Radical Forgiveness: A Call to Spiritual Freedom

Devotional

Day 1: Radical Forgiveness: Forgiving from the Heart, Not Just Words

Radical forgiveness is not just about saying the right words or maintaining appearances; it is a deep, authentic act that comes from the heart, even when it feels unnatural or undeserved. Jesus modeled this on the cross, offering forgiveness to those who crucified Him, not after the pain had passed, but in the very midst of His suffering. This kind of forgiveness transcends human logic and emotion, requiring us to look beyond our wounds and release others before bitterness takes root. When we forgive radically, we are not only setting others free, but we are also freeing ourselves from the bondage of resentment and pain. [45:36]

Luke 23:33-34 (ESV)
And when they came to the place that is called The Skull, there they crucified him, and the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” And they cast lots to divide his garments.

Reflection: Who is someone you need to forgive today, even if they have not apologized or shown remorse? What would it look like to release them from your heart right now, as Jesus did?

Day 2: Shifting Focus: Looking Up Before Looking Around

When we are hurt or betrayed, our natural instinct is to focus on the person who wronged us or the pain we feel. Yet, Jesus shows us a different way—He turned His focus to the Father before addressing the offense. By looking up to God first, we find the strength and perspective to forgive, moving our attention from the problem to the solution. This shift in focus allows us to respond with grace rather than retaliation, and to base our actions on what Christ has done for us, not just what others have done to us. [53:55]

Matthew 5:43-48 (ESV)
“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same? You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

Reflection: When you are wronged, where do you usually turn your focus first—on the offender, the offense, or on God? How can you intentionally look up to God before responding to hurt this week?

Day 3: Transcending Betrayal: Forgiving in the Midst of Pain

Forgiveness is often thought of as something that happens after time has passed and healing has occurred, but Jesus demonstrates that true forgiveness can happen in the very middle of our pain. He forgave while the nails were still in His hands, refusing to let bitterness hold His heart hostage. Radical forgiveness is an act of spiritual transcendence, not emotional convenience. If we wait until it no longer hurts, we may never forgive. Instead, we are called to rise above the offense, choosing to release others even when our emotions lag behind. [56:54]

Ephesians 4:31-32 (ESV)
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Reflection: Is there a hurt in your life that you have been waiting to forgive until you feel better? What step can you take today to begin forgiving, even if the pain is still fresh?

Day 4: Translating Their Position: Seeing Brokenness, Not Just Blame

Jesus reframed the actions of those who crucified Him, choosing to see their spiritual blindness and brokenness rather than just their brutality. He understood that people often act out of ignorance, pain, or bondage, and He offered forgiveness from a place of compassion. When we interpret others’ actions through the lens of grace, we loosen the grip of bitterness and allow mercy to do its healing work. Understanding someone’s condition does not excuse their behavior, but it empowers us to extend mercy and release ourselves from the cycle of hurt. [01:02:06]

Colossians 3:12-13 (ESV)
Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.

Reflection: Think of someone who has hurt you—can you ask God to help you see their brokenness or spiritual need, rather than just their offense? How might this change your attitude toward them?

Day 5: Living Free: Letting Forgiveness Define You, Not the Offense

Radical forgiveness is not about forgetting what was done to you, but about refusing to let it define you or keep you bound. Every time you forgive, you break the cycle of revenge and choose healing over hatred, looking more like Jesus in the process. Forgiveness is not weakness; it is spiritual warfare that transforms both the forgiver and the forgiven. When you release others, you also release yourself, allowing God to use your pain for your growth and His glory. The question is not just who you are forgiving, but who you are becoming as you forgive. [01:13:25]

Romans 12:17-21 (ESV)
Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Reflection: Are you allowing what someone did to you to define your identity or your future? What would it look like to let forgiveness set you free and shape who you are becoming in Christ?

Sermon Summary

Today’s focus is on the profound and often misunderstood call to radical forgiveness. As we honor those who have served and sacrificed for our country, we are reminded that giving honor is biblical, but our ultimate allegiance and example come from Jesus Christ. Memorial Day is a time to remember those who gave their lives, but it also serves as a backdrop for understanding the depth of sacrifice and forgiveness that Christ modeled for us on the cross.

Forgiveness is not a simple or shallow act. It is not just saying words or offering a polite gesture. True, biblical forgiveness is radical—it is a heart-level release that mirrors the forgiveness Jesus extended even as He was being crucified. He did not wait for repentance or remorse from His offenders. Instead, He looked up to the Father, not around at His enemies, and prayed, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” This is not natural; it is supernatural. It is not about excusing the offense or forgetting the pain, but about refusing to let the offense define us or hold us hostage.

