Evelyn Brand's life is a powerful example of finding beauty in selfless service. Born into privilege, she chose a path of humility and dedication to others, particularly in her missionary work in India. After her husband's death, she continued their mission despite her own physical challenges, living without a mirror for the last 20 years of her life. This decision symbolized her commitment to focusing on the needs of others rather than her own appearance. Her life teaches us that true beauty is enduring and deeply impactful when it is rooted in serving others. [03:58]
"Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God." (Hebrews 13:16, ESV)
Reflection: Who in your life can you serve selflessly today, and how can you make a tangible effort to meet their needs?
Day 2: Inner Beauty Over Outward Appearance
The Bible offers a perspective on beauty that challenges the world's obsession with outward appearance. True beauty, according to scripture, is internal, characterized by a gentle and quiet spirit and good works. This kind of beauty is imperishable and precious in God's sight. The Apostle Peter and Paul both emphasized the importance of cultivating inner beauty, which reflects a life lived with reverence for God and in service to others. This perspective invites us to shift our focus from external appearances to the development of our character and actions. [05:40]
"Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 3:3-4, ESV)
Reflection: What steps can you take today to cultivate inner beauty, focusing on your character and actions rather than your outward appearance?
Day 3: The Trap of Comparison
The habit of comparing ourselves to others is a deceptive trap that leads to dissatisfaction and pride. It is easy to fall into the cycle of self-comparison and self-criticism, especially in a world that often ties worth to looks and achievements. However, we are called to find our worth in God's love and to live lives that reflect His grace and truth. By focusing on our unique identity in Christ, we can break free from the cycle of comparison and embrace the value God has placed on us. [04:50]
"For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ." (Galatians 1:10, ESV)
Reflection: Identify one area where you often compare yourself to others. How can you shift your focus to finding your worth in God's love instead?
Day 4: Hope in the Promise of Restoration
The promise of new bodies in the resurrection offers hope to those who struggle with physical imperfections. This assurance reminds us that our true identity is found in Christ, not in our outward appearance. In the resurrection, we are promised complete restoration, which allows us to look beyond our current struggles and imperfections. This hope encourages us to live with confidence in God's promises and to focus on the eternal rather than the temporary. [10:05]
"So is it with the resurrection of the dead. What is sown is perishable; what is raised is imperishable. It is sown in dishonor; it is raised in glory. It is sown in weakness; it is raised in power." (1 Corinthians 15:42-43, ESV)
Reflection: How does the promise of resurrection and restoration change your perspective on your current struggles with physical imperfections?
Day 5: The Transformative Power of Perspective
Encountering real suffering can put our own struggles into perspective, reminding us of the importance of gratitude and service. A life focused on others is a life of true beauty and fulfillment. By shifting our perspective from our own challenges to the needs of others, we can find purpose and joy in serving. This shift in focus not only transforms our lives but also reflects the heart of God, who calls us to love and serve those around us. [10:35]
"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." (Galatians 6:2, ESV)
Reflection: Think of a recent challenge you faced. How can you use this experience to empathize with and serve someone else who may be going through a similar struggle?
Sermon Summary
In today's reflection, we delve into the profound struggle many face with self-image and the obsession with outward appearance. This issue is particularly prevalent among young women, who often find themselves trapped in a cycle of self-comparison and self-criticism. The root of this struggle is a form of pride and self-love, which can be damaging and discouraging. To address this, we look to the life of Evelyn Brand, a woman who found true beauty not in mirrors but in her selfless service to others. Her story is a testament to the power of living a life focused on others rather than oneself.
Evelyn Brand, born into a privileged British family, chose a path of service over self-indulgence. After her husband's death, she returned to India to continue their missionary work, despite her own physical ailments. Her life was marked by a relentless dedication to the people she served, and she refused to have a mirror in her home for the last 20 years of her life. This decision symbolized her commitment to focusing on the needs of others rather than her own appearance.
The world often tries to convince us that our worth is tied to our looks, but scripture offers a different perspective. True beauty is found in a life lived with reverence for God and in service to others. The Apostle Peter and Paul both emphasized the importance of inner beauty, characterized by a gentle and quiet spirit and good works. This kind of beauty is imperishable and precious in God's sight.
In a personal anecdote, I shared an encounter with a man whose face was marked by a significant birthmark. This meeting reminded me of the importance of looking beyond outward appearances and recognizing the inherent value in every person. It also highlighted the hope we have in Christ, who promises complete restoration and new bodies in the resurrection.
Ultimately, the call is to shift our focus from ourselves to others, finding beauty in humility, wisdom, and love. This is the kind of beauty that truly transforms lives and reflects the heart of God.
Key Takeaways
1. True Beauty in Service: Evelyn Brand's life exemplifies the beauty found in selfless service. Her decision to live without a mirror for 20 years underscores the importance of focusing on others rather than oneself. This kind of beauty is enduring and deeply impactful. [03:58]
2. Scriptural Perspective on Beauty: The Bible teaches that true beauty is not external but internal, characterized by a gentle and quiet spirit and good works. This perspective challenges the world's obsession with outward appearance and invites us to cultivate inner beauty. [05:40]
3. The Deception of Comparison: The habit of comparing ourselves to others is a trap that leads to dissatisfaction and pride. Instead, we are called to find our worth in God's love and to live lives that reflect His grace and truth. [04:50]
4. Hope in Restoration: The promise of new bodies in the resurrection offers hope to those who struggle with physical imperfections. This assurance reminds us that our true identity is found in Christ, not in our outward appearance. [10:05]
5. The Power of Perspective: Encountering real suffering can put our own struggles into perspective, reminding us of the importance of gratitude and service. A life focused on others is a life of true beauty and fulfillment. [10:35] ** [10:35]
2 Corinthians 10:12 - "When they measure themselves by one another and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding."
