Judgment, Grace, and the Call to Restoration

Devotional

Day 1: Examine Yourself First Before Judging Others

True spiritual growth begins with honest self-examination, allowing God to reveal and heal our own flaws before we attempt to help others with theirs. When we focus on our own hearts, motives, and shortcomings, we become more compassionate and less likely to judge others harshly. This inward work is not about self-condemnation, but about preparing ourselves to serve others with humility and clarity. As we allow the Holy Spirit to prune and shape us, we become better equipped to lovingly assist others in their journey toward Christlikeness. [00:13]

Matthew 7:1-5 (ESV)
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.”

Reflection: What is one area in your life where you tend to notice others’ faults more than your own? Ask God to show you how to address this in your own heart before speaking into someone else’s life.

Day 2: Seek God’s Discernment in Relationships

Discernment is essential when navigating the delicate balance of helping others without being critical or causing harm. By continually asking God for wisdom and a discerning spirit, we learn when to speak, when to listen, and when to step back. Not every situation requires our intervention, and sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to wait for the Holy Spirit’s prompting. As we grow in discernment, we become more effective in loving others as Jesus did, avoiding unnecessary conflict and honoring the sacredness of the gospel. [01:05:44]

Philippians 1:9-10 (ESV)
“And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ.”

Reflection: Think of a current relationship where you feel tension or the urge to correct someone. Have you asked God for discernment about how and when to respond? What might it look like to wait for His timing?

Day 3: Embrace the Balancing Scales of Grace

God calls us to judge with fairness and grace, avoiding the trap of being harsher on others than we are on ourselves—or vice versa. It’s easy to tip the scales by excusing our own faults while condemning others, or by being overly critical of ourselves and forgetting God’s love. True balance comes from seeing ourselves and others through the eyes of Christ, receiving His forgiveness, and extending that same grace to those around us. When we walk in this balance, we are freed from self-condemnation and empowered to help others in love. [01:10:05]

Proverbs 11:1 (ESV)
“A false balance is an abomination to the Lord, but a just weight is his delight.”

Reflection: Are you more likely to be too hard on yourself or too lenient? How can you invite God to help you see yourself and others with His balanced grace today?

Day 4: Live Out the Golden Rule with Initiative

Jesus calls us not just to avoid harm, but to actively do good to others—taking the initiative to treat people as we would want to be treated. This proactive love goes beyond passivity, inviting us to step out and serve, forgive, and encourage, even when it’s difficult or unreciprocated. Practicing the Golden Rule means being willing to both give and receive correction, always aiming to build up the body of Christ in humility and love. [01:12:33]

Matthew 7:12 (ESV)
“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.”

Reflection: Who is one person you can intentionally bless or encourage today, treating them as you would hope to be treated—even if they haven’t earned it?

Day 5: Welcome Loving Correction from Others

True community is built when we not only help others with their struggles, but also humbly allow others to speak into our own lives. It takes courage and humility to receive correction, but it is a vital part of growing in holiness and Christlikeness. Rather than reacting defensively, we can choose to see loving critique as a gift that draws us closer to God’s heart and to one another. [01:15:07]

Proverbs 9:8 (ESV)
“Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you.”

Reflection: Is there someone in your life who has tried to lovingly correct you? How can you respond with humility and gratitude, seeing their input as an opportunity for growth?

Sermon Summary

When Jesus speaks, his words cut through our assumptions and invite us to a radically different way of living. In Matthew 7, he challenges us to reconsider how we view judgment—not as a weapon to wield against others, but as a mirror to examine our own hearts. The call is not to avoid discernment or accountability, but to approach others with humility, self-awareness, and a deep desire for their good. Before we ever attempt to help someone else with their struggles, Jesus insists that we first deal honestly with our own. This is not a quick or superficial process; it requires honest self-examination, time in Scripture, and a willingness to let the Holy Spirit reveal what needs to change within us.

Jesus’ vivid imagery of the speck and the log exposes our tendency to magnify the faults of others while minimizing our own. We often judge others harshly, forgetting that we, too, are in need of grace. The purpose of self-examination is not to become self-absorbed or paralyzed by guilt, but to be restored by Christ so we can genuinely help others. If we rush this process or approach it with the wrong motives, we risk doing more harm than good.

