Key Ingredients for a Restored Relationship By Jeremy Anderson

Or how how do I know that when someone who's wronged me how do how do I know if they're re they're truly repentant? Or how do I know if they're just kinda giving lip service? Because we've all been recipients of the non apology at some point. Right? You've been there where someone apologized and be like, they don't mean it. If you're really honest, maybe you've done the same. True repentance is one that's going to lead to change. [00:26:41] (26 seconds)  #TrueRepentanceChanges

In other words, what Paul is saying here, he's like, listen. I didn't address this just to get at you. I didn't even address it to vindicate myself. He said, we address these things because I wanted you to do what was right in the sight of God. I wanted you to do what's right before God's eyes. [00:18:55] (16 seconds)  #DoRightBeforeGod

Restoration doesn't always happen. Oftentimes, pieces get left out. Sometimes it's on us. Sometimes it's on them. When restoration takes place, it's worth celebrating. We celebrate when this happens. K? Because the it it's not a common theme. It's not something that we deal with all the time. And so the the fourth ingredient then is to celebrate restoration. We see now I want you to see all the rejoicing that Paul talks about in this passage. [00:31:48] (44 seconds)  #CelebrateRestoration

They're encouraging Titus. Like, their obedience and their repentance is leading to a place where they say, we it's an encouragement to this man. It's encouragement to to Paul and his team. It's encouragement to people around that we can own these things and we go through the process and when the process leads to restoration, that's awesome. And we should we should, like, rejoice about that because it just doesn't always happen. Because there's a million different threats that are gonna derail us in any step of the way. [00:33:44] (30 seconds)  #EncouragementThroughRepentance

It's a goofy illustration, but we've probably all been there because a worldly grief is gonna lead you to a sadness and a remorse that in time, as you move away from that, it's not gonna lead you to a change. It's gonna lead you to maybe be a little bit more alert. Right? Worldly grief is say, I I wanna keep my eyes really peeled so that I don't get caught next time. [00:25:07] (19 seconds)  #WorldlyGriefVsChange

When these two these two things stand in juxtaposition to each other, the godly grief is a grief where we we we are moved to sadness. We are upset because we've we've offended God. Worldly grief is a being sad and upset because we got caught. And now we gotta deal with the consequences. Someone's calling us out, and that's inconvenient. And we may suffer some sort of loss of reputation. We may be upset because, now we have to to write the situation. That's gonna cost us financially. [00:22:28] (32 seconds)  #GodlyGriefNotJustCaught

But in this, we as we look down even into verse 12, if we could just jump ahead for a moment, we see some of the heart of Paul continue to service because he says, so although I wrote to you, it was not for the sake of the one who did wrong nor for the sake of the one who suffered the wrong, but in order that your earnestness for us might be revealed to you in the sight of God. [00:18:37] (18 seconds)  #EarnestnessRevealed

I'll be honest with you. That's easy. Just run away from your problems. That's an easy thing to do. It's not the godly thing to do. Sometimes we need to be willing to go and say, hey. When someone's repentant, as Paul preached to the Corinthians, we need to restore. Right? And so Paul is conveying to them, listen. I've got counsel to you. In verse 13, he says, I I'm comforted. I'm comforted. [00:30:32] (28 seconds)  #DontRunFromProblems