Responding with Grace: Overcoming Meanness in Life

Devotional

Day 1: The Power of Preparation

In life, we often encounter individuals who are mean, manipulative, or unkind. Without a plan, these people can easily gain control over our emotions and actions, leading us to react in ways that are not true to our character. It is essential to be proactive and prepared in our responses to maintain our integrity and peace. By having a strategy in place, we can ensure that our reactions align with our values and not be dictated by the negativity of others. This preparation allows us to remain grounded and true to ourselves, even in challenging situations. [01:10]

"Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly." (Proverbs 14:29, ESV)

Reflection: Think of a situation where you often find yourself reacting negatively. What specific plan can you create to respond with integrity and peace the next time it arises?

Day 2: The Third Option

When faced with mean people, the natural inclination is to either ignore them or retaliate. However, there is a third option—responding with grace and goodness. This choice not only protects us from becoming like those we dislike but also aligns us with the character of God. By choosing this path, we reflect God's kindness and mercy, even towards those who may not deserve it. This response requires strength and intentionality, but it ultimately leads to a more fulfilling and peaceful life. [05:39]

"But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven." (Matthew 5:44-45a, ESV)

Reflection: Identify a person in your life who has been unkind to you. How can you intentionally respond to them with grace and goodness this week?

Day 3: The Influence of an Abigail

In the story of David, Nabal, and Abigail, we see the profound impact of having someone who can speak truth and wisdom into our lives. Abigail's intervention prevented David from making a regrettable decision, highlighting the importance of having such voices in our own lives. We all need an "Abigail"—someone who can help us see beyond immediate hurt and anger and guide us towards a better path. Listening to these voices can prevent us from acting out of impulse and help us make decisions that align with our values. [21:55]

"Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future." (Proverbs 19:20, ESV)

Reflection: Who is an "Abigail" in your life that you can turn to for wisdom and guidance? How can you seek their counsel in a current situation you are facing?

Day 4: Reflecting God's Character

By choosing to do good to those who are mean, we reflect the character of God, who is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. This response not only changes us but also aligns us with our Heavenly Father. It is a powerful testimony of God's love and mercy, demonstrating that we are His children. This choice requires us to rise above our natural inclinations and embody the love and grace that God extends to all. [26:58]

"Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." (Ephesians 4:32, ESV)

Reflection: In what ways can you reflect God's character in your interactions with difficult people this week? What specific actions can you take to demonstrate His love and kindness?

Day 5: Writing a Remarkable Story

Our responses to mean people can either be predictable or remarkable. By choosing grace, we write a story that stands out, one that reflects the love and mercy of God, even if it doesn't change the other person. This choice allows us to live a life that is not defined by the actions of others but by our commitment to embodying God's love. It is an opportunity to create a narrative that is inspiring and transformative, both for ourselves and those around us. [30:03]

"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good." (Romans 12:21, ESV)

Reflection: Reflect on a recent interaction where you responded predictably to someone who was mean. How can you rewrite that story with grace and create a remarkable narrative moving forward?

Sermon Summary

In our journey through life, we inevitably encounter mean people—those who are deceptive, controlling, unkind, and manipulative. It's crucial to have a plan for dealing with them because if we don't, they can gain control over our lives, causing us to react in ways that are not true to who we are. The natural response to meanness is often to retaliate in kind, but this only makes us like those we dislike. Instead, we are called to a higher standard, one that Jesus modeled and taught.

The story of David, Nabal, and Abigail from 1 Samuel 25 provides a profound lesson. David, in his anger, was ready to repay Nabal's rudeness with violence. However, Abigail intervened with wisdom and grace, preventing bloodshed and helping David see a better path. Abigail's approach was to speak to David as if he were already the man she hoped he would become, appealing to his better nature and reminding him of God's faithfulness.

This narrative challenges us to consider our responses to the mean people in our lives. We have the option to ignore them, retaliate, or choose a third way—responding with grace and goodness. This third option not only protects us from becoming like them but also aligns us with the character of God, who is kind to the ungrateful and wicked.

In our own lives, we need an "Abigail"—someone who can speak truth and wisdom into our situations, helping us to see beyond the immediate hurt and anger. When we choose to respond with grace, we write a remarkable story, one that reflects the love and mercy of our Heavenly Father.

