Engaging the Next Generation: Nurturing Faith and Connection

 

Summary

### Summary

Today, we explored the critical topic of how to lose the next generation, both within our families and our church community. We began by discussing the importance of creating a nurturing environment for our children. A rigid, overly strict atmosphere can stifle their courage and confidence, leading to discouragement and resentment. We referenced Colossians 3:21, which advises parents not to provoke their children to anger, emphasizing the need for a balanced approach that includes grace and understanding.

We also touched on the importance of open communication. Children need to feel safe to express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. This means being available and approachable, even at inconvenient times. We shared personal anecdotes to illustrate how crucial it is to seize these moments of connection.

Next, we discussed the significance of authenticity in our faith. Children and young people have a keen sense of detecting hypocrisy. They are more likely to be drawn to genuine, authentic expressions of faith rather than a facade. We must practice what we preach, not just in church but in our daily lives.

We also highlighted the importance of making the church a safe space for difficult conversations. Topics like doubt, gender confusion, and other sensitive issues should be openly discussed within the church community. This openness can prevent our youth from seeking answers in potentially harmful places.

Finally, we emphasized the need for a supportive church environment that actively engages with the younger generation. This includes having dedicated groups and activities that cater to their spiritual and emotional needs. We shared our vision for a youth center that would serve as a third place for young people, providing them with a safe and supportive environment outside of home and school.

### Key Takeaways

1. Creating a Nurturing Environment: A home or church environment that is too rigid and strict can stifle a child's courage and confidence. Colossians 3:21 advises parents not to provoke their children to anger, emphasizing the need for a balanced approach that includes grace and understanding. A nurturing environment fosters growth and resilience. [42:34]

2. Open Communication: Children need to feel safe to express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. This means being available and approachable, even at inconvenient times. Open communication is crucial for maintaining a strong, healthy relationship with your children. [54:11]

3. Authenticity in Faith: Children and young people have a keen sense of detecting hypocrisy. They are more likely to be drawn to genuine, authentic expressions of faith rather than a facade. Practicing what we preach, both in church and in our daily lives, is essential for fostering a genuine faith in the next generation. [07:07]

4. Safe Space for Difficult Conversations: The church should be a safe space for discussing difficult topics like doubt, gender confusion, and other sensitive issues. Open and honest conversations within the church community can prevent our youth from seeking answers in potentially harmful places. [03:51]

5. Supportive Church Environment: A supportive church environment that actively engages with the younger generation is crucial. This includes having dedicated groups and activities that cater to their spiritual and emotional needs. Our vision for a youth center aims to provide a safe and supportive environment for young people outside of home and school. [01:00:59]

### YouTube Chapters

[0:00] - Welcome
[32:17] - Impact of Giving
[35:34] - Youth Takeover Sunday
[36:06] - Community Event: One Pill Can Kill
[37:16] - Mission Trips and Prayer
[39:25] - How to Lose Your Kid
[41:00] - Creating a Nurturing Environment
[42:34] - Colossians 3:21: Do Not Provoke Your Children
[45:08] - Importance of Fun and Grace
[47:41] - Balancing Rules and Grace
[48:54] - Long-Term Parenting Goals
[49:23] - Proverbs 17:22: A Cheerful Heart
[52:41] - Importance of Open Communication
[54:11] - Seizing Moments of Connection
[58:08] - Psalm 1:1-3: Blessed Are Those
[01:00:02] - Engaging the Next Generation
[01:01:27] - Vision for a Youth Center
[01:03:21] - Making Church a Safe Space
[01:04:23] - Authenticity in Faith
[01:07:07] - Practicing What We Preach
[01:12:12] - Real-Life Examples of Faith
[01:14:18] - Prayer and Baptisms
[01:28:17] - Holy Spirit and Closing Remarks

Study Guide

### Bible Reading
1. Colossians 3:21: "Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged."
2. Proverbs 17:22: "A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones."
3. Psalm 1:1-3: "Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord, and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither—whatever they do prospers."

### Observation Questions
1. According to Colossians 3:21, what specific instruction is given to fathers, and what is the intended outcome? ([42:04])
2. In Proverbs 17:22, what is described as "good medicine," and what is the effect of a "crushed spirit"? ([49:23])
3. Psalm 1:1-3 describes a person who is blessed. What are the characteristics of this person, and what are the results of their actions? ([58:08])
4. What are some examples given in the sermon of creating a nurturing environment for children? ([41:00])

