Embracing the Journey: The Value of Slow Formation

 

Summary

As we enter a new season and the rhythms of fall, it’s easy to feel the pressure to move quickly, to seek shortcuts, and to measure our lives by the speed of our accomplishments. Yet, the story of Israel’s journey from Egypt to the Promised Land reminds us that God’s way is often the long road—a path marked by daily dependence, slow formation, and deep transformation. What could have been an 11-day trip became a 40-year journey, not because God was inefficient, but because he was intentional. He wasn’t just interested in getting Israel to a new place; he was committed to shaping them into a new people.

God’s guidance for Israel was visible and undeniable: pillars of cloud by day and fire by night. These weren’t just miraculous signs; they were daily reminders that life with God is not self-directed. The people moved when God moved, and they waited when God waited. This rhythm of dependence was designed to detox them from the patterns and idols of Egypt, to protect them from dangers they couldn’t see, and to prepare them for the life God had for them. The long road was not a detour—it was the design.

In our own lives, we are often tempted by the allure of shortcuts, whether in our careers, relationships, or spiritual growth. Our culture prizes speed, efficiency, and instant results, but God is more interested in our character than our pace. The slow, sometimes frustrating process of waiting, learning, and growing is God’s way of calibrating our hearts, ensuring that when we arrive at the next destination, we are ready to live in the way of Jesus.

We must resist the temptation to settle for a microwaved faith—quickly formed and easily deformed. Instead, we are called to a “slow-cooked” faith, one that is patiently developed through daily obedience, honest waiting, and deep community. This means asking not just “What’s next?” but “What’s left?”—what is God still teaching, forming, or inviting us into right where we are? In a world obsessed with shortcuts, the way of Jesus is different. It is a long obedience in the same direction, trusting that every delay, every detour, and every season of waiting is part of God’s gracious work in us.

Key Takeaways

- The Long Road Is God’s Design, Not a Detour
God intentionally led Israel on a 40-year journey rather than a quick route to the Promised Land. This was not inefficiency, but a deliberate process to shape their hearts, build their faith, and form them into a people who could truly live in freedom. In our lives, the slow and sometimes winding path is often where God does his deepest work, even when we long for shortcuts. [04:50]

- Daily Dependence Is the Foundation of Spiritual Growth
The pillars of cloud and fire were daily, visible reminders that Israel’s journey was not self-directed. God’s presence determined their pace, place, and priorities. In our own lives, true growth comes not from self-reliance or rushing ahead, but from learning to wait, listen, and move only as God leads, even when it feels inefficient or unclear. [19:48]

- God’s Delays Are Often Gracious Protections
Many of the detours, delays, and unanswered prayers in our lives are actually shields against dangers we cannot see or are not ready to face. God knows us more deeply than we know ourselves, and his “no” or “not yet” is often a gift that spares us from harm and prepares us for greater blessing. Reflecting on past disappointments can reveal God’s hidden mercies. [16:31]

- Formation Requires Patience and Resistance to Shortcuts
Our culture celebrates speed, hacks, and instant results, but spiritual formation is a slow, deliberate process. Like a meal in a crockpot, faith is meant to be “slow-cooked”—marinated in time, community, and obedience. Shortcuts may get us to a destination, but only patient formation prepares us to live well once we arrive. [27:04]

- Honest Self-Examination Leads to Deeper Surrender
It’s easy to look good on the outside while quietly taking shortcuts in our spiritual lives. God invites us to examine the places of quiet rebellion, where we’ve settled for less or avoided the slow work of transformation. True surrender means inviting God into every area, being willing to wait, and trusting that his strength is made perfect in our weakness. [28:51]

Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[01:10] - Back to School Bash & Praying for the Next Generation
[03:30] - The Temptation of Shortcuts in Everyday Life
[04:50] - Israel’s 40-Year Journey: God’s Purpose in the Long Road
[07:10] - God’s Miraculous Guidance: Pillars of Cloud and Fire
[09:51] - Shortcut Culture vs. God’s Slow Formation
[12:06] - Asking “What’s Left?” Instead of “What’s Next?”
[13:37] - The 40-Year Detox: Breaking Free from Egypt’s Influence
[15:19] - God’s Protection Through Delays and Detours
[16:31] - Gracious “No’s”: The Blessing of Unanswered Prayers
[18:02] - The Pillars Direct: Learning to Wait on God
[18:56] - The Tabernacle: Centering Life Around God’s Presence
[19:48] - Life with God Is Not Self-Directed
[21:05] - Recognizing God’s Direction in Hindsight
[23:13] - Modern Shortcuts: Technology, AI, and Spiritual Deformation
[27:04] - Slow-Cooked Faith vs. Microwaved Moments
[28:51] - Praying for Honest Surrender and Deeper Formation
[30:52] - Closing Prayer

Study Guide

Small Group Bible Study Guide: The Long Road with God

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### Bible Reading

Exodus 13:17-22 (ESV)
> When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them by way of the land of the Philistines, although that was near. For God said, “Lest the people change their minds when they see war and return to Egypt.” But God led the people around by the way of the wilderness toward the Red Sea. And the people of Israel went up out of the land of Egypt equipped for battle. Moses took the bones of Joseph with him, for Joseph had made the sons of Israel solemnly swear, saying, “God will surely visit you, and you shall carry up my bones with you from here.” And they moved on from Succoth and encamped at Etham, on the edge of the wilderness. And the LORD went before them by day in a pillar of cloud to lead them along the way, and by night in a pillar of fire to give them light, that they might travel by day and by night. The pillar of cloud by day and the pillar of fire by night did not depart from before the people.

Numbers 9:15-23 (ESV)
> On the day that the tabernacle was set up, the cloud covered the tabernacle, the tent of the testimony. And at evening it was over the tabernacle like the appearance of fire until morning. So it was always: the cloud covered it by day and the appearance of fire by night. And whenever the cloud lifted from over the tent, after that the people of Israel set out, and in the place where the cloud settled down, there the people of Israel camped. At the command of the LORD the people of Israel set out, and at the command of the LORD they camped. As long as the cloud rested over the tabernacle, they remained in camp. Even when the cloud continued over the tabernacle many days, the people of Israel kept the charge of the LORD and did not set out. ... At the command of the LORD they camped, and at the command of the LORD they set out. They kept the charge of the LORD, at the command of the LORD by Moses.

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### Observation Questions

1. According to Exodus 13:17-18, why did God choose not to lead Israel by the shortest route to the Promised Land?
2. What visible signs did God provide to guide Israel during their journey, and how did these signs function in their daily lives? (Exodus 13:21-22; Numbers 9:15-23)
3. In the sermon, what were some of the reasons given for God intentionally taking Israel on a 40-year journey instead of a direct route? [04:50]
4. How did the Israelites know when to move and when to stay during their time in the wilderness? (Numbers 9:17-23; [19:48])

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### Interpretation Questions

1. What does the long, winding journey through the wilderness reveal about God’s priorities for His people, both then and now? [04:50]
2. How might the daily dependence on the pillars of cloud and fire have shaped Israel’s relationship with God? What does this suggest about the role of dependence in spiritual growth? [19:48]
3. The sermon mentions that God’s delays and detours are often gracious protections. How does this perspective challenge the way people typically view disappointment or unanswered prayers? [16:31]
4. In what ways does the “shortcut culture” described in the sermon conflict with the process of spiritual formation God desires for His people? [09:51]

