Overcoming Offense: Embracing God's Will for Unity
Summary
Coming out of the celebration of Easter, it’s important to remember that the blood of Jesus was not shed in vain. The sacrifice of Calvary is the foundation of our healing, our hope, and our unity as a church. Yet, even those closest to Jesus—His own disciples—faced moments of deep offense and confusion when God’s will didn’t align with their expectations. Jesus warned them that all would be offended because of Him, not because He failed, but because the will of God often confronts our comfort, our preferences, and our pride.
Offense is a universal human experience, especially as we draw closer to one another and see each other’s humanity. The closer we get, the more opportunities there are for misunderstanding and hurt. This is true in marriage, in friendship, and especially in the church. Jesus’ disciples were offended not just by what happened to Him, but by how He chose to respond—submitting to suffering, refusing to defend Himself, and embracing the will of God even when it meant pain and loss. Their offense was rooted in their desire to protect themselves and their vision of how things should be.
The enemy’s strategy is often to strike at the leader in our hearts, to sow seeds of suspicion, accusation, and division. When we allow offense to take root, it can destroy unity, breed gossip, and hinder the work of God. But there is a test that every believer must pass: the loyalty test. Will we remain faithful and submitted even when we don’t understand, even when we’re hurt, even when God’s will is uncomfortable? True blessing comes not from avoiding offense, but from overcoming it—choosing unity, forgiveness, and trust in God’s greater purpose.
Growth and obedience to God’s vision will always challenge us. It will require us to die to our own preferences, to embrace change, and to serve beyond our comfort zones. The stories of John the Baptist, Peter, and faithful members of the church remind us that doing the will of God is not always easy or glamorous, but it is always right. The blessing is reserved for those who refuse to be offended, who let go of bitterness, and who remain loyal to God and to one another. In this, we find healing, unity, and the power to reach a hurting world.
Key Takeaways
- Offense Is Inevitable, But Not Inevitable to Remain
Everyone will face offense, especially as relationships deepen and humanity is revealed. The closer we get to others, the more likely we are to be hurt, but the true test is not whether we are offended, but whether we allow offense to take root and define us. Spiritual maturity is measured by our ability to let go, forgive, and move forward in unity. [32:14]
- The Loyalty Test Is Central to Spiritual Growth
Every believer must face the loyalty test—will we remain faithful and submitted when leadership or God’s will challenges our comfort or understanding? Passing this test means choosing trust over suspicion, submission over self-will, and unity over division. The blessing of God is found on the other side of loyalty, not in the absence of offense, but in overcoming it. [40:19]
- God’s Will Often Offends Our Flesh
The will of God will challenge our preferences, disrupt our comfort, and sometimes even bring pain or loss. Like Jesus in Gethsemane, we must come to a place where we say, “Not my will, but Yours be done,” even when it costs us. True discipleship is measured by our willingness to embrace God’s will above our own, trusting that His way is always right. [47:37]
- Unity and Blessing Flow From Overcoming Offense
When we choose to overlook offenses, forgive, and remain loyal, we create an unbreakable bond of unity that the enemy cannot destroy. This unity releases God’s blessing, empowers the church to fulfill its mission, and brings healing to our relationships and our community. The blessing is not in never being hurt, but in refusing to let hurt define our response. [55:43]
- Our Mission Is Greater Than Our Comfort
The church is not a social club, but a place where lives are changed and the will of God is pursued above all else. Growth, outreach, and obedience will always require sacrifice and a willingness to be uncomfortable. Our calling is to serve, to reach the lost, and to do the will of God, even when it means letting go of our own preferences and embracing change. [56:22]
Youtube Chapters
[00:00] - Welcome
[24:04] - The Power of the Blood
[25:56] - God’s Presence and Unlimited Power
[27:50] - Jesus Predicts Offense Among Disciples
[29:59] - The Reality of Offense in Life
[31:25] - Humanity, Relationships, and Offense
[33:03] - The Role of the Shepherd and Leadership
[35:04] - The Disciples’ Offense at Jesus’ Choices
[36:51] - The Dangers of Gossip and Suspicion
[39:04] - Passing the Loyalty Test
[41:13] - The Offense of God’s Will
[43:17] - Loyalty, Unity, and Vision
[45:19] - Embracing God’s Bigger Vision
[47:37] - The Cost of Obedience and Sacrifice
[49:28] - John the Baptist’s Struggle and Jesus’ Response
[51:50] - Leadership, Humanity, and Submission
[54:59] - Overcoming Offense in Ministry
[56:22] - The Church’s True Mission
[57:12] - The Blessing of Overcoming Offense
[01:08:03] - Testimonies of Healing and Miracles
[01:10:42] - Prayer of Repentance and Surrender
[01:12:35] - Letting Go and Receiving Healing
Study Guide
Small Group Bible Study Discussion Guide
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### Bible Reading
Matthew 26:31-35 (ESV)
> Then Jesus said to them, “You will all fall away because of me this night. For it is written, ‘I will strike the shepherd, and the sheep of the flock will be scattered.’ But after I am raised up, I will go before you to Galilee.” Peter answered him, “Though they all fall away because of you, I will never fall away.” Jesus said to him, “Truly, I tell you, this very night, before the rooster crows, you will deny me three times.” Peter said to him, “Even if I must die with you, I will not deny you!” And all the disciples said the same.
