Love in Action: Supporting Those Who Grieve
Summary
In my sermon today, I drew inspiration from the story in the book of Mark about a group of friends who, determined to help their paralyzed companion, tore off a roof to lower him to Jesus for healing. This act of love and determination set the stage for our discussion on how to love people well, especially those who are grieving the loss of a loved one.
I began by reflecting on Jesus' own experiences with loss, highlighting His reactions to the deaths of John the Baptist and Lazarus. Despite His divine foreknowledge and power to prevent or reverse death, Jesus mourned. He retreated to be alone with God after John's beheading, and He wept at Lazarus' tomb before resurrecting him. These responses underscore that grief is a natural and profound sorrow, not intended by God, who originally created us for eternal life without death or pain.
I then addressed the paralysis that can come from the fear of saying or doing the wrong thing when someone is grieving. I confessed my own failures in this area, emphasizing that our call is to act—to tear off the roof, so to speak, and help those in pain find healing in Jesus.
In the immediate aftermath of a loss, the bereaved may feel like their world has been destroyed, likening it to the devastation after a storm. I shared stories of how simple acts of service, such as sweeping a driveway or taking children shopping for funeral attire, can be profoundly helpful. The key is to show up and serve without expecting the grieving person to guide us on how to help.
I cautioned against saying things that are either biblically inaccurate or unhelpfully true. For example, telling someone their loved one has become an angel, or insisting they should feel joy as a fruit of the Spirit, can be hurtful rather than comforting. Instead, we should offer true biblical encouragement, acknowledging the reality of heaven and the ultimate end of pain for believers.
I also discussed the importance of acknowledging the loss, following the lead of the grieving person, and being present in their sorrow. It's okay to share in their humor or tears, and it's crucial to remember the person who has passed away. Even if the deceased was not a follower of Jesus, we can still offer comfort without compromising truth, leaning on God as our source of comfort.
Finally, I encouraged the church to be proactive in serving those who grieve, to share each other's burdens as commanded in Galatians 6, and to be the hands and feet of Jesus. We must be willing to do whatever it takes, even when it's inconvenient or uncomfortable.
Key Takeaways:
1. Grief is a profound sorrow that Jesus Himself experienced, despite His power over death. His mourning shows us that it's natural to feel deep pain when we lose someone, and it's a part of the human experience that God understands intimately. ([19:47])
2. Our fear of saying or doing the wrong thing can paralyze us, but we must overcome this to provide the love and support the grieving person needs. It's better to show up and be present than to say nothing at all, as silence can be interpreted as indifference during a time of profound loss. ([32:13])
3. Practical acts of service can be a lifeline in the chaos of grief. Taking initiative to care for everyday needs without being asked can lift an immense burden from the shoulders of those who are mourning. ([42:08])
4. Speaking truth is essential, but it must be done with sensitivity. Sharing biblical truths about heaven and the end of pain can offer real hope, while avoiding platitudes or inaccuracies that can cause further hurt. ([29:51])
5. The church must embody the love of Christ by being willing to 'tear off the roof' for those in grief. This means doing whatever it takes to help, sharing burdens, and being a tangible source of God's comfort and strength. ([43:43])
Study Guide
### Bible Study Discussion Guide
#### Bible Reading
1. Mark 2:1-12 - The story of friends lowering the paralyzed man through the roof to reach Jesus.
2. John 11:34-35 - Jesus weeping at the tomb of Lazarus.
3. Galatians 6:2 - "Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."
#### Observation Questions
1. What actions did the friends of the paralyzed man take to ensure he reached Jesus? (Mark 2:1-12)
2. How did Jesus react to the death of Lazarus, and what does this reveal about His humanity? (John 11:34-35)
3. According to Galatians 6:2, what are believers encouraged to do for one another?
4. In the sermon, what were some practical examples given of how to serve those who are grieving? [39:46]
#### Interpretation Questions
1. Why is it significant that Jesus wept even though He knew He would raise Lazarus from the dead? (John 11:34-35)
2. How can the story of the friends tearing off the roof inspire us to help those in need, especially those who are grieving? (Mark 2:1-12)
3. What does it mean to "carry each other’s burdens" in the context of supporting someone who is grieving? (Galatians 6:2)
4. The sermon mentioned the fear of saying the wrong thing to someone who is grieving. How can this fear be overcome to provide meaningful support? [32:13]
#### Application Questions
1. Reflect on a time when you experienced grief. What actions or words from others were most comforting to you? How can you replicate those actions for someone else? [33:02]
2. The sermon emphasized the importance of showing up and serving without being asked. What is one specific way you can serve someone who is grieving this week? [39:46]
3. How can you ensure that your words of comfort are biblically accurate and sensitive? What are some phrases you should avoid saying to someone who is grieving? [29:24]
4. Think of someone in your life who is currently grieving. How can you follow their lead in conversations and be present in their sorrow? [33:50]
5. The sermon mentioned practical acts of service like mowing the lawn or providing a meal. What is one practical act of service you can commit to doing for someone in your community who is grieving? [42:08]
6. How can you balance offering biblical encouragement with being sensitive to the grieving person's current emotional state? [31:16]
7. Reflect on the idea of "tearing off the roof" to help someone in need. What is one "roof" you can tear off in your life to better support those who are hurting? [43:43]
Devotional
Day 1: Embracing Grief as a Natural Sorrow
Grief is not a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith; it is a profound sorrow that even Jesus experienced. When faced with the loss of a loved one, it is natural to feel a deep sense of pain and longing. This sorrow is a testament to the love shared and the human connection that was treasured. Jesus Himself mourned the loss of John the Baptist and Lazarus, showing that even with power over death, He felt the weight of grief. This shared experience with the divine provides comfort, knowing that grief is understood by God on a personal level. It is a part of the human experience that God does not dismiss but rather sits with us in, offering His presence as a source of comfort. [19:47]
"And entering the tomb, they saw a young man sitting on the right side, dressed in a white robe, and they were alarmed. And he said to them, 'Do not be alarmed. You seek Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified. He has risen; he is not here. See the place where they laid him.'" - Mark 16:5-6
Reflection: How can acknowledging your own grief or sorrow as a natural part of life help you to connect with others who are mourning?