### Interpretation Questions
1. How does the instruction in Colossians 3:21 about not provoking children to anger relate to creating a nurturing environment in both the home and the church? ([42:04])
2. Proverbs 17:22 mentions that a cheerful heart is good medicine. How can this principle be applied to foster a positive atmosphere in our homes and church communities? ([49:23])
3. Psalm 1:1-3 speaks about the blessings of delighting in the law of the Lord. How can this be practically implemented in our daily lives to influence the next generation positively? ([58:08])
4. The sermon emphasized the importance of authenticity in faith. Why is authenticity crucial for engaging the next generation, and how can hypocrisy be detrimental? ([01:04:23])

### Application Questions
1. Reflect on your home environment. Are there areas where you might be too rigid or strict, potentially discouraging your children? How can you incorporate more grace and understanding? ([41:00])
2. Think about your communication with your children or younger members of your church. Are you approachable and available for them to express their thoughts and feelings? What steps can you take to improve open communication? ([54:11])
3. Authenticity in faith is vital. Are there areas in your life where you might be presenting a facade rather than genuine faith? How can you practice what you preach more consistently? ([01:04:23])
4. Consider the church environment. Are there difficult topics that you feel are not being addressed openly? How can you contribute to making the church a safe space for these conversations? ([01:03:21])
5. Reflect on the balance between rules and grace in your parenting or leadership style. How can you ensure that there is room for fun and failure, fostering a cheerful heart as described in Proverbs 17:22? ([49:23])
6. The sermon mentioned the vision for a youth center as a third place for young people. How can you support or get involved in initiatives that provide a safe and supportive environment for the younger generation? ([01:01:27])
7. Think about a recent interaction with a young person in your life. How did you handle it? What could you do differently next time to ensure they feel heard and valued? ([54:11])

Devotional

Day 1: Cultivating a Nurturing Environment
A nurturing environment is essential for the growth and resilience of children. A home or church that is overly rigid and strict can stifle a child's courage and confidence, leading to discouragement and resentment. Colossians 3:21 advises parents not to provoke their children to anger, emphasizing the need for a balanced approach that includes grace and understanding. This balance fosters an atmosphere where children feel safe to explore, make mistakes, and grow.

Creating such an environment involves more than just setting rules; it requires a foundation of love, patience, and open communication. When children know they are loved unconditionally, they are more likely to develop a strong sense of self-worth and resilience. This nurturing atmosphere also extends to the church community, where young people should feel supported and encouraged in their spiritual journey. [42:34]

Ephesians 6:4 (ESV): "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

Reflection: How can you create a more nurturing environment in your home or church community today? What specific actions can you take to balance discipline with grace and understanding?


Day 2: Embracing Open Communication
Open communication is crucial for maintaining a strong, healthy relationship with your children. Children need to feel safe to express their thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment. This means being available and approachable, even at inconvenient times. When children know they can come to you with anything, it builds trust and strengthens your bond.

Seizing moments of connection, even when they are unexpected, can make a significant difference. These moments are opportunities to listen, understand, and guide your children. By being present and attentive, you show them that their thoughts and feelings matter. This open communication lays the foundation for a lifelong relationship built on trust and mutual respect. [54:11]

James 1:19 (ESV): "Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger."

Reflection: Think of a recent moment when your child or a young person in your life tried to communicate with you. How did you respond? How can you improve your approach to ensure they feel heard and valued?


Day 3: Living an Authentic Faith
Children and young people have a keen sense of detecting hypocrisy. They are more likely to be drawn to genuine, authentic expressions of faith rather than a facade. Practicing what we preach, both in church and in our daily lives, is essential for fostering a genuine faith in the next generation. Authenticity in faith means living out your beliefs consistently and transparently.

When children see that your faith is real and impacts your daily decisions and actions, they are more likely to be inspired to develop their own relationship with God. This authenticity also involves admitting when you make mistakes and showing how you seek forgiveness and growth. By modeling a genuine faith, you provide a powerful example for the next generation to follow. [07:07]

1 John 3:18 (ESV): "Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth."

Reflection: Reflect on your daily actions and decisions. Are they consistent with the faith you profess? How can you demonstrate a more authentic faith to the young people in your life?


Day 4: Creating a Safe Space for Difficult Conversations
The church should be a safe space for discussing difficult topics like doubt, gender confusion, and other sensitive issues. Open and honest conversations within the church community can prevent our youth from seeking answers in potentially harmful places. By addressing these topics openly, we show that the church is a place where all questions and struggles are welcome.

Creating this safe space involves listening without judgment and providing compassionate guidance. It means being willing to tackle tough questions and offering biblical wisdom and support. When young people know they can bring their doubts and struggles to the church, they are more likely to stay connected and grow in their faith. [03:51]

Galatians 6:2 (ESV): "Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ."

Reflection: What difficult topics have you avoided discussing with the young people in your life? How can you create a safe space for these conversations within your church or home?


