Stewarding Our Children’s God-Given Purpose

Parenting is one of the most challenging and sacred responsibilities entrusted to us, and it is a journey that constantly reminds us of our deep need for God’s wisdom and grace. The story of Isaac and Rebecca, and their sons Jacob and Esau, offers a powerful lens through which to examine how we approach raising the next generation. Before these boys were even born, God spoke a word over their lives, revealing that His plans and purposes for our children begin long before we ever meet them. Our role is not to author their stories, but to steward the unique calling and design that God has already placed within them.

It is easy to let our own preferences, cultural expectations, or even family traditions shape the way we parent. We may dream of our children achieving certain successes or fitting into particular molds, but God’s design often runs counter to what the world values. The example of Isaac and Rebecca shows the dangers of parenting by preference—favoritism and misplaced priorities can sow seeds of pain and division that echo for generations. Instead, we are called to align our parenting with God’s vision, even when it challenges our instincts or requires us to surrender control.

Surrendering control is perhaps the hardest part of parenting. We want to protect, guide, and even direct every step our children take. Yet, true faith means releasing them into God’s hands, trusting that He loves them more than we do and that His plans are ultimately for their good. Our job is not to pave a perfectly smooth road, but to prepare our children to walk with God through every season—success, failure, challenge, and growth.

Practical steps for passing the promise to the next generation include praying for insight into our children’s unique calling, modeling obedience to God, speaking blessing over them, equipping them for independence, and involving them in God’s mission. Our children are like arrows in the hands of a warrior—carefully shaped, aimed, and ultimately released to fulfill their purpose. The question for each of us is: where are we aiming our arrows? Are we pointing them toward our own comfort and dreams, or toward Christ and His kingdom?

Key Takeaways

• 1. God’s purpose for our children precedes our plans. Before we ever meet our children, God has already spoken a word over their lives and uniquely designed them for His purposes. Our responsibility is to discern and steward that calling, rather than impose our own dreams or cultural expectations. This perspective frees us from the pressure to control outcomes and invites us to partner with God in their formation. [13:35]
• 2. Parental preference and cultural pressure can compete with God’s plan. The story of Isaac and Rebecca reveals how favoritism and personal agendas can create division and pain within families. When we allow our preferences or societal norms to override God’s voice, we risk detouring or delaying the fulfillment of His purposes in our children’s lives. True spiritual legacy is built by aligning our influence with God’s design, not our own. [19:08]
• 3. Parenting on purpose requires surrendering control. Trusting God with our children means letting go of our need to orchestrate every detail of their journey. This surrender is not passive, but an active faith that prepares our children to hear God’s voice, make wise choices, and walk with Him—even when we are not present. Our greatest gift is not a perfectly managed life, but a heart that knows how to follow God. [26:38]
• 4. Modeling obedience and speaking blessing are foundational. Children learn how to relate to God by watching us. When we prioritize God’s presence, speak words of encouragement, and let them see us wrestle with faith, we create an environment where their own relationship with God can flourish. Our words and actions have the power to affirm their identity and propel them toward their calling. [35:14]
• 5. Preparing children for independence and mission is essential. Our goal is not to keep our children dependent on us, but to equip them to live out their faith in the world. This means allowing them to struggle, make decisions, and even fail while under our guidance, so they are ready to follow God when they are on their own. Involving them in God’s mission gives them a front row seat to His work and helps them see their lives as part of a greater story. [37:24]

