Embracing Spirituality in Marriage and Singleness
Summary
In 1 Corinthians chapter 7, Paul addresses a question from the Corinthians about the nature of spirituality and sexual relations. The underlying question is about what it means to be spiritual in the context of marriage and singleness. Paul clarifies that neither indulging in sexual immorality nor abstaining from sexual relations within marriage is the correct approach. Instead, he emphasizes the importance of commitment to one's marriage covenant. For those who are unmarried, Paul offers guidance, suggesting that remaining single can be beneficial due to the present distress, which could refer to a famine or the imminent return of Christ. This singleness offers freedom from certain difficulties and distractions that marriage might bring.
Paul's advice is not a command but a trustworthy judgment, recognizing that the Lord has not given a specific directive on this matter. He suggests that remaining unmarried can provide freedom from present difficulties, such as the challenges of supporting a family during a famine, and from potential distractions that can divide one's attention from serving the Lord. Paul emphasizes that the primary devotion of an unmarried person should be to God, allowing them to serve without the divided interests that marriage might entail.
Paul also addresses the cultural perception of marriage and singleness, noting that both are good and valid options. He encourages individuals to consider their circumstances, character, career, and calling when deciding whether to marry. Ultimately, Paul asserts that one's relationship status does not determine their spirituality. Whether married or unmarried, the focus should be on serving God faithfully in the role to which one is called.
Key Takeaways:
1. Spirituality and Relationship Status: Spirituality is not determined by one's relationship status. Whether married or unmarried, the focus should be on serving God faithfully. Paul emphasizes that both states are good and valid, and neither makes one more or less spiritual. [29:36]
2. Freedom from Present Difficulties: Remaining unmarried can offer freedom from certain difficulties, such as the challenges of supporting a family during times of distress. Paul suggests that singleness can be a practical choice in challenging circumstances, allowing individuals to focus on serving God without additional burdens. [06:28]
3. Freedom from Distractions: Singleness can provide freedom from potential distractions that marriage might bring. Paul encourages those who are unmarried to use their undivided attention to serve the Lord, highlighting the importance of prioritizing one's devotion to God above all else. [16:09]
4. Primary Devotion to God: For those who are unmarried, Paul emphasizes the opportunity to be wholly devoted to God. This primary devotion allows for greater flexibility and availability to serve in ministry and respond to God's calling without the divided interests that marriage might entail. [20:19]
5. Personal Decision and Calling: Paul acknowledges the freedom to make personal decisions regarding marriage, encouraging individuals to consider their circumstances, character, career, and calling. He highlights the importance of aligning one's decisions with God's calling and being content in the role to which they are called. [24:45]
Youtube Chapters:
[00:00] - Welcome
[03:06] - Addressing the Unmarried
[06:28] - Present Distress and Singleness
[09:39] - Freedom from Present Difficulties
[11:23] - Practical Considerations of Marriage
[14:34] - Distractions in Marriage
[16:09] - Undivided Devotion to God
[17:37] - Benefits of Singleness
[20:19] - Primary Devotion and Ministry
[21:39] - Anxieties and Divided Interests
[22:41] - Cultural Perceptions of Singleness
[23:23] - Freedom to Choose
[24:45] - Making the Decision to Marry
[25:26] - Considering Circumstances and Calling
[29:36] - Conclusion: Serve God Where You're Called
Study Guide
Bible Study Discussion Guide
Bible Reading:
- 1 Corinthians 7:1-40
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Observation Questions:
1. What question did the Corinthians ask Paul that prompted his response in 1 Corinthians 7? [03:06]
2. How does Paul describe the concept of "present distress" in his advice to the unmarried? [06:28]
3. What are the two freedoms Paul mentions that singleness can provide according to the sermon? [09:39]
4. How does Paul address the cultural perceptions of marriage and singleness in the Corinthian church? [22:41]
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Interpretation Questions:
1. What might Paul mean by advising that those who are unmarried should remain so due to "present distress"? How does this apply to both historical and modern contexts? [09:39]
2. How does Paul’s advice about marriage and singleness challenge the cultural norms of both the Corinthian church and today's society? [22:41]
3. In what ways does Paul suggest that singleness can lead to a more undivided devotion to God? How might this be practically applied in one's life? [17:37]