Discernment is essential. Not every situation or relationship is the right context for correction or confrontation. Jesus warns us not to “throw pearls before pigs,” reminding us that wisdom is needed to know when and how to speak truth. Sometimes, the most loving thing we can do is to wait, pray, and trust God to work in someone’s life. At other times, we are called to speak up, but always with humility and love, never out of a desire to elevate ourselves.

Grace must be the balancing scale in all our interactions. It’s easy to be lenient with ourselves and harsh with others, or vice versa. Jesus calls us to a just and generous standard, one that reflects his own heart. The “golden rule” is not passive avoidance of harm, but active pursuit of good for others—treating them as we would want to be treated, even when it costs us.

Ultimately, this way of living is only possible as we walk closely with Jesus, allowing his Spirit to shape us. We need people in our lives who will lovingly point out our blind spots, and we must be willing to do the same for others. This is not about condemnation, but about restoration—helping each other become more like Christ, for the glory of God.

Key Takeaways

1. Begin with Honest Self-Examination True spiritual growth starts with a willingness to look inward and address our own flaws before attempting to correct others. This process is not about self-condemnation, but about allowing the Holy Spirit to reveal what needs to change so we can serve others with humility and clarity. Rushing this step or treating it superficially can lead to more harm than good, both for ourselves and those we hope to help. [19:35]
2. Discernment is Essential in Relationships Not every situation calls for confrontation or correction. Jesus’ warning about “casting pearls before swine” teaches us that wisdom and discernment are necessary to know when and how to speak truth. Sometimes, the most loving action is to wait, pray, and trust God’s timing, rather than forcing a conversation that could do more harm than good. [62:05]
3. Beware of Unbalanced Scales of Grace It’s easy to show ourselves more grace than we extend to others, or to become overly harsh with ourselves while excusing others. Jesus calls us to a just and generous standard, where grace is given freely and fairly. When we allow the gospel to shape our perspective, we avoid both self-righteousness and self-condemnation, living instead in the freedom Christ offers. [66:59]
4. The Golden Rule Requires Initiative and Vulnerability Jesus’ command to “do unto others as you would have them do unto you” is not passive; it calls for proactive love and humility. This means not only helping others with their struggles, but also inviting trusted people to speak into our own lives. True community is built when we are both willing to give and receive correction in love, for the sake of holiness and restoration. [73:35]
5. Restoration, Not Condemnation, is the Goal The heart of Jesus’ teaching is not to create a culture of criticism, but to foster a community where people are restored to the image of Christ. Correction, when done with humility and grace, is an act of love that seeks the best for others. Our ultimate concern should be what God thinks of us, not the opinions of others, and our aim should always be to help each other grow in Christlikeness.

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Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[00:45] - Introduction: The Challenge of Judgment
[03:10] - Personal Story: Innocence vs. Judgment
[06:00] - Questions to Consider About Judgment
[08:20] - Reading Matthew 7:1-6
[10:30] - The Human Tendency to Exaggerate Others’ Faults
[13:50] - The Call to Self-Examination
[19:35] - The Danger of Rushing Self-Reflection
[25:00] - The Importance of Being Doers, Not Just Hearers
[32:10] - Avoiding Sinful Criticism and Seeking Wisdom
[38:40] - Asking God for Discernment
[45:00] - The Meaning of “Casting Pearls Before Swine”
[52:30] - Balancing Grace and Truth
[59:00] - The Golden Rule: Active Love
[73:35] - Inviting Correction and Building Community
[76:43] - Practical Steps and Prayer for Discernment
[83:12] - Invitation to Receive Christ and Closing Prayer

Bible Study Guide

Bible Reading

Matthew 7:1-6, 12 (NLT) — > “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. For you will be treated as you treat others. The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged. And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye. Don’t waste what is holy on people who are unholy. Don’t throw your pearls to pigs! They will trample the pearls, then turn and attack you... Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you. This is the essence of all that is taught in the law and the prophets.”

Observation Questions

In Matthew 7:1-2, what does Jesus say about the way we judge others and how it will affect us?
What is the difference between the “speck” and the “log” in Jesus’ illustration, and why is this image so powerful? ([10:30])
According to verse 6, what does Jesus mean by not giving “what is holy to dogs” or “throwing pearls before pigs”? How does this relate to discernment? ([01:02:05])
How does the “Golden Rule” in verse 12 summarize Jesus’ teaching in this passage?

