The Spiritual Gift of Silence and Solitude

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In silence, we close off our souls from sounds, whether those sounds be noise, music, or words. Total silence is rare, and what we today call quiet usually only amounts to a little less noise. Many people have never experienced silence and do not even know what it is. Our households and offices are filled with the worrying, buzzing, murmuring, chattering, and whining of the multiple contraptions that are supposed to make life easier. [00:59:45]

Silence can be difficult for us because it seems very close to death. In fact, when somebody is dying, it is said that hearing is the final sense to go. Hearing reminds us that we are alive and there is a world out there, and silence can be kind of a scary thing. There's another aspect to the practice of silence: we must also practice the silence of not speaking. [02:09:00]

Practice in not speaking can at least give us control over what we say, that our tongues do not go off automatically. This discipline provides us with a certain inner distance that gives us time to consider our words fully and the presence of mind to control what we say and when we say it. [03:03:00]

Why do we insist on talking as much as we do? We run off at the mouth because we are inwardly uneasy about what others think of us. People who love each other can be silent together, but when we are with those we feel less than secure with, we use our words to adjust our appearance and elicit their approval. [04:37:00]

In not speaking, we resign how we appear to God. Actually, Dallas dares to say we resign how we are, that people can see, to God. So silence builds in us a great trust, and as I have gone through really difficult things over the last couple of years, to learn to let go of what it is that other people are thinking about me. [05:12:00]

Silence and solitude go hand in hand usually. Just as silence is vital to make solitude real, so is solitude needed to make the discipline of silence complete. Few of us can be silent in the presence of others, yet most of us live with others. So how can we practice such a discipline? Well, there are ways. [05:55:00]

For instance, many have learned to rise for a time in the middle of the night to break the night's sleep in half in order to experience such silence. In doing so, they find a rich silence that aids their prayer and study without imposing on others. Though it sounds impossible, meaningful progress in the silence can be made without solitude, even within family life. [06:18:00]

Today, you might think of some moments for brief silence when you get into the car. Instead of listening to something, instead of turning on music or the radio, just be silent. And it's very possible that that will create some anxiety. That's okay. Invite God into that. If you are at home, here in the Cabana, just you in the fridge, be silent and invite God into that. [06:51:00]

Practice the discipline of not speaking. Maybe you will be at a meeting today, and you will be very tempted to say something self-promotional or to let other people know how smart you are, and just decide ahead of time, I will not do that today. I've had moments where I had to bite my lip until it bleeds not to let people know. [07:42:00]

How few of us live with quiet inner confidence, and yet how many of us desire it. But such inward quiet is a great grace we can receive as we practice not talking. So funny how when kids are little, we get them to practice and practice and practice talking. Why don't we help people practice not talking? [08:16:00]

You might remember when Jesus was on trial, and he knew he needed to go to the cross so that defending himself or arguing his case would actually keep him from completing his mission. What he did in that great moment must have been a remarkable act. He was silent, like a lamb before its shearers. [08:51:00]

After we know that confidence, we may, when others come fishing for reassurance and approval, send them to fish in deeper waters for their own inner quiet. When someone comes to you trying to get you to give them your approval, you can just silently say, "Go Fish." We find the God who speaks to us in silence. [09:20:00]

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