Redefining Fatherhood: The Value of Presence Over Provision

Devotional

Day 1: Redefining Success in Fatherhood

True success in fatherhood is not measured by financial provision or grand gestures, but by the quality of time and attention given to children. In a world that often equates success with material wealth, it is crucial to remember that the most valuable gift a father can offer is his presence. Children cherish the moments when their fathers are fully present, engaged, and attentive. These are the times that create lasting memories and foster deep connections. By prioritizing these moments, fathers can redefine what it means to be successful in their role. [00:21]

"Better is a little with the fear of the Lord than great treasure and trouble with it." (Proverbs 15:16, ESV)

Reflection: What is one way you can prioritize quality time with your children this week, setting aside distractions to be fully present with them?

Day 2: The Power of Simple Moments

Children often find the greatest joy in the simplest moments spent with their parents. These times of undivided attention and connection are what they remember and hold dear. In a society that often values grand experiences, it is important to recognize the profound impact of simple, everyday interactions. Whether it's a game of catch or a quiet conversation, these moments are opportunities to build strong relationships and create cherished memories. [00:55]

"Do not despise these small beginnings, for the Lord rejoices to see the work begin." (Zechariah 4:10a, ESV)

Reflection: Think of a simple activity you can do with your child today that allows for meaningful connection. How can you make this a regular part of your routine?

Day 3: Presence Over Presents

While providing for one's family is important, being present and engaged with children is what truly matters. Material gifts may bring temporary happiness, but the presence of a loving and attentive parent creates lasting memories and strengthens relationships. By choosing to be present, fathers can offer their children a sense of security and love that no material possession can replace. [01:07]

"Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, 'I will never leave you nor forsake you.'" (Hebrews 13:5, ESV)

Reflection: Reflect on your daily schedule. What is one change you can make to ensure you are more present with your family?

Day 4: Challenging Societal Norms

Society's emphasis on being a "breadwinner" can overshadow the more important role of being an emotionally available and supportive parent. Fathers are often pressured to prioritize financial success over family relationships. However, it is essential to challenge these norms and recognize the true value of being present and emotionally supportive. By doing so, fathers can create a nurturing environment that fosters growth and well-being for their children. [00:09]

"Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect." (Romans 12:2, ESV)

Reflection: What societal expectations have influenced your view of fatherhood? How can you align your priorities with what truly matters?

Day 5: Creating a Lasting Legacy

The legacy left to children is not in material wealth, but in the love, attention, and memories created with them. These are the treasures that endure and shape their lives. Fathers have the opportunity to leave a lasting impact by investing in their relationships with their children. By being present and engaged, they can create a legacy of love and connection that will be remembered for generations. [01:19]

"One generation shall commend your works to another, and shall declare your mighty acts." (Psalm 145:4, ESV)

Reflection: Consider the legacy you want to leave for your children. What steps can you take today to build that legacy through love and presence?

Sermon Summary

Taking a moment to reflect on the essence of fatherhood, I shared a personal story that challenged the conventional notion of what it means to be a "breadwinner." Society often tells us that our primary role as men is to provide financially for our families, to "bring home the bacon." However, through a heartfelt conversation with my son, I realized that the most valuable gift we can offer our children is not material wealth or grand experiences, but our presence and undivided attention.

During a time when I was being recognized with a fatherhood award, I asked my son Eric to share his favorite memory with me. Despite having experienced extraordinary events like attending Super Bowls, his most cherished memory was a simple game of baseball we played with a roll of tape and a broom. This moment was special to him because it was just the two of us, enjoying each other's company without distractions.

This revelation was profound. It highlighted that the true essence of fatherhood lies in the quality of time spent with our children, not in the quantity of material possessions or experiences we can provide. Our children value the moments when we are fully present, engaged, and connected with them. These are the times that leave a lasting impact and create cherished memories.

In our fast-paced world, it's easy to get caught up in the pursuit of success and material wealth. Yet, the most meaningful legacy we can leave our children is the love and attention we give them. By prioritizing our relationships and being present in the small, everyday moments, we can truly fulfill our role as fathers and make a lasting difference in our children's lives.

Key Takeaways

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2. The Power of Simple Moments: Children often cherish the simplest moments spent with their parents. These times of undivided attention and connection are what they remember and hold dear.

3. Presence Over Presents: While providing for our families is important, being present and engaged with our children is what truly matters. Our presence creates lasting memories and strengthens our relationships.

4. Challenging Societal Norms: Society's emphasis on being a "breadwinner" can overshadow the more important role of being an emotionally available and supportive parent. We must challenge these norms to prioritize what truly matters.

5. Creating a Lasting Legacy: The legacy we leave our children is not in material wealth, but in the love, attention, and memories we create with them. These are the treasures that endure.

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[00:00] - Welcome
[00:09] - The Breadwinner Myth
[00:21] - A Father's Realization
[00:34] - Seeking My Son's Perspective
[00:44] - Cherished Memories
[00:55] - The Power of Simple Moments
[01:07] - Presence Over Presents
[01:19] - Creating a Lasting Legacy
[01:30] - Conclusion and Reflection

Sermon Clips

you know we hear that i'm the breadwinner you're supposed to be the breadwinner so we think that's the most important job we have as men i've got to work and take care of business so that i bring home the bacon and if i can feed my family then i've been a good dad and that is not the most important thing our kids need [00:04:00]

i found that out from my son i was actually getting an award a fatherhood award and so i had to give a speech and i wanted to tell them you know what great neat things i've done for my kids so i asked my my son eric was like 12 at the time i said tell me the neatest thing that we've done together thing that you were most happy that we got to do [00:23:00]

and he had been on the sideline with me gone to super bowls and all these different neat things and he said well you remember the time we were playing baseball with a roll of tape and a broom because all the stuff was locked away and we just played baseball and i beat you 22-2 and tape baseball i said of all the things we've done that's the thing you remember [00:46:00]

why is that he said well that was just special me and you and i said wow you know that made me think that it's not the great things it's not what i provided for it's not being able to fly him to the super bowl but it was playing a baseball game with a roll of tape because it was just him and i [01:09:00]

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