Why Your Love Needs Limits

So possibly the greatest danger of having any or at least not enough or poorly set boundaries is that we have no measurement of whether or not the things that we're doing or not doing matter or don't matter in our lives. Does that make sense? That how could we possibly know whether things are going the way that they're supposed to unless we've established metrics by which to say, oh, this is the way it's supposed to be going or this is definitely not the way it's supposed to be going. Wait a second. This feels off, and I know it feels off because I put a line in the sand that says on this side, that's good, and on this side, that's dangerous, and it becomes a threat to my peace. [00:29:14] (51 seconds)  #LinesInTheSand

God rested on the seventh day without the need to do so, but rather as a demonstration of the importance to do so because God took that opportunity to reflect on his creation. You can't reflect when you're in the midst of doing everything. Jesus brought this back up in Mark two twenty seven when he was addressing pharisees who were abusing the Sabbath and making it all about law, making it about rigid rules. And he said this, God wanted to help people, so that's why he made a day for them when they should rest. God set aside a day for people. He did not make people so that they could keep the laws about the day of rest. In other words, God didn't mean for the Sabbath to be another thing that exhausted you and depleted you. [00:27:54] (47 seconds)  #SabbathIsRest

Jesus understood that you can't maintain this kind. You can't keep helping people, and it exhausts you physically, which affects you spiritually and emotionally as well. And, ultimately, that's gonna affect you relationally and financially in every other word way. Jesus said, we've gotta pull back. While they were not, listen, while they were not with people, they could not help people, but they could not continue to help people unless they helped themselves by refreshing and renewing and recharging. You have to do that for yourself. Spiritual and emotional recovery is so important that God made it one of the 10 must do things in your life. Right? You ever get online? It's like, 10 things to do at Disneyland. You're like, oh, okay. And you open it up, and it's like, pay your park admission. Get a drink. You're like, I know all this already. You really want something to like, wow. I didn't know this. [00:25:39] (64 seconds)  #RechargeToServe

So here's a question. What's more important? A beating heart or a functioning brain? Yeah. It's a little bit of a trick question. You you can't have one without the other. If I were to take your beating heart, it would starve your brain of oxygen, and you'd be dead pretty quickly. Right? But if you didn't have a functioning brain, you might have a living body because the heart beats on its own electrical system, essentially. It doesn't have to have the brain to function. Your heart can continue to beat without your brain, but you would be a vegetative physical being that has no purpose, no movement. You would they call vegetative because though it's living, it it it doesn't have autonomy. It can't do anything in and of itself. So that would not be a life either. [00:13:20] (59 seconds)  #HeartAndMind

and what you do is important. And it doesn't have to be a judge over many. It doesn't have to take place on a stage. You don't have to have a title. You don't have to have a position. You don't have to get paid for it for what you do to be important. But I want you to hear this. Everything you do, God meant for it to be a blessing not only to you, but to others as well. And that can't happen if you don't have godly boundaries in your life to protect you and others from things going the way they're not supposed to go. [00:12:25] (31 seconds)  #YourWorkMatters

Now I don't know if, you were able to kinda do it mentally as you were hearing that, but there's three parts to that story. There's a beginning, the middle, and the end, and here's the beginning. There was a big problem. Moses had a job to do, but he wasn't doing it well. It was exhausting him, and it was exhausting people. It was totally inefficient. Moses had no boundaries in his life, and because of that, he had no peace in his life. Then in the middle, there was some really good godly advice from his father-in-law to establish boundaries that would make what he did, the important things he did, more efficient, more effective, and protect him and others from that frustration. [00:10:55] (49 seconds)  #BoundariesMakeWorkSustainable

These well intentioned men only taught half of the equation, though. Jesus, having taken the form of man, experienced all the same things that drain us and that exhaust us and that frustrate us and that potentially steal our peace. And because of that, Jesus set boundaries that protected his ability to give to others without depleting himself. [00:23:50] (29 seconds)  #JesusModeledBoundaries

Your life is miserable because you're special. I'm not I'm not even being sarcastic or or or or or being facetious. You you have special circumstances. You have certain situations, certain circumstances, certain challenges, certain demands on your life that require you to be present. I get it. There are that sometimes there's no one else that can do maybe what you do, or at least that's kind of what we start feeling like. Right? There's no one else who can take on our responsibilities. And maybe by setting boundaries, it means that we have to forego some of those responsibilities, and and and it feels like that would be negligent and irresponsible and unloving. [00:06:37] (51 seconds)  #BoundariesOverGuilt