Resolving Conflict: Embracing Forgiveness and Restoration

 

Summary

In today's sermon, I explored the complexities of conflict within Christian communities, particularly focusing on the issues faced by the Corinthian church as addressed by the Apostle Paul. I began by acknowledging the universal truth that the destruction of relationships is always a tragedy, and yet, disputes and disagreements are inevitable. The way we handle these conflicts determines their outcome and longevity.

I delved into the context of 1 Corinthians 6, highlighting the contentions within the Corinthian church. I emphasized that as Christians, we should embody the presence of God, being the kindest, most generous, and forgiving people. However, the Corinthians were failing in this regard, taking their disputes before unbelievers, thus tarnishing their Christian testimony.

I addressed the hurt that can occur within church communities, noting that it's often more painful because of the expectation that Christians will behave better. I challenged the notion that merely attending church or claiming to be Christian equates to knowing Christ or walking in the fullness of His spirit.

I then discussed the difference between being judgmental and using good judgment, stressing the importance of discernment within our own spheres of influence. I pointed out that while we should not judge those outside our responsibility, we must make judgments about those within it to maintain order and uphold Christian values.

The sermon also touched on the concept of forgiveness, explaining that it involves relieving the debt of the offender, letting go of resentment, and ultimately, seeking restoration. I shared a personal anecdote to illustrate the power of humility in resolving conflicts.

Finally, I outlined a process for restoration, emphasizing the need for an honest assessment of one's own heart, premeditating the approach to conflict, and being prepared for the worst while hoping for the best. I differentiated between behavioral problems and character issues, underscoring that true character, even when flawed, is capable of repentance and change.

Key Takeaways:

- The true measure of Christian maturity is not found in the absence of conflict but in the approach to resolving it. As followers of Christ, we must strive to embody the wisdom and love that He exemplified, especially when dealing with disputes within our communities. This requires a heart that is quick to forgive and seeks restoration over retribution. [32:54]

- Forgiveness is not merely about uttering an apology; it is about a transformation of the heart that leads to changed behavior. When we forgive, we release the other person from the debt of their offense and free ourselves from the burden of resentment. This act mirrors the forgiveness we have received through Christ's sacrifice on the cross. [01:07:28]

- In dealing with conflicts, it is crucial to discern whether we are facing a behavioral issue or a character flaw. Behavior can be corrected, but character defines who a person is at their core. Understanding this difference can guide us in how we approach the possibility of restoration and reconciliation. [01:01:54]

- Restoration is a process that requires intentionality and commitment. It is not about ignoring problematic behavior but confronting it with the goal of healing. This process may involve difficult conversations, counseling, and a willingness to work through the pain towards a renewed relationship. [58:34]

- As Christians, we are called to be the salt and light of the earth, influencing the world with the love and wisdom of God. Our actions and decisions should reflect His character, and when we engage in conflict, it should be with the aim of demonstrating His grace and truth, leading to a testimony that glorifies God. [41:03]

Study Guide

### Bible Study Discussion Guide

#### Bible Reading
1. 1 Corinthians 6:1-11 - This passage addresses the issues of disputes among believers and the importance of resolving conflicts within the Christian community rather than taking them before unbelievers.

#### Observation Questions
1. What specific issues were the Corinthians facing that led them to take their disputes before unbelievers? ([19:20])
2. According to the sermon, what is the difference between being judgmental and using good judgment? ([35:25])
3. How does Paul describe the behavior of the Corinthians in 1 Corinthians 6:1-11, and what is his main criticism of their actions? ([21:19])
4. What does the sermon suggest is the ultimate goal when engaging in conflict with others? ([43:01])

#### Interpretation Questions
1. Why does Paul emphasize that Christians should be the most level-headed and wise people on the planet? How does this relate to the way we handle conflicts? ([20:06])
2. The sermon discusses the concept of forgiveness. How does the act of forgiving someone reflect the forgiveness we have received through Christ? ([01:07:06])
3. What does it mean to differentiate between behavioral problems and character issues, and why is this distinction important in the process of restoration? ([01:00:03])
4. How does the sermon illustrate the power of humility in resolving conflicts? Can you think of a personal example where humility helped resolve a conflict? ([33:48])

#### Application Questions
1. Reflect on a recent conflict you had within your community or family. How did you handle it, and what could you have done differently to embody the wisdom and love of Christ? ([26:03])
2. The sermon emphasizes the importance of forgiveness. Is there someone in your life you need to forgive? What steps can you take this week to begin that process? ([01:07:06])
3. Think about a time when you were judgmental rather than using good judgment. How can you practice better discernment in your interactions with others? ([35:25])
4. The sermon suggests that restoration requires intentionality and commitment. What practical steps can you take to restore a broken relationship in your life? ([49:33])
5. How can you ensure that your actions and decisions reflect the character of God, especially when dealing with conflicts? Identify one specific area where you can improve. ([31:00])
6. The sermon discusses the importance of being prepared for the worst while hoping for the best in conflict resolution. How can you mentally and spiritually prepare yourself for difficult conversations? ([52:00])
7. As Christians, we are called to be the salt and light of the earth. How can you influence your community with the love and wisdom of God this week? Provide a specific example. ([31:22])

Devotional

Day 1: Resolving Conflict with Christlike Maturity
Conflict is an unavoidable aspect of human relationships, even within the body of Christ. The true measure of spiritual maturity is not the absence of disagreements but the manner in which they are addressed. Christians are called to resolve disputes with wisdom and love, reflecting the character of Jesus. This involves a heart that is quick to forgive and prioritizes restoration over retribution. It is essential to approach conflicts with humility, seeking to understand before being understood, and to offer grace as freely as it has been received. The goal is not to win an argument but to win a brother or sister back to fellowship and unity. [32:54]

"Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted. Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." - Galatians 6:1-2 ESV

Reflection: Consider a recent conflict you've experienced within your Christian community. How can you approach this situation with a heart of forgiveness and seek restoration in a manner that reflects Christ's love?

