Happy Holy Home: "The Foundation" | Ephesians 5:21-33

And so as you look at this, the point of this is if you think I'm gonna stand up here pretending to be a perfect husband that I am not, I am not going to lie to you and I'm not going to sugarcoat it, but I'm also going to say that years of marriage and the commitment of my wife to help me see how inconsiderate I've been has helped. And to tell you, you need to consider your wife [00:20:16] (29 seconds)  #ConsiderYourWife

And then finally, Colossians one twenty two, but now he, this is God, the Lord, has reconciled you by Christ's physical body through death to present you holy in his sight without blemish and free from accusation. Wherever you're at today, you are forgiven and loved by God. The past, if if you have opportunity to talk about that, you can look in that rearview mirror, but then continue to move forward, forward in in the love and forgiveness of Jesus Christ. [00:37:23] (34 seconds)  #ForgivenAndLoved

But then with the interviews they've done for those who pray together on a daily or regular basis throughout the week, the number interviewed was one in fifteen hundred and in divorce. One in fifteen hundred. So husbands, as you are considering being considerate of your wives, maybe the single most important question you can ask her is, what can I pray for you today, and can we pray for it together? [00:38:46] (40 seconds)  #PrayTogetherSaveMarriage

And surprise, surprise, this is the one that God encourages us to have. It is the it is the one that he has with us. It is the one that he wants us to have with one another. And that covenantal relationship based on love and commitment, the same commitment that God has shown to you by giving his son to be your savior, that covenantal committed love for an eternity, the promise to love now and in the future, that is the relationship that god calls us to have in a marriage. [00:13:25] (36 seconds)  #CovenantLoveMarriage

You can write this in the fill in, and that is me first makes a mess. Me first makes a mess, but you first makes us blessed. Me first makes a mess. You're not going to get what you want. I know you think that's the way to get a happy home or at least to make you happy, but it's not. Me first makes a mess, but you first makes us blessed. And when you have two a husband and wife arguing about who's more blessed to be married to each other, when you have a husband and wife honoring about who can serve the other one, those are good arguments to be part of. [00:35:52] (42 seconds)  #YouFirstBlessedUs

That that when you realize that when you're when you love your wife, she you might think, oh, she's winning. You're winning. There is no lose win in a marriage. There is no situation where your wife loses and you win. When that happens, you both lose. It's just the way it is. The two become one. That's what marriage is all about. [00:24:52] (28 seconds)  #TwoBecomeOne

That that that relationship and that's why when this life is over, I know sometimes it's hard to imagine that we go to heaven and and marriage lasts a lifetime till death parts us. But when we go to heaven, we will all be single in in a sense that that that the marriage bond is no longer there. But everything that this marriage bond gives us the opportunity to serve and love reciprocally, we will enjoy perfectly with God in heaven. That's why this applies all of us because all that marriage does is get us ready for that. [00:08:00] (39 seconds)  #MarriagePreparesForHeaven

And so in essence, with first Corinthians 13, we redeem it, if you wanna call it that. When we recognize first Corinthians 13 is about how we deal with each other as the church. Recognizing that we are loved by God, that we're so different with different backgrounds, different gifts, all of that thing all of those things that when we come together, we're gonna need love to do it. [00:04:44] (28 seconds)  #LoveRedeemsUs

And so I I hope you there's a saying we use sometimes, do for one what you wish you could do for everyone. And so that sometimes happens if if you see someone who who needs financial help or they they needs help in some way. You help them. You you realize you can't do it for everyone, but you can do it for that one. And what the the picture that's being painted with this is that we're we're supposed to love each other as the church with all our diversity and all the differences. And now what marriage does is allows one person to stand alongside of you and love her, love him, like you wish you could love all of the people. [00:05:59] (49 seconds)  #DoForOne

So so that means in the way that you live, in the way that you follow Christ, and you you show that relationship with Christ because it will win him over. Seeing how you are loved by Christ and how you show love and reverence for Christ in the way that you live by someone who's living life right alongside you, preaches sermon volumes that that you could never share with them. [00:30:44] (24 seconds)  #LiveLoveLikeChrist