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### Application Questions

1. Can you identify an area in your life where you are tempted to take shortcuts rather than trust God’s timing? What would it look like to embrace the “long road” in that area? [09:51]
2. The Israelites had daily, visible reminders of God’s presence. What are some ways you can create daily reminders of God’s guidance and presence in your own life? [19:48]
3. Think about a time when a delay or detour in your life turned out to be a form of God’s protection or preparation. How did that experience shape your faith? [16:31]
4. The sermon challenges us to ask “What’s left?” instead of “What’s next?” In your current season, what might God still be teaching or forming in you? [12:06]
5. Are there areas of “quiet rebellion” or spiritual shortcuts in your life that you need to honestly examine and surrender to God? What steps can you take this week to invite God into those places? [28:51]
6. Our culture values speed and efficiency, but God values character and deep transformation. What practical changes could you make to slow down and allow God to “slow-cook” your faith? [27:04]
7. Who in your life could benefit from your patience and presence as you walk the long road with God? How can you invest in them this week, even if it feels inefficient? [12:06]

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Closing Prayer Suggestion:
Invite the group to pray for patience, trust, and a willingness to embrace God’s timing and process, even when it feels slow or unclear. Ask God to reveal any areas where shortcuts have replaced dependence, and to help each person walk in “a long obedience in the same direction.”

Devotional

Day 1: The Long Road with God Beats Any Shortcut Without Him
God intentionally led Israel on a forty-year journey through the wilderness, not because He was inefficient, but because He was committed to shaping their hearts, building their faith, and teaching them dependence on Him. The journey was not a detour but the very design God used to transform a people who had been enslaved for centuries into a community ready to live in His promises. In our own lives, we often crave shortcuts and quick fixes, but God’s way is often slower, deeper, and more purposeful, ensuring that when we arrive at our destination, we do so with the right heart and character. [04:50]

Exodus 13:17-18 (ESV)
When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them by way of the land of the Philistines, although that was near. For God said, “Lest the people change their minds when they see war and return to Egypt.” But God led the people around by the way of the wilderness toward the Red Sea. And the people of Israel went up out of the land of Egypt equipped for battle.

Reflection: Where in your life are you tempted to take a shortcut instead of trusting God’s slower, deeper process, and what would it look like to surrender that area to His timing today?


Day 2: God’s Presence Guides and Directs Our Steps
God’s presence with Israel was made visible through the pillars of cloud by day and fire by night, leading them when to move and when to stay. This daily, tangible guidance was a reminder that life with God is not self-directed; instead, we are called to follow His lead, even when it means waiting or moving in unexpected ways. Today, while we may not have visible pillars, God still desires to direct our pace, place, and priorities if we are willing to listen and wait on Him. [18:56]

Numbers 9:17-18 (ESV)
Whenever the cloud lifted from over the tent, after that the people of Israel set out, and in the place where the cloud settled down, there the people of Israel camped. At the command of the Lord the people of Israel set out, and at the command of the Lord they camped. As long as the cloud rested over the tabernacle, they remained in camp.

Reflection: Is there an area of your life where you sense God asking you to wait or move differently than you planned, and how can you practice listening for His direction this week?


Day 3: God’s Delays Are Often Gracious Protections
Many of the delays, detours, and unanswered prayers in our lives are actually God’s gracious shields, protecting us from dangers we cannot see and preparing us for blessings we are not yet ready to receive. Just as God protected Israel from returning to Egypt and from the threats of their past, He lovingly reroutes us, even when we don’t understand, so that we might avoid pitfalls and grow in character. Looking back, we can often see how God’s “no” or “not yet” was a gift, even if it was hard to accept in the moment. [16:31]

Proverbs 16:9 (ESV)
The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.

Reflection: Can you recall a time when a delay or disappointment turned out to be God’s protection or preparation for you, and how does that shape your trust in Him today?


Day 4: Slow-Cooked Faith Forms Deep Character
In a culture obsessed with speed, efficiency, and instant results, God invites us into a slow-cooked faith—a long obedience in the same direction that forms deep character and lasting transformation. Just as a crockpot meal takes time to develop rich flavors, spiritual growth requires patience, intentional rhythms, and a willingness to say no to shortcuts. The world may offer microwavable versions of success and spirituality, but only the slow, deliberate work of God produces the kind of people who can truly live in the way of Jesus. [27:54]

James 1:2-4 (ESV)
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

Reflection: What is one spiritual practice or relationship you can invest in more patiently this week, resisting the urge for quick results and trusting God’s slow work in you?