Day 2: The Heart Transformation of Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a transformative act that goes beyond mere words of apology. It is a change of heart that leads to a change in behavior. When one forgives, they release the offender from the debt of their wrongdoing and, in turn, free themselves from the chains of bitterness and resentment. This mirrors the forgiveness that has been granted through the sacrifice of Christ on the cross. True forgiveness is a reflection of the divine forgiveness that believers have received, and it is a powerful testimony to the world of the grace that is found in Jesus. [01:07:28]

"Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive." - Colossians 3:12-13 ESV

Reflection: Is there someone you are struggling to forgive? How can you take steps today to release them from the debt of their offense and begin the journey of healing in your own heart?

Day 3: Discerning Behavior from Character
In the face of conflict, it is crucial to discern whether the issue at hand is a matter of behavior or a reflection of character. Behavior can be addressed and corrected, while character is indicative of a person's core values and identity. Understanding this distinction is vital in determining the approach to restoration and reconciliation. It is important to remember that everyone is capable of making mistakes, but a person with true character will show repentance and a willingness to change. This discernment allows for appropriate responses that aim for healing rather than condemnation. [01:01:54]

"By this we know that we have come to know him, if we keep his commandments. Whoever says 'I know him' but does not keep his commandments is a liar, and the truth is not in him." - 1 John 2:3-4 ESV

Reflection: Reflect on a recent conflict and determine whether it was a behavioral issue or a character flaw. How does this understanding influence your approach to the situation?

Day 4: The Intentional Process of Restoration
Restoration is an intentional and committed process that involves confronting problematic behavior with the goal of healing and renewal. It is not about ignoring issues but addressing them head-on with love and a desire for reconciliation. This process may require difficult conversations, counseling, and a willingness to work through pain. The aim is to restore relationships to a place of health and mutual respect, reflecting the restorative work of Christ in our lives. [58:34]

"Let us test and examine our ways, and return to the Lord! Let us lift up our hearts and hands to God in heaven." - Lamentations 3:40-41 ESV

Reflection: What steps can you take today to initiate or participate in the restoration process within a strained relationship, seeking healing and reconciliation?

Day 5: Being Salt and Light Through Conflict
As followers of Christ, believers are called to influence the world as salt and light, embodying the love and wisdom of God. This calling extends into how conflicts are handled, aiming to demonstrate grace and truth. Actions and decisions should reflect God's character, and engagement in conflict should lead to a testimony that glorifies Him. By doing so, Christians can have a positive impact on their communities and the world, showing what it means to live out the gospel in every aspect of life. [41:03]

"In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven." - Matthew 5:16 ESV

Reflection: How can you ensure that your actions during conflicts reflect the character of God and serve as a testimony to His grace and truth?

Quotes

1) "Christian people ought to be that person that when you walk into work on Monday morning, everybody goes, man, thank God she's here today. You ought to be the person that when you walk into a room, there's this metaphysical shift where your presence brings the presence of God along with you." [30:59]( | | )

2) "Paul said brother goes to law against brother and that before unbelievers. He said the world is watching what you're doing. The world sees what's going on. The world is witnessing your shameful behavior. They see it. And you claim to know Jesus Christ. You claim to be born again by God's Spirit." [32:54]( | | )

3) "Sometimes we talk so much about not being judgmental, we suddenly stop using discernment. We talk so much about being accepting and loving and welcoming to everybody that we sort of cross to this other end of the spectrum where then we no longer make good decisions." [35:33]( | | )

4) "Sometimes, hear me out, you can just drop it. I know. It's crazy. But sometimes you can just let it go and say, you know what? This isn't worth fighting. Why would I even fight over this? It's stupid. It's just a difference of opinion." [56:58]( | | )

5) "Restoration does not mean that we are going to go on ignoring problematic behavior. I need you to hear that. When we talk about restoring a person, no matter what the relationship is, restoration does not mean that we are going to just bury our heads in the sand." [58:34]( | | )

6) "If the person or persons in question are worth fighting with, they are also then worth fighting for. If the person is worth fighting with, if the person or persons in question are worth fighting with, then the ultimate goal is to realize that that person is worth me fighting for them." [43:30]( | | )

7) "Forgiveness means I'm relieving the debt. God, I'm relieving the debt. You don't owe me anything. I don't owe you anything. You don't owe me any sort of restitution. I don't owe you any retribution. I'm not going to get back at you for this." [01:08:13]( | | )

8) "The difference between bad behavior and bad character can be defined by a simple little word that's found in your Bible, and that word is repentance. The difference can be defined by their behavior moving forward. See, ultimately you shouldn't be simply looking for an apology." [01:01:54]( | | )

9) "The way you wish someone would have treated you in your most despicable, shameful moment is exactly how you should treat those who sin against you. Whatever grace you wanted is the grace you should give. Whatever mercy you desired is the mercy that should be the law of the day." [01:07:28]( | | )

10) "Everybody needs that at some point. And if you're here today and that relationship between you and God has never been restored today, it can be. If you'll call on the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Let's stand together in Jesus' name. Father, bless this time now." [01:10:18]( | | )

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