Planting Seeds of Peace in Relationships

Devotional

Day 1: Wisdom in Action: Relating with Integrity

Wisdom in relationships is not about intelligence or education but about how we relate to others. It is demonstrated through our actions and how we treat people, emphasizing the importance of integrity and truth as the foundation of trust. Integrity is crucial because it builds trust, and without truth, there is no trust, and without trust, there is no genuine relationship. Wisdom manifests in our actions, not just in our words, and it shows up in our relationships. By embodying integrity, we create a solid foundation for meaningful connections. [03:42]

James 3:17-18 (ESV): "But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. And a harvest of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace."

Reflection: Think of a relationship where trust has been broken. What steps can you take today to rebuild that trust through actions of integrity and truth?

Day 2: Planting Seeds of Peace: Cultivating Harmony

Every interaction is an opportunity to plant seeds of peace or discord. By choosing to act wisely, we can cultivate trust, love, and harmony in our relationships, reaping a harvest of goodness. Wisdom teaches us that our actions have consequences, and the seeds we plant today will determine the harvest we reap tomorrow. By being intentional in our interactions, we can create an environment of peace and understanding, fostering relationships that are nurturing and fulfilling. [04:25]

Proverbs 11:18 (ESV): "The wicked earns deceptive wages, but one who sows righteousness gets a sure reward."

Reflection: Identify a recent interaction where you could have planted seeds of peace but didn't. How can you approach a similar situation differently in the future to cultivate harmony?

Day 3: Integrity as the Foundation: Building Trust

Integrity is the foundation of all good relationships because trust is built on truth. Without truth, there is no trust, and without trust, there is no relationship. Honesty is the bedrock of all meaningful connections. When we act with integrity, we align our actions with our values, creating a trustworthy environment. This alignment fosters deeper connections and allows relationships to flourish. By prioritizing integrity, we ensure that our relationships are built on a solid foundation that can withstand challenges and grow stronger over time. [07:00]

Proverbs 10:9 (ESV): "Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out."

Reflection: Reflect on a time when you compromised your integrity in a relationship. What can you do today to restore integrity and rebuild trust in that relationship?

Day 4: Gentleness and Consideration: Understanding Emotions

Being considerate means looking beyond words to understand emotions. Wise people focus on feelings rather than words, recognizing that hurt people often hurt others. By being gentle and considerate, we can avoid common mistakes such as reacting to words instead of feelings and invalidating emotions we don't share. Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they simply exist and should be acknowledged without judgment. By doing so, we build stronger, more meaningful relationships that are based on empathy and understanding. [21:16]

Colossians 3:12-13 (ESV): "Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive."

Reflection: Think of a recent conversation where you focused on words rather than emotions. How can you approach similar conversations with more gentleness and consideration in the future?

Day 5: Avoiding Common Mistakes: Validating Emotions

Reacting to words instead of feelings and invalidating others' emotions are common mistakes. Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they simply exist and should be acknowledged without judgment. By validating emotions, we show empathy and understanding, which are essential for building strong relationships. When we acknowledge others' feelings, we create a safe space for open communication and deeper connections. This approach allows us to navigate conflicts more effectively and fosters an environment of mutual respect and support. [25:15]

Romans 12:15-16 (ESV): "Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight."

Reflection: Consider a relationship where you have dismissed someone's feelings. What steps can you take today to validate their emotions and strengthen your connection with them?

Sermon Summary

In our relationships, we often act foolishly, treating others in ways that are counterproductive. We provoke behaviors we don't want, thinking it will lead to more fulfillment, intimacy, and joy. However, these actions are often misguided. Wisdom, as described in James 3:13-18, doesn't eliminate problems but reduces them. It teaches us that wisdom is about how we relate to others, not just what we know. It's about actions, not words, and it shows up in our relationships.

The Bible tells us that wisdom is pure, peaceloving, gentle, and sincere. It is about planting seeds of peace and reaping a harvest of goodness. Every day, in every relationship, we plant seeds—of trust or distrust, anger or peace, love or harmony. The question is, what kind of seeds are we planting? To plant seeds of peace, we must be wise and follow the six things that wise people never do in relationships.

First, wisdom is pure, meaning it is uncorrupted and full of integrity. Integrity is the foundation of all good relationships because trust is built on truth. Without truth, there is no trust, and without trust, there is no relationship. Second, wisdom is peaceloving. Wise people are peacemakers, not troublemakers. They don't antagonize others' anger or push their hot buttons. Third, wisdom is gentle and considerate. It means being mindful of others' feelings, not just their words. Wise people look beyond words to understand the emotions behind them.

Being considerate is crucial because it helps us avoid two common mistakes: reacting to what people say instead of how they feel, and invalidating feelings we don't share. Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they just are. We must acknowledge them without judgment. By doing so, we build stronger, more meaningful relationships.

