Holy Relationships

Devotional

Day 1: The Foundational Importance of Trust in Relationships

Trust is the bedrock of any holy relationship, providing a safe space where individuals can be their true and authentic selves. It is characterized by a bold and secure confidence in another person, creating an atmosphere of ease and security. This confidence allows for vulnerability and genuine connection, which are essential for spiritual and relational growth. Trust is not built overnight but is carefully constructed through consistent, faithful actions over time. It is a divine gift that reflects the secure relationship we have with God. [01:33]

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, ESV)

Reflection: Consider a key relationship in your life—be it with a friend, family member, or spouse. In what specific, practical ways can you act this week to help that person feel safer and more secure in your presence, thereby strengthening their trust in you?

Day 2: Rebuilding Trust Through Truth, Transparency, and Time

When trust is broken, its restoration is a process guided by biblical principles. This process requires a commitment to truth, refusing to hide or obscure reality for the sake of comfort. It demands transparency, a willingness to be open and honest about one’s struggles and failures. Most importantly, it necessitates a surrender to time, understanding that healing cannot be rushed or dictated by the offender. This journey, though challenging, is made possible through the power of the Holy Spirit and wise counsel. [05:22]

“Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members one of another.” (Ephesians 4:25, ESV)

Reflection: Where in your life have you been avoiding a difficult truth to sidestep a confrontation? What is one step you can take this week toward greater honesty, spoken in love, to begin mending a strained connection?

Day 3: Honoring Others by Recognizing Their God-Given Value

To honor someone is to actively recognize and affirm their God-given worth and weight. It moves beyond internal feeling into tangible expression, requiring intentional action to show someone they are valued. Unexpressed honor is not truly honor; it must be demonstrated through our words and deeds. This means outdoing one another in showing respect and appreciation, especially to those within our own families and the household of faith. [16:40]

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” (Romans 12:10, ESV)

Reflection: Who is one person in your “especially” group—like a family member or close brother or sister in Christ—that you assume knows you honor them? What is one unexpected way you can express that honor to them this week?

Day 4: Love as a Choice, Not Just a Feeling

Biblical love is fundamentally a series of intentional decisions, not a passive emotion that controls us. It is described through active choices: to be patient, to be kind, to not envy, and to not keep a record of wrongs. We are called to make the choice to love as God loves us, regardless of our fluctuating feelings. When we choose loving actions based on God’s Word, our emotions will eventually follow our obedience. [28:54]

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-6, ESV)

Reflection: Identify one relationship where your feelings have not been aligned with love. What is one specific, choice-driven action you can take this week that reflects 1 Corinthians 13, regardless of how you feel?

Day 5: Centering Christ in All Our Relationships

Our calling is not to prioritize God on a list that inevitably leads to conflict, but to place Him at the very center of our entire lives. From this central place of surrender, every other relationship—marriage, family, friendship—finds its proper order and purpose. When God’s Word is the foundation of our lives, we are empowered to love, honor, and trust in a way that invites His favor. This alignment brings hope and perseverance to relationships that might otherwise crumble. [33:21]

“And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” (Colossians 3:17, ESV)

Reflection: As you look at the various spheres of your life—work, family, church—where do you most often find yourself trying to prioritize God rather than centering everything on Him? What would it look like to practically invite Jesus into the center of that area this week?

Sermon Summary

Holy relationships rest on three practical, biblical foundations: trust, honor, and love. Trust appears as bold, secure confidence that creates safety and the freedom to be one’s true self; it grows only through truth, transparency, and time. When trust breaks, offenders cannot prescribe the timetable for repair; restoration happens as truth is told gently, openness persists, and patience endures. Clear speech matters: yes must mean yes and no must mean no, habitual lying hardens the heart, and swift ownership of wrongdoing accelerates healing.

Honor functions as the deliberate assignment of value. The ancient image of weighing currency captures the idea: people must receive the weighty, expressed respect that matches their worth. Honor demands more than private sentiment; it requires visible action, regular affirmation, and restraint from gossip and jealousy. Honor extends even toward positions or people with whom one disagrees, and it flourishes when relationships move from judgment to belief in the best. Honoring family and the household of faith proves especially urgent because familiar circles often suffer the most casual dishonor.

Love, as defined in First Corinthians 13, lists behaviors and choices rather than feelings: patience, kindness, humility, protection, trust, hope, and endurance. Each description functions as a decision to make in daily life, not a mood to wait for. Emotions follow choices; choosing love shapes affections, not the reverse. Practical love shows itself through listening, small acts of service, and attention that communicates worth—simple gestures that rebuild trust and honor.

