Guardrails for Spiritual Health and Community Support

Summary

### Summary

Today, we concluded our "Despicable Me" series by discussing the importance of guardrails in our lives. Just as physical guardrails protect us from danger, spiritual and relational guardrails keep us from falling into selfishness and sin. I shared a personal story about a family vacation to Colorado Springs, where the lack of guardrails on a mountain road made me opt for a safer, albeit more expensive, cog train ride. This story illustrates our natural aversion to boundaries, yet highlights their necessity for safety and well-being.

We explored how our sin nature inclines us toward selfishness, making us resistant to boundaries. However, boundaries are essential for our spiritual health. I used examples like seatbelts, playpens, and curfews to show how guardrails protect us and those we care about. We also discussed the importance of community and relationships as spiritual guardrails. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 teaches us that two are better than one because they can help each other succeed, keep each other warm, and defend each other. Solomon's wisdom underscores the necessity of having people in our lives who can support us, correct us, and keep us on the right path.

I emphasized that our relationship with Jesus, while personal, is not meant to be lived in isolation. We need each other to stay spiritually healthy. I encouraged everyone to join a small group or a dinner club to build these essential relationships. Additionally, I urged the congregation to reach out to single parents or individuals who might need extra support, as this can be a profound ministry.

### Key Takeaways

1. Guardrails Are Essential for Spiritual Health: Just as physical guardrails protect us from falling off cliffs, spiritual and relational guardrails keep us from falling into selfishness and sin. These boundaries, though sometimes uncomfortable, are necessary for our well-being. [24:02]

2. Community as a Guardrail: Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 teaches that two are better than one because they can help each other succeed, keep each other warm, and defend each other. Having people in our lives who can support and correct us is crucial for staying on the right path. [32:35]

3. The Danger of Isolation: Solomon warns that someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Whether it's a physical, emotional, or spiritual fall, being alone makes recovery much harder. We need people who can reach out and help us when we stumble. [36:36]

4. Practical Steps to Build Guardrails: Joining a small group or a dinner club can provide the community and support we need. These groups offer a space for prayer, Bible study, and mutual encouragement, helping us develop "2 a.m. friends" who are there in times of need. [45:09]

5. Profound Ministry Opportunities: Reaching out to single parents or individuals who might need extra support can be a significant ministry. Offering practical help and community to those who are often isolated can make a profound difference in their lives. [48:08]

### YouTube Chapters

[0:00] - Welcome
[22:48] - Family Vacation to Colorado Springs
[24:02] - The Importance of Guardrails
[25:23] - Seatbelts and Safety
[26:33] - Parenting and Guardrails
[27:38] - Guardrails in Youth Ministry
[28:50] - Recap of Despicable Me Series
[30:03] - Ecclesiastes and the Need for Community
[32:35] - Two Are Better Than One
[34:08] - Simple and Complex Examples of Community
[36:36] - The Danger of Falling Alone
[38:05] - Spiritual Guardrails
[39:36] - Jesus and Community
[42:37] - Back-to-Back Defense
[44:39] - Next Steps: Small Groups and Dinner Clubs
[48:08] - Reaching Out to Single Parents
[49:07] - The Inherent Knowledge of Falling
[51:11] - Invitation to Relationship with Jesus
[53:39] - Practical Steps and Closing Song

Study Guide

### Bible Reading
- Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV): "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

### Observation Questions
1. What are some examples of physical guardrails mentioned in the sermon, and how do they relate to spiritual guardrails? ([24:02])
2. According to Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, what are the benefits of having another person in your life?
3. How did the pastor's story about the family vacation to Colorado Springs illustrate the importance of guardrails? ([22:48])
4. What practical steps did the pastor suggest for building community and relational guardrails? ([45:09])

### Interpretation Questions
1. Why does Solomon emphasize that "two are better than one" in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12? How does this apply to our spiritual lives?
2. How does the concept of guardrails help us understand our need for boundaries in our spiritual and relational lives? ([24:02])
3. What does the pastor mean when he says, "I need you to be guardrails in my life to keep me from Despicable Me"? How does this reflect the teachings in Ecclesiastes? ([30:03])
4. How can reaching out to single parents or individuals who need extra support be considered a profound ministry? ([48:08])