Day 2: Overcoming the Paralysis of Fear
The fear of saying or doing the wrong thing can often leave us paralyzed, unsure of how to approach someone who is grieving. However, it is crucial to overcome this fear and to act with love and support. Just as the friends of the paralyzed man in Mark's gospel went to great lengths to bring him to Jesus, we too must be willing to step out of our comfort zones to be present for those in need. Silence can be mistaken for indifference, so it is better to show up and be present, even if we are unsure of the perfect words to say. Our presence alone can be a powerful testament to our care and concern. [32:13]
"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." - Galatians 6:2
Reflection: What is one way you can show up for someone who is grieving this week, even if it feels uncomfortable or inconvenient?
Day 3: The Lifeline of Practical Service
In the chaos that follows a loss, practical acts of service can be a lifeline to those who are grieving. Just as Jesus served those around Him, we are called to take initiative and care for the everyday needs of the bereaved without waiting to be asked. Whether it is sweeping a driveway or helping with daily chores, these acts of kindness can lift an immense burden and demonstrate love in action. By serving in practical ways, we embody the hands and feet of Jesus, bringing comfort and peace to those in the midst of turmoil. [42:08]
"Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world." - James 1:27
Reflection: What is one practical act of service you can offer to someone who is experiencing grief, and how can you make it happen this week?
Day 4: Speaking Sensitive Truths
When comforting someone who is grieving, it is essential to speak truths that are both sensitive and biblically sound. Platitudes or theological inaccuracies can cause further pain rather than comfort. Instead, we should focus on the hope that is found in Scripture, acknowledging the reality of heaven and the end of pain for believers. This approach offers genuine comfort and hope, rooted in the promises of God's Word. By speaking sensitive truths, we can provide a balm for the wounded soul and a light in the darkness of loss. [29:51]
"For this is the message that you have heard from the beginning, that we should love one another." - 1 John 3:11
Reflection: How can you prepare yourself to offer true biblical encouragement to someone who is grieving, avoiding platitudes and speaking with sensitivity?
Day 5: Being Christ's Hands and Feet in Grief
The church is called to be proactive in serving those who grieve, sharing each other's burdens as commanded in Scripture. This means being willing to 'tear off the roof'—to do whatever it takes to help those in pain. It may be inconvenient or uncomfortable, but it is a tangible expression of God's love and strength. By embodying the love of Christ, we can provide real and lasting support to those who are mourning, ensuring that they do not walk through their valley of sorrow alone. [43:43]
"By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers." - 1 John 3:16
Reflection: What are some ways you can proactively reach out to support someone who is grieving, and how can you commit to doing so this week?
Quotes
1. "This separation that we experience when somebody that we love dies is something that God never intended for us. Death was never a part of this plan. We read in Genesis 3 that sin and death enter the world together. Death is a product of sin. And it's not what God wants for us." [23:14]
2. "When we lose someone that we love, we grieve. That word's really specific, isn't it? There are a lot of things in our life that bring pain. There's a lot of things that hurt. There are a lot of things in life that are hard. But when we lose someone that we love, we grieve. It is a deep, deep pain." [24:16]
3. "I've let the fear of saying the wrong thing keep me from saying anything. And that's not helpful either. Their whole world has been destroyed. Somebody that they deeply, deeply love is gone. And to a degree, what saying nothing says is that person or they themselves are not important enough for you to even acknowledge that they lost someone." [32:13]
4. "Don't think it hurts the grieving person to talk about their loss. It might bring out some tears, but that hurt is already happening inside the expression of those feelings is good. Sharing the importance of the person who passed away is really important. Having people remember that person that you love is a really big deal." [35:04]
5. "We've talked about what to say. What are things to do? How do we serve people in this moment in a way that is helpful? Some of the things that I heard were to just show up, just be there. I heard a story this week about someone who had lost a loved one and just looked out their window one morning, and somebody was sweeping off their driveway." [39:46]
6. "Offer to help go through the deceased person's belongings when they're ready. Offer to sit with them and watch the video of the service. Invite them to the grave site with you later down the line. Offer to give them a ride to church or to life group. Mow the lawn. Clean the house. Provide a meal. Just be there." [41:31]
7. "But what's better than that is to just say, hey, on Tuesday, I'll be here to cut the grass. And just show up. Just care for people. Be willing to tear off that roof, right? I love this passage in Galatians 6. Share each other's burdens. And in this way, obey the law." [42:46]
8. "We cannot have an attitude that if it gets inconvenient or hard or uncomfortable, we'll run away. We're called to tear off the roof. So if you have somebody in your life who is grieving, point them to Jesus. Tear off the roof. Help those who are hurting find healing." [43:43]
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