Speaking Love: The Power of Words in Faith

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Or, I mean, you can say the right thing, but are you speaking in love? You can say the truth, but is it done in love? Are we building people up? If we don't learn to build others up, to speak the truth in love, if we don't learn to speak clearly, compassionately, purposefully, here's—I've seen this time and time and time again, and here's one of the greatest ways, right? We wonder why so many arguments start over social media, over text message, right? Text message is the worst place to have any level of awkward or conflict -type conversation. Do not do it. Why? Because it's not going to be clear. to be compassionate. It's not going to be personal. It's going to be misunderstood. [00:07:08] (46 seconds)


We have miscommunications all the time when we don't speak in proper ways to build people up. What was intended is not what comes out. You want to utilize all of the tools in your belt. Tone of voice, eye contact, right? Body language to take Ursula in The Little Mermaids. I can't hear body language without seeing that giant mermaid thing. What is she, an octopus? Body language. That's what I hear when I say body language. [00:07:53] (32 seconds)


How many times have you maybe even experienced this? This is terrible. When someone is saying something, they're quoting scripture at you or something. They're speaking the truth, and what ends up happening is that you experience this, and so, man, God really is distant. God really is judgmental. We can misrepresent the God that we claim to speak for when we don't take the time to say, I want to build people up with my speech. I want to speak clearly, compassionately, purposefully. I have said this before. I will continue to say this. I don't want to only speak the truth on this stage. There is not one truth that is in this book that I am not willing to get up here and preach. However, I don't want to get in the way. I don't want to get in the way of the truth. I don't want to get in the way of the truth. I don't want to add something of me, whether I'm trying to be funny or I'm feeling insecure that day, or I just really have a bent against something that I haven't really checked with Jesus. I don't want to get in the way. I want this to be true and helpful. I want to build people up and point people to Jesus. That is clear. That is compassionate. That is purposeful conversation. I don't always get it right, but I don't want to have miscommunications. I don't want to misrepresent, and I also don't want to miss opportunities. I don't want to misrepresent. So many of us, because we do see the power of words, end up needing to be so sure about something. [00:08:31] (84 seconds)


And then we usually go to St. Francis of Assisi, oh, preach the gospel at all times. If necessary, use words. It's like, wow, it seems like it's never necessary to use words by watching some, all right? We want to speak, because if we don't, we miss opportunities to speak for God. How many missed opportunities have there been in your life, in my life, where God was speaking, there was encouragement, and it wasn't given. It was missed. We missed the mark. We're human. It's going to happen. But we want to be people that go, oh, God, here I am. I want to speak with you, to you, for you, and I want to speak that truth in love. Our words have power, and part of how love builds each other up, especially in the church, in the church, is by speaking it. Love speaks in a way that builds up and points to Jesus. Here's where we're going to spend most of our time, in 1 Corinthians chapter 12, right towards the end, and into 13 verse 1. If you've got your Bible, you can open it up to there, or if you want to follow along on Church Center, you're doing like the little fill in the blanks and everything, that's cool. It'll also be up on the screen. But here's what 1 Corinthians 12 verses 27 to 31 says about speaking the truth. [00:10:04] (72 seconds)


Now, you are the body of Christ, and individually members of it. We've read this part before. And God has appointed in the church, first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, helping, administration, and various kinds of tongues. Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? Do all possess gifts of healing? [00:11:16] (27 seconds)


Earnestly desire the higher gifts. The posture of our heart should be, God, I want everything that you have for me. Even if it's uncomfortable, even if it feels a little bit weird, even if I don't completely understand it, I want to desire what you have for me in order to love people well. That's what he gets into in 1 Corinthians 13. [00:13:17] (21 seconds)


Even if I do all this stuff, but I don't have love, if I'm not building others up with it, it's just noise. It's pointless. He's keeping us, he's keeping the main thing the main thing. Everything is unto love. Everything is building up in love. So how is it that we build ourselves up? Well, he gets into this in 1 Corinthians 14, verses 2 and 4, when he says, speaking to God actually builds you up. This is what we call prayer, and in some cases, praying in tongues or praying, like just kind of making noises. Let me explain. 1 Corinthians 14, verses 2 to 4. For one who speaks in a tongue speaks not to men, but to God. Sometimes it's helpful to just read it and let it be what it is. One who speaks in tongues speaks not to men, but to God. So there's a way of praying that is somewhat understandable. [00:13:39] (54 seconds)


