Marriage: A Divine Covenant for Kingdom Building
Summary
Today, I began by discussing the foundational role of marriage as established by God, emphasizing its significance as the first human institution designed to further God's kingdom on earth. I highlighted how marriage serves as a means of grace, drawing individuals and communities closer to God. This was illustrated through the biblical account of Adam and Eve, where God created marriage as a partnership for fulfilling His command to be fruitful and multiply.
I then explored the six biblical tenets of marriage, likening them to a thread that runs through a feed bag, holding everything together securely. Each tenet, when applied, strengthens and sustains a marriage, preventing it from unraveling under the pressures of the world.
A significant portion of the discussion focused on the permanence of marriage. I shared personal reflections on the impact of my parents' divorce, which challenged my understanding of biblical truths but ultimately led me to a deeper personal faith and understanding of God's grace. This grace, I explained, is not only for salvation but also for sustaining us through life's challenges, including marital difficulties.
I addressed the cultural challenges to biblical truths about marriage, noting how societal norms often contradict God's design. This tension can cause confusion and conflict in personal beliefs and relationships. However, I reassured that grace is available to help us navigate these conflicts and align our lives with biblical truths.
The concept of marriage as a covenant, not a contract, was a critical point. I emphasized that marriage is a lifelong commitment with responsibilities that extend beyond personal benefits. This covenant mirrors God's unwavering commitment to us, which is not based on conditions but on steadfast love.
Throughout the sermon, I encouraged both married and single members of the congregation to view marriage through the lens of scripture and to uphold its sanctity and purpose. I urged those struggling in their marriages to seek God's wisdom and grace for restoration and strength.
In conclusion, I called on the congregation to honor and prioritize their marriages, to see them as God does—a vital tool for kingdom building and a reflection of His love for the church.
### Key Takeaways:
1. Marriage as God's Foundational Institution:
Marriage was established by God as the first human institution to further His kingdom on earth. It is designed to be a means of grace, drawing us closer to God and strengthening our communal bonds through family. This foundational role underscores the sacredness of marriage and its central place in God's plan for humanity. [08:03]
2. The Permanence of Marriage:
The permanence of marriage is a biblical tenet that reflects God's unchanging nature. Despite the challenges and cultural shifts that may tempt us to view marriage as temporary, the scriptural mandate is clear. Marriage is meant to last, serving as a testament to God's steadfast love and faithfulness. This permanence offers a secure foundation for families and society at large. [17:19]
3. Grace in the Midst of Marital Challenges:
Grace is not only essential for salvation but also for sustaining us through the challenges of marriage. It empowers us to overcome personal and societal conflicts that may arise from living out biblical truths in a fallen world. This grace enables us to extend forgiveness, seek reconciliation, and uphold the sanctity of marriage even when it is countercultural. [13:22]
4. Marriage as a Covenant:
Understanding marriage as a covenant highlights the depth of commitment required. Unlike a contract, which is often based on mutual benefit and can be dissolved, a covenant is a lifelong commitment that mirrors God's unconditional love for us. This perspective encourages us to approach marriage with a sense of duty, sacrifice, and permanence. [49:57]
5. The Role of Authentic Intimacy:
True intimacy in marriage goes beyond physical connection; it involves a deep, spiritual, and emotional bond that reflects our relationship with God. By pursuing genuine intimacy, we fulfill the divine purpose of marriage to reflect God's character and love to the world. This pursuit strengthens the marital bond and enriches our spiritual lives. [48:03]
### Youtube Chapters:
- [0:00] - Welcome
- [01:02] - Introduction to Marriage and Its Significance
- [04:04] - The Six Biblical Tenets of Marriage
- [08:03] - Marriage as a Means of Grace
- [13:22] - Understanding Grace in Marriage
- [17:19] - The Permanence of Marriage
- [48:03] - Exploring Authentic Intimacy
- [49:57] - Marriage as a Covenant
Study Guide
### Bible Study Discussion Guide
#### Bible Reading
1. Genesis 2:20-24: "So Adam gave names to all the cattle, to the birds in the sky and to all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, 'This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.' That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."
