Attraction is a natural, God-given response, but it requires careful management. Unchecked attraction can lead to lust, which can have destructive consequences in our lives. We must learn to differentiate between love, which is selfless and builds up, and lust, which is selfish and objectifies others. Attraction, when aligned with God's intentions, can lead to meaningful and fulfilling relationships. However, when it becomes an obsession or is driven by selfish desires, it can lead to objectification and harm. Understanding the difference between love and lust is crucial in maintaining healthy relationships. Love seeks the well-being of others and is rooted in selflessness, while lust is self-serving and reduces others to mere objects of desire. [10:53]
"Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor." (Romans 12:9-10, ESV)
Reflection: Consider a relationship in your life. Are your feelings towards this person rooted in genuine love or selfish desire? How can you ensure your attraction aligns with God's intentions today?
Day 2: Guarding the Heart: A Path to Purity
Proverbs 4:23 teaches us to guard our hearts, as they determine the course of our lives. This involves being mindful of our intentions and ensuring that our attractions do not lead us into sin. By guarding our hearts, we can align our desires with God's will and avoid the pitfalls of lust. The heart is the wellspring of life, and its condition affects every aspect of our being. When we allow impure thoughts and desires to take root, they can lead us away from God's path. Guarding our hearts requires vigilance and intentionality, ensuring that our thoughts and actions reflect God's love and purity. [16:58]
"Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life." (Proverbs 4:23, ESV)
Reflection: What specific steps can you take today to guard your heart against impure thoughts and desires? How can you invite God into this process?
Day 3: Media Consumption: A Mirror to Our Values
The media we consume can significantly influence our perceptions of love and relationships. We must critically assess whether the content we engage with helps or hinders our spiritual growth and our ability to love others selflessly. In a world saturated with media, it's easy to absorb messages that distort our understanding of love and relationships. By evaluating the media we consume, we can ensure that it aligns with our values and supports our spiritual journey. This involves being discerning about the content we engage with and choosing media that uplifts and inspires us to love others as God intended. [19:43]
"I will not set before my eyes anything that is worthless. I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not cling to me." (Psalm 101:3, ESV)
Reflection: Reflect on your recent media consumption. Is there a specific type of content that you need to limit or eliminate to better align with your values and spiritual growth?
Day 4: Encouragement and Accountability: Strength in Community
We are not alone in our struggles with attraction and lust. Encouraging one another and fostering open, honest conversations can provide the support and accountability needed to navigate these challenges. Together, we can help each other guard our hearts and pursue genuine love. Community plays a vital role in our spiritual journey, offering support and accountability as we strive to live according to God's will. By sharing our struggles and victories with others, we can find strength and encouragement to overcome the challenges we face. Open and honest conversations about attraction and lust can help us grow and support one another in our pursuit of genuine love. [20:49]
"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing." (1 Thessalonians 5:11, ESV)
Reflection: Who in your life can you reach out to for support and accountability in your journey towards genuine love? How can you be an encouragement to them today?
Day 5: The Dangers of Unchecked Lust: A Call to Action
Unchecked lust can lead to addiction and destruction, much like a spark that ignites a forest fire. Jesus warns us of these dangers, urging us to take drastic measures to prevent lust from taking root in our lives. By choosing love over lust, we can avoid the brokenness that comes from selfish desires. Lust, when left unchecked, can consume our thoughts and actions, leading us away from God's path. Jesus' teachings remind us of the seriousness of lust and the importance of taking proactive steps to prevent it from taking hold in our lives. By choosing love and selflessness, we can experience the fullness of life that God intends for us. [22:20]
"But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death." (James 1:14-15, ESV)
Reflection: Identify an area in your life where unchecked desires may be leading you astray. What practical steps can you take today to choose love and selflessness over lust?
Sermon Summary
In today's discussion, we delved into the complex themes of love and lust, particularly in the context of relationships and attraction. We began by reflecting on the famous love story of Romeo and Juliet, questioning whether their intense feelings were truly love or merely lust. This led us to explore the nature of strong attractions and how they can either be controlled or end up controlling us. We turned to Matthew 5, where Jesus speaks about adultery and lust, emphasizing that even looking at someone with lustful intent is akin to committing adultery in one's heart. This teaching challenges us to examine not just our actions but the intentions of our hearts.
