Finding Joy in Life's Challenges Through Faith

Summary

On this Father’s Day, we gather to remember that God is a good Father who cares deeply for us, even in the midst of life’s messiness and pain. Life is often unfair and unpredictable—clouds of sorrow, disappointment, and injustice can follow us, just as they did Solomon. Yet, even when the world feels heavy, God invites us to experience joy, to worship Him, and to trust that He is working for our good. Our souls can rest in the assurance that, because of Jesus, we have an eternal hope that outshines any darkness we face here.

Solomon, in Ecclesiastes 9, gives us practical wisdom for navigating a broken world: enjoy life, love deeply, and work wholeheartedly. God is not a cosmic killjoy; He delights in our joy and has set up guardrails not to restrict us, but to lead us into the fullest life. We are commanded to rejoice—not as a feeling to wait for, but as an action to step into, even when circumstances are hard. Meals, celebrations, and even the simple pleasures of life are gifts from God, meant to be enjoyed with gratitude and shared with others.

Marriage is highlighted as a unique blessing—a partnership to face the world together. We are called to cultivate friendship and joy with our spouses, to focus on their strengths, and to love sacrificially. For those who are single, God is still the one who completes us, and joy is not reserved only for the married. In all relationships, we are reminded to meditate on what is good and praiseworthy, letting love and honor shape our homes.

Finally, we are urged to work hard at whatever God has placed before us. There is no value in waiting for a perfect time to serve or to make a difference; the only time we have is now. Whether in our jobs, our families, or our service to God, we are to throw our whole selves into the task, knowing that our labor in the Lord is never wasted. Earth is just practice for the joy and celebration that await us in heaven—a never-ending feast in the presence of Jesus, where our joy will never be taken away.

Key Takeaways

- Joy is a Command, Not a Suggestion
God calls us to rejoice, not as a fleeting emotion but as a deliberate act of faith. Even when life is hard and clouds seem to follow us, we are invited to step into joy, trusting that God’s goodness is greater than our circumstances. This kind of joy is rooted in the assurance of our salvation and the hope of eternity with Christ. [38:26]

- God’s Guardrails Lead to the Fullest Life
The boundaries God sets are not meant to stifle our enjoyment, but to protect and maximize it. Like a shepherd guiding sheep to green pastures, God’s commands keep us from harm and lead us to true delight. When we seek joy outside His will, we find only misery; but within His guardrails, we discover lasting satisfaction. [39:26]

- Marriage and Relationships Flourish with Intentional Joy
Solomon’s wisdom reminds us to cultivate joy and friendship in our marriages, focusing on our spouse’s strengths rather than their weaknesses. The way we treat our spouse even impacts our spiritual life, including our prayers. Whether married or single, we are called to honor, love, and celebrate the people God has placed in our lives. [42:31]

- Wholehearted Work is Worship
Whatever task God gives us—big or small—we are to do it with all our might, not waiting for a better time or different circumstances. Procrastination robs us of the opportunity to serve God today. True fulfillment comes from throwing ourselves fully into the work before us, knowing that our labor for Christ matters now and for eternity. [46:41]

- Earthly Joy is Practice for Heavenly Celebration
The pleasures and celebrations we experience now are a foretaste of the eternal joy awaiting us in God’s presence. Heaven is not a dull existence, but a never-ending feast where our joy will be complete and untouchable. As we enjoy God’s gifts on earth, we are preparing our hearts for the ultimate celebration with Jesus, where every longing will be satisfied. [41:03]

Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[01:10] - Opening Prayer and Personal Update
[03:05] - Reflections on Father’s Day Attendance
[05:12] - The Role of Fathers in Faith
[07:00] - Introduction to Ecclesiastes 9
[09:15] - Navigating Life’s Clouds and Injustices
[13:20] - The Call to Joy in a Broken World
[16:45] - Party Hard: God’s Invitation to Enjoy Life
[21:30] - The Purpose of God’s Guardrails
[25:10] - The Joy of Meals and Celebration
[29:40] - Gospel Parallels: Bread, Wine, and White Garments
[32:00] - Love Hard: Marriage, Friendship, and Honor
[36:20] - Focusing on Strengths in Relationships
[39:50] - Work Hard: Wholehearted Service
[44:30] - Living for Today, Not Tomorrow
[48:33] - Living as Joyful Rebels in a Sad World
[49:56] - The Source of True Joy: Jesus Christ
[51:36] - Closing and Invitation to Worship

Study Guide

Bible Study Discussion Guide: Joy, Relationships, and Wholehearted Living (Ecclesiastes 9)

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### Bible Reading

Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 (ESV)
> 7 Go, eat your bread with joy, and drink your wine with a merry heart, for God has already approved what you do.
> 8 Let your garments be always white. Let not oil be lacking on your head.
> 9 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.
> 10 Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might, for there is no work or thought or knowledge or wisdom in Sheol, to which you are going.