Day 5: God’s Strength Is Made Perfect in Our Weakness
While the world encourages us to mask our weaknesses and pursue strength through technology or shortcuts, God’s Word reminds us that His power is made perfect in our weakness. True spiritual formation happens when we bring our vulnerabilities and limitations to God, allowing Him to shape us through dependence, humility, and surrender. Rather than hiding or compensating for our weaknesses, we are invited to trust that God can use them for His glory and our good. [30:52]

2 Corinthians 12:9 (ESV)
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Reflection: What weakness or area of struggle can you bring honestly before God today, asking Him to show His strength through it instead of trying to hide or fix it yourself?

Quotes

``See, God knew that if they arrived without faith, without unity, and without dependence on him, that he was building in them along the way over the course of decades after centuries in captivity, that the promised land would just become another version of Egypt. Some of us, we need the exact same lesson today as we head into this fall with expectations that can feel so heavy, with accomplishments that we're hoping to achieve that will let us down over and over again if we're not careful. Ultimately, Israel learned the same lesson that we need to. And that is that the long road with God beats any shortcut without him. [00:05:31] (38 seconds)  #FaithUnityDependenceFirst Edit Clip

What if we stopped asking the question of Silicon Valley, which is what's next? And what if more we ask the question, what's left? Instead of going, God, when can I get that promotion? When can I jump to the next organization? When can I upgrade this person? When can I get that lifestyle upgrade? When can I get the new and better this? What if instead we said, God, what's left? What's left for me to learn in the situation that I'm in? What's left for me to grow in where I am or who I'm with? What's left for me to be shaped by in the season that you have me in? Who is left for me to invest in? [00:12:24] (32 seconds)  #WhatsLeftNotWhatsNext Edit Clip

God's long road, it still protects us today. I wonder what prayer requests weren't granted, milestones not achieved, timelines not met, grades that you grieved over in the moment, that in eternity you will see those delays as gracious shields against greater harm, unseen detours that kept you from danger you didn't anticipate, gentle reroutings that prepared you for blessing that you're not currently ready to receive. [00:15:59] (32 seconds)  #GraciousDelays Edit Clip

It was a daily and visible reminder of something that is still true today. We just don't have as clear a reminder of it. Here's the reminder we need that life with God is not self -directed. That's still true today. You don't just follow your gut, Menlo. We follow our God. And when you're not sure, oftentimes the right answer is to wait. [00:20:12] (23 seconds)  #CalibrationNotInefficiency Edit Clip

Remember the long road with God, it beats any shortcut without him. The question is, do you believe that? There are so many people throughout Menlo that could come join me on stage right now and share the dangers and the unnecessary pain of taking the shortcuts that they've tried personally, or living through the wreckage of the pain caused by loved ones doing the same thing. [00:22:02] (23 seconds)  #RejectMicrowavedMoments Edit Clip

God's long road, it isn't inefficiency. It's calibration. He's aligning your heart so that when you arrive, you actually know how to live in the way of Jesus, and that takes a long time. [00:24:22] (15 seconds)  #ReturnToWaitingTrust Edit Clip

Menlo, let's reject microwaved moments and let's choose slow cooking with God in our lives as we walk with him and we make space for the types of rhythm and community and growth that we've been talking about. We will look different. You will have to say no to some good stuff to say yes to the best stuff. For sure. It is inefficient. But remember, it's actually calibration. [00:28:09] (25 seconds) Edit Clip

But God has so much more for us. Something so much better for us if we'll simply return back and say, God, I'm willing to wait. I'm willing to listen to you. In a world that says, mask your weaknesses through technology to have greater strengths, the scriptures say that God's strength strength is made perfect in our weakness. Will you trust him with that today? It's just as true today as it's ever been before. [00:29:30] (36 seconds) Edit Clip

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