Radical forgiveness requires a shift in focus. Instead of fixating on those who have hurt us, we are called to fix our eyes on God, the source of our healing and strength. Jesus’ example teaches us to respond vertically before we respond horizontally—to bring our pain to God before we react to people. This is not about denying the reality of betrayal or injustice, but about transcending it, choosing to release others even in the midst of our own suffering.

Forgiveness is also about reframing the offense. Jesus saw the brokenness and spiritual blindness of His persecutors, not just their brutality. He understood that people often act out of ignorance, bondage, or pain. When we interpret others’ actions through the lens of grace and compassion, we loosen the grip of bitterness and allow mercy to do its healing work in us.

Ultimately, radical forgiveness is not weakness but spiritual warfare. Every act of forgiveness breaks the cycle of revenge, chooses healing over hatred, and makes us more like Christ. It is not about letting others off the hook, but about trusting God with justice and freeing ourselves from the bondage of bitterness. The question is not just whether we will forgive, but who we are becoming as we do. Radical forgiveness releases others and transforms us, allowing us to live in the freedom Christ purchased for us.

Key Takeaways

1. Radical forgiveness begins with shifting our focus from the offender to the Father. When we are hurt or betrayed, our natural instinct is to fixate on the source of our pain, but Jesus shows us that true forgiveness starts by looking up to God, seeking His perspective and strength before addressing those who have wronged us. This vertical focus prepares our hearts to forgive authentically and deeply. [45:36]
2. Forgiveness is not contingent on the offender’s repentance or remorse. Jesus forgave those who crucified Him even as they mocked and tortured Him, demonstrating that forgiveness is a proactive choice, not a reaction to someone else’s apology. This challenges us to extend grace even when it feels undeserved or premature, trusting God to handle justice in His time. [51:36]
3. To forgive radically, we must transcend the betrayal and refuse to let pain hold our hearts hostage. If we wait until the hurt is gone, we may never forgive. Jesus forgave in the midst of His suffering, modeling that forgiveness is an act of spiritual transcendence, not emotional convenience. This kind of forgiveness frees us from bitterness and allows us to heal, even if the wounds are still fresh. [56:16]
4. Reframing the offense through compassion rather than condemnation is essential. Jesus saw the spiritual blindness and brokenness of His persecutors, choosing to interpret their actions through grace rather than blame. When we recognize that hurt people often hurt others, we can extend mercy without excusing the behavior, allowing God’s grace to transform both us and those who have wronged us. [62:06]
5. Radical forgiveness is not about forgetting the offense but refusing to let it define us. Every act of forgiveness is a spiritual victory that breaks the cycle of revenge and opens the door to healing and transformation. By trusting God with justice and choosing to release others, we not only set them free but also experience the freedom and growth that comes from living like Christ. [72:19]

Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[00:45] - Honoring Veterans and Memorial Day
[05:30] - The Meaning of the 13 Folds
[10:20] - The Cost and Sacrifice of Service
[13:50] - Remembering Why We Celebrate
[16:30] - Building Community This Summer
[18:40] - Opening Prayer
[22:00] - Series Introduction: The Real F Word
[24:30] - Why Forgiveness Is So Hard
[27:00] - Radical Forgiveness Defined
[32:00] - The Botham Jean Story
[36:00] - Jesus’ Example on the Cross
[41:16] - Political vs. Radical Forgiveness
[45:36] - Looking Up Before Looking Around
[51:36] - Forgiveness Without Repentance
[56:16] - Transcending Betrayal
[59:49] - Forgiveness Is Not Forgetting
[62:06] - Reframing Offense Through Compassion
[69:10] - The Alphabet of Redemption
[72:19] - Radical Forgiveness: Freedom and Transformation
[77:39] - Closing Prayer

Bible Study Guide

Bible Reading

Luke 23:32-34 — _"Two others, who were criminals, were led away to be put to death with him. And when they came to the place that is called The Skull, there they crucified him, and the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. And Jesus said, 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.' And they cast lots to divide his garments."_

- Matthew 5:43-48
_"You have heard that it was said, 'You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.' But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven..."_

Observation Questions

In Luke 23:34, what does Jesus do before addressing the people who are crucifying Him? How does this contrast with what most people might do in a similar situation? [[45:36]]
According to the sermon, what is the difference between “political forgiveness” and “radical forgiveness”? [[42:03]]
In Matthew 5:44, what does Jesus command us to do for our enemies? How is this different from what is “natural”? [[53:08]]
What reason does Jesus give for forgiving those who crucified Him? What does He say about their awareness of their actions? [[45:36]]