Interpretation Questions

Why do you think Jesus starts his teaching on judgment by telling us to look at our own hearts first before helping others? What might happen if we skip this step? ([19:35])
The sermon mentions that discernment is needed to know when and how to speak truth into someone’s life. What are some signs that it might not be the right time to confront or correct someone? ([01:04:14])
The pastor talked about “unbalanced scales of grace”—being too hard on ourselves or too lenient with others. How can someone recognize if their “scales” are off? ([01:06:59])
The goal of correction is restoration, not condemnation. How does this change the way we approach difficult conversations with others? ([01:16:02])

Application Questions

Think about a recent time when you noticed a flaw or mistake in someone else. Did you first examine your own heart and motives before responding? If not, what would you do differently next time? ([19:35])
Are there areas in your life where you tend to be more critical of others than yourself, or vice versa? What practical step can you take this week to bring your “scales of grace” into better balance? ([01:06:59])
The sermon challenged us to invite trusted people to speak into our lives and point out our blind spots. Who is someone you trust to do this for you? If you don’t have someone, what’s one step you can take to build that kind of relationship? ([01:13:35])
When you feel the urge to correct or confront someone, how can you discern whether it’s the right time and the right way to do it? What role does prayer play in this process for you? ([01:04:14])
The “Golden Rule” calls us to take initiative in doing good for others, not just avoiding harm. What is one specific way you can actively pursue the good of someone in your life this week, even if it costs you something? ([01:13:35])
Have you ever experienced someone correcting you in a way that felt loving and restorative, rather than condemning? What made the difference in how you received it? ([01:16:02])
The sermon said that ultimately, our concern should be what God thinks of us, not just the opinions of others. How can you remind yourself of your identity in Christ when you feel judged or criticized? ([01:10:05])

Sermon Clips

``We have a fatal tendency to exaggerate the faults of others and minimize the gravity of our own. We seem to find it impossible when comparing ourselves with others to be strictly objective and impartial. On the contrary, we have a rosy view of ourselves and a jaundiced view of others. Indeed, what we are often doing is seeing our own faults in others and judging them vicariously. That way we experience the pleasure of self -righteousness without the pain of penitence. [00:53:31] (32 seconds) #SelfRighteousnessTrap

Did you know that it's possible to judge people wrongly even while you're using scripture? Even while you're using the truth? Just because the measuring tool we use is the Bible, it doesn't mean we're doing it properly. We say, but this is what the Bible says. It does. But sometimes that doesn't mean we're doing it right. [01:06:04] (20 seconds) #FairGraceBalance

When we show more grace to ourselves than we're willing to show other people, unfair balance. When we've forgiven ourselves when we can't forgiven someone else because we're not there yet, unfair balance. When we say, well, I know my motives, but I don't know theirs, unfair balance. When picturing a scale, we want it to be even on both sides. We want it to be delicate. We want it to be fair. [01:07:30] (25 seconds) #AvoidSelfJudgmentTrap

When we practice the golden rule, it allows the love of God that's in our lives to flow. And it enables us to truly help other people. Even if they don't want help, even if they would want to hurt us, we still go out and do the good thing for them. Sometimes it involves paying a price. Sometimes we're going to be opposed. But you know what? We're all salt and light, and salt hurts an open wound. So we know this is going to happen. Light exposes dirt. Even when someone doesn't want to see it, we can't stop. It's who we're called to be. [01:12:49] (33 seconds) #GodIsLovingFather

The gospel doesn't teach us that God is a stern judge who's out to get you. Sometimes it can feel that way when we screw up. Sometimes we can want to hide, but that's not God. That's a lie straight from the enemy, because he's our loving Father, and his desire is to search us out and to find us. To bring us back. [01:15:32] (18 seconds)

It's a plea for us to be generous, allowing grace and love to be on display in our life. And the homework from today, if you're willing, is this. Examine your heart and deal with the sin that is in your life, so that you can go and help other people. And number two, be willing to allow others to help you with the sin in your life. It's not always judgy for someone to point something out in your life, even if it is a flaw. And are you willing to submit this morning to Jesus, and allow Him to do the transforming work in your heart, so you can look more like Him each day? Sometimes through pain, sometimes through struggles, sometimes through tears. We are going to be shaped and formed. We're going to deal with our sin. [01:16:43] (46 seconds)

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