Key Takeaways

1. Wisdom in Relationships: Wisdom is not about intelligence or education but about how we relate to others. It manifests in our actions and how we treat people, emphasizing the importance of integrity and truth as the foundation of trust. [03:42]
2. Planting Seeds of Peace: Every interaction is an opportunity to plant seeds of peace or discord. By choosing to act wisely, we can cultivate trust, love, and harmony in our relationships, reaping a harvest of goodness. [04:25]
3. Integrity as a Foundation: Integrity is crucial in relationships because it builds trust. Without truth, there is no trust, and without trust, there is no genuine relationship. Honesty is the bedrock of all meaningful connections. [07:00]
4. Gentleness and Consideration: Being considerate means looking beyond words to understand emotions. Wise people focus on feelings rather than words, recognizing that hurt people often hurt others. [21:16]
5. Avoiding Common Mistakes: Reacting to words instead of feelings and invalidating others' emotions are common mistakes. Feelings are neither right nor wrong; they simply exist and should be acknowledged without judgment. [25:15]
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Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[00:13] - Foolishness in Relationships
[00:55] - Wisdom from the Book of James
[01:42] - The Role of Ego in Disorder
[02:24] - Seeds of Peace
[03:42] - Wisdom in Action
[05:03] - Six Things Wise People Never Do
[06:27] - Integrity as the Foundation
[09:30] - God's Shield of Integrity
[10:12] - Wisdom is Peaceloving
[11:13] - Avoiding Anger Antagonism
[14:39] - Tools to Avoid in Relationships
[18:41] - Wisdom is Gentle
[21:16] - Consideration in Relationships
[25:15] - Understanding Feelings

Sermon Clips

The Bible says this if you are wise and you understand God's ways you'll live a life of steady goodness so that only good deeds pour forth and if you don't brag about the good you do then you will be truly wise but if you are bitterly jealous and there's selfish ambition in your heart don't brag about being wise that's the worst kind of lie. [00:01:05]

Wisdom the kind of wisdom that comes from Heaven is first of all pure it's also peaceloving gentle at all times willing to yield to others it's full of mercy and Good Deeds it shows no partiality and it's always sincere now those who are peacemakers plant seeds of peace and they reap a harvest of goodness. [00:02:13]

The Bible teaches us that wisdom is a way of relating it has to do with what you do not what you think a lot of people think wisdom is intelligence wisdom is Smarts wisdom is education no no no no the world is full of educated fools the Bible says that wisdom shows up primarily in your relationships. [00:02:42]

Every day in every relationship you are planting seeds I'll say it again every day in every relationship you are planting seeds and you're going to reap what you sow now you're planting either seeds of trust or distrust you're planting seeds of anger or peace you're planting seeds of Love or Harmony. [00:04:28]

If I want to be wise in my relationships I won't compromise my Integrity I won't compromise my Integrity I won't violate my conscience I won't compromize my convictions I won't live a double life I won't lie to you I'll tell you the truth because trust is built on truth no truth no trust no trust no relationship. [00:09:00]

Wise people are peacemakers they're not troublemakers wise people don't carry ship on ship on their shoulder wise people are not always looking for a fight do you love a good fight then you're not wise the Bible says wisdom is peaceloving fools love to fight just go on the internet there're it's full of them. [00:10:15]

If I'm wise I don't antagonize your anger I don't use weapons of mass destruction that I know are going to tick you off I don't push your buttons even when I know what your buttons are and even when you've already pushed mine I'm going to be the wiser person and I'm not going to push back. [00:12:11]

If I'm wise I'm always going to be considerate look at up here on the screen Philippians 4:5 says this in the bible let everyone see that you are considerate in most of everything you do oh it didn't say that it says let everybody see that you are considerate in what all you do. [00:18:48]

Being considerate is the antidote to the two most common mistakes foolish mistakes that you make in relationships the two most common mistakes that you make in relationships and the first mistake you make is we React to what people say and ignore how people feel dumb we pay too much attention to their words. [00:20:10]

Hurt people always hurt people unkind people are those who need your kindness the most they need massive doses of kindness when people are rude and unkind they are screaming to the world I'm in pain people who are not in pain are kind people who are always in pain are unkind and rude hurt people hurt people. [00:21:43]

We must be considerate of the doubts and the fears everybody's got fears of others let's please the other person not ourselves in doing what's good for him and build him up we React to what people say and ignore what they're feeling big mistake the other mistake we do is we invalidate any feelings that we don't feel. [00:22:16]

Feelings are neither right nor wrong they're just there feelings are neither right nor wrong they're just there they're not facts so you don't need to argue it they're just feelings and if I feel something I shouldn't have to defend it and if you feel something you shouldn't have to defend it somebody should just go I hear you. [00:25:07]

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