blood for twelve years, and though she had spent all her living on physicians, she could not be healed by anyone. She came up behind him and touched the fringe of his garment, and immediately her discharge of blood ceased. And Jesus said, ‘Who was it that touched me?’ When all denied it, Peter said, ‘Master, the crowds surround you and are pressing in on you!’ But Jesus said, ‘Someone touched me, for I perceive that power has gone out from me.’ And when the woman saw that she was not hidden, she came trembling, and falling down before him declared in the presence of all the people why she had touched him, and how she had been immediately healed. And he said to her, ‘Daughter, your faith has made you well; go in peace.’” [44:38]

Malachi 4:2
“But for you who fear my name, the sun of righteousness shall rise with healing in its wings. You shall go out leaping like calves from the stall.” [47:18]

1 Peter 5:7
“Casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” [01:05:17]

James 5:14-16
“Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray over him, anointing him with oil in the name of the Lord. And the prayer of faith will save the one who is sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” [01:06:35]

Observation questions

1. In Luke 8, what details show the woman’s need, the risk she takes in approaching Jesus, and the immediate change that takes place after she touches his garment? [44:54]
2. What is the difference between Peter’s understanding of the crowd pressing around Jesus and Jesus’ understanding of the person who touched him? [51:12]
3. What words does Jesus use to address the woman, and what three things does he say about her faith, healing, and future? [57:31]
4. What signs can reveal that a reaction may be connected to a deeper wound rather than only the present moment? [01:00:54]

Interpretation questions

1. Malachi promises healing in the Messiah’s “wings,” and the woman reaches for the edge of Jesus’ cloak. How does this connection show that her action was faith in God’s promise, not merely hope that Jesus might help her? [50:00]
2. The woman seems afraid that her uncleanness will affect Jesus, yet Jesus’ holiness makes her clean. How does this change the way a person understands holiness and relates to people carrying visible or hidden brokenness? [54:06]
3. Jesus calls the woman “daughter” rather than defining her by twelve years of bleeding. Why does this matter for someone whose identity has become wrapped up in pain, failure, fear, anger, or a repeated reaction? [01:13:02]
4. James connects confession and prayer with healing. Why might bringing a wound into honest, trusted Christian community be difficult, and why might isolation allow the same reaction patterns to continue? [01:07:39]

Application questions

1. Is there a recent reaction where a “two” became a “ten”? What happened in that moment, and what deeper hurt, fear, disappointment, or pressure might have been stirred up? [01:01:00]
2. Are there certain people, subjects, or emotions that tend to bring out the same reaction in you? What would it look like to acknowledge the wound beneath that pattern instead of saying, “It is what it is”? [01:01:41]
3. Has an overreaction ever caused someone close to you to manage your emotions instead of sharing what they were really carrying? If appropriate, what might it look like to own the pain your reactions have caused without demanding an immediate response or forgiveness? [01:14:51]
4. What anxiety, wound, or burden have you been trying to carry alone? What is one specific way you could bring it to Jesus this week because he cares for you? [01:05:17]
5. Who is one trustworthy person—a friend, group member, church leader, counselor, or family member—you could ask for support? What could you honestly say to begin that conversation? [01:08:01]
6. Which one healing habit would most help you respond differently this week: pausing to pray, being quick to listen and slow to speak, practicing gratitude, taking a breath, or pursuing reconciliation? When and where will you practice it? [01:16:20]
7. Is there a relationship where you need to own your “slice of the pie”? What would a simple, truthful apology sound like, even if the other person also has wrongs they need to address? [01:08:48]