Recalculating God's Roadmap for Relationships

``When you're following God in your relationships, don't just look for attraction. Look for fruit. Look for humility. Look for kindness. Look for consistency. Look for teachability. Look for faithfulness. Look for self control. Look for how they treat people who cannot do anything for them. Look how they respond when they are told no. Look for how they handle correction. Look for whether they honor God when nobody is clapping. [01:35:30] (31 seconds)  #CharacterOverAttraction

Before you build, count the cost. Before you commit, ask where is he going. Before you give your heart, ask if the direction honors God. And for those of you that are already married, it's not too late to ask again. Where are we going? What are we becoming as a family, as a couple? Who do we want? Who do we want to love? How do we wanna love each other in this season? What needs to change in our home to reflect Jesus more clearly? [01:32:29] (29 seconds)  #ClarifyYourDirection

Sometimes a closed door is the grace of God, and sometimes his direction is not dramatic. It's a still small voice saying, keep going or slow down. Or maybe he's saying right now, forgive or get help. Be honest with where you are. Maybe he's telling you, walk away. Or maybe he's telling you, open your heart again. The question today, Shiloh, is are we listening? And if you're single today, don't let loneliness lead you. Let the Holy Spirit lead you. [01:39:40] (36 seconds)  #ListenToTheSpirit

And it was when we began to clarify our destination that God began to open up our way. Where are we going? What does obedience look like for us? What kind of marriage are we trying to have? What kind of family are we trying to build? What kind of legacy are we trying to leave? These are destination questions. And if the destination is not clear, the the the direction will be disembodulated. You won't know how to get there. [01:28:25] (33 seconds)  #ClarifyYourDestination

For singles, it's not only do you like this person, the question is, are we moving in the same direction? Do we share the same belief about Jesus? Do we honor the same values? Do we will submit to the same lord and savior? Can we walk together in purpose? Amos three three says, can two walk together unless they agree? For married people, it's not just about getting through another week. The question is, what kind of marriage has God called you to build? [01:28:58] (35 seconds)  #MoveInSameDirection

See, before you ask, is this the right person? Or how can I fix my spouse? Or why are there no good options? Or what is his or her degree? What's their income? What's their credit score? Or when is God gonna change them? Or or or or should why is he or she always wanting to go fifty fifty on the bill? Before you live so worried about other people, MapQuest would tell you today, check your location. [01:13:11] (33 seconds)  #CheckYourLocation

There are places and patterns and mindsets that may feel normal to us because we've allowed them into our lives, but they're not aligned with what God says in his truth, and you cannot build on sandy ground to experience the best God has for your life. So before God recalculates your relationship, he invites you to check your location. God cannot heal when you keep hiding. He cannot give you direction while we're pretend we're somewhere we're not. [01:17:08] (35 seconds)  #BuildOnSolidGround

So some of us here, you've been dating folks for the last eight to nine months, and you're mad at them because you think they're not ambitious enough. They're not accomplished enough in life, and the issue is not that they were the issue is that they were never going to the place God's called you to go. What's God's vision for your family? What's God's vision for finances? What's God's vision for your faith, your walk in him? See, Abraham understood the destination. [01:30:26] (32 seconds)  #DateWithDestination