Joseph models an honouring faith: even when betrayed and humiliated he plans a quiet resolution to protect Mary rather than to expose her, choosing mercy over vengeance and obedience over self-justification. He takes God at his word when an angel clarifies the truth and moves immediately to act, showing that godliness often looks like humble, costly faithfulness in the face of public shame. This is the heart of Christmas — God entering scandal so that shame might be redeemed into hope. [11:08]
Matthew 1:18-25 (ESV)
18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit.
19 And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly.
20 But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, "Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.
21 She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins."
22 All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet:
23 "Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and they shall call his name Immanuel" (which means, God with us).
24 When Joseph woke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him: he took his wife,
25 but knew her not until she had given birth to a son. And he called his name Jesus.
Reflection: Who is one person you have been tempted to expose or distance yourself from after being hurt? What concrete step can you take this week to protect their dignity or respond with mercy, following Joseph’s example?
The whispers about Mary and Jesus show how communities can bind a false story to someone’s name, and Jesus himself endured those painful insinuations from the Pharisees. The truth of who a person is cannot be decided by gossip; identity is defined by God’s own word and work, not by the village talk. Let the Lord’s assessment of you displace the rumours you carry. [20:33]
John 8:41-44 (ESV)
41 "You are doing the works your father did." They said to him, "We were not born of sexual immorality. We have one father—even God."
42 Jesus said to them, "If God were your Father, you would love me, for I came from God and I am here. I came not of my own accord, but he sent me."
43 "Why do you not understand what I say? It is because you cannot bear to hear my word."
44 "You are of your father the devil and your will is to do your father's desires."
Reflection: What is one untrue label or whisper people use about you that you secretly carry? How will you remind yourself of God’s true verdict about you this week (specific verse, person to speak with, or practical habit)?
Isaiah’s sign — a virgin conceiving — shows God’s determination to act in ways that overturn expectations and social shame, using the unlikely to bring rescue. The prophecy that Jesus is Immanuel reminds that God will be with his people by coming into their messy realities, not from a distance. Trusting prophetic promise means expecting God to work through surprising, humble means for our salvation. [25:59]
Isaiah 7:14 (ESV)
Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign. Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son, and shall call his name Immanuel.
Reflection: Where are you resisting a course God might take because it seems unlikely or embarrassing? Identify one choice you will make this week to expect God’s surprising way and act in faith toward it.
Because God is the Maker of heaven and earth, nothing is outside his power — even a conception that breaks the ordinary rules of biology. The same God who spoke light into being is fully able to bring about the miracle of the incarnation; Jesus’ birth is the Creator entering his own creation to rescue it. Let this remind you that no situation is too impossible for God’s creative work. [23:05]
Genesis 1:1-3 (ESV)
1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.
2 The earth was without form and void, and darkness was over the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God was hovering over the face of the waters.
3 And God said, "Let there be light," and there was light.
Reflection: What situation in your life feels "without form and void"? Name one realistic step (a person to ask for prayer, a confession to speak, a tangible act of faith) you will take this week to invite the Creator to bring new light there.
The Christmas story culminates in the one purpose of Jesus’ coming: to save his people from their sins, and that salvation is offered to anyone who calls on his name. The promise is both personal and public — confess in the heart, speak with the mouth, and receive new life; no one is too far gone. This is the scandal of God’s love: he stoops to rescue us so we might be made righteous through Christ. [35:54]
Romans 10:9-13 (ESV)
9 because if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
10 For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved.
11 For the Scripture says, "Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame."
12 For there is no distinction between Jew and Greek; for the same Lord is Lord of all, bestowing his riches on all who call on him.
13 For "everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved."
Reflection: If you have not yet confessed Jesus as Lord, will you do so now with honest words and a simple prayer? If you already have, who is one person this week you will name to and invite toward the same step, and how will you begin that conversation?
Christmas is not wrapped in tinsel and ease; it’s wrapped in scandal and grace. Matthew tells us Mary was pregnant before she and Joseph came together. We’re told it’s from the Holy Spirit, but Joseph wasn’t. All he knew was that it wasn’t his child. In a small village with big memories, this would be devastating. Betrothal was a legal bond; breaking it took a formal divorce. And yet Joseph, described as a just man, resolved to end things quietly—to honor God and to honor Mary even when he believed she had dishonored him. That is uncommon righteousness.
