As saints, the way we discuss sensitive topics like sexual immorality and impurity is crucial. It's not about avoiding these subjects entirely but ensuring that our conversations reflect our identity in Christ. We must avoid casual or approving tones that could normalize sin. This approach helps maintain the seriousness of sin and its consequences, such as the wrath of God and exclusion from the kingdom of Christ. By being mindful of our speech, we uphold the values and standards that are proper among saints. [03:21]
Ephesians 4:29 (ESV): "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear."
Reflection: Think about a recent conversation where you discussed a sensitive topic. How can you ensure that your future discussions reflect your identity in Christ and avoid normalizing sin?
Day 2: Guarding Against Normalization
The language we use can either uphold or diminish the seriousness of sin. By carefully choosing our words, such as qualifying terms like "homosexual marriage," we maintain a biblical perspective that prevents the normalization of sin within the Christian community. This vigilance in language helps us preserve the moral weight of these issues and ensures that we do not become indifferent to their gravity. [05:48]
Proverbs 18:21 (ESV): "Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits."
Reflection: Reflect on the words you use when discussing moral issues. Are there any terms or phrases you need to reconsider to prevent the normalization of sin in your conversations?
Day 3: Entertainment and Desensitization
Our media consumption can subtly influence our views on sin. Movies and TV shows often portray immorality as normal, which can desensitize us to its gravity. As Christians, we must critically evaluate our entertainment choices to ensure they align with our values. By being vigilant about what we watch, we protect our hearts and minds from becoming indifferent to sin. [07:52]
Psalm 101:3 (ESV): "I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless. I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not cling to me."
Reflection: Consider your current media consumption. Are there any shows or movies that you need to reevaluate to ensure they align with your Christian values?
Day 4: Propriety as an Ethical Guide
Paul introduces the concept of propriety, emphasizing that certain behaviors are not fitting for saints. This ethical framework helps us navigate complex moral landscapes, teaching us to discern what is appropriate for a Christian life. By cultivating a sense of propriety, we can better reflect our identity in Christ and uphold the standards that are proper among saints. [09:20]
Philippians 1:27 (ESV): "Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel."
Reflection: In what areas of your life do you need to cultivate a stronger sense of propriety to better reflect your identity in Christ?
Day 5: Cultivating a Christian Ethos
We must instill in ourselves and others a sense of what is fitting for a Christian. This involves training our children and ourselves to recognize when language or behavior is out of place, fostering a community that reflects the holiness of God. By cultivating a Christian ethos, we create an environment where holiness is valued and upheld. [10:23]
1 Peter 1:15-16 (ESV): "But as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, since it is written, 'You shall be holy, for I am holy.'"
Reflection: How can you actively cultivate a Christian ethos in your home or community to ensure that holiness is valued and upheld?
Sermon Summary
In this session, we delve into Ephesians 5:3-7, focusing on the phrase "not even to be named among you" concerning sexual immorality, impurity, and covetousness. The passage challenges us to consider how we, as saints, should approach these topics. The key question is whether these issues should be completely avoided in conversation or if there's a way to address them that aligns with our identity as saints. Paul himself names these sins, suggesting that the issue is not the mere mention but the manner in which they are discussed.
The phrase "as is proper among saints" serves as a guide. It implies that there is a way to speak of these matters that is fitting for those who are set apart for God. This means avoiding discussions that are approving, casual, or indifferent, which can lead to normalizing sin. For instance, terms like "homosexual marriage" should be approached with caution, ensuring they don't lose their moral weight. The danger lies in allowing such language to become normalized, thus diminishing the seriousness of sin and its consequences, such as the wrath of God and exclusion from the kingdom of Christ.
Furthermore, this principle extends to our entertainment choices. Movies and TV shows often portray immorality in a way that makes it seem acceptable, which can desensitize us to its seriousness. As saints, we must be vigilant about how these influences shape our perceptions and attitudes.
The concept of propriety or fitness is crucial. Paul doesn't just label these actions as sinful; he emphasizes that they are not fitting for saints. This ethical framework helps us navigate areas where clear boundaries of right and wrong may not be evident. It encourages us to cultivate a sense of what is appropriate for a Christian, guiding our behavior and speech in a way that reflects our identity in Christ.