### Application Questions
1. Reflect on a time when you resisted a boundary or guardrail in your life. How did that experience affect you spiritually or relationally? ([24:02])
2. Ecclesiastes 4:10 warns about the danger of falling alone. Do you have people in your life who can help you when you stumble? If not, what steps can you take to build such relationships?
3. The pastor encouraged joining a small group or dinner club. What are some barriers that might prevent you from joining, and how can you overcome them? ([45:09])
4. Think of someone in your life who might be isolated or in need of support. How can you reach out to them this week to offer practical help and community? ([48:08])
5. How can you be a "2 a.m. friend" to someone in your small group or community? What specific actions can you take to be more available and supportive? ([45:09])
6. The sermon mentioned the danger of isolation. How can you ensure that you are not isolating yourself spiritually, emotionally, or relationally? ([36:36])
7. Reflect on the pastor's story about the cog train and the lack of guardrails. How can you apply the lesson of choosing safety and boundaries in your own life decisions? ([22:48])

Devotional

### Day 1: Guardrails for Spiritual Health

Guardrails are essential for our spiritual health, just as physical guardrails protect us from falling off cliffs. These boundaries, though sometimes uncomfortable, are necessary for our well-being. They help us avoid the pitfalls of selfishness and sin, guiding us toward a life that honors God. Just as seatbelts, playpens, and curfews protect us and those we care about, spiritual guardrails keep us on the right path.

Our natural inclination is to resist boundaries because of our sin nature, which inclines us toward selfishness. However, these boundaries are not meant to restrict us but to protect us. They help us live a life that is pleasing to God and beneficial to others. Embracing these guardrails can lead to a more fulfilling and spiritually healthy life. [24:02]

Bible Passage:
"Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life." — Proverbs 4:23 (ESV)

Reflection:
What are some spiritual guardrails you can set up in your life to protect yourself from falling into selfishness and sin? How can you start implementing one of these guardrails today?

### Day 2: Community as a Guardrail

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 teaches that two are better than one because they can help each other succeed, keep each other warm, and defend each other. Having people in our lives who can support and correct us is crucial for staying on the right path. Community acts as a guardrail, providing the support and accountability we need to grow spiritually.

Being part of a community means having people who can speak truth into our lives, encourage us, and hold us accountable. This mutual support helps us navigate life's challenges and stay focused on our spiritual journey. Building strong relationships within a community can significantly impact our spiritual health and well-being. [32:35]

Bible Passage:
"Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing." — 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (ESV)

Reflection:
Who in your life acts as a spiritual guardrail for you? How can you strengthen these relationships to ensure mutual support and accountability?

### Day 3: The Danger of Isolation

Solomon warns that someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Whether it's a physical, emotional, or spiritual fall, being alone makes recovery much harder. We need people who can reach out and help us when we stumble. Isolation can lead to vulnerability, making it easier for us to fall into sin and despair.

Being part of a community provides a safety net, ensuring that we are not alone in our struggles. When we isolate ourselves, we miss out on the support and encouragement that others can offer. Embracing community helps us stay grounded and resilient in the face of challenges. [36:36]

Bible Passage:
"And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near." — Hebrews 10:24-25 (ESV)

Reflection:
Are there areas in your life where you feel isolated? How can you reach out to others for support and build a stronger sense of community?

### Day 4: Practical Steps to Build Guardrails

Joining a small group or a dinner club can provide the community and support we need. These groups offer a space for prayer, Bible study, and mutual encouragement, helping us develop "2 a.m. friends" who are there in times of need. Building these relationships is a practical step toward establishing spiritual guardrails in our lives.

Small groups and dinner clubs create an environment where we can share our struggles, celebrate our victories, and grow together in faith. These gatherings provide a sense of belonging and accountability, helping us stay focused on our spiritual journey. Taking the initiative to join or start such a group can have a profound impact on our spiritual health. [45:09]

Bible Passage:
"And they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers." — Acts 2:42 (ESV)

Reflection:
What steps can you take to join or start a small group or dinner club? How can being part of such a group help you grow spiritually?

### Day 5: Profound Ministry Opportunities

Reaching out to single parents or individuals who might need extra support can be a significant ministry. Offering practical help and community to those who are often isolated can make a profound difference in their lives. This act of service not only benefits others but also enriches our own spiritual journey.