Proverbs 31:30 - "Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised."
1 Peter 3:3-4 - "Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair, the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious."
Observation Questions:
What was Evelyn Brand's approach to beauty and self-image, and how did it reflect her values? [03:58]
How does the world attempt to define beauty, according to the sermon? [04:17]
What does the Apostle Peter say about the nature of true beauty? [05:40]
How did the pastor's encounter with the man with a birthmark illustrate the sermon’s message about outward appearance? [08:13]
Interpretation Questions:
How does the story of Evelyn Brand challenge the common perceptions of beauty and self-worth? [03:58]
In what ways does the Bible's perspective on beauty differ from societal norms, and why might this be significant for believers? [05:15]
How can the habit of comparing oneself to others be seen as a form of pride, and what are the potential consequences of this mindset? [04:50]
What does the promise of new bodies in the resurrection mean for those who struggle with self-image and physical imperfections? [10:05]
Application Questions:
Reflect on a time when you felt trapped in self-comparison. How did it affect your self-image, and what steps can you take to break free from this cycle? [00:42]
Consider the story of Evelyn Brand. What practical steps can you take to focus more on serving others rather than being preoccupied with your appearance? [03:58]
How can you cultivate a "gentle and quiet spirit" in your daily life, as described in 1 Peter 3:3-4? What specific actions can you take this week to develop this inner beauty?
Identify an area in your life where you feel the pressure to conform to societal standards of beauty. How can you shift your focus to align more with the biblical perspective on beauty? [05:15]
Think about someone in your life who might be struggling with self-image. How can you offer them encouragement and support, drawing from the hope found in Christ's promise of restoration? [10:05]
How can you practice gratitude and service in your daily routine to help shift your perspective from self-focus to others-focus? [10:35]
Reflect on the pastor's story about the man with the birthmark. How can you be more intentional about seeing and affirming the inherent value in others, regardless of their outward appearance? [08:13]
Sermon Clips
Evelyn Brand was born in England in 1879 and grew up in a well-to-do British family. She studied at the London Conservatory of Art and she dressed in the finest silks of the day. She was resoundingly converted to Christ, married and went with her husband to minister as missionaries in the Koli Malai mountain range in India. [00:01:13]
After about 10 years, her husband died at the age of 44. And she came home broken, beaten down by pain and grief. But after a year's restoration and against all advice, she returned all by herself to India. Her soul was restored. She poured her life into the hill people, nursing the sick, teaching farming. [00:02:05]
At age 67 she fell and broke her hip. Her son, Paul, famous a surgeon Paul Brandt, her son Paul encouraged her to retire. She had already suffered a broken arm, several cracked vertebrae, recurrent malaria. Her response, Paul, you know these mountains. If I leave, who will help the village people? [00:02:39]
When someone comes to take my place, then and only then will I retire. So she worked on and then almost 30 years later, 67, 30 years later at the age of 95, she died. The villagers buried her in a simple cotton sheet so that she would decompose and be part of the mountains. [00:03:10]
With wrinkles as deep and extensive as any I have ever seen on a human face, she was a beautiful woman. Now here's the great part for the last 20 years of her life, she refused to have a mirror in her house. I love this. She was consumed with ministry, not mirrors, not self. [00:03:35]
The world is spending billions of dollars and endless media time to persuade women that life consists in their looks, their skin, their shape, their hair. The scam is as old as history. At the center of it is the attempt to trick women into the habit of comparing themselves with other women. [00:04:17]
Three thousand years ago the Old Testament wise man pleaded with women not to be tricked. He said, charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Proverbs 31:30. In other words, true beauty, the real praiseworthiness in life is not outward appearance. [00:05:06]
Two thousand years ago the apostle Peter said, do not let your adorning be external, the braiding of hair, the putting on a gold julie, the clothing that you wear, but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which in God's sight is very precious. [00:05:31]
In other words, true beauty is a life lived in the service of others. The greatest beauty is a life of self-forgetfulness for the good of others in the name of Jesus. [00:06:09]
Outward beauty is insignificant compared to inward beauty of humility and wisdom and love, a life lived for others and believe it or not, not only God but the world sees this at its common grace best. How many millions of people would say that Mother Teresa, old, wrinkled Mother Teresa had a beauty more powerful than all the models of the world put together. [00:07:25]
I have spectacular news for people with every kind of disability, namely everyone who trusts in Jesus will be completely healed in the resurrection and we will have brand new bodies, new faces, new legs, new arms, but we'll still be ourselves. [00:10:05]
The reason I tell that story is this: virtually all of us are way too wrapped up in our relatively minor problems. That man's face puts my concern with wrinkles and sagging and blotching in a proper light. What we all need is a good dose of exposure to real suffering, which we have not yet known. [00:10:35]