Placing God at the center, not merely first in a prioritized list, keeps relationships aligned with holiness. When the Lord anchors decisions about speech, commitment, and care, relationships attract God’s favor, resilience, and reconciliation. Practicing trust, choosing honor, and acting in love produces durable change: conflicts become repairable, weaknesses find covering, and hope endures. Before other bonds gain their proper shape, the single, defining relationship with Jesus must be secured, because every other relationship reflects that primary allegiance.

Key Takeaways

1. Trust requires truth, transparency, time Trust demands truth spoken with openness and the patience to let time restore confidence. Offenders cannot set the clock for repair; the offended should seek wise discernment while allowing the Holy Spirit and consistent actions to heal wounds. Rebuilding trust means refusing quick fixes and committing to steady, observable change. [03:39]
2. Honor chooses value over opinion Honor means assigning proper weight to another person and then expressing that valuation through deeds. Choosing honor interrupts gossip, resists envy, and defends the dignity of those close at hand—even when flaws appear. Honor reshapes relationships by practicing esteem as a discipline rather than a feeling. [15:11]
3. Love is deliberate, not feeling Love operates as a set of moral choices—patience, humility, protection—made before emotions follow. Choosing love reorients will and forms affections; letting feelings dictate choices undoes steadiness and invites instability. The discipline of loving like Christ means acting toward others even when emotions lag. [28:40]
4. Center God, everything else follows Placing God at the center of life avoids competing priorities and aligns decisions with Scripture rather than shifting desires. When God becomes the organizing center, family, work, and friendships orbit in consistent, holy patterns instead of clashing. Centrality of the Lord produces favor, perseverance, and the capacity to repair what once seemed irreparable. [32:03]

Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[00:36] - Two Are Better Than One
[01:33] - Defining Trust
[03:39] - Truth, Transparency, Time
[04:37] - Time and Broken Trust
[06:08] - Truth Without Confrontation
[11:45] - Own Your Mistakes
[14:52] - What Honor Means
[16:13] - Expressing Honor in Action
[21:42] - Honor Resists Gossip
[26:45] - Love According to 1 Corinthians 13
[28:40] - Love as Choice
[32:03] - God at the Center
[33:21] - Favor from Holy Relationships
[38:39] - The Primary Relationship with Jesus

Bible Study Guide

Based on the sermon summary and transcript, the primary biblical text for this sermon is 1 Corinthians 13, with supporting passages from Ecclesiastes, Ephesians, Colossians, Romans, and Galatians.

Bible Reading
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV)
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Observation questions

According to the passage, what specific behaviors and attitudes does love *not* include?
The sermon described trust as being built on three things. What are those three essential components? [03:39]
How is honor defined, using the ancient imagery of weighing currency to explain the concept? [15:11]
What does 1 Corinthians 13 present love as—a list of feelings to experience or a set of choices to make?

Interpretation questions

Why might the offender in a broken trust situation not be the one to dictate the timetable for repair and restoration? What role does patience play for both parties? [04:37]
The idea is presented that "honor that is not expressed is not honor at all." What does this imply about the difference between privately feeling respect for someone and actively honoring them? [16:40]
If love is described as a set of deliberate choices rather than a feeling, how does this understanding change the way one might approach a relationship during a difficult or emotionally dry season? [28:40]
What is the practical difference between prioritizing God as first on a list versus placing Him at the center of one's life? How does a central focus on God prevent other priorities from conflicting with each other? [32:03]

Application questions

In which of your closest relationships is trust currently the strongest, and what specific actions of truth, transparency, and time have contributed to that security? Where is trust most needing repair, and what is one practical step you can take this week toward rebuilding it?
"Honor that is not expressed is not honor at all." [16:40] Who is in your "especially" group—those you are called to honor most—and what is one tangible way you can actively express honor to them this week, moving beyond private sentiment to visible action?
Looking at the descriptions in 1 Corinthians 13, which specific choice of love (e.g., patience, kindness, not insisting on your own way) is most difficult for you to make consistently? What would it look like to consciously choose that action in a relationship today, even if you don't feel like it?
The quickest way to rebuild after making a mistake is to own it. [11:45] Is there a mess you've made recently—at home, work, or with a friend—that you've been avoiding or blaming on others? What would it look like to fully own that mistake this week to accelerate healing?
How can you intentionally move a relationship from a place of judgment to "believing the best" about someone, especially when you are aware of their flaws? What would that shift in perspective look like in a practical interaction?
Examine your life's structure: are you trying to prioritize God as first on a list of competing items, or is He truly the center from which everything else orbits? What is one decision you can make this week to ensure God is the central anchor for your speech, commitments, and care?