Key Takeaways

1. The Power of Preparation: Without a plan, mean people can gain control over our lives, causing us to react in ways that are not true to who we are. It's essential to be proactive and prepared in our responses to maintain our integrity and peace. [01:10]
2. The Third Option: Beyond ignoring or retaliating, there is a third option—responding with grace and goodness. This choice not only protects us from becoming like the mean people but also aligns us with God's character. [05:39]
3. The Influence of an Abigail: We all need someone who can speak truth and wisdom into our lives, helping us to see beyond immediate hurt and anger. Listening to such voices can prevent us from making regrettable decisions. [21:55]
4. Reflecting God's Character: By choosing to do good to those who are mean, we reflect the character of God, who is kind to the ungrateful and wicked. This response not only changes us but also aligns us with our Heavenly Father. [26:58]
5. Writing a Remarkable Story: Our responses to mean people can either be predictable or remarkable. By choosing grace, we write a story that stands out, one that reflects the love and mercy of God, even if it doesn't change the other person. [30:03]
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Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[00:08] - Introduction to Mean People
[00:32] - The Challenge of Mean People
[01:10] - The Need for a Plan
[02:16] - Story of Alice and Roger
[03:42] - Becoming Like Mean People
[05:05] - The Third Option
[06:06] - Jesus and Abigail's Example
[07:29] - David's Anger and Abigail's Wisdom
[09:50] - Nabal's Rudeness
[12:11] - Abigail's Intervention
[15:07] - Abigail's Appeal to David
[17:15] - Remembering God's Faithfulness
[19:38] - The Story We Want to Tell
[21:20] - The Need for an Abigail
[24:31] - The Call to Follow Jesus
[26:05] - Doing Good to Mean People
[29:16] - Sandra's Act of Kindness
[30:03] - Writing a Remarkable Story

Sermon Clips

If we don't have a plan, if we're not prepared, if we're not proactive, well you know what happens. What happens to the mean people in our lives, the mean people in our lives, they actually gain a measure of control over our lives. And before we know it, we are being mean right back even if we don't mean to. [00:01:07]

The problem with getting back at the mean people or the problem with trying to get even with mean people is that it actually makes things worse. Because the problem with getting even is that it makes us even with someone we don't really even like. It makes us like someone that we actually dislike. [00:04:42]

There's a third option that actually takes away some of their power. I meant it actually positions us to keep our frustration from overflowing into other relationships around us. Maybe you grew up in a family where your mom was angry, your father was angry and as you got older, you realized they're not really angry with me, they're angry with their father, their mother. [00:05:35]

She begins to speak to David as if he is already the man that she hopes he will become. Now ladies, you should take note of this. This will work on us even when we know what you're up to. It just works, you know. Honey, you are so patient with the kids. I am? Yes you are so, it's like a Jedi mind trick. [00:15:02]

David, what story do you want to tell when this is nothing but a story that you tell? Years from now, when your looking back on this season of your life as a fugitive because one day you're gonna be the king, God's gonna keep his promise to you. But when you look back on the season, what story do you want to tell? [00:19:44]

We all need an Abigail in our lives don't we? We all need somebody who can talk us down, we all need somebody who has access to us. We all need somebody who feels permission to delve into those areas of our lives that we oftentimes just keep people away from. We all need an Abigail. [00:21:23]

We need to listen to those people who speak to our preferred future. Who reminds us that what we want immediately sometimes, is gonna get in the way of what we want ultimately. That we'll feel what feels right, right now may haunt us later. [00:22:11]

If you're gonna follow me, it means you emulate me. Which means I want you to love your enemies to which we say, you mean tolerate and ignore. He says no, I mean love. Here's his words, his words. I want you to do good, not just ignore and not just not be unkind. I want you to do good to those who hate you. [00:25:28]

I want you to pray for those who mistreat you. I want you to pray for the mean people. I don't want you to do something to them, I want you to do something for them because that's how you keep from becoming like them. But there's a bonus. Jesus says, when you do to them and for them what they don't deserve for you to do. [00:26:56]

Let's not write a predictable story, let's not write an evil for evil story. It's so predictable, it's what everybody expects you to do. It's what you're justified. You're your friends would say, well of course that's what you did. This is our moment, this is our opportunity. The meaner they are, the brighter our light has an opportunity to shine. [00:29:51]

To do for others precisely what they don't deserve for you to do. And it may not, In fact it probably won't change anything anything in them but it will do something for you. And in doing so, you will be like your father in heaven. [00:30:35]

The meaner they are, the brighter our light has an opportunity to shine. And I know that because I don't know your circumstances, I know that so easy for me to stand up here and say. But I'm not asking you to follow me, I'm just trying to inspire you and encourage you to follow our savior and to write a remarkable story. [00:30:09]

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