2. Matthew 19:4-6: "Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
3. Malachi 2:14-16: "You ask, ‘Why?’ It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. 'The man who hates and divorces his wife,' says the Lord, the God of Israel, 'does violence to the one he should protect,' says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful."
#### Observation Questions
1. According to Genesis 2:20-24, what was the process God used to create a suitable helper for Adam?
2. In Matthew 19:4-6, what does Jesus say about the union of a man and a woman in marriage?
3. What reasons does Malachi 2:14-16 give for why God values the marriage covenant so highly?
4. How does the sermon describe the role of grace in sustaining marriages through challenges? ([13:22])
#### Interpretation Questions
1. How does the creation of Eve from Adam's rib in Genesis 2:20-24 symbolize the partnership and unity intended in marriage?
2. What implications does Jesus' statement in Matthew 19:4-6 have for the permanence of marriage in a Christian context?
3. How does the concept of marriage as a covenant, as described in Malachi 2:14-16, differ from a modern contractual view of marriage? ([49:57])
4. Reflecting on the pastor's personal story about his parents' divorce, how can grace help individuals reconcile their personal experiences with biblical truths about marriage? ([14:15])
#### Application Questions
1. Considering the biblical view of marriage as a means of grace, how can you actively seek to draw closer to God through your marriage or relationships? ([08:03])
2. In what ways can you reinforce the permanence of your marriage, especially when facing cultural pressures that suggest otherwise? ([17:19])
3. How can you apply the concept of marriage as a covenant in your daily interactions with your spouse, ensuring that your commitment mirrors God's unconditional love? ([49:57])
4. What steps can you take to cultivate authentic intimacy in your marriage, moving beyond physical attraction to a deeper emotional and spiritual connection? ([48:03])
5. Reflect on a recent conflict or challenge in your marriage. How can you apply the principle of grace to seek reconciliation and strengthen your relationship? ([13:22])
6. If you are single, how can you prepare yourself to build a marriage based on biblical tenets, ensuring that it serves as a means of grace and a reflection of God's love? ([56:38])
7. How can you support and encourage other couples in your community to view and uphold marriage as a sacred institution designed by God? ([09:50])
Devotional
Day 1: Marriage as Divine Foundation
Marriage, as established by God, is not merely a social contract but a divine institution meant to reflect His kingdom on earth. It is the first and foundational human institution designed to draw individuals and communities closer to God, enhancing our spiritual bonds through the sanctity of family. This sacred union is intended to be a means of grace, where through mutual support and love, spouses grow closer to God and each other, fostering a community that lives out the values of the kingdom of God. This foundational role of marriage underscores its importance and the high regard in which it should be held within the Christian community. [08:03]
Genesis 2:24-25 ESV
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed."
Reflection: How does your current understanding and practice of marriage reflect its role as a foundational institution designed by God? What steps can you take to align more closely with this divine purpose?
Day 2: The Permanence of Marriage
The permanence of marriage is a reflection of God's unchanging nature and His eternal commitment to us. In a world where relationships are often seen as temporary and conditional, the biblical view of marriage as a lifelong covenant stands as a testament to God's steadfast love and faithfulness. This understanding provides a secure foundation not only for individual families but also for society at large, as it fosters stability and security. Embracing this permanence can challenge us, especially in a culture that often promotes a contrary view, but it also offers profound opportunities for spiritual growth and witness. [17:19]
Matthew 19:6 ESV
"So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate."
Reflection: In what ways can you more fully embrace and demonstrate the permanence of marriage in your own life, even when faced with challenges or cultural opposition?