Jesus uses hyperbolic language, suggesting that if our eye or hand causes us to sin, it would be better to remove them than to let sin lead us astray. This exaggeration underscores the seriousness of unchecked lust and its potential to wreak havoc in our lives. We discussed how attraction is natural and God-given, but when left unchecked, it can lead to destructive behaviors and consequences. The difference between love and lust was highlighted: love builds up and is selfless, while lust objectifies and is selfish.
We also considered practical steps to guard our hearts and minds. Memorizing Proverbs 4:23, which advises us to guard our hearts as they determine the course of our lives, is a crucial step. Evaluating the media we consume and its impact on our perceptions of love and relationships is another important practice. Encouraging one another and fostering open, honest conversations about these struggles can help us navigate the challenges of living in a world saturated with visual and emotional temptations.
Ultimately, the goal is to experience love as God intended—selfless and life-giving—while being vigilant against the dangers of lust that can lead to brokenness and pain. As we move into our small groups, let's engage in deep, meaningful conversations about how we can support each other in this journey.
Key Takeaways
1. given response, but it requires careful management. Unchecked attraction can lead to lust, which can have destructive consequences in our lives. We must learn to differentiate between love, which is selfless and builds up, and lust, which is selfish and objectifies others. [10:53] 2. Guarding the Heart: Proverbs 4:23 teaches us to guard our hearts, as they determine the course of our lives. This involves being mindful of our intentions and ensuring that our attractions do not lead us into sin. By guarding our hearts, we can align our desires with God's will and avoid the pitfalls of lust.
3. Evaluating Media Consumption: The media we consume can significantly influence our perceptions of love and relationships. We must critically assess whether the content we engage with helps or hinders our spiritual growth and our ability to love others selflessly.
4. Encouragement and Accountability: We are not alone in our struggles with attraction and lust. Encouraging one another and fostering open, honest conversations can provide the support and accountability needed to navigate these challenges. Together, we can help each other guard our hearts and pursue genuine love.
5. The Dangers of Unchecked Lust: Unchecked lust can lead to addiction and destruction, much like a spark that ignites a forest fire. Jesus warns us of these dangers, urging us to take drastic measures to prevent lust from taking root in our lives. By choosing love over lust, we can avoid the brokenness that comes from selfish desires.
"Lord, as we talk about love on Valentine's Day and we talk about lust, a scary word, God, let's pray that your word, as we open up the Bible, would come alive to us tonight and we would see some things that could quite literally transform our lives. That we'd walk away to our small group thinking about love and relationships and attraction in a whole nother way and seeing how we can actually control some of that for your glory. And so Lord, I pray tonight would be powerful, important, that it would be life-changing. As in Jesus' name we pray, amen." [00:00:10](30 seconds)
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"But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart. Woo, right? If you just look at a woman lustfully, Jesus says, because in your heart, your intention, you're becoming an adulterer. And everybody in the room went, uh-oh. And look what he says next." [00:07:12](25 seconds)
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"And if your hand, even your stronger hand, causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away, it's better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. That escalated quickly, right? Like, don't commit adultery, check. But if you look at a woman lustfully, and ladies, he says, if anyone, he's talking to girls as well as guys, if you look at someone lustfully, you're in the same place the other person has." [00:07:54](26 seconds)
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"Jesus is using hyperbole. He's using exaggeration to make a point. How do we know that? Because every one of his disciples would have had to gouge out both eyes and cut off both hands because they were sinful people. They were guys. They'd looked lustfully at people sometime before. But what Jesus is saying, he's making this, like, hyperbolic, this, like, exaggerated statement." [00:08:38](21 seconds)
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"Love builds up another person. Lust sees them as an object. Love is selfless. Lust is selfish. So let me, again, we're doing real talk. So you're in a relationship with a girl or vice versa. Talk to the guys for a second. You're in a relationship with a girl. Maybe you don't know the Bible teaches that sex is meant to be for marriage." [00:13:17](28 seconds)
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"The shows you watch, the movies you watch, the songs you listen to, the social media accounts you follow. Listen, experts have been debating for decades, like how much impact what you see affects how you respond to the opposite sex. They debated it. Nobody can give you a clear thing, but here's what you just need to ask. Just ask this. Is what I'm watching, what I'm listening to, does it help or does it hurt?" [00:18:01](26 seconds)
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