Holding On While Letting Go / From Diapers to Diapers

Rules are there to be broken and they will be broken. If we can teach our children how to make good decisions for themselves and rest in the comfort that God has us in his hands, Give of our children to God because they belong to him. Release this illusion of control in our in our family's lives and embrace the responsibility of our influence and our our imparting of who we are and our wisdom to them. [00:27:27] (39 seconds)  #TrustGodParenting

But a child must develop wisdom. Daisy never developed wisdom. Daisy never developed judgment. She didn't have conviction, she didn't have a faith. She knew what time it was to eat, she knew where to go to the bathroom, she even knew how to go kill a woodchuck and bring it home. But our children are learning something far more important and deeper, and it's our job as parents to instill that into them. [00:10:11] (41 seconds)  #RaiseWiseKids

But your child will leave your home at some point, and we won't be there in every aspect of their life making decisions decision making life. We won't be there to approve every friendship that they have. We won't be there to monitor every conversation that they have. We won't be there to make every decision for them. If all we have taught of them is for us to make the decision for them and for them to be obedient to what we have decided, they may struggle making decisions for themselves. [00:24:12] (31 seconds)  #PrepareThemToChoose

The adolescent years are not about tightening and reining in and and and shoving everything down so that we get children that are are perfect for the pictures. The adolescent years are about deepening our influence, showing our children that we care about who they are and where they're going. To raise children who grow up into being adults, who follow Christ on their own and build a relationship personally with who he is. Let's pray. [00:30:29] (36 seconds)  #DeepenInfluence

The goal of of parenting adolescents is not to control them. It is not to control everything going on in their lives and and to to bring in the reins and and and suffocate out with our will. But it is to cultivate wisdom and character and connection into our children that will endure through life into adulthood. As children grow and change and and shape, our role shifts and changes with them. [00:01:10] (42 seconds)  #CultivateCharacter

Every teenager starts to ask these questions, who am I? Where do I belong? What do I believe in? What is my purpose? One of the the big things that we've talked about this year at Hilton Youth Ministry is that your parents' faith is a wonderful thing. It's passed down from generation to generation. Not always, but it's passed down from your parents and you're you believe what your parents believe because you've grown up through it. [00:15:35] (33 seconds)  #OwnYourFaith

Rules are good, rules are important, but rules are not the destination of where we're headed. We're headed towards our children being able to to, on their own, learn and grow how to decide what to do in difficult situations in their life ahead. In the in the years after high school, It's 2026. It happens a little later these days than it used to. [00:23:34] (38 seconds)  #RulesAreNotTheGoal

The culture and the atmosphere of our homes builds and shapes our identity. The culture in the world is out there that are going to shape our children as well. If we don't help our children discover their identity in Christ, not our identity in Christ but our children's identity in Christ, someone else in the world is gonna gladly help them find their identity. [00:16:35] (38 seconds)  #IdentityInChrist