4. How does Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 7 help believers understand the relationship between spirituality and relationship status? [29:36]
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Application Questions:
1. Reflect on your current relationship status. How can you serve God faithfully in your current role, whether married or unmarried? [29:36]
2. If you are unmarried, what are some present difficulties or distractions you feel freed from? How can you use this freedom to serve God more effectively? [11:23]
3. For those who are married, how can you ensure that your marriage supports rather than distracts from your devotion to God? [14:34]
4. Consider your personal circumstances, character, career, and calling. How do these factors influence your decision about marriage or singleness? [24:45]
5. How can you support and encourage those in your community who are unmarried, recognizing the unique opportunities and challenges they face? [22:41]
6. Reflect on a time when you felt pressured by cultural expectations regarding marriage or singleness. How did you respond, and what might you do differently now? [23:23]
7. Identify one way you can prioritize your devotion to God this week, regardless of your relationship status. What specific steps will you take to achieve this? [20:19]
Devotional
Day 1: Spirituality Beyond Relationship Status
Spirituality is not confined to whether one is married or single. Paul emphasizes that both states are equally valid and good, and neither makes a person more or less spiritual. The focus should be on serving God faithfully in whatever role one finds themselves. This perspective challenges cultural norms that often equate spirituality with certain life stages or statuses. Instead, it encourages individuals to find contentment and purpose in their current situation, knowing that their primary identity is in Christ, not in their relationship status. [29:36]
1 Corinthians 7:17 (ESV): "Only let each person lead the life that the Lord has assigned to him, and to which God has called him. This is my rule in all the churches."
Reflection: In what ways have you allowed your relationship status to define your spirituality? How can you refocus your identity in Christ today?
Day 2: Embracing Freedom from Present Difficulties
Paul suggests that remaining unmarried can offer freedom from certain difficulties, such as the challenges of supporting a family during times of distress. This perspective is particularly relevant in challenging circumstances, where singleness can be a practical choice that allows individuals to focus on serving God without additional burdens. By choosing singleness, one might avoid the added pressures and responsibilities that come with marriage, especially during times of crisis or uncertainty. This freedom can be seen as an opportunity to devote oneself more fully to God's work and to navigate life's challenges with fewer distractions. [06:28]
1 Corinthians 7:26 (ESV): "I think that in view of the present distress it is good for a person to remain as he is."
Reflection: Are there current challenges in your life where singleness might offer you more freedom to serve God? How can you use this freedom to focus on His work today?
Day 3: Singleness as Freedom from Distractions
Singleness can provide freedom from potential distractions that marriage might bring. Paul encourages those who are unmarried to use their undivided attention to serve the Lord, highlighting the importance of prioritizing one's devotion to God above all else. This undivided devotion allows for a deeper focus on spiritual growth and ministry, free from the divided interests that marriage might entail. By embracing singleness, individuals can experience a unique opportunity to serve God with their whole heart and mind, without the competing demands of a spouse or family. [16:09]
1 Corinthians 7:32-34 (ESV): "I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided."
Reflection: What are some distractions in your life that might be hindering your devotion to God? How can you minimize these distractions to focus more on serving Him?
Day 4: Primary Devotion to God
For those who are unmarried, Paul emphasizes the opportunity to be wholly devoted to God. This primary devotion allows for greater flexibility and availability to serve in ministry and respond to God's calling without the divided interests that marriage might entail. By prioritizing their relationship with God, unmarried individuals can experience a deeper sense of purpose and fulfillment in their spiritual journey. This devotion is not just about avoiding distractions but about actively seeking ways to serve and honor God with one's life. [20:19]
1 Corinthians 7:35 (ESV): "I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord."
Reflection: How can you cultivate a deeper devotion to God in your current season of life? What specific steps can you take to prioritize your relationship with Him today?