God met Joseph in a dream and revealed what we already knew: this child is from the Holy Spirit. Joseph woke, took Mary as his wife, and obeyed—no excuses, no delay. That simple, costly yes is the kind of obedience that faith grows on. Even so, the whispers would not go away. Years later, Jesus still carried the rumor of illegitimacy. But God did not clear their reputation before the watching town. He didn’t need to. Because the point of Christmas is not managing appearances; it’s saving sinners.
“You shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” Mary and Joseph carried a shame that wasn’t theirs because the One they carried came to take a shame that wasn’t His. From the manger to the cross, Jesus entered our gutters to bring us home. Our usual strategies for dealing with failure—time, distraction, or trying to balance the scales—cannot cure guilt. Christ doesn’t tip our scales; He takes our place. He gives His righteousness; He bears our sin. That’s why even those who whispered in Nazareth were not beyond the reach of His mercy if they would call on Him.
So receive Him. If you feel far off, remember Rahab—God delights to rescue the least likely. And if you already belong to Him, be like Joseph: love God first, and then do the next obedient thing, even when it’s costly, unseen, or misunderstood. Wake, take, obey. The real scandal of Christmas is not the rumor around Mary—it’s the immeasurable love of God for you.
Surely there's no point letting Mary take Joseph down with her. And if he doesn't at least go public, surely the rumours will be, well, Joseph's silence says it all. He's clearly innocent. Innocent people don't hide. He's clearly guilty. And if that's what you're looking for, Joseph really isn't your man. Matthew tells us how Joseph is a just man. He's got no desire to add shame to Mary's situation. And so he plans, despite all this, despite the rumours that it might add, despite the comments that might come from it, he commits himself to divorce her quietly.
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#QuietMercy
He's going to tell as few people as possible. And he's going to take all the consequences that might come from that, even though he knows he's innocent. And at this point, doesn't realise Mary is innocent too. Thinking Mary is guilty, he holds himself in justice and makes this as painless for Mary as possible. Here's a man whose love has been betrayed and yet when he thinks Mary has been unfaithful to him, he responds by planning to finish with one final act of faithfulness towards Mary.
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#FaithfulDespiteBetrayal
This is the only birth in human history that didn't come from a female egg and a male sperm, but it is the reality. Only God could have done this. It's God's own workmanship. It's God himself working to bring himself into the world. And yet, the miracle is nothing compared to what we believe about God right back in Genesis 1. So, this is an extraordinary claim, but we have an extraordinary God.
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#MiraculousIncarnation
The word Jesus means God saves or the Lord is our salvation. His name, although a popular name at the time of Jesus, indicates who he is and what he's come to do. He's going to save people from their sins. That was the mission that Jesus came into the world to complete. That's the reason that he was born. That's the purpose of his arrival. That's the great declaration that we have coming through when it comes to Christmas.
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#JesusSaves
And this is when we realize that Christmas turns everything upside down. Mary and Joseph experienced a shame that didn't belong to them because Christmas was the beginning of Jesus' arrival. And Jesus came to experience a shame that wasn't his so that he could deal with a shame that wasn't him. This is when we see the great gospel shining through on the very first Christmas.
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#UpsideDownChristmas
Well, Joseph had a dream. Isn't it amazing that to Josephan angel appears in a dream is almost lesser than a physical appearance to Zechariah. Why? I think because where Zechariah responded saying how can this be to the Lord God Almighty? Joseph gets up, picks up his wife and obeys. Joseph didn't need more than a dream. He didn't need the village approval. He didn't need other people to get on board. It was enough for Joseph was the Lord. If this is the Lord's will, amen and yes.
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#ObedientToTheLord
And Mary was exactly the same. You see her beautiful praise in Luke as she recognises she has been blessed to be this wonderful woman chosen by God. Jesus came to experience a shame that wasn't his because he came to deal with a shame that wasn't his. Our shame. God hasn't come to redeem himself. He has nothing to these people. He has nothing owed to them. He doesn't need to explain himself to this village.
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#ChosenAndHumble
``He didn't come to redeem himself and make himself look squeaky clean. He came to take on other people's shame, accusations, and sins to save us from our real, not our unfair, but our real shame, our real sin, our real mistakes. Jesus' shame only shows his willingness to bring himself so low that he was willing to enter the gutters if it meant that it mayn't draw near to those who were already in the gutters who might call for help. You see, Jesus' shame becomes our hope at Christmas. His humiliation becomes our exaltation. He's brought low through suffering so that ultimately suffering on the cross we might be set free.
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#JesusTakesOurShame
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