The Gift of Marriage Message

Devotional

Day 1: Esteeming Marriage as a Gift from God

Marriage is not merely a human institution for social order, but a divine gift established by God in the Garden of Eden before sin entered the world. It was created for humanity's blessing and flourishing. As recipients of God's love, we are called to hold this gift in high regard, recognizing its sacred origin and purpose. This esteem is not derived from cultural trends but is rooted in the truth of God's Word. We honor Him by valuing what He has designed and declared to be good. [03:28]

“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22 ESV)

Reflection: In what specific ways does your current view of marriage align with seeing it as a gift from God, and in what ways might it be influenced more by the surrounding culture?

Day 2: Holding Marriage in Honor Among All

Honoring marriage is a call for every believer, regardless of their marital status. This involves speaking well of the institution itself and of the married couples in our lives. It means refusing to gossip about marital struggles and instead encouraging faithfulness and growth within those relationships. For those who are single, it means living a life of holiness in preparation for a future marriage, should God grant it. For children, it means praying for the married adults they know. Everyone can participate in holding high God's design for marriage. [09:05]

“Let marriage be held in honor among all…” (Hebrews 13:4a ESV)

Reflection: Whether you are single, married, or a child, what is one practical action you can take this week to actively honor a married couple in your life or the institution of marriage itself?

Day 3: Fleeing from Sexual Immorality

God, the creator of marriage, has also set loving boundaries around this gift for our protection and good. The call is not to see how close we can get to the line of sexual sin, but to actively flee from it. This includes not only physical actions like adultery but also words, thoughts, and the use of technology for impure purposes. The world says sexuality is for personal pleasure, but Scripture teaches that our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, bought with a price, and are to be used to glorify God in all purity. [13:27]

“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20 ESV)

Reflection: Considering the various ways temptation can come through technology and media, what is one step you can take to create a healthier boundary to help you flee from sexual immorality?

Day 4: Finding Forgiveness at the Foot of the Cross

Honest reflection on God's standard for marriage and sexuality reveals that we have all fallen short in our thoughts, words, and actions. We cannot erase the guilt or shame that comes from this sin. But we have a Savior who paid the price for all our sin, including sexual immorality, on the cross. There is full and free forgiveness available through Jesus Christ. We are called to confess our sins and believe the promise that He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness, releasing us from the burden of guilt. [16:29]

“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (1 John 1:9 ESV)

Reflection: Is there a specific failure or area of shame related to God's design for marriage and sexuality that you need to bring to Jesus in confession, trusting in His promise of complete forgiveness?

Day 5: Cultivating Earnest Faithfulness in Marriage

A faithful marriage is built on the daily commitment to honor, cherish, and serve one another long after the wedding day. It is modeled on Christ's self-sacrificial love for His church, with husbands called to lead in love and service and wives responding in support. Within this covenant, the marriage bed is a pure and undefiled gift from God, a place of mutual giving and intimacy. This earnest faithfulness thrives when both spouses seek to give rather than to get, creating a relationship that reflects God's faithful love to a watching world. [21:31]

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” (Ephesians 5:25 ESV)

Reflection: For those who are married, what is one way you can intentionally "give" to your spouse this week, rather than focusing on what you hope to "get" from the relationship?

Sermon Summary

Scripture opens the message with a greeting of grace, mercy, and peace and then frames marriage as a divine gift rooted in Eden. Marriage predates sin and carries a purpose beyond social utility: it images the faithful covenant love between Christ and his bride, the church. The writer of Hebrews urges believers to hold marriage in honor, reminding readers that the new covenant and Christ’s redeeming work create the ground for faithful relationships and communal worship. Human history shows repeated failures to honor marriage—flood, Babel, and pervasive sexual immorality—but those failures do not erase God’s design or the call to esteem marriage highly.

The text calls followers to a threefold response. First, esteem marriage as honorable and encourage covenant faithfulness within families and communities. Second, flee sexual immorality decisively; scripture sets clear boundaries and warns of divine judgment for sexual unfaithfulness while also naming the temptations of lust, technology, and cultural laxity. Third, keep the marriage bed pure: sex within marriage functions as a sanctified gift that expresses mutual giving, not self-seeking. The New Testament upholds distinct roles and mutual obligations—husbands called to love sacrificially and spouses to serve and respect one another—so that sexual intimacy becomes an act of mutual stewardship and spiritual holiness.

The address also confronts consequences honestly: sexual sin brings earthly harms—broken relationships, disease, unintended pregnancies—and ultimate judgment unless sin meets confession. Forgiveness and cleansing come through Christ’s atoning work; confession opens the way to restoration and renewed faithfulness. Practical counsel follows: single people live chastely and prepare for marriage, married couples avoid gossip and work to grow their unions, and communities should pray for and support faithful marriages. The closing summons keeps the focus eschatological: until the bridegroom returns, believers must honor marriage for Christ’s sake and let faithful marriages serve as visible testimony to God’s redeeming love.

