Embracing Self-Control: The Path to True Change

Devotional

Day 1: Prudence as Wise Decision-Making

Prudence is not about avoiding risks but making wise decisions. It involves the ability to foresee potential outcomes and choose the path that aligns with wisdom and understanding. Self-control is a vital component of prudence, as it allows individuals to regulate their thoughts, feelings, and actions in a way that supports wise decision-making. Many people struggle with self-control, often rating it as their weakest character strength. However, it is foundational for effective decision-making and personal growth. By cultivating self-control, individuals can better navigate life's challenges and make decisions that lead to positive outcomes. [01:10]

Proverbs 14:8 (ESV): "The wisdom of the prudent is to discern his way, but the folly of fools is deceiving."

Reflection: Think of a recent decision you made that didn't turn out as expected. How might exercising prudence and self-control have changed the outcome?

Day 2: The Shift in Character Emphasis

Over time, there has been a shift in the emphasis on character, leading to challenges in implementing change despite gaining insight. In the past, individuals were known for having strong wills, which made therapy challenging but effective once breakthroughs were achieved. Today, people often gain insight quickly but lack the character strength to implement change. This shift has contributed to various societal problems, such as increased divorce rates and rising crime. Building character strength, particularly self-control, is crucial for overcoming these challenges and fostering personal and societal growth. [03:01]

Galatians 6:9 (ESV): "And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up."

Reflection: Reflect on an area in your life where you have insight but struggle to implement change. What steps can you take to build the character strength needed to make that change?

Day 3: Understanding the Limits of Willpower

Willpower is finite and depletes with use, affecting our ability to manage tasks and emotions. Like a muscle, it can become exhausted, leading to self-regulation failure. This understanding helps individuals develop strategies to conserve and effectively use willpower across different areas of life. By recognizing the limitations of willpower, people can create environments and habits that reduce the need for constant self-control, allowing them to focus their energy on what truly matters. [05:06]

Isaiah 40:29-31 (ESV): "He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint."

Reflection: Identify a situation where you often feel your willpower is depleted. What practical steps can you take to conserve your willpower in this area?

Day 4: Developing Effective Habits

People with high self-control experience less stress by avoiding problem situations and developing effective habits. This approach reduces the need for willpower in emergencies and fosters a more balanced and fulfilling life. By cultivating habits that align with their values and goals, individuals can create a life that requires less reactive decision-making and more proactive living. This not only enhances personal well-being but also contributes to a more harmonious and productive community. [09:05]

1 Corinthians 9:25 (ESV): "Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable."

Reflection: What is one habit you can develop that would reduce stress and improve your self-control? How can you start implementing this habit today?

Day 5: Surrendering the Will to God's Purpose

The will is not blind; it is connected to our intellect and conscience. Surrendering the will to God's truth and love strengthens it, aligning our mind and body with His purpose. This act of surrender is a powerful tool for personal and spiritual transformation. By choosing to follow our conscience and align with God's will, we strengthen our character and open ourselves to true change. Surrendering is not about giving up but about trusting in a higher purpose and allowing it to guide our actions and decisions. [11:11]

James 4:7-8 (ESV): "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded."

Reflection: What is one area of your life where you find yourself holding back from surrendering to God's will? What would surrendering this area to Him actually look like in terms of daily habits?

Sermon Summary

Change begins today, and it starts with understanding the importance of self-control. Recently, I took a walk through the Santa Cruz mountains, which led to some scratches and rashes. This experience taught me that prudence is not about avoiding risks but about making wise decisions. This walk highlighted the need for self-control, a character strength that many struggle with. Self-control is the ability to regulate thoughts, feelings, and actions, and it is often rated as the weakest character strength by individuals.

Roy Baumeister's book "Willpower" discusses the shift in character emphasis over the years. In Freud's era, people had strong wills, making therapy challenging but effective once breakthroughs were achieved. However, in modern times, people achieve insight quickly but lack the character strength to implement change. Baumeister identifies self-regulation failure as a major social issue, contributing to problems like increased divorce rates and rising crime.

The Apostle Paul described this struggle in Romans, expressing the desire to do good but failing to carry it out. Self-control is crucial because it determines the effectiveness of our will. Proverbs 25:28 compares a person lacking self-control to a city with broken walls, vulnerable to attacks. Paul also emphasizes self-control as a fruit of the Spirit, highlighting its importance in spiritual growth.

Baumeister's research shows that willpower is finite and depletes with use, much like a muscle. It is used across various tasks, from resisting temptation to solving problems. This depletion affects our ability to make decisions and manage emotions. However, people with high self-control experience less stress because they avoid problem situations and develop effective habits.

Ezra Sullivan critiques Baumeister's view, noting that the will is not blind like a muscle. It is connected to our intellect and conscience. Choosing to follow our conscience strengthens our will, while giving in to desires weakens it. The will should be surrendered to what is good, aligning with God's truth and love.

Today, focus on one simple goal: surrender. This act strengthens the will rather than depleting it. Open your hands and say, "God, your will be done." Let this be your mantra whenever you face challenges or temptations. Surrendering to God's will aligns your mind and body with His purpose, leading to true change.

Key Takeaways

1. Prudence and Self-Control: Prudence is not about avoiding risks but making wise decisions. Self-control, often rated as the weakest character strength, is essential for regulating thoughts, feelings, and actions. It is the foundation for effective decision-making and personal growth. [01:10]
2. Character and Willpower: Over time, the emphasis on character has shifted, leading to challenges in implementing change despite gaining insight. Self-regulation failure is a significant social issue, contributing to various societal problems. Building character strength is crucial for overcoming these challenges. [03:01]
3. Finite Willpower: Willpower is finite and depletes with use, affecting our ability to manage tasks and emotions. Understanding this limitation helps in developing strategies to conserve and effectively use willpower across different areas of life. [05:06]
4. Developing Effective Habits: People with high self-control experience less stress by avoiding problem situations and developing effective habits. This approach reduces the need for willpower in emergencies and fosters a more balanced and fulfilling life. [09:05]
5. Surrendering the Will: The will is not blind; it is connected to our intellect and conscience. Surrendering the will to God's truth and love strengthens it, aligning our mind and body with His purpose. This act of surrender is a powerful tool for personal and spiritual transformation. [11:11]
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Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[00:44] - The Walk in Santa Cruz
[01:10] - Understanding Prudence and Self-Control
[01:53] - Self-Control: A Common Struggle
[02:06] - Insights from Roy Baumeister
[03:01] - The Shift in Character Emphasis
[03:33] - Self-Regulation Failure
[04:10] - Biblical Perspective on Self-Control
[04:38] - The Nature of Willpower
[05:06] - Finite Willpower and Its Implications
[06:08] - Dimensions of Willpower
[07:31] - The Limits of White-Knuckling
[08:02] - Reducing Stress Through Self-Control
[09:05] - Developing Effective Habits
[11:11] - Surrendering the Will
[12:09] - A Simple Goal for Today

Sermon Clips

Prudence doesn't involve risk avoidance. Prudence is doing what is wise, and I would do that walk again in a heartbeat. We were making a memory, we were having a conversation. What that walk leads to is the need for another character strength, and that character strength is self-control, the ability to regulate what it is that I think and what it is that I feel and what it is that I do. [00:59:52]

Now this has probably shifted somewhat over the years. This gets deeply into issues of character. I'm gonna talk today some from Roy Baumeister's book, Willpower, and he writes about a shift that took place. Ellen Wheel is the psychoanalyst psychiatrist who revealed this, that Freudian therapy is no longer work the way that they were supposed to. [01:19:10]

In Freud's day, the Victorian era had a big emphasis on character and building character that actually worked in people's lives. So