Peter’s story reminds us that failure does not disqualify us from following Jesus or serving His people. Just as Jesus met Peter on the shore to undo his three denials with three affirmations of love, He meets us in our own brokenness. This restoration is not merely an intellectual exercise but a visceral experience of being known and forgiven. When we encounter this grace, our overconfidence is humbled and our zeal is redirected toward His purposes. It is through being shepherded by Jesus ourselves that we truly learn how to care for others. [08:34]
When they had finished breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of John, do you love me more than these?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Feed my lambs.” He said to him a second time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” He said to him, “Yes, Lord; you know that I love you.” He said to him, “Tend my sheep.” He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of John, do you love me?” Peter was grieved because he said to him the third time, “Do you love me?” and he said to him, “Lord, you know everything; you know that I love you.” Jesus said to him, “Feed my sheep."
John 21:15-17 (ESV)
Reflection: When you look back at a recent failure or season of brokenness, how have you sensed Jesus inviting you into restoration rather than disqualification?
The commission to feed the lambs and tend the sheep is not reserved solely for those in formal church leadership. Every believer participates in the ministry of Jesus by using their unique gifts to serve the body of Christ. Whether you are parenting a child, listening to a struggling friend, or welcoming a newcomer, you are acting as a shepherd. This work is a beautiful legacy passed down from generation to generation as we share the love we have first received. We are all stewards of God’s varied grace in the ordinary moments of our lives. [14:56]
As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace.
1 Peter 4:10 (ESV)
Reflection: In your current roles—as a parent, friend, or volunteer—what is one specific way you can "feed the lambs" of those God has placed in your care this week?
Following Jesus involves more than just the joy of restoration; it includes a call to a cross-shaped life. Jesus told Peter that feeding the sheep would eventually lead to a place where he would stretch out his hands and be led where he did not want to go. This reveals that the cross is not just a historical event but the basic pattern for our everyday following of Jesus. Our ministry to others is an extension of the Good Shepherd who ultimately laid down His life for the sheep. To love as He loved means being willing to participate in His sacrificial way of life. [16:53]
Truly, truly, I say to you, when you were young, you used to dress yourself and walk wherever you wanted, but when you are old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will dress you and carry you where you do not want to go.” (This he said to show by what kind of death he was to glorify God.) And after saying this he said to him, “Follow me.”
John 21:18-19 (ESV)
Reflection: How does viewing your daily service as a "participation in the cross" change your perspective on the difficult or inconvenient parts of your ministry?
Taking up our cross daily often manifests in small, seemingly insignificant choices to put others before ourselves. It might look like losing sleep to care for a child, staying in a challenging job for a greater purpose, or choosing covenantal faithfulness in a difficult marriage. These moments are opportunities to die to our own preferences, independence, and comfort for the sake of someone else. While our culture often avoids suffering and prioritizes convenience, the way of Jesus invites us into a different rhythm. By dying to our own kingdoms, we make space for His kingdom to grow within us. [25:07]
Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me."
Matthew 16:24 (ESV)
Reflection: What is one "small death"—a preference or a bit of comfort—that you feel invited to lay down today for the benefit of someone else?
We live in a culture that often denies death and avoids the reality of the cross in favor of security and wealth. This can lead us to resist the very path Jesus calls us to walk, clinging instead to our own protection and interests. However, the promise of the gospel is that as we embrace the cross and the suffering it may bring, we find something far better. It is in the place of surrender and self-denial that we truly experience Jesus’ life, joy, and peace. Choosing the cross is not an end in itself, but the doorway to the fullness of God’s blessing. [30:03]
Truly, truly, I say to you, unless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit. Whoever loves his life loses it, and whoever hates his life in this world will keep it for eternal life. If anyone serves me, he must follow me; and where I am, there will my servant be also. If anyone serves me, the Father will honor him.
John 12:24-26 (ESV)
Reflection: Where do you find yourself most strongly resisting the "cross" in your life right now, and what would it look like to trust Jesus in that specific area?
John 21 is read as a lived theology: restoration, commission, and the cross come together to form the pattern of discipleship. After a season of brokenness and renewal, the passage’s threefold questioning undoes Peter’s threefold denial, not to shame but to restore him into service. That restoration is not merely rehabilitation for leadership; it is the formation of a shepherd whose care for others issues from an experienced reception of Jesus’ love. Feeding and tending the flock are presented as extensions of Jesus’ own shepherding—actions that only make sense when rooted in the love that healed and redirected a fallible follower.