There's this compare and contrast here between praying in a tongue, or like words that you don't even really understand, and then prophesying for someone else, which is speaking words from God to someone else. Tongues are for building up yourself. I'm just going to go ahead and say this is prayer, okay? For the time second, this is prayer. [00:14:47] (23 seconds)


The place that I go, the person that I talk with that always builds me up in love is Jesus, hearing his word. And I want to hear from him. And I want to hear from him. And I want to hear his words, his voice, his perspective in scripture. That's where I want to go. And prayer is how I do that. Prayer builds us up when we do it. You can't pour out what you don't have. So you have to start somewhere and start simple. Whether it's like, God, would you just tell me a word? Or going into scripture and going, I'm just going to say these words that you already said. I'm going to repeat them even until I start to grow in this area. That's a great place to grow. If you don't know how, we have something called the daily focus. And in addition to putting scripture out there, we put ideas for how you might want to pray in there as well. You can follow along with that and just start to learn. If it feels uncomfortable, if it feels awkward, that's okay. Prayer is a muscle that you exercise and it grows the more and strengthens the more you start to use it. Start small. Start simple. It will build you up. Prayer, talking to God, builds us up. But then there's this other part. And I kind of skipped around on it in 1 Corinthians. I think it was chapter 14. Yes. So remember, 14, verse 1, pursue love. What's the big point? Do not miss this one, right? We make it about all these other little things. It says, pursue love. [00:15:10] (86 seconds)


We should want to love God and love people with everything that we've got. Earnestly desire the spiritual gifts. This is 1 Corinthians 14. Verse 1. Pursue love. Earnestly desire spiritual gifts. Why? Because that's how we'll be able to love people. That's how we're going to be able to love God and be built up ourselves as well, especially that you may prophesy. That's weird. Why especially that one? Well, he goes on. We just read this one. For one who speaks in a tongue speaks not to men but to God. So this is a great way for you to be built up so that you have something to give away, right? For no one understands him, but he utters mysteries in the spirit. 14, verse 3. On the other hand, the one who prophesies speaks to people for their upbuilding. Upbuilding. Everybody say, upbuilding. Excellent. [00:22:18] (51 seconds)


And I'm going to need to be that for people if that's how you're feeling. It doesn't matter if I tell you how if you don't want to, right? It doesn't matter if I care for you as you sin. [00:35:26] (12 seconds)


We need these and we need to be these in different times, in different places, whether we're parenting, leading a life group, talking over coffee with our friend, whatever it is, we need different voices. Because God speaks through the different voices. That's why he gave them to the church. [00:35:38] (17 seconds)


So there's going to be one or two that is most natural for you. That's good, okay? That's how God wired you. There are certain ones that are more natural for me. I tend to, like, I want to teach. Like, everything's a teachable moment. Ask my kids, you know, like, I want to teach. But that doesn't let me off the hook for the other ones. [00:35:55] (22 seconds)


It's just, hey, you need me. And I need you. And I'm going to have to grow in some of these other ones, okay? You need people. Do you have people that are willing to tell you the truth, that know you, that you trust, right? [00:36:31] (14 seconds)


You're missing out on part of God if we don't. And then just be careful. Like, in your prayer times, like, hey, God, how should I speak into this at this time or in this way? Number four, when we start speaking for God, any hearing from God is going to come with some responsibility, okay? This is what 1 Thessalonians, chapter 5, verse 20 and 21 says. It's very, very specific. It says, do not despise prophecies. That's verse 20. Do not despise prophecies. Don't say this is weird. Don't say this is stupid. Somebody comes in and says something to you, you're like, oh, that's so judgmental, okay? Don't despise prophecies. But test everything. [00:36:51] (42 seconds)


And so, if you come up to me and say something that is not in this, I'm going to question whether or not it's true, because it's probably not. I want to go back and go, yeah, that is true. God does say that. God does feel that way about me. That is the truth. [00:38:00] (19 seconds)


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