Emmanuel: God With Us in Our Messy Families

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Day 1: Jesus Enters Our Messy Families With Hope

Christmas is not a celebration of perfect people but of a perfect Savior stepping into chaos with love. Jesus arrived during a census, with his family traveling nearly a hundred miles, dependent on others’ kindness, and he was laid in an animal’s feeding trough. He knows the strain of complicated family stories, the uncertainty of displacement, and the awkwardness of needing help. He draws near not to shame but to save, not to scold but to shepherd. You are not the only one with a messy family; you are the one Jesus came to be with. Let this be the season you welcome Him right into the middle of it. [33:49]

Galatians 4:4–5 — When the set time arrived, God sent his Son, born from a woman and placed under the demands of the law, to buy freedom for those under the law so that we could be received as His children.

Reflection: What is one concrete way you can make room for Jesus in a messy family moment this week—perhaps a brief prayer before a hard conversation, a loving boundary, or a quiet word of blessing?

Day 2: He Knows Shame, Rejection, And Still Pursues

Jesus understands small-town whispers and family reputations that won’t go away. He grew up under suspicion and later faced the fury of His own hometown when He spoke the truth, yet He did not turn bitter or walk away from His mission. Emmanuel means He is with you in your humiliation, misunderstanding, and hurt. He does not minimize your pain; He carries it and keeps walking with you. When others push you to the edge, He holds you fast and leads you forward. You can trust Him with the places that still sting. [35:50]

Luke 4:28–30 — When they heard His words, the people in the synagogue were enraged; they drove Him out to the edge of town to throw Him off a cliff, but He moved through the crowd and went on His way.

Reflection: Where do you feel misunderstood or dismissed by “your own people,” and how could you entrust that pain to Jesus and choose one humble, Christlike response this week?

Day 3: Naming Our Mess And Bringing It To The Cross

Scripture names the patterns that tear homes apart—sexual brokenness, addictions, simmering anger, envy, divisions, deceit, and more. None of this surprises God, and none of it is beyond the reach of the cross. Jesus took the whole pile—yours, mine, and our family’s failures—onto Himself and paid for it in full. Confession is not a performance; it’s the doorway to freedom. Bring your specific sins to Him and receive His specific grace. He is not shocked by your mess; He is the Savior for it. [40:58]

Galatians 5:19–21 — The acts of the self-led life are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity, unrestrained living, serving false gods, occult practices, hostility, quarrels, jealousy, angry outbursts, rivalries, divisions, envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and similar things. I warn you as I did before: those who make a home in these practices do not inherit God’s kingdom.

Reflection: Which one word from Paul’s list names a recent struggle in your home, and what is one step of repentance and repair you will take today?

Day 4: Adopted As Sons: Calling God 'Abba, Dad'

In Christ, you are not barely tolerated—you are adopted. God calls you “son,” meaning you are a full heir with full rights, whether you are male or female. He wants you near, not distant; He invites you to call Him “Abba,” the intimate word of a beloved child. Your past does not define your status; His promise does. Live from this secure identity and bring your whole self—sins, fears, and hopes—to your Father. He delights to hear your voice and to give you what you truly need. [47:07]

Galatians 4:6–7 — Because you are His children, God sent the Spirit of His Son into our hearts who cries, “Abba, Father!” So you are no longer a slave but a son; and if a son, then you are an heir through God.

Reflection: What keeps you from approaching God as “Dad,” and how could you practice saying “Abba” in a simple daily rhythm—upon waking, before a meeting, or at the dinner table?

Day 5: From Forgiven Family To Sent Family

God gathers a church that is loved and yet still learning, forgiven and yet still growing. He invites His people to the table of grace and then sends them to carry that grace into a hurting world. We come boldly to the throne to receive mercy, and we go gently to our neighbors to offer it. Some around us are wounded by religion or weary of life; they need the patient, humble presence of Jesus in us. Ask the Spirit for one name and one step, and trust Him to do the heart-work you cannot. You are forgiven, you are family, and you are sent. [54:13]

Hebrews 4:16 — So let us come with confidence to the throne where grace rules, so that we may receive mercy and find the help we need at just the right time.

Reflection: Who is one person on your heart who feels far from God or hurt by church, and what gentle step—an apology, a meal, a listening ear, or an invitation—could you take this week?

Sermon Summary

Christmas declares that God stepped into a very real, very messy world. Not a staged set with perfect families and polished reputations, but a census-disrupted home, a manger for a crib, a refugee flight, a small-town stigma, and a hometown ready to throw stones. The incarnation means God-with-us in all of it—misunderstood backgrounds, whispered rumors, and the ache of not fitting. He knows what it is to be the one everyone whispers about, and to carry the weight of being the “problem” relative. Yet he lived a perfect life inside that chaos, facing every temptation without surrender, so that his perfection could be given to the imperfect.