Day 5: Building a Supportive Church Environment
A supportive church environment that actively engages with the younger generation is crucial. This includes having dedicated groups and activities that cater to their spiritual and emotional needs. Our vision for a youth center aims to provide a safe and supportive environment for young people outside of home and school.

Engaging the next generation involves more than just providing programs; it requires building relationships and offering mentorship. By investing time and resources into creating spaces where young people feel valued and supported, we help them develop a strong foundation in their faith. This supportive environment encourages them to grow spiritually and emotionally, preparing them for the challenges of life. [01:00:59]

1 Thessalonians 5:11 (ESV): "Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing."

Reflection: How can you contribute to creating a more supportive environment for the young people in your church? What specific actions can you take to engage and mentor the next generation?

Quotes

### Quotes for Outreach

1. "You know, Jesus said It is more blessed to give Than to receive And this is what I know about you You, my friend, are the best You're blessed Listen, thank you for your generosity Hey, if you're out there I want to ask you a question Are you partnering with us? If not, why not download the app And start today? Today, we can start facilitating More miracles together." [32:17](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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2. "Fentanyl is something that maybe you're not aware of But it's an epidemic nationally But right here in Virginia And believe it or not, in Loudoun County Just an example of that One school, I won't mention the school But in October, in one month alone One school had eight overdoses Fentanyl is something that we need to talk about And get educated about So Tuesday, in this room It's a community event Would you do a favor for me? Facebook, social media, blast this Right now, get the information Right now, I'm serious You're asking me Yes, get as many families and people There's a whole education on what's happening there And I will be leading a panel discussion As a part of that event as well." [36:06](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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3. "I want my kids to enjoy And want to hang around me Even when they don't have to Yeah, why don’t you think about that? My goal of parenting is that I want my kids to not Oh, it’s Thanksgiving Oh, God to go see mom Have to go see dad It’s Christmas time You do the obligatory What if we could start right now With the end in mind I want my kids to want To around me And to look forward to be To being close to us." [48:19](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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4. "A cheerful heart A what kind of heart? A A A We're talking about laughter in a home Is like what? Is like what? Someone we could stop right here And your home desperately needs This in it much pressure Too much No joy No No laughter No No environment Where that's That's free to happen Look what this Proverbs says It is slow death To be gloomy And sad All the time." [49:23](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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5. "This is a place Where we have joy And laughter And it's good medicine Of the soul Because there's enough Bad medicine On the outside Are you here? In Jesus' name So creating that environment Is important." [52:20](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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### Quotes for Members

1. "If you have a child That's not where he or she ought to be Maybe walking away from good things in their lives Please hear this This is not an accusation This message isn't meant to say anything against you Just you being here is a sign That you're trying to be a good parent Come on, parents Can I hear a good amen? And children And children reach a point in their life Where they need to make some decisions On their own And the direction they're going." [39:58](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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2. "What are the top things that you would suggest If I really wanted to blow it Lose my kid If we as a church wanted to lose the next generation Here are some thoughts Number one This is the very first thing I want to suggest to you Is that we would create an environment That's too hard and rigid What are you talking about, Pastor Charlie? I'm talking about We would create an environment That takes the courage and confidence out of kids In other words, it discourages them Dad's on edge Mom's mad Everybody in the home's tired Exhausted I'm growing up in this environment Where it seems that I can't really do anything right Or that's good." [40:30](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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3. "If we really want to lose the next generation Whatever happens Number two This is important Whatever happens Is make sure That they're not talking to you They can talk to anybody They can talk to influencers They can get advice From influencers They can get advice From TikTok They can get advice From Facebook From an adult online They can get advice From their friends They can get advice From a teacher But whatever happens I'm serious Really want to lose them Make sure Create an environment There it is Create an environment Where their thoughts Their feelings Their questions Are dumb to you Can't express it Can't talk to you They know your mind's Made up anyway Wouldn't even feel safe To talk to you About that." [52:41](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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4. "Lastly, if you were to ask me What in the world would we do to Lose a generation Lose a generation Lose our kids It'd be as simple as just being a fake Not being real Not practicing You've heard this before Not practicing what we preach It's unbelievable Middle school, high school children They have a sixth sense Of when something's not authentic Real And yet they seem to be They gravitate towards something that's Genuine Real, authentic Especially when it comes to Christianity and your relationship with God Is that real?" [01:04:23](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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5. "Our kids have the ability To know what we really value What do I mean by value? They know what we really worship Some of us in here, honestly reason why our life Doesn't have that attractional pull Is because maybe we're saying one thing That we value, we worship But we really don't How about today? Upon the things of God And Lord, if that's not true I want to set the example And I just say, Lord, I repent And I come to you Because it's so easy In this environment we live in To get off track." [01:11:12](Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)
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