Key Takeaways
1. The Importance of Contextual Speech: As saints, we must be mindful of how we discuss issues like sexual immorality and impurity. It's not about avoiding these topics entirely but ensuring our conversations reflect our identity in Christ, avoiding casual or approving tones that normalize sin. [03:21]
2. Guarding Against Normalization: The language we use can either uphold or diminish the seriousness of sin. By qualifying terms like "homosexual marriage," we maintain a biblical perspective that prevents the normalization of sin within the Christian community. [05:48]
3. Entertainment and Desensitization: Our media consumption can subtly influence our views on sin. Movies and TV often portray immorality as normal, which can desensitize us to its gravity. As Christians, we must critically evaluate our entertainment choices to ensure they align with our values. [07:52]
4. Propriety as an Ethical Guide: Paul introduces the concept of propriety, emphasizing that certain behaviors are not fitting for saints. This framework helps us navigate complex moral landscapes, teaching us to discern what is appropriate for a Christian life. [09:20]
5. Cultivating a Christian Ethos: We must instill in ourselves and others a sense of what is fitting for a Christian. This involves training our children and ourselves to recognize when language or behavior is out of place, fostering a community that reflects the holiness of God. [10:23] ** [10:23]
What specific behaviors does Paul instruct the Ephesians to avoid in Ephesians 5:3-7, and why are these behaviors considered improper among saints? [00:36]
How does Paul use the phrase "not even to be named among you" in relation to sexual immorality, impurity, and covetousness? What might this imply about the way these topics should be addressed? [01:27]
In the sermon, what examples are given of how language can normalize sin, and why is this a concern for Christians? [05:48]
How does the sermon suggest that our entertainment choices can influence our perception of sin? [07:52]
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Interpretation Questions:
What does the phrase "as is proper among saints" suggest about the way Christians should discuss topics like sexual immorality and impurity? How does this align with our identity in Christ? [03:21]
Why might Paul choose to emphasize propriety and fitness rather than simply labeling certain behaviors as sinful? How does this approach help Christians navigate complex moral issues? [09:20]
How can the normalization of sinful language within the Christian community affect our understanding of sin and its consequences? [06:00]
What role does the concept of propriety play in helping Christians discern what is appropriate for their lives and speech? [09:40]
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Application Questions:
Reflect on your own conversations. Are there ways in which you might be speaking about sin casually or indifferently? How can you ensure your language reflects your identity in Christ? [04:31]
Consider the media you consume. Are there movies or TV shows that might be desensitizing you to the seriousness of sin? What steps can you take to align your entertainment choices with your values as a Christian? [07:52]
How can you cultivate a sense of what is fitting for a Christian in your daily life? What practical steps can you take to train yourself and others in recognizing when language or behavior is out of place? [10:23]
Think about the language you use when discussing topics like "homosexual marriage." How can you ensure that your words maintain a biblical perspective and do not contribute to the normalization of sin? [05:48]
In what ways can you help foster a community that reflects the holiness of God? How can you encourage others to be mindful of their speech and behavior? [10:23]
Identify a specific area in your life where you struggle with propriety. What changes can you make to ensure your actions and words are fitting for a saint? [09:20]
How can you support others in your community who are striving to live out their identity in Christ? What role can you play in helping them navigate complex moral landscapes? [09:54]
Sermon Clips
So when he says something should not even be, not even be named among us so sexual immorality, impurity, covetousness should not even be named now what does that mean? Does that mean these words or references to this immorality and this impurity in this covetousness should never be talked about? [00:01:24]
There are a couple problems with that. One is that Paul is expressing it right here for the whole church to read, and so it would seem strange that he would say don't even name it while naming it. But a second thought is that this as here may be a helpful qualifier of the knot here. [00:02:03]
I'm suggesting that as is proper among saints is not a ground for the absolute silence about these things but is an explanation for how they might sometimes carefully be mentioned, and what would that be, we should ask. Well, surely among saints you wouldn't use these phrases and refer to these realities approvingly. [00:03:50]
Second, you wouldn't use these phrases or refer to these realities casually, as though they really didn't even matter very much. They just part of your ordinary conversation and when they come up you talk about them though you talk about the next meal you're going to have, and thus creating an atmosphere of indifference toward them. [00:04:25]
Don't use this kind of language, don't talk about these things in such a way that they lose their shamefulness. I can imagine today for example, the term homosexual marriage or same-sex marriage. Now I personally think that phrase should not be named among Christians that way. [00:04:51]
I think it should always have a qualifier in front of it like so-called homosexual marriage and I think that I admit I've lost this battle okay, hardly anybody agrees with me on this, and endless Christians chatter about homosexual marriage or same-sex marriage never qualifying it. [00:05:18]
Among saints it has created a situation in which the phrase has become normalized, it has lost its negative factor of sinfulness, and so one of the implications I think here would be okay what is proper among saints. What is proper among saints is to use is to refer to immorality and sin in such a way that doesn't happen. [00:05:48]
Naming them is a problem not absolutely but is a problem insofar as saints don't use language improperly that is in a way that diminishes the seriousness of the evil of sexual immorality impurity and covetousness if they're going to have to be named we will name them with a flavor of they keep people out of heaven. [00:06:51]
They bring down the wrath of God these should never be talked about or brought into our entertainments this is another whole area of concern right if they're never to be named among us what about the movies we watch what about TV and we say okay uh they shouldn't be watched with a sense that these things are made to be more normal. [00:07:26]
More acceptable and that is in fact what most movies do they treat immorality and unbiblical positions constantly in ways that diminish our reaction to them as deadly bringing down the wrath of God so that's the first concern here's the second issue what the saints mean here so that something can be improper among saints. [00:07:52]
He doesn't say sexual immorality and impurity and covetousness should not be named among you because they're sinful or because they're against the will of God or because they don't glorify God he could have said any of those they're true but he said it's not fitting it's not proper it's not appropriate he introduces this ethical category of propriety or fitness. [00:09:02]
How many things must we train our children in which don't have clear precise boundaries of right and wrong we have to say to them that kind of language is just not fitting what is foolish talk what is shamefulness what is crude joking what what is actually impure and we have to help them see what you're doing there is out of place. [00:09:56]