Matthew 11:2-6 (ESV)
> Now when John heard in prison about the deeds of the Christ, he sent word by his disciples and said to him, “Are you the one who is to come, or shall we look for another?” And Jesus answered them, “Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight and the lame walk, lepers are cleansed and the deaf hear, and the dead are raised up, and the poor have good news preached to them. And blessed is the one who is not offended by me.”
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### Observation Questions
1. In Matthew 26:31-35, what did Jesus predict would happen to all His disciples that night? How did Peter respond to Jesus’ warning?
2. According to the sermon, what does it mean when Jesus says, “I will strike the shepherd, and the sheep of the flock will be scattered”? ([27:50])
3. In Matthew 11:2-6, what was John the Baptist’s situation, and what question did he send to Jesus? How did Jesus respond to John’s doubts?
4. The sermon mentions that even those closest to Jesus were offended by Him. What were some reasons the disciples and John the Baptist struggled with offense? ([35:04])
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### Interpretation Questions
1. Why do you think Jesus warned His disciples that they would all be offended because of Him? What does this reveal about following Jesus and our expectations? ([27:50])
2. The sermon talks about the “loyalty test.” What does it mean to pass the loyalty test in the context of church life and following God’s will? ([40:19])
3. How does the will of God sometimes “offend our flesh” or challenge our comfort zones, according to the sermon? Can you see this in the stories of Peter or John the Baptist? ([47:37])
4. The pastor shared personal stories about being offended by leadership and overcoming it. What does this teach us about unity and spiritual maturity in the church? ([39:04])
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### Application Questions
1. The sermon says, “Offense is inevitable, but not inevitable to remain.” Think of a recent time you were offended by someone in church, family, or work. How did you respond? Did you let it take root, or were you able to let it go? ([32:14])
2. The “loyalty test” is about staying faithful even when you don’t understand or agree. Is there a situation right now where you’re struggling to trust God or leadership? What would it look like to choose loyalty and unity in that situation? ([40:19])
3. Jesus’ way in Gethsemane was to pray, “Not my will, but Yours be done.” Is there an area in your life where God’s will is challenging your preferences or comfort? What would it look like to surrender that area to God? ([47:37])
4. The sermon warns about gossip and suspicion destroying unity. Are there conversations or attitudes you need to change to protect unity in your family, friendships, or church? ([36:51])
5. The pastor said, “The blessing is not in never being hurt, but in refusing to let hurt define our response.” What practical steps can you take this week to forgive someone or move past an old offense? ([55:43])
6. The church’s mission is “greater than our comfort.” What is one way you can step out of your comfort zone to serve, reach out, or support someone in need this month? ([56:22])
7. The sermon ended with a call to let go of bitterness and receive healing. Is there something you need to surrender to God today so you can move forward in unity and blessing? ([01:12:35])
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Close in prayer, asking God to help each person overcome offense, pass the loyalty test, and walk in unity and healing.
Devotional
Day 1: The Root of Offense Does Not Have to Take Hold
Offense is an unavoidable part of human relationships, especially as we grow closer and see each other’s imperfections. It is natural to feel hurt or misunderstood when expectations are unmet or when others act in ways that challenge us. However, the true spiritual test is not whether offense comes, but whether it takes root and shapes our attitudes and actions. Spiritual maturity is demonstrated by the ability to forgive, release bitterness, and pursue unity despite the pain offense can cause. Holding onto offense only breeds division and hinders the healing and hope that come from Christ’s sacrifice. Choosing to let go is a daily decision that opens the door to peace and restoration. [32:14]
“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.”
— Ephesians 4:31-32
Reflection: Identify one relationship where offense has taken root in your heart. What practical step can you take today to begin releasing that offense and choosing forgiveness instead?
Day 2: Faithfulness When Tested Reveals True Growth
Every believer encounters moments when God’s will or leadership challenges personal comfort and understanding. This “loyalty test” asks whether you will remain faithful and submitted even when circumstances are confusing or painful. Choosing trust over suspicion, submission over self-will, and unity over division is the path to spiritual growth. The blessing of God is not found in avoiding offense but in overcoming it through steadfast loyalty. This test refines character and aligns the heart with God’s greater purpose, enabling the church to stand strong amid trials. Passing this test requires humility and a willingness to surrender personal agendas for the sake of God’s vision. [40:19]
“Now we ask you, brothers, to respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves.”
— 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13
Reflection: When faced with a difficult decision or leadership direction, how do you typically respond? What is one way you can practice loyalty and submission to God’s will this week, even if it challenges your comfort?