Day 5: Personal Decision and Calling
Paul acknowledges the freedom to make personal decisions regarding marriage, encouraging individuals to consider their circumstances, character, career, and calling. He highlights the importance of aligning one's decisions with God's calling and being content in the role to which they are called. This perspective empowers individuals to make choices that reflect their unique journey and relationship with God, rather than conforming to societal expectations. By seeking God's guidance and wisdom, one can find peace and fulfillment in their chosen path, whether married or single. [24:45]
1 Corinthians 7:7 (ESV): "I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another."
Reflection: What personal decisions are you currently facing regarding your relationship status? How can you seek God's guidance to align these decisions with His calling for your life?
Quotes
"Instead, for those who are married, you ought to be committed to your marriage. You ought to be sexually active in your marriage. You've made a covenant to one another. So stick to that covenant. Don't break the covenant promise that you've given." [00:01:32] (16 seconds)
"Paul says being spiritual to those who are married means staying in your marriage. We talked about that last week. This week, he's going to say, or speak to those who are unmarried." [00:02:26] (11 seconds)
"Given this present distress, and we'll talk about what he might mean by that, it may be better for those who are unmarried to remain unmarried. That's his point. And so he's using this idea, and in essence saying, it may be preferable to remain unmarried." [00:06:54] (21 seconds)
"Another view of it we'll call the eschatological view. We're going to throw out the big theology terms just to keep everyone awake. Because now you're thinking, wow, what are we dealing with here? So the eschatological. Eschatological view is the view that would pose that the present distress that Paul is referring to is this understanding of the imminent return of Christ." [00:08:29] (23 seconds)
"The time's short, and what's imperative is that God's people live without distractions in life. Okay, so he says, number one, remaining single may be profitable or preferable because it offers a freedom from present difficulties, and it offers a freedom from some potential distractions." [00:14:04] (20 seconds)
"What Paul is saying here is that, listen, you are sold to the Lord. If you think of it this way, and not to step into the toes or the realm of our Catholic brothers and sisters, but in some ways, Paul is saying if you're not married to a spouse, you have an opportunity to be married to the ministry of God's church." [00:18:25] (18 seconds)
"Your number one business is to serve and honor God. And so he will go on. On down into verse 32, he will say, I want you to be free from anxieties. Now, these anxieties, we think of them just as worries. And at men's retreat this year, we talked about worry. And there's an interesting etymology that comes under this word anxieties and worry. And the picture of it is literally those things that are pulling you apart." [00:16:24] (31 seconds)
"Paul says there is a freedom to remarry for those whose spouses have died but to be done in the lord to be done in the lord there's compatibility next consider your calling consider your calling in life i have run into stories in the past couple weeks and studying this of of men and women who have taken a call to the mission field or maybe gone and done great things on the mission field but uh consider a man who went over to let's say india to serve god in the mission field and he has a wife and children that he left home here in america they go and serve they did great things in the mission field but what happens to the to the family at home a marriage that ends in divorce kids who have no father so i say consider your calling because you you need to consider those who are around you and for those who are unmarried if you are feeling called to the mission field that may be something to talk about is it good and right to pursue a marriage here now calling some may have a very clear calling from the lord that he's called into a life of singleness that's okay my great aunt is someone who god has called to a life of singleness she served the lord in pakistan for years of her life as a missionary and she is totally content with the life that god has called her to god has called people to that and that's okay consider your calling in the lord" [00:26:29] (94 seconds)
"Your relationship status doesn't make you any more or less spiritual. Being married is good. Being unmarried is good. So at the end of the day, choose your good. And if you're married, find and make the good in your marriage. If you're unmarried and you commit to that good, find the good in serving God in great ways in your being unmarried." [00:29:48] (24 seconds)
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