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### Observation Questions

1. According to Ecclesiastes 9:7-10, what are the three main areas Solomon tells us to focus on as we live in a broken world?
2. In verse 7, what is the attitude we are supposed to have when we eat and drink? How does the passage describe God’s view of our enjoyment?
3. What does it mean for garments to “always be white” and for our heads to “lack no oil” in the context of this passage? ([39:26])
4. In verse 10, what reason does Solomon give for working with all our might?

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### Interpretation Questions

1. The sermon said, “God is not a cosmic killjoy; He delights in our joy and has set up guardrails not to restrict us, but to lead us into the fullest life.” How does this idea challenge or affirm your view of God’s commands? ([39:26])
2. Why do you think Solomon commands joy as an action, not just a feeling? What does it look like to “step into” joy even when life is hard? ([38:26])
3. The passage highlights marriage as a unique blessing, but the sermon also said, “For those who are single, God is still the one who completes us, and joy is not reserved only for the married.” How does this shape our understanding of where true joy and fulfillment come from? ([41:27])
4. The sermon said, “No man ever served God by doing things tomorrow.” What are some reasons people might wait to serve or work wholeheartedly, and what does Solomon say about that? ([46:41])

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### Application Questions

1. The sermon described life as “messy and hard,” with “clouds” that sometimes follow us. When you’re in a season like that, what helps you remember that God is still a good Father? Is there a specific practice or truth that helps you rest in Him? ([49:09])
2. Solomon commands us to “go” and enjoy God’s gifts now, not later. Is there an area of your life where you’ve been waiting for things to get better before you choose joy? What would it look like to step into joy this week, even if your circumstances haven’t changed? ([38:26])
3. The sermon challenged us to make meals and celebrations a time of gratitude and connection. What does mealtime look like in your home? Is there a way you could make it more intentional or joyful? ([38:26])
4. In marriage or close relationships, the pastor said we often become “experts on each other’s weaknesses instead of strengths.” What is one strength you can intentionally focus on and celebrate in your spouse, family member, or friend this week? ([43:18])
5. For those who are single, the sermon reminded us that “God completes you.” How can you cultivate joy and deep relationships in your current season of life? ([41:27])
6. Solomon says, “Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might.” Is there a task, job, or area of service where you’ve been holding back or waiting for a better time? What is one step you can take this week to throw yourself into it wholeheartedly? ([46:41])
7. The sermon said, “Earth is just practice for the joy and celebration that await us in heaven.” How does this perspective change the way you approach daily life, celebrations, or even hard times? ([41:03])

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Closing Prayer Suggestion:
Ask God to help you see His goodness in every season, to give you courage to step into joy, to strengthen your relationships, and to help you work wholeheartedly for His glory.

Devotional

Day 1: Embrace Joy as a Command from God
God calls His people to actively pursue joy, not as a fleeting feeling but as a deliberate act of worship and trust in His goodness. Even when life feels unfair or heavy, choosing to rejoice is a way to honor God and acknowledge His sovereignty over every circumstance. Joy is not reserved for perfect seasons; it is a discipline that brings light into the darkest days and testifies to the world that God is worthy of praise no matter what. Decide today to rejoice in the gifts God has given, knowing that this is both His command and His desire for you. [38:26]

Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 (ESV)
Go, eat your bread with joy, and drink your wine with a merry heart, for God has already approved what you do. Let your garments be always white. Let not oil be lacking on your head. Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun. Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might, for there is no work or thought or knowledge or wisdom in Sheol, to which you are going.

Reflection: What is one area of your life where you have been waiting for circumstances to improve before choosing joy? How can you intentionally rejoice in God’s goodness today, right where you are?

Day 2: Celebrate God’s Goodness in Everyday Moments
God is not a cosmic killjoy; He delights in His children enjoying the good gifts He provides within His loving boundaries. Meals, celebrations, and even simple pleasures are opportunities to gather, give thanks, and experience the joy He intends for us. Rather than rushing through life or missing out on these moments, take time to savor them, recognizing that gratitude and celebration are acts of worship. Earthly joys are a foretaste of the eternal celebration awaiting believers, so let your life reflect the hope and gladness found in Christ. [41:03]

Psalm 23:1-3 (ESV)
The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters. He restores my soul. He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

Reflection: When was the last time you truly celebrated God’s goodness with others? How can you make your next meal or gathering a time of intentional gratitude and joy?