Interpretation Questions

Why do you think Jesus chose to pray to the Father before responding to His enemies? What does this teach us about where our focus should be when we are hurt? [[45:36]]
The sermon says that forgiveness is not about waiting for the other person to apologize or show remorse. Why is this so challenging, and what does it reveal about the nature of biblical forgiveness? [[51:36]]
How does reframing the offense—seeing the brokenness or spiritual blindness of the offender—change the way we approach forgiveness? [[01:02:06]]
The pastor said, “Forgiveness is not about forgetting the offense but refusing to let it define us.” What does it look like in real life to refuse to let an offense define you? [[59:49]]

Application Questions

Think of a time when you were hurt or betrayed. Did you focus more on the person who hurt you or on God? What would it look like to “look up before looking around” in that situation? [[45:36]]
Is there someone in your life you are waiting on to apologize before you forgive them? What would it mean for you to choose forgiveness even if they never say sorry? [[51:36]]
The sermon says, “If you wait until the hurt is gone, you may never forgive.” Is there a wound in your life that you’ve been waiting to heal before forgiving? What would it take to forgive in the midst of your pain? [[56:16]]
When you think about someone who has wronged you, do you see only their actions, or do you consider what might be broken or hurting in them? How could seeing their brokenness help you move toward forgiveness? [[01:02:06]]
The pastor said, “Forgiveness is not weakness but spiritual warfare.” How does this idea challenge or encourage you? What “cycle of revenge” might God be calling you to break in your own life? [[01:12:19]]
Are there any offenses or betrayals that you feel are defining you or holding you hostage? What is one step you can take this week to begin releasing that offense to God? [[59:49]]
Radical forgiveness is described as a proactive choice that transforms us. What is one area of your life where you need to trust God with justice and choose to release someone, even if it feels undeserved? [[51:36]]

Sermon Clips

Forgiveness is one of those things that we hear about, we know we should do, but we don't practice. Forgive is one of those things I think that we have oversimplified and we don't recognize the depth of authentic forgiveness. Biblical forgiveness, authentic forgiveness is not just saying words. but as Matthew 18 taught us, it is meaning it from the heart. Amen? [00:41:32] (25 seconds)

What kind of love speaks mercy in the moment of torture? What kind of strength chooses prayer instead of payback? On the cross between pain and death, Jesus' words that stop us in our tracks. Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do. They are words of radical forgiveness, bold, countercultural, world-changing. [00:45:28] (27 seconds)

Jesus asked for forgiveness, not justice. He offered forgiveness without repentance. You know, should you forgive someone if they don't ask for forgiveness? Some of you all say, well, boy, when they ask for forgiveness, I'll give them forgiveness. When they tell me they're sorry and they've shown the appropriate remorse, that will trigger forgiveness. That wasn't Jesus' model. [00:51:40] (25 seconds)

Forgiveness isn't something Jesus offered after he healed. It's something he chose while he bled. He didn't let that pain hold his heart hostage. How many of us are allowing the pain to hold our hearts hostage? If you wait until it doesn't hurt, you may never forgive. [00:56:11] (26 seconds)

Forgiveness is an act of spiritual transcendence. We're tracking together. It's an act of spiritual, not emotional convenience. If you make forgiveness an emotional issue, it's going to take you a long time to forgive somebody else. [00:58:32] (18 seconds)

Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting. It means refusing to be frozen. How many of us think we hold other people hostage while bitterness has our heart held hostage? Forgiveness isn't just a decision. It's a perspective. [00:59:56] (18 seconds)

Jesus didn't just release them from guilt. He reframed their offense. Watch this now. He saw their brokenness, not just their brutality. How many of y'all look at a person's broken? You know what? How can a person do this? Because they're broken. [01:00:14] (17 seconds)

Let radical forgiveness release others and transform you. That's my thesis. When you release others it doesn't just release them it also releases you. [01:08:51] (15 seconds)

They thought it was a setback but God it was a set up. They thought they destroyed us God but God they developed us God. They thought God they were taking us out but they were taking us out. They had no idea what they were doing and the people who hurt you and the people who harm you they have no idea how God's going to translate that pain for your good. [01:12:52] (33 seconds)

Radical forgiveness radical forgiveness radical forgiveness it ain't common sense it's God sense and the question becomes what's gonna be your focus can you transcend the betrayal and can you translate their position it takes a whole nother level of spirituality and maturity to practice this but the good news you have the Holy Spirit to walk you through it. [01:13:50] (46 seconds)

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