Spirit-Filled Marriage: Love, Submission, and Purpose

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### Quotes for Outreach

1. "Why would we not invest more in the most important human relationship that we have? Before Paul dives into what this unity and purity should look like in our home with husbands and wives and with parents and children, he frames this all by saying in verse 18, do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. Notice he doesn't say don't drink wine because maybe a little wine might be good for your marriage. He says, don't get drunk on wine because that marked your former life when you allowed yourself to be controlled by other substances, by other priorities, by other allegiances. But not anymore. You're now called to unity, to purity, to love, which necessitates being filled with the Holy Spirit, being filled with God's presence." [07:06](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

2. "Being baptized in the Holy Spirit is something that just doesn't happen. It doesn't happen. It doesn't happen. It doesn't happen. It doesn't happen. It just sort of happens to you like it did to the believers at Pentecost. You have little control over it. But being filled with the Holy Spirit is a command here in Scripture. It's something that you can control by resisting the desires of your flesh, by resisting the world and the devil, and by inviting God's presence to fill you. So being filled with the Spirit is a continual thing, sort of like how you have to fill up your gas tank regularly. You need to ask God to daily fill you with his Holy Spirit. This then allows you to be led by God's purposes. It then enables you to be submitted to his purposes and plans for your life." [08:26](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

3. "When you're filled with the Holy Spirit, it expands you. It expands your mind. It expands your heart. It expands your capacity. It leads to a more productive life. And some of you have this image of being filled with the Spirit and being like so out of touch with reality, like you're in the clouds. That's what you picture somebody. But being filled with the Spirit just means you have divine perspective on like really practical matters, like everyday decisions that you need to make. You don't have to waffle back and forth and labor in them. You don't waste time on petty things." [09:55](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

4. "See, we must see this conversation about submission and headship in the larger context of being a disciple of Jesus, of being filled with the Holy Spirit, of mutually submitting to one another in the body of Christ. See, when you allow your thinking to be raised and to be transformed, as Paul is praying happens here in Ephesus, to have the spirit of wisdom and revelation, as he says in chapter 1, that the eyes of our hearts may be opened. When you allow that to happen, then you will see that there really are any ranking in marriage. There's no high or low position in the home, really, in the church. For if anyone has authority or point leadership in the church or in the home, it's for the sake of service." [34:23](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

### Quotes for Members

1. "Paul says, love your wife as you do your own body. Just as you wouldn't mistreat your own body, you should never mistreat your wife. Just as you care for your own body, care for her body. Because here's the revelation. When you love her body, you're actually loving your own. Because you're no longer two anymore, but one. Paul says, that's why a husband leaves his father and mother, he's quoting Genesis 2.24, and is joined to his wife, and they become one flesh. It's this one flesh union that we need to have a deeper revelation of." [35:56](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

2. "God's purpose for your marriage is much bigger than your happiness. And I want your marriage to have happiness. Joy is a fruit of the Spirit. I pray for that. But God's purpose for marriage is really for your one flesh union to be a witness to a lost world. To be a witness of God's love. That's the purpose of marriage. So that when people look at how you love and sacrifice for your spouse, they should say, wow, that is how God loves me. Wow, look at how she respects him. Wow, look at how he loves her. And it becomes an opportunity to share the gospel of Jesus with others." [37:30](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

3. "Husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. The word for love here is agape. A word you've probably heard. Agape your wives. For there's no love. There's no higher form of love than this. This is the way that God has loved us. Eros is the erotic physical attraction love. That's great but it's a lower level love. Then there's phileo love which is friendship and companionship. That's important. But then agape love is unconditional love. This is the love that can only happen by being in relationship with God and filled with his spirit. And receiving by revelation that Christ has loved us in this way." [17:15](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

4. "Men, you are responsible for the spiritual health of your home. You're responsible for protecting your wife and children from the attacks of the enemy. You need to be spiritually alert. You need to be in prayer. You need to be in the word. Yes, this is a joint mission to lead spiritually in the home. It takes two, a partnership between husband and wife. It takes two to have a spiritually thriving home. But let me just say, if spiritual vitality is not happening in the home, you know who God is holding accountable. It's the husband." [24:03](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

5. "The point here is that the authority of husbands, parents, or masters or political leaders is not unlimited. We're not meant to give them unconditional obedience, especially when they misuse their God-given authority. The context here is specifically in verse 22 is in marriage. God is not calling women to submit to all men everywhere in society. This is in a Christian marriage between husbands and wives." [30:00](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip | Download vertical captioned clip)

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