Youtube Chapters

• [00:00] - Welcome
• [01:10] - Community Outreach and Announcements
• [02:30] - Introduction to Passing the Promise
• [04:53] - The Call to Disciple the Next Generation
• [06:44] - The Church’s Role and Our Influence
• [08:56] - Parenting According to God’s Design
• [11:18] - God’s Word Over Our Children
• [13:35] - Stewarding, Not Authoring, Their Story
• [15:16] - When God’s Plan Defies Expectations
• [17:06] - The Dangers of Parental Preference
• [19:08] - Human Influence and God’s Sovereignty
• [20:39] - Cultural Pressures and Family Traditions
• [24:29] - Embracing Your Child’s Unique Design
• [25:44] - Praying for Insight and Surrendering Control
• [31:35] - Teaching Children to Hear God’s Voice
• [34:19] - Practical Steps for Passing the Promise
• [38:34] - Children as Arrows in God’s Hands
• [39:46] - Releasing Our Children to God’s Purposes
• [42:18] - Closing Prayer and Response

Bible Reading

Genesis 25:21-28 (ESV) — > 21 And Isaac prayed to the Lord for his wife, because she was barren. And the Lord granted his prayer, and Rebekah his wife conceived.
> 22 The children struggled together within her, and she said, “If it is thus, why is this happening to me?” So she went to inquire of the Lord.
> 23 And the Lord said to her,
> “Two nations are in your womb,
> and two peoples from within you shall be divided;
> the one shall be stronger than the other,
> the older shall serve the younger.”
> 24 When her days to give birth were completed, behold, there were twins in her womb.
> 25 The first came out red, all his body like a hairy cloak, so they called his name Esau.
> 26 Afterward his brother came out with his hand holding Esau’s heel, so his name was called Jacob. Isaac was sixty years old when she bore them.
> 27 When the boys grew up, Esau was a skillful hunter, a man of the field, while Jacob was a quiet man, dwelling in tents.
> 28 Isaac loved Esau because he ate of his game, but Rebekah loved Jacob.

Psalm 127:3-5 (ESV) — > 3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
> the fruit of the womb a reward.
> 4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
> are the children of one’s youth.
> 5 Blessed is the man
> who fills his quiver with them!
> He shall not be put to shame
> when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

Deuteronomy 6:4-7 (ESV) — > 4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.
> 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.
> 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.
> 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.”

Observation Questions

1. According to Genesis 25, what did God reveal to Rebekah about her children before they were born? ([11:18])
2. How did Isaac and Rebekah’s preferences show up in the way they related to Jacob and Esau? ([17:06])
3. In Psalm 127, what metaphor is used to describe children, and what does it suggest about a parent’s role?
4. What instructions does Deuteronomy 6 give to parents and the community about passing on faith to the next generation? ([04:53])

Interpretation Questions

1. What does it mean that God’s purpose for our children “precedes our plans”? How might this change the way parents view their role? ([13:35])
2. How can parental preferences or cultural expectations compete with God’s plan for a child’s life? Can you think of examples from the sermon or your own experience? ([19:08])
3. The sermon says that “parenting on purpose requires surrendering control.” What does surrender look like in practical terms for a parent? ([26:38])
4. Why is it important for children to see their parents model obedience and speak blessing over them? How does this shape their understanding of God? ([35:14])

Application Questions

1. The sermon challenges parents to pray for insight into their children’s unique calling. What is one way you can begin praying specifically for your child’s (or a young person’s) purpose this week? ([34:19])
2. Think about a time when your own preferences or family traditions influenced your parenting or mentoring. How did that impact the child? What would it look like to align more closely with God’s design instead? ([20:39])
3. Are there areas where you find it hard to surrender control over your child’s future? What fears or worries make it difficult to let go, and how can you trust God more in those areas? ([26:38])
4. The sermon encourages parents to model obedience and speak blessing. What is one specific way you can affirm or encourage a child in your life this week? ([35:14])
5. Preparing children for independence is described as essential. What is one practical step you can take to help a child or teen in your life grow in independence and faith, even if it means letting them struggle a little? ([37:24])
6. The image of children as “arrows” suggests they are meant to be released. Where do you feel you are “aiming your arrows”—toward your own dreams, or toward Christ and His kingdom? What might need to change? ([39:46])
7. For those who are not parents, what is one way you can support or encourage the next generation in your church or community this week? ([06:44])