Day 3: Cultivate Joyful, Loving Relationships
Marriage and close relationships are gifts from God meant to be enjoyed and nurtured with intentionality and joy. It’s easy to focus on each other’s weaknesses, but God calls us to honor, cherish, and build up those we love, remembering what first drew us together. By focusing on the strengths and blessings in your spouse or loved ones, you foster a home filled with joy, forgiveness, and grace—a reflection of God’s love for us. Don’t take these relationships for granted; invest in them with laughter, kindness, and friendship. [45:32]

Philippians 4:8 (ESV)
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

Reflection: What is one strength or positive quality in your spouse or a close loved one that you can intentionally affirm and celebrate today?

Day 4: Work Hard and Serve God with All Your Might
God calls His people to wholehearted effort in whatever they do, not waiting for a perfect time or ideal circumstances. True enjoyment in life comes from giving your best in the present moment, serving God and others with diligence and passion. Delaying obedience or half-hearted service robs you of the joy and fulfillment God intends. Whatever your task—big or small—do it with all your might, knowing that your labor in the Lord is never in vain. [48:04]

Colossians 3:23-24 (ESV)
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ.

Reflection: What is one task or responsibility you have today that you can approach with renewed energy and wholehearted effort as an act of worship?

Day 5: Find True Satisfaction in God’s Presence
Lasting joy and pleasure are found not in the fleeting things of this world, but in the presence of God through Jesus Christ. All other pursuits ultimately leave us empty, but God offers fullness of joy and pleasures forevermore to those who seek Him. Begin to taste this joy now by drawing near to Him, trusting that the best is yet to come in eternity. Let your life be marked by a pursuit of God’s presence above all else, and lead others—especially your family—into that same joy. [49:56]

Psalm 16:11 (ESV)
You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore.

Reflection: Where have you been seeking satisfaction apart from God? What is one way you can intentionally seek His presence and joy today?

Quotes

Dads, your kids want to know how to navigate this messy world. They need you to tell them Jesus is the answer. They need you to show them that Jesus is the answer. They need you to teach them what the Bible says. But they also need you to live it out in front of them so they can see it in action. Now you're not going to do that perfectly, but when you blow it, they need to hear what an apology is supposed to sound like, and they need to see what repentance is supposed to look like. [00:26:59]

You know a way Christians can stand out in the world we live in is by not panicking. God has this. He loves his children. He will never leave them or forsake them. We need to be at peace. And we can have that too. We need to have joy. And we can have that too. Because all things are possible through Jesus Christ. [00:27:53]

Let me say fathers, you might not be able to impact the world, or at the very least, you might not be able to see your impact on the world. But you can impact your homes one way or another. You might not be the next Billy Graham, but your great grandson might. And so I tell you, take the domain you've been given and do the most amount of good as possible. [00:28:11]

Even though clouds follow you, God is worth worshipping. It's easy to get beat up by the world. It's easy to get discouraged. And these enjoyment passages are just kind of like planted, kind of like flowers in winter. Right? Just out of nowhere, he commends joy. [00:31:32]

Because your life has an expiration date and you don't get to choose that expiration date, what should you make of it? How should you live? And the portion of the passage after my text, just Solomon saying, you need wisdom to navigate this world. If this world is tough as it is, you need to be smart. You need to be men and women of wisdom. [00:31:55]

I need you to know that God absolutely wants you to enjoy your life within the guardrails he has placed around you. So obviously, when I say party hard, I don't mean sin. I don't mean party without God. But I want you to know this morning that God wants you to enjoy your life. He is not some cosmic killjoy or some cosmic hall monitor that says, oh no, they're having fun, let's slap them. Like that's not the idea. [00:32:50]

Guardrails are actually in place to keep us where we need to be to have the most possible fun. I mean, think about shepherds. They're trying to keep you where the food is and away from where the danger is. That's what good shepherds do. And I don't know a shepherd better than the Lord Jesus Christ. [00:33:33]

We get seduced by the world. Like Adam and Eve in the garden, they had all these trees that were beautiful and pleasant to the side and good for food. And what did they end up wanting? The one thing they couldn't have, the one thing outside the boundaries that God had set for them. And what did they get? Happiness? No. They got misery. And you and I are living testimonies of trying that all of the time. [00:34:07]

You have to make an effort to enjoy your life. Don't wait until tomorrow to obey. You have to go. You have to get up. You have to decide that I'm going to rejoice in him. Go is this command from God that I need to go and enjoy his gifts. Do you understand the Bible commands you to be joyful and God wants you to be joyful? [00:35:27]

