The Man of God - Love Songs - A Study in Song of Songs | Tim Birdwell | Week 1

``But we lead by serving. Philippians chapter two, Jesus Christ, the son of God with all authority at the right hand of the father, He comes to the earth, what does he do? He empties himself. He leads like a humble servant all the way to death on a cross. Men are called to lead. Men are called to lead And I think we gotta reframe that because again, many of us, we think about that and we get a tick in our neck and we're so afraid of this whole conversation while our world is struggling, while our women and our children are struggling and while men are being passive and watching it happen. [00:21:26] (42 seconds)  #LeadByServing

See the difference? See some of y'all men, you got that verse, you got it tatted on your forearm. You got it on the dash in your car, you got it on the mirror in your bathroom, you're like, I'm supposed to be the head. And I would just say, hey, you need to attach some more verses to that bro. Ephesians five continues to explain that. Hey, here's what it means to be the head. It means to love your wife as Christ loved the church. How? In that, he gave Men, you should memorize this. He gave himself up for her. [00:19:28] (35 seconds)  #LoveLikeChrist

I I need to be composed in chaos. Be like, hey babe, it's not a big deal, we'll pay it, like hand them a track, invite them to Phoenix Bible Church, I don't know. You're a better man than me if you would have done that. But that's what she needs from me, that's men, that's what the girl you're dating, she needs to know she's safe with you. You cannot lead a woman if she does not think she's safe with you. [00:47:11] (27 seconds)  #ComposedInChaos

Some of that you have men who are in power in their home, in their workplace, in our government and they have abused that power and instead of elevating women and children, they have hurt women and children. Instead of walking humbly, they have walked in a domineering fashion and there's damage in their wake and there's a world who is hurting and I would submit to you a chunk of it is because of men who have been abusive, who have silenced women and let me just tell you and pronounce today Phoenix Bible Church's stance on all of that, that's not just despicable, that is demonic. [00:15:34] (37 seconds)  #CondemnAbuse

It is anti Christ and if you've been hurt by that, women just on behalf of all men, I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. And yet as you look at the New Testament, as you look at the life of Jesus, what you see is a tough, a masculine man who was also tender. He came full of truth but also full of grace and what you see across the bible is that men are called to lead and what we have right now in our culture and even in the church is we've seen masculinity go sideways and so we've swung the pendulum all the way over here to passivity. [00:16:12] (41 seconds)  #ToughYetTender

And I read a stat this week that said young men but also just really generically a lot of men will spend up to fifteen to twenty hours on video games and pornography in one week. That's like a part time job that does not pay at least money. The returns on that investment is a damaged soul, is young men specifically who do not know how to talk to a real life face or person, they only know how to navigate a screen. [00:16:53] (35 seconds)  #ScreenAddictionCrisis

What that's led to is objectifying women, not celebrating them and cherishing them. What that's led to is mass confusion where you do have phrases that we make up called situationship. In my day it was the DTR, like have you had the DTR, anybody remember the DTR? Defining the relationship in the Christian world? [00:17:28] (24 seconds)  #StopObjectifyingWomen

God has called you higher. If you're a man in the room, God has called you to something better, it's called leadership. From the beginning of time, Genesis chapter two verse 15, God puts man in a garden to cultivate it, to work it, not just to have fun with it, not just to mess around with it, to get his hands dirty, to initiate, to lead out and by the way, Eve is not created at this point. You have responsibility before you have romance and that's the way it should work for your daughter. [00:18:21] (33 seconds)  #ResponsibilityBeforeRomance

He needs to get a job and everybody said Amen. Amen. I got two daughters, y'all help me out. Okay? Responsibility before romance. You fast forward to the New Testament, this redeemed reality, Ephesians chapter five, we see that a man is meant to be the head of the wife and I know as I say that some of you get a little tick in your neck. I don't like that Tim and here's what I would say, a man is called to be the head of his wife, not the head of every woman. [00:18:54] (34 seconds)  #BiblicalHeadship