The passage also refuses to separate ministry from suffering. Immediately after the commission to feed the sheep, John places a stark prediction about Peter’s death. The narrator frames that death with the same language John uses for Jesus’ own “lifting up,” signaling that shepherding will be marked by participation in the pattern of Jesus’ self-giving. Thus to care for the flock is to be willing to follow the way of Jesus into costly fidelity; leadership is not status but costly service.
This understanding reshapes daily life for all Christians, not only formal leaders. Shepherding is distributed across ordinary vocations and relationships—parenting, hospitality, pastoral care, small groups, and everyday acts of listening and welcome. The call to “take up the cross” becomes concrete in small, recurring acts of dying to preference: getting up at night for a child, staying in a difficult place of service, sacrificial giving of time and energy.
Finally, the sermon names a cultural obstacle: modern life is death-denying and comfort-seeking, which breeds resistance to a cross-shaped way of life. The invitation is to identify where comfort is protected at the expense of obedience and to experiment with embracing the cross in relational, vocational, and ecclesial spheres. The promise offered is paradoxical but sure: as the cross is embraced, life, blessing, and peace are discovered in forms that carry the mark of Jesus’ own self-giving.
``So when Jesus commands Peter to tend his sheep and feed his sheep, I don't think it's too much to say that Jesus is asking Peter to love his sheep the way that he loves the sheep. Peter's ministry is an extension of Jesus' ministry. And then when Peter in history gives ultimately his life for Jesus in obedience to Jesus, I don't think it's too much to say that Peter's death is a kind of participation in Jesus's death, the one who ultimately laid down his life for the sheep. For John, Peter's restoration and Peter's commission are linked together by the cross. So for Peter to love Jesus meant to feed his sheep. And to feed his sheep means to die for the sheep, the way that Jesus acted for the sheep, loved the sheep, and ultimately died for the sheep. Okay. So here's the question then for us. Most of us are not going to literally die.
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#FeedLikeJesus
And, that reference is one of the three lifted up sayings in the gospel of John. So, that's one clue, think, that points to the kind of death that Peter is going to die, probably by a cross. And, the second is that the word glory or glorify God here in chapter 21, in the gospel of John primarily refers to the way that Jesus dies on the cross. For us, it's a little bit paradoxical. Glory and the cross, but this is partly what John is trying to help us understand. Glory is not just about resurrection, it is that. But for John, glory primarily is about being lifted up on the cross.
[00:18:58]
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#GloryInTheCross
In these next twelve weeks, we're gonna explore how and why this cross isn't just something that happened two thousand years ago, but really is meant for us today to impact and change our lives today. And here's the promise. As we embrace the cross in our lives, as we embrace Jesus' suffering, as we embrace the cross that he's given us in our lives, we will also experience his blessing. That's where we will experience his life, his joy, and his peace is in those places as we embrace the cross.
[00:29:33]
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#EmbraceTheCross
This is a really important part, Peter, and it's related to the cross. That's the premise of this message today as well as as well as of this series that we're embarking on in these next twelve weeks. That the cross and the Christian life are deeply, intricately, intimately intertwined and they should be.
[00:04:07]
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#CrossShapedLife
We're not gonna be martyred for our faith. What does it mean for us to die? Well, there is another place in the gospels, not in this gospel of John, but in the other gospels where Jesus says to all his disciples, if anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. Another way of putting the question is, what does it mean to take up our cross daily? What does a cross shaped life look like in daily life?
[00:23:10]
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#TakeUpYourCrossDaily
I wanna close with a final observation about our context and our culture in which we live. I think we live, and it's something that's quite, commonly remarked, in a death denying culture. We don't like to think about death, we don't like to see death, we try to hide it away in our society as much as possible, We keep it at the backs of our minds as much as possible. We avoid suffering. We love convenience and comfort. And if we live in a death denying culture, that means that we also live in a cross denying culture. And that means, I think, this kind of message and this kind of series is going to be hard for us to hear.
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#DeathDenyingCulture
Here in this chapter, Jesus says, do you love me? Do you love me? Do you love me? And three times, the answer is yes. Jesus is not just testing Peter to see if he really loves him, but really what it is is a way of providing Peter a way of undoing what he had done. Does that make sense? Three denials, three affirmations of his love for Jesus to restore what was broken.
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#ThreeTimesRestored
If you're a parent, you're shepherding. If you're a grandparent, an aunt, an uncle, you're shepherding. If you're in a small group, you're shepherding. If you cook a meal for someone on the pastoral care team, you are shepherding. If you listen to a friend who's struggling, you're shepherding. If you're welcoming someone, a newcomer into this church, you are shepherding. If you help greet or usher or lead worship or serve coffee, you are in a way shepherding. All of us are involved in this ministry together.
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#WeAreAllShepherds
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