Jesus said these things I said these things so you would have joy. 1 John 1 4 And these things we write to you that your joy may be full. Do you know who the most joyous person ever walked the face of the earth was? Hebrews 1 9 Speaks of Jesus: You have loved righteousness and hated lawlessness. Therefore God, your God, has anointed you with the oil of gladness more than your companions. [00:35:56]

The Bible commands us to rejoice. It doesn't suggest it. Philippians 4 4 Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I'll say rejoice. Is God commanding us to have a feeling? No. He's commanding us to do something and then the feeling will come. He says go, get up, rejoice. [00:36:20]

Food wasn't just meant to sustain us. If it was, God could have just made it differently. You ever wonder why God gave you taste buds? I mean you could have, you just had some cube that supplied all your physical needs and that's what you take. But he gave you taste buds for a reason. The Bible is an eating book. People are always sitting down for a meal. Jesus included. [00:37:02]

What does mealtime look like at your house? Ours is everybody somewhere else, it seems like. Like, or McDonald's drive -thru before a ball game or something like that. What does it look like? How often do you get to gather and just enjoy each other? Celebrate. [00:38:36]

Do you know where else I'm going to get to enjoy bread and wine someday? I mean, monthly at church, I get to observe the Lord's Supper and thank God that Jesus, his body was broken for me, that his blood was shed for me to make me be in a right relationship with God and I can rejoice and I can celebrate that that was done for me. And someday, I will have that in heaven. [00:40:16]

You know where else you'll be wearing white garments? At the marriage supper of the Lamb. My dirty rags are washed clean by the blood of Jesus Christ. I'm going to be clothed in the righteousness of God through Jesus. Someday, I'll be eating with joy that can't be taken away, drinking with a merry heart and wearing white forever. I'll be partying forever at a never -ending feast. Earth is just practice for heaven. [00:40:39]

Don't take your marriage for granted. Solomon's advice is live joyfully with your wife. I can't stress enough that you need to do, you need to develop a friendship with your spouse. Physical attraction might fade. Friendship will last forever. I'm so thankful for my best friend. [00:42:12]

If you just latch on to what you don't like about somebody, that's going to make you more and more negative and like them less and less and less. But what if you look at their strengths, the things they do bring to the table that's a blessing, and you focus on those things, I think you'll find out you'll love that person more. [00:44:16]

The reason God might not be answering your prayers is because the way you're treating the wife that he gave to you because of how little love you're showing her, how little sacrifice that you're making for her. That's the reason your prayers are hindered sometimes. You want to live this life to the fullest? Enjoy your spouse. Have fun. [00:44:59]

If you're going to do something, if you're going to do anything, you might as well do it the best you can. Let me read something that Spurgeon said in relation to this verse. One good deed is more worth than a thousand brilliant theories. Let us not wait for large opportunities or for a different kind of work, but do just the things we find to do day by day. [00:46:26]

No man ever served God by doing things tomorrow. If we honor Christ and are blessed it is by the things which we do today. Whatever you do for Christ throw your whole soul into it. Do not give Christ a little slurred labor done as a matter of course now and then, but when you do serve Him do it with heart and soul and strength. [00:47:18]

You want to be a rebel? This is rebellion in a world that's falling apart. Stay confident. In a world that is sad, stay happy. In a world where family means less, make it mean the most. In a world where work ethic is lacking, stand out. [00:48:33]

Heaven is a feast, heaven is a party, a place where nobody will ever be able to tamper with your joy again. God is a God of joy, you're not his dutiful slave. Now scripturally, we are a slave to God, but the scripture also says, I'm his beloved child and I am his friend. God is for you, not against you. Don't feel guilty about experiencing pleasure that isn't sinful. Thank God for the gifts he's given you. [00:49:10]

Psalm 1611 says, you will show me the path of life, and your presence is the fullness of joy. At your right hand are pleasures forevermore. God said, in my presence is the most joy, the fullest of full, and at my right hand are the most pleasures for the longest of time, eternity. As Christians, we get to start to taste those on earth, and then one day we'll enjoy them forever untainted by sin. [00:49:36]

Stop trying to find life outside of Jesus Christ. Stop trying to find meaning outside of Jesus Christ. Stop trying to find meaning in this corrupt world. Stop trying to find it through your hobbies, or through your relationships, or through your sin. Nothing else will satisfy. Come to Jesus today for living water. [00:50:20]

Whatever you do, whatever you find to do, doing with all your might, we're going to fail over and over and over, but that's what I like about the fact that we have church every single Sunday. Repent, and start again. That's what we have in Jesus Christ. [00:51:19]

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