He would rebuke the Pharisees but he would also let Mary sit at his feet. Would lead the disciples. He would go to a cross. He would resurrect from the dead, beat Satan, sin and the grave. Come back one day with a sword coming out of his mouth, king of kings and lord of lords tattooed on his forearm, on his leg, fire in his eyes. He's he's tough. He's full of truth. [00:48:54] (33 seconds)  #RedeemingStrength

But he would also walk through Samaria where you were supposed to walk around, he would walk through and he would meet the woman at the well and he would speak truth to her, but he would do it in grace and he would offer her living water. And men, maybe some of you are crushing leading right now. You need to still cry out to Jesus because you need him. Some of you are failing at this right now. You need to cry out to that Jesus and you need to lead, but first you need to follow him. [00:49:28] (42 seconds)  #SpeakTruthInGrace

He loves sex, he created it. Under his design it is a good thing and the church said, amen. So immersing in the culture is bad, exiting the culture is also not a good option, what should we do? Let's engage it. Let's engage the culture and let's talk about it with the word of God, with the spirit of God, looking at the son of God, with the people of God. [00:03:00] (25 seconds)  #EngageCultureWithTruth

Because of the cross of Jesus Christ, we can talk about love and marriage and sex and dating and relationships and conflict and we can have not shame but hope. Not I'm crushing it but how can I see more of Jesus in my relationships, amen? [00:07:34] (17 seconds)  #HopeNotShame

But I'm just telling you, there's some stuff in here you're gonna be like, why aren't we studying this? Well one, it's in the Bible and we wanna preach the full counsel of God's Word. But specifically for Phoenix Bible Church, we have a deep conviction at our church that we want to engage culture, uphold truth, and love people well. We say it that way, we do it that way because we believe Jesus did all three of those things and we wanna imitate Jesus because we follow him as Lord and Savior of this church. [00:01:27] (29 seconds)  #PreachFullCounsel

And many times sex and relationships and marriage and dating is one of those topics that we talk about the other 167 of our week and yet the one hour in church on a Sunday morning where we have the power of Christ to heal our relationships and operate in God's design under his design in joy and celebration and yet we're like, that's too uncomfortable, we're not gonna wait in those waters. [00:03:26] (27 seconds)  #AddressHardTopics

What she was talking about is, you know, there's been over the last couple decades this agenda, this pursuit to see sex and love and dating like to be free, like you can do what you want, treat yourself, you do you, speak your truth. And in an effort to find freedom, the majority of us have found bondage and loneliness and depression and abuse. [00:04:42] (31 seconds)  #FreedomLedToBondage

And in an effort to get us more connected, you know, we'll just create apps. It's gonna be so easy. Everybody will be connected. Is that what has happened in our society? A resounding no should be your answer. That is not what has happened. And I just as I think about that as a pastor, as a church, specifically as I look at you and know many of you who are married and some of you are thriving, some of you are married and you are struggling. [00:05:22] (28 seconds)  #DigitalConnectionFail

Some of you are single and dating and you're trying to figure it out and it's like you're like situationship? Anybody? You're like, I asked my daughter, I was like, what does situationship mean? And she's like, I don't really know. But I think it means you're confused about where you stand with that person of the opposite sex. I mean, God bless our next generation, amen? [00:05:50] (29 seconds)  #GenZRelationshipConfusion

And some of you are so excited and obsessed over this topic and yet I know as soon as some of you walked in, you just began to experience shame because you've made some mistakes, you've committed some sins in your marriage, in dating, in sex and you're looking for the exit doors right now. And let me just speak to both of you, God has something better. It's not too late for you. [00:07:05] (29 seconds)  #HopeAfterMistakes

So we're gonna look at that together and let me just speak to if you're single and I don't mean single and like dating, I mean single, you're widowed, maybe you're past the point of like, Tim, this just doesn't apply to me, I'm not looking for a relationship probably ever at this point in my life and we have those people in our church, let me just invite you to lean in as well. You see as a church, as Phoenix Bible Church that is passionate about discipleship, we have to be passionate about relationships. [00:07:51] (26 seconds)  #SinglesLeanIn