And understand, submitting is a is a term that's used in the military to fall in behind someone. And it's the way that a group of individuals, when they fall in behind a leader, can act as one. And when you see a group marching, and and if you've ever seen that, wow. It's amazing watching when they're following the lead of one, They can do that. And so the way that this works, understand, is that that Jesus in his lifetime submitted to the father. Right? [00:31:55] (31 seconds)  #SubmitLikeAMilitaryUnit

And so in essence, with first Corinthians 13, we redeem it, if you wanna call it that. When we recognize first Corinthians 13 is about how we deal with each other as the church. Recognizing that we are loved by God, that we're so different with different backgrounds, different gifts, all of that thing all of those things that when we come together, we're gonna need love to do it. [00:04:44] (28 seconds)  #RedeemWithLove

And so I I hope you there's a saying we use sometimes, do for one what you wish you could do for everyone. And so that sometimes happens if if you see someone who who needs financial help or they they needs help in some way. You help them. You you realize you can't do it for everyone, but you can do it for that one. And what the the picture that's being painted with this is that we're we're supposed to love each other as the church with all our diversity and all the differences. And now what marriage does is allows one person to stand alongside of you and love her, love him, like you wish you could love all of the people. [00:05:59] (49 seconds)  #ServeOnePerson

And understand, submitting is a is a term that's used in the military to fall in behind someone. And it's the way that a group of individuals, when they fall in behind a leader, can act as one. And when you see a group marching, and and if you've ever seen that, wow. It's amazing watching when they're following the lead of one, They can do that. And so the way that this works, understand, is that that Jesus in his lifetime submitted to the father. Right? [00:31:55] (31 seconds)  #FollowOneLeader

You guys, I am like the most inconsiderate person when it comes to things that I wanna do that get me excited, and I don't think about anyone but me. And that makes for in that night and the next day, I would call unhappy, unholy hell that I got to come home to, and that was my own making. [00:19:51] (26 seconds)  #ConfessionOfInconsideration

Tanya will tell you there are things that she'll tell me and suggest 20 times for us to do at church. And one of you will tell me on the patio, and I'm like, wow. This is a great idea. And then I'll tell her, and she's like, I've told you 20 times. And now someone else tells you, and and what it shows is a disrespect. You're not list you wanna show respect? Listen. Listen to what they are saying to you, what your spouse is saying to you. And again, I need to do this with everyone, but I also have this opportunity to do with this one person in front of me. [00:21:31] (34 seconds)  #ListenToYourSpouse

My go to emotion is anger. It always is every day when things don't go my way. And I understand I can't be harsh at church because if I do that on the patio, none of you will come back. And so what happens is when I get frustrated and then and I come home and I'm mad, I'm harsh, taking out my day on my family. And and what does that do? It it destroys the relationship. [00:22:09] (30 seconds)  #AngerDestroysRelationships

Contractual relationship is the relationship I have with Verizon. We have a contract. I pay a certain dollar amount a month. They make sure that I have my services for phone and Internet and things like that. And the only time we talk is if there's a problem. If they don't get their payment, someone's calling me, emailing me, wondering what's going on. And if I don't get the reception that I want or there's a problem with my phone or whatever it is, or I don't feel like I'm being charged properly, I'm calling them. [00:12:21] (33 seconds)  #ContractualVsRelational

And so as you look at this, the point of this is if you think I'm gonna stand up here pretending to be a perfect husband that I am not, I am not going to lie to you and I'm not going to sugarcoat it, but I'm also going to say that years of marriage and the commitment of my wife to help me see how inconsiderate I've been has helped. And to tell you, you need to consider your wife [00:20:16] (29 seconds)  #ConsiderYourWifeAgain

And so in essence, with first Corinthians 13, we redeem it, if you wanna call it that. When we recognize first Corinthians 13 is about how we deal with each other as the church. Recognizing that we are loved by God, that we're so different with different backgrounds, different gifts, all of that thing all of those things that when we come together, we're gonna need love to do it. [00:04:44] (28 seconds)  #LoveRedeemsChurch