Shepherding Children Through Life's Challenges and God's Providence

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There are two principles that need to be taken into account when choosing what to say to a particular audience or child, what to say about God. One principle is whether they are open and mature enough to understand the truth, and the other principle is whether we have spoken the truth clearly and boldly enough. [00:01:10]

Jesus said, do not give dogs what is holy and do not throw your pearls before pigs lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you. I'm not saying you should think of your three-year-old as a dog or a pig, although his responses were the kind of responses Jesus had in mind when he gave that principle. [00:01:44]

There are audiences or children that are so spring-loaded to reject the truth that Jesus warns us not to bring reproach on the truth by having it trampled under their feet. Your three-year-old may show himself to have such an attitude towards God's providence that you should measure your teaching by what he can hear. [00:02:16]

I brothers could not address you as spiritual people but as people of the flesh, as infants in Christ. I fed you with milk, not solid food, for you were not ready for it. And even now you are not ready, for you are still of the flesh. For while there's jealousy and strife among you, are you not of the flesh? [00:02:52]

Namely whether we have spoken the doctrine clearly and boldly enough so that the people have a real sense of its truth and worth and beauty. Paul says, second Corinthians chapter 4 verse 2, we have renounced disgraceful underhanded ways. We refuse to practice cunning or tamper with God's word. [00:03:45]

By an open statement of the truth, we commend ourselves to everyone's conscience in the sight of God. An open statement of the truth, that's what's needed for a clear grasp of the doctrine and a sense that it is good and wise and just and beautiful. So you can see how this is almost the exact opposite of the first principle. [00:04:11]

Now what I have in mind in this second case, the second principle, is perhaps being so cautious or so hesitating or so qualifying in our talk about God's sovereignty that a child may pick up in the way things are explained or the tone of voice that mom and dad are not exactly excited or joyful about God's providence. [00:04:49]

I think anger at God is always wrong, always. If you feel it, of course you should say it, but to feel anger at God is sinful. So I don't think our tone of voice or the way we talk about God's providence should sound like it invites disapproval. I don't know which of these two principles say less, say more. [00:05:45]

Tell him stories that illustrate how bad things often are God's wise and merciful way of doing good to us. For example, I know several stories where a serious injury happened to a person and it was the way the doctors found the cancer in the lacerated leg, which enabled the doctors to start therapy which saved the person's life. [00:06:50]

Weave into your teaching again and again the passages that say suffering is necessary for Christians and designed by God. Teach a child that suffering is normal, not exceptional for Christians. Matthew 5, 12, 24, 9, John 15, 20, Romans 5, 3, James 1, 2, 1, 12, first Peter 1, 6, first Peter 4, 12, and on and on. [00:08:12]

Teach your child that we are sinners and that we don't deserve anything good from God. The surprising thing in the world of rebels like us is not pain, the surprising thing is pleasure. God is super over abundant good to his creation, giving us better than we deserve every day all the time better than we deserve. [00:08:46]

Finally point the child over and over again to the cross of Christ, where the worst suffering happened in the world, and explain how the death of his son was planned by God. Acts 4, 27, Isaiah 53, 4-10. This is where the child will see how bad his own sin is because when he asks, mommy, daddy, why would God do that to his own son? [00:09:52]

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