Day 3: Grace in Marital Challenges
Grace is essential not only for salvation but also for sustaining us through the challenges of marriage. This divine grace empowers us to overcome personal and societal conflicts, enabling us to extend forgiveness, seek reconciliation, and uphold the sanctity of marriage, even when it is countercultural. By relying on God's grace, we can navigate the complexities of married life, which often includes misunderstandings, disagreements, and external pressures. This grace is a tool for restoration and strength, helping us to reflect God's love and forgiveness in our relationships. [13:22]
Colossians 3:12-13 ESV
"Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive."
Reflection: Reflect on a recent challenge in your marriage or a close relationship. How can you apply God’s grace to this situation to foster healing and reconciliation?
Day 4: Marriage as a Covenant
Understanding marriage as a covenant rather than a contract highlights the depth of commitment required in this divine institution. Unlike a contract, which is often based on mutual benefit and can be dissolved, a covenant represents a lifelong promise and mirrors God's unconditional love for us. This perspective encourages us to approach marriage with a sense of duty, sacrifice, and permanence, fostering a relationship that is resilient and grounded in steadfast love. This covenantal view not only enriches our marriages but also serves as a profound witness to the world of God’s unwavering commitment to us. [49:57]
Malachi 2:14-15 ESV
"But you say, 'Why does he not?' Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant."
Reflection: How does viewing your marriage as a covenant change your approach to conflicts and challenges within the relationship?
Day 5: The Role of Authentic Intimacy
True intimacy in marriage transcends physical connection, encompassing deep spiritual and emotional bonds that reflect our relationship with God. This pursuit of genuine intimacy is crucial for fulfilling the divine purpose of marriage, which is to mirror God's character and love to the world. By fostering authentic intimacy, we strengthen our marital bond and enrich our spiritual lives, creating a union that not only survives but thrives. This deep connection is essential for a healthy marriage and serves as a testament to the transformative power of God’s love. [48:03]
Ephesians 5:31-32 ESV
"Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church."
Reflection: What are practical ways you can deepen the spiritual and emotional intimacy in your marriage to better reflect God’s love and character?
Quotes
### Quotes for Outreach
1. "There is no one way to have a successful marriage. There's no special sauce. There's nothing about marriage that is unique across the board. And so, in that theme, I want to share with you this morning that it is my heart conviction, supported by the Bible, that tells me... Tells me that there actually is a special sauce to having a successful marriage." [02:05]
2. "Grace says, I understand the tensions that you face and that you're dealing with in any of these different arenas when it comes to what God's word says, when it comes to what the Bible says about how we're to live. And so, I understand that you need grace. And grace is so much bigger than just salvation." [13:22]
3. "Marriage is a relationship of self-giving of one human being to another. When we empty ourselves of our self-centered desires, when we surrender our desire to get out of the way, we are filled with grace and each act of kindness improves our relationship, each act of self-giving love expands our life." [49:57]
### Quotes for Members
1. "That marriage was the first human institution established by God as a means of grace to further his kingdom in the earth. How many of y'all know that? So, let's take a look. Open your Bibles if you've got them with you to Genesis chapter 2." [06:19]
2. "God intended for marriage to be permanent. And so, before I dive into this point, I just want to say a couple things here because one of the things I've learned over the years is that the biblical tenets, the tenets of faith, doctrine, a lot of times are a hard pill to swallow." [10:47]
3. "Marriage is supposed to be the most intimate relationship on earth. Now I want to share with you that unfortunately in the world that we live today, and I'll use that phrase culturally informed again, of what we see and how the world operates and how the world functions." [35:12]
4. "Covenant is the language that God has given us to talk about everything that we do. Covenant is expressed in membership in the local ecclesia in the New Testament church. Did you know that? Did you know that covenant whenever I become a member of this church says that I am with you and I'm invested in you and you shall have from me what God's put inside of me." [51:40]
5. "The covenant of marriage is the single most important human bond that holds all of God's work on the planet together. It's no small wonder that the Lord is passionate about the sanctity of marriage and the stability of the home. To God, it matters. To us, it should matter." [53:32]
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