Galatians frames this as rescue and adoption: born under the law to redeem those under the law, so that the guilty become heirs. This is more than a legal fix; it is a family reality. Those clothed in Christ’s righteousness are welcomed to call the Maker of heaven and earth “Abba—Dad.” That name signals nearness, not distance; presence, not performance; a Father eager to receive burdens, sins, shame, and grief. Even the hurts inflicted by religious people are not ignored. Christ died for those, too, insisting that broken churches do not cancel a faithful Savior. The family of God is a redeemed mess—still imperfect, yet washed, forgiven, and called.

This grace is meant to move outward. Forgiven people confess honestly, lay down pride, and bring their lives to the cross again and again. They pray for the suffering, honor those who serve, bless their enemies, and speak Jesus’ name into the lives of those who are far off. At the Table, Christ gives what he promises—his own body and blood for the forgiveness of sins—sustaining a weary family until he returns. The call is clear: bring the whole mess to Jesus. Receive adoption. Live as heirs. And learn to pray like children who trust their Father.

Key Takeaways

1. Jesus enters our family mess He chose a manger, a hurried relocation, and a scandal-shadowed town. That choice means no room in life is too unclean for his presence. He is not embarrassed by the places we hide; he inhabits them and begins new creation from the inside out. Solidarity is his strategy for salvation. [33:26]
2. He knows temptation, never surrendered He carried every pressure we carry—rejection, rumor, opportunity to retaliate—yet obeyed perfectly. That perfection is not merely an example; it is credited to sinners who trust him. His empathy is matched by authority, so he can both understand and rescue. [39:02]
3. Adoption secures full inheritance rights In Christ, the guilty become heirs—“adopted as sons” with full legal standing. This language levels status and erases the old shame economy; nothing and no one stands between the Father and his children. Grace does not just pardon; it places and provides. [45:49]
4. Call God “Abba,” not distant deity The gospel gives a new way to speak to God: not as a distant evaluator, but as Dad. That intimacy frees honest confession and fuels courage to love others without posturing. The Father’s welcome becomes the atmosphere in which holiness grows. [47:07]
5. Grace for wounds caused by church Religious hypocrisy stings deeply, but Christ is not the sum of his people’s failures. He suffered and died for those sins too, opening a path to healing without denial. Don’t let a wounded past rob you of the true Shepherd’s care. [40:58]

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[00:00] - Welcome
[14:32] - Opening Prayer: Come, Holy Spirit
[15:03] - Invocation and Nicene Creed
[31:25] - Christmas joy and family tensions
[33:26] - Why Jesus entered our mess
[35:50] - Rejected by his hometown
[36:38] - Naming the works of the flesh
[39:02] - Emmanuel: with us in temptation
[40:58] - When church wounds, Christ heals
[45:49] - Adoption means full inheritance
[47:07] - Abba: learning to call God “Dad”
[48:33] - Honest confession and repentance
[50:43] - Absolution: forgiven and free
[56:10] - Communion: Christ present to forgive
[74:55] - Benediction and sending

Bible Study Guide

Bible reading

- Galatians 4:4-7

But when the set time had fully come, God sent his Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those under the law, that we might receive adoption to sonship. Because you are his sons, God sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, the Spirit who calls out, “Abba, Father.” So you are no longer a slave, but God’s child; and since you are his child, God has made you also an heir.

Observation questions

In Galatians 4:4-7, list the steps God takes to save: What did God do, and in what order? (Hint: sent… born… under the law… redeem… adoption… Spirit… heir.)
Name the specific “messy” details that surrounded Jesus’ birth and early life that were mentioned: the relocation, the first crib, the flight, the small-town stigma, and the hometown’s response ([35:50]).
In Galatians 4:6, what new, intimate name for God is given to believers, and what does that name communicate?
Which behaviors were named as “works of the flesh” that often fracture families today? Identify two or three from the list that you see most in real life ([36:38]).

Interpretation questions

“Born under the law… to redeem those who were under the law.” How does this speak into guilt and shame? What does it mean that adoption—not just pardon—stands at the heart of salvation in Galatians 4:4-7?
Jesus stepped into a very ordinary, very messy family story. How does his solidarity with us reshape what we expect God to do in our own hard places ([33:49])?
If the Spirit leads us to call God “Abba—Dad,” how should that change the tone of our prayers and confessions—from fear and performance to nearness and trust ([47:07])?
Church wounds are real, yet Christ remains faithful. What theological reasons ground this claim, and how can someone hold both truths at once ([40:58])?