Key Takeaways

1. Esteem marriage as God's gift Believers must view marriage not as a social convenience but as a God-given covenant that reflects Christ’s relationship with his people. Esteeming marriage means promoting fidelity, speaking well of spouses, and investing in marriages across generations so homes become arenas of grace and witness. This posture reshapes congregational life and counters cultural contempt or casual dismissal of covenant bonds. [05:09]
2. Flee sexual temptation decisively Scripture calls for avoidance, not flirtation, with sexual sin because temptation gains power through proximity and rationalization. Practical holiness requires removing opportunities for compromise—employing boundaries, honest accountability, and repentance when failure occurs. Recognizing the body as temple reframes sexual choices as spiritual commitments, not mere private preferences. [13:49]
3. Marriage bed: pure and sacred Sex in marriage stands as a sanctified gift, intended for mutual giving and spiritual intimacy, not personal gratification alone. The holiness of the marriage bed rebuts ascetic views that condemn sexual joy and also rejects cultural redefinitions that dissolve covenantal fidelity. Protecting that purity involves mutual respect, sacrificial love, and treating conjugal relations as worshipful stewardship. [17:28]
4. Grace covers confessed sexual sin Confession opens the door to divine cleansing; Christ’s atonement addresses sexual sin as truly as any other transgression. Repentance removes the shackles of guilt and enables renewed obedience and restored relationships. Communities should point sinners to forgiveness while also upholding the moral boundaries God established. [16:12]

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[00:00] - Welcome
[01:08] - Opening Scripture Greeting
[01:32] - Cultural Images of Marriage
[02:59] - Marriage: Divine Origin
[03:48] - Hebrews' Threefold Call
[05:09] - Hold Marriage in Honor
[05:31] - Human Failure and Sin
[07:13] - Culture vs. Scripture on Marriage
[08:28] - Marriage as a Blessing
[10:46] - Warning: Judgment for Immorality
[13:49] - Flee Sexual Temptation
[16:12] - Confession and Forgiveness
[17:28] - The Marriage Bed Undefiled
[19:03] - Husbands' Call to Love
[21:11] - Mutual Giving in Marriage
[24:54] - Honor Marriage Until Christ Returns

Bible Study Guide

Bible reading
Hebrews 13:4 (ESV)
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

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Observation questions

According to Hebrews 13:4, what three specific instructions are given regarding marriage and sexuality?
What examples from human history (like the flood or Babel) show humanity’s failure to honor marriage? [05:31]
How does the New Testament describe the relationship between Christ and the church in the context of marriage? [19:03]
What practical guidance does 1 Corinthians 7:3–5 give to married couples regarding physical intimacy?

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Interpretation questions

Why does God call believers to “flee” sexual immorality rather than simply resist it? What does this imply about the nature of temptation? [13:49]
How does the concept of the “marriage bed” being “undefiled” challenge both ascetic and permissive cultural views of sex? [17:28]
In what ways does marriage serve as a visible testimony to Christ’s relationship with the church? [24:39]
Why might the warning of divine judgment for sexual immorality be especially urgent in a culture that often ignores eternal consequences? [15:20]

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Application questions

What practical steps can someone take this week to “flee” from a specific sexual temptation they’ve been facing? [13:49]
How can married couples intentionally cultivate purity and mutual giving in their physical relationship? [21:11]
In what ways can single people live chastely and prepare for marriage while honoring God’s design for sexuality? [09:05]
How can we encourage and support married couples in our community to uphold covenant faithfulness? [08:52]
If someone is carrying guilt from past sexual sin, how might they embrace the forgiveness and cleansing offered through Christ? [16:12]
What does it look like to “hold marriage in honor” in everyday conversations, especially when others speak lightly of divorce or infidelity? [05:09]
How can our marriages (or our support of others’ marriages) point others to the gospel before Christ returns? [24:54]

Sermon Clips

The apostle Paul in his first letter to the Corinthians wrote in chapter six, flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy spirit within you whom you have from God? You are not your own. We were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. [00:13:45] (30 seconds) #TempleOfTheSpirit

The author of Hebrews gives insight in how to do that in the middle of our sermon text. He says, let the marriage bed be undefiled. Let the marriage bed be pure. He's not talking about changing the sheets. He's talking about our attitude and our actions when it comes to sex. What the writer says here is very important. Sex is a blessing from God in marriage. There in marriage, it is undefiled. It is pure before God. [00:17:18] (34 seconds) #MarriageIsSacred

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The Gift of Marriage Message

Devotional

Day 1: Esteeming Marriage as a Gift from God

Day 2: Holding Marriage in Honor Among All

Day 3: Fleeing from Sexual Immorality

Day 4: Finding Forgiveness at the Foot of the Cross

Day 5: Cultivating Earnest Faithfulness in Marriage

Sermon Summary

Key Takeaways

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The Gift of Marriage Message

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