Day 3: God’s Will Often Clashes with Our Natural Desires
The will of God frequently confronts our flesh, disrupting our preferences and comfort zones. Like Jesus in Gethsemane, disciples are called to say, “Not my will, but Yours be done,” even when obedience involves pain, loss, or sacrifice. True discipleship is measured by the willingness to embrace God’s plan above personal desires, trusting that His way is always right and ultimately for our good. This surrender is not passive resignation but active faith that God’s vision is bigger and better than our own. Embracing this truth leads to transformation and deeper intimacy with God. [47:37]
“And going a little farther, he fell on his face and prayed, saying, ‘My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will.’”
— Matthew 26:39
Reflection: What is one area of your life where God’s will currently challenges your comfort or desires? How can you practically choose to say “Not my will, but Yours” today?
Day 4: Unity and Blessing Arise from Choosing Forgiveness
When believers choose to overlook offenses, forgive one another, and remain loyal, they create a unity that is unbreakable by the enemy. This unity releases God’s blessing, empowers the church’s mission, and brings healing to relationships and communities. The blessing is not found in never being hurt but in refusing to let hurt dictate responses. Choosing forgiveness and loyalty over bitterness and division is a powerful testimony of God’s grace at work. This unity strengthens the body of Christ and equips it to reach a hurting world with hope and love. [55:43]
“Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity! It is like the precious oil on the head, running down on the beard, on the beard of Aaron, running down on the collar of his robes!”
— Psalm 133:1-2
Reflection: Is there a current offense or conflict in your church or community that you can begin to forgive and seek reconciliation in? What practical step can you take toward unity this week?
Day 5: The Church’s Mission Demands Sacrifice Beyond Comfort
The church is not a social club but a community called to pursue God’s will above all else. Growth, outreach, and obedience require sacrifice and a willingness to step beyond comfort zones. Serving others, reaching the lost, and embracing change often means letting go of personal preferences. This mission is greater than individual ease and calls for a heart fully surrendered to God’s vision. When believers embrace this calling, they participate in God’s transformative work in the world, bringing hope and healing to many. [56:22]
“And he said to all, ‘If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.’”
— Luke 9:23
Reflection: What is one comfort or preference you need to release in order to more fully engage in the church’s mission? How can you take a concrete step toward serving beyond your comfort zone today?
Quotes
``And that will destroy a church. That'll destroy any, any group. That'll destroy a family. It'll destroy your business. Gossip can't be allowed to, to, to spread because it's character assassination. It's destroying somebody's integrity. It's, it's attacking somebody's motive. It's, it's creating a fence in people about somebody that they didn't even firsthand have a problem with. And so it creates a painful situation in people's lives. So you wouldn't want me talking about your problems and explaining situations. And so it's best to let the leader make decisions because they understand more than what I understand. [00:36:59] (47 seconds)
If he's doing the worst thing in the world, he's still my pastor. I'm going to submit to him. It's like I was like, I'm done thinking all of these thoughts of offense and accusation when there's zero evidence. It's 100 % thoughts attacking my mind. [00:39:08] (19 seconds)
But if it's right, then I've got to die to what I want. Jesus leaves this meeting and he goes to the Garden of Gethsemane and he begins to pray and he says, oh Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me. Nevertheless, not my will but thy will be done. He spent time in that garden facing the will of God and then coming to the conclusion, even if it hurts, it's right. If it costs me my life, it's right. [00:48:04] (36 seconds)
I came to die for the sins of the world, not 12. I didn't come just to raise up 12 men. I came to die and give my life as a ransom so that I could purchase a world back with my blood. Amen. He had a bigger vision, and that vision's offensive to our flesh. It always will be. Growth challenges us. [00:45:39] (26 seconds)
Blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me. The blessing is not in the offense. The blessing is in getting victory over the offense. [01:02:08] (15 seconds)
It's the people that know how to overcome offense that become blessed. Do you hear me? Getting done wrong? Who hasn't been? Get over it. I'm being honest. Is that not fair? Is that inconvenient truth? What is that? I've been done wrong. I've been done so wrong that I've wept and cried myself to sleep. I've, I've, I've dreamed. [01:02:28] (30 seconds)
Maybe we should call it the Hurt Club. Amen. We've all been hurt. But you know what we're doing? We're letting it go by the help of God. God, because blessed is he that's not offended in me. If you get offended at Jesus, you've got to let it go. If you get offended at your brother, you've got to let it go. If you get offended at the will of God, you've got to let it go. Why? Because it's not about me. It's not about protecting me. It's about doing the will of God no matter what it costs me, no matter what price I've got to pay. Oh, God, help me to do your will. Musicians, you can come. [01:00:26] (37 seconds)
If you want to move forward in God, if you want to move forward, somebody make the commitment. I'm not going to be offended in him. I'm not going to allow offenses to pull my joy away. Hallelujah. I open these altars. I want you to come. And if you need peace from God, if you need strength, I want you to come. We're all going to come as a family. Take your neighbor by the hand. Just bring him down. It's Calvary. This is what we do. We just come as a family to the front. [01:07:36] (23 seconds)
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