Sermon Clips

See, it's when we love, we honor, and we trust like God's called us to. That is when we welcome in God's favor. And I wanna tell you, if you do these three things and you have a holy relationship, you will find God's favor is in your marriage and your relationships like you've never seen before. Things that used to make you crumble and leave you up all night, used to leave you in tears, and what might would have been your demise of every relationship you've had, you now see, you know what? We're gonna get through this because we have God at the center, because hope exists when we honor, when we trust, and when we love. [00:32:28] (47 seconds) #LoveHonorTrust

See, trust feels like safety. Trust feels like ease. And the freedom to be who I am at my home releases the ability for me to trust even more than I did yesterday. See, you can't all there aren't places where you can you can trust a lot. You may not be able to be your true self at work. You may not be able to be your true self yet in your small group. But when you walk through the doors of your home, parents and and husbands and wives, trust must reign in your home today. [00:02:33] (40 seconds) #TrustAtHome

Anytime that you're if you've made a mess, the sooner that you own what you've done, the sooner we can move on and start building trust again. Yes. It was me. It was me. It wasn't anybody else. It was me. And we had a conversation that day. Where where is your brother? He's in his room. No. He's actually at Mimi's house right now, buddy. It's impossible. The quicker you want it, the quicker we can have healing, and the quicker we can build trust, and the quicker we can have make this relationship holy again. [00:14:02] (39 seconds) #OwnItBuildTrust

So honor I'll tell you about honor. Honor resists gossip and disdains jealousy. If I honor someone, I'm not gonna talk about them in a negative way in front or behind their back. And if and and and if I honor someone, I'm not gonna also allow jealousy to root in the fact that they're receiving recognition and I'm not. Honor lifts each lifts others up. Honor celebrates. Honor strengthens. Honor covers weaknesses. Honor fights for others. Honor seeks understanding. Honor always believes the best. Honor finds ways to encourage in the most discouraging times. That's what honor is. [00:21:42] (56 seconds) #HonorOverGossip

In every description that Paul gives of what love is, here's what I want you to understand. It is not rules, they are decisions that we must make and be intentional about. Every single thing. I'm not gonna envy. I'm not gonna boast. I'm not gonna be self seeking. It's gonna endure. I will do this. Why? Because I love the way that Jesus loved me. That's what love is. So every description Paul gives of love is a choice today. [00:28:19] (27 seconds) #LoveIsAChoice

Building trust requires three three things. Building trust requires truth, transparency, and time. Transparency transparency builds and secures our relationships together. Openness. This is who I am. This is what I'm going through. This is what I have been through. And so you know there's nothing hidden from me, and there's nothing hidden from you. To build trust, we must have that transparency. Maybe the maybe your conversation looks like this is what I'm struggling with right now. There's nothing hidden. [00:03:36] (40 seconds) #TransparencyBuildsTrust

See, honoring someone is is treating them with the proper value that they are. You can't treat everyone in your life the same, but you can treat everyone in your life with honor with honor. Romans twelve ten says this. Ready? Love one another and with brotherly affection, outdo one another in showing what? Honor. See, show he he Paul says, I want you to show honor to people around you. I want you to be intentional about showing honor. [00:15:51] (44 seconds) #IntentionalHonor

So if you're making choices based on feelings today and not based on what the word of God says, come on church, that everything that I do, who I'm gonna be as a husband, what I'm gonna do as a spouse, who I'm gonna be as a father or a mother, how I'm gonna lead my church, where I'm how I'm gonna lead my group, whether or not I join a small group, whether or not I am the man or woman of God that God's calling me to be is not based upon how I'm my emotional capacity or my feelings. They are based upon the word of God. [00:31:22] (31 seconds) #LiveByTheWord

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Devotional

Day 1: The Foundational Importance of Trust in Relationships

Day 2: Rebuilding Trust Through Truth, Transparency, and Time

Day 3: Honoring Others by Recognizing Their God-Given Value

Day 4: Love as a Choice, Not Just a Feeling

Day 5: Centering Christ in All Our Relationships

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