Application questions

Family can be beautiful and stressful all at once. Where do you feel that strain right now, and what would it look like to invite Jesus into that exact place this week (a conversation, a boundary, an apology, a prayer) ([31:25])?
When the “works of the flesh” show up—anger, jealousy, division, drunkenness—what is one specific moment from the last month you can name? What would it mean to bring that moment to the cross and ask for a different response next time ([36:38])?
Adoption means full inheritance. In a place where shame usually speaks loudest, what is one “inheritance truth” you will claim this week (forgiven, wanted, supplied, not alone)? How will you remind yourself daily—perhaps by praying Galatians 4:6 and calling God “Dad” out loud ([45:49])?
If you’ve been hurt by Christians or by a church, what is one gentle next step toward healing you can take—naming the hurt to someone safe, asking for prayer, seeking counsel, or risking re-engagement with wise boundaries ([40:58])?
Jesus knows temptation and pressure but did not surrender. Where are you feeling pressure to lash out, to numb, or to hide? What is one concrete practice you will choose instead (a cooling-off walk, a 3-minute breath prayer, sending a blessing text) ([39:02])?
Who is one person on your heart who is far from God? What is one simple act of love you can offer this week, and what is one natural way you could speak Jesus’ name to them (a story, an invitation, a prayer offered) ([54:13])?
At the Table, Jesus gives what he promises—his own body and blood for the forgiveness of sins. Before you come next time, what will you confess by name, and which promise will you hold onto as you receive (forgiveness, peace, strength) ([56:10])?

Sermon Clips

Christmas. Jesus came. And Jesus came at a crazy time. Jesus came in the middle of a census where the family had to move 95 miles from where they would normally be living. They had to go and trust the grace of family members to take them in. This particular family came together. Jesus was born into it in a stable, in a manger, in a cave, whatever it was, but He was laid in a trough where animals feed. That was His first bed. This is a mess of a family, right? [00:33:46] (35 seconds) #BornIntoImperfectFamily

Jesus knows what it is to have a stepdad. Jesus knows what it is to be a little child and have to escape your home and go off to a foreign land and be an immigrant to come into that place and again need the grace of others to be able to make it. Jesus knows what it is to grow up in a small town. [00:34:21] (27 seconds) #JesusUnderstoodImmigrantLife

``That one. Look at him. He was born out of wedlock. That guy he's with not really his dad. Did you know they sometimes say God came upon him? And that's how Mary bore him? Can you believe that? Did you know that the other day he came into our place of worship and there he proclaimed that I am the one that Isaiah was talking about? That same Jesus the one who was born? Why? To take all of our mess upon himself. [00:38:38] (52 seconds) #MessTakenByJesus

When he says he is Emmanuel God with us he is the one who says I am not just with you I know what it's like to go through all the things that you're going through I have felt it I've suffered it I've known it I've even known the temptations that you face the only difference between me and you is I didn't give in and I did that for you. [00:39:30] (19 seconds) #EmmanuelUnderstands

some of us have also been damaged by the church some of us maybe grew up in Christian churches but things happened in that place or leaders in that church did things that made you just feel horrible about the whole thing they were hypocrites they said things they did things that were just wrong Jesus died for that too I want you to know something today the church the bride of Christ we're a bit of a mess we're a family that's a mess [00:41:11] (47 seconds) #ChurchIsMessyToo

sometimes you walk in here and you're going oh if they only knew everything that we had been doing they would not let us in no I want you to look around you know what he's doing look around you those families you see near you they've got some messes they've got some stuff that they're embarrassed of they've got some stuff that they have done that they don't like how do I know? Jesus hasn't come back yet it's a mess but it's loved [00:41:58] (46 seconds) #LovedDespiteTheMess

claimed by God the Father because he loves you that's what you see in this room people who are adopted and made children of God it's an incredible thing because of what Jesus has done God looks at you and knows all your mess and he says I forgive it because of my son and I make you my child when you look around this room the other thing that you see are children of God people adopted welcomed into the family [00:43:12] (34 seconds) #AdoptedByGrace

that is what God has said over you so ladies it's good to be a son right now and gentlemen let me tell you something else you're part of the church and the church is the bride of Christ so men it's good to be a bride sometimes this is who we are in Christ because God says so you are a child of God you are loved [00:46:39] (28 seconds) #ChildOfGodForEveryone

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Emmanuel: God With Us in Our Messy Families

Devotional

Day 1: Jesus Enters Our Messy Families With Hope

Day 2: He Knows Shame, Rejection, And Still Pursues

Day 3: Naming Our Mess And Bringing It To The Cross

Day 4: Adopted As Sons: Calling God 'Abba, Dad'

Day 5: From Forgiven Family To Sent Family

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Emmanuel: God With Us in Our Messy Families

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