By extending a helping hand to those in need, we fulfill the call to love our neighbors as ourselves. This ministry can take many forms, from offering a listening ear to providing practical assistance. Engaging in such acts of kindness helps build a stronger, more compassionate community. [48:08]

Bible Passage:
"Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world." — James 1:27 (ESV)

Reflection:
Who in your community might need extra support? How can you reach out to them and offer practical help and encouragement today?

Quotes

### Quotes for Outreach

1. "We have imminent danger, if we've got safety issues, we, we appreciate a guardrail, right? Like we do. But outside of that, we don't typically like boundaries. We don't like limits. We don't like people telling us you can do this or you can't do that because of our despicable me. And if you don't want to mean by that, maybe you hadn't been in a couple of weeks, it's your first time. We've been in the series with despicable me. And what we've said is we are bent. You and I both, we have a natural inclination to bend towards selfishness." [24:02] (34 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

2. "I need you to be guardrails in my life to keep me from Despicable Me. You need you. You need each other. You need people to be the guardrails that when you start to move towards selfishness, you take your eyes off of Jesus. You take your eyes off of others. You take your eyes off of other people and you start putting them on yourself and you start to go off the cliff that you have other people around you that are guardrails for you to keep you in the right spot." [30:03] (27 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

3. "I hear people all the time say things like this, my relationship with Jesus is personal. Sure it is. So is mine. But what they're saying is, I don't need other people. I don't need to go to church. I don't need these things because I have a personal relationship with God. That's nowhere in the Bible. Nowhere. In fact, the Old Testament, like the relationship that's highlighted is God and the nation of Israel, His entire people." [39:06] (24 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

4. "A person alone can be attacked and defeated. But two can stand back to back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple braided cord is not easily broken. I've asked Jihad to come up and help me for a second. Come on up as I kind of get you ready. There's not a better spot in a movie. Like if you watch action movies, like where the good guys get surrounded, right, and the bad guys are all coming in, and the good guys go like back to back, right?" [42:37] (25 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

5. "Here's what's true, though. I thought it was so fascinating. Legally, legally, we know the dangers of falling. That's what we decided. That's true spiritually as well. Like, there's the danger of falling off the side of the mountain, the spiritual mountain, falling back into selfishness. It's an inherent, we all know it. That's why you need guardrails. That's why I need you, and you need me, and we need each other, to be the guardrails that keep us from despicable." [50:36] (31 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

### Quotes for Members

1. "Four weeks ago, we started Despicable Me. Week one, we said, am I good enough? And that's what we talked about earlier just a moment ago. No, we're not. Like we are naturally selfish. We are not naturally good people. We're not. We are selfish people and we will do things for us at the expense of others. Then in week two, we talked about generations and breaking the chain of sin and generation." [28:50] (23 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

2. "If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone's in real trouble. But, we read stories all the time, like Ian Snyder. This, Ian Snyder, December 4th of 2023, just this last year, hiking in Hawaii on his own. I read stories like this all the time. He's on his own hiking. He's a dad, father of two, great shape. Something happens. To this day, he doesn't know what happened. He does not remember. He goes off the trail and falls a thousand feet to the base of the mountain." [36:36] (34 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

3. "You can't survive the spiritually frigid times. You can't survive the difficult times on your own. You have to have people. I need you. You need me. We need each other to be guardrails in our life to help us stay on the path. And when we start to veer off and be selfish, hey, that's not the way we do it. He closes with this. He says, a person alone can be attacked and defeated. But two can stand back to back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple braided cord is not easily broken." [42:07] (34 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

4. "Let me give you some next steps. Let me give you a couple next steps that are kind of September next steps. One of them, and I'm giving you a month to think about it. We're going to talk, make some decisions now, but you need to be in a small group. You need to be in a small group of people. That's what this is. Like, in the early service, I took 12 dowel rods, because I was like, a small group, maybe like 10 to 12 people. And the guy, like, twisted it and broke it. So, I had to go to 15." [45:09] (26 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

5. "Here's what Dinner Club is. Dinner Club is going to be six households, and you get to choose if you want your kids involved or if you want it to be adults. Six households. So, like, if you're single, you're a household. If you're married, you're one household. So, six households. And what we're going to ask you to do is we're going to randomly put you together. And we're going to ask you to go to dinner together once every two months. It's not a high commitment. Once every two months you go to dinner." [46:38] (24 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

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Transcript

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