How about NO

I'm just not gonna do it. I'm I want what you want from me, and I'll make the decisions that get me there. That is a nearly impossible journey if we keep doing things the way we're doing them right now. So help us to pump the brakes, to stop, and begin to evaluate every choice and decision we make. And ask ourselves what boundaries, what guardrails, what limitations, what noes have been put in place to stop this from getting dangerous, and what have I already blown past? What am I ignoring? What am I not looking for? Help us. In these next few weeks, give us the wisdom and the courage and the equipping to do this right for your name's sake, for our lives, for the quality of our future, and the lives of those around us. In Jesus' name, we pray. Everybody said amen. Amen. [00:36:11] (53 seconds)  #PauseAndDecide

I'd like to believe that without you, I would still be capable of thinking good thoughts, making right choices, living a righteous life. I'd like to think that that exists within me outside of you, but I know just from my resume of messing up that I tend to be selfish and thoughtless and impulsive and even know that something's going to be consequential later in my life. I mean, something inside of me tells me that, but because I'm too immature to say no to the thing in this moment, I'll say yes to it and convince myself it's the right thing to do. [00:34:07] (67 seconds)  #FightImpulsesDaily

I'm not telling you to live in remorse every day of your life, but I'm telling you it's probably really important for you and I to be more cognitive of how bad we are at making decisions, and we need boundaries and limits and knows in our life to keep us within the path that God has set out before us and get us to where God meant for us to go. Would you bow your heads and close your eyes? And this just gives you a minute of privacy. This is not some magic churchy thing. This is just you and, hopefully, Jesus in a moment. Let me pray this over you, and maybe you would own these words for yourself. [00:33:13] (52 seconds)  #ChooseBoundariesNotRemorse

We don't like using system two. We would prefer so your brain will default to and give preference to system one. Even for decisions that arguably are important decisions should be carefully thought out, You think you've made careful thought. You think you've gone through this process. You think you've really put but your brain has already decided. System one said, I already have the answer, and system two kinda goes, yeah. You know what? That's probably fine. Let's just go with you. I'm tired already. This is a lot of work. [00:08:00] (38 seconds)  #ActivateSystemTwo

Because so many of the things we say yes to are not just impacting us. They're impacting everybody around us. And listen. None of us set out to destroy the world we live in. None of us set out to set our world on fire. None of us wanna say the hurtful thing. None of us wanna do the thing that betrays the trust of somebody else, but we do it all the time. It's our story. It's our history as a people. And I'm telling you, you don't have to do that. You just have to become someone who sees the value of a boundary, who sees the value of putting limitations on your own life and on the lives of others, on making those boundaries clear enough that you respect them and you insist on others respecting them because [00:31:16] (45 seconds)  #BoundariesProtectCommunity

Before the before the other part of your brain, system two, has even realized anything is happening, system one is at work and really, really sending out signals to you. Okay. System two is this. It's our prefrontal cortex. And your prefrontal cortex is very slow. It's very deliberate. It's conscious. You have to engage the prefrontal cortex. Okay? And it's full of effort. You have to put energy into it. It's what you use when you are carefully deciding big decisions in your life. [00:06:52] (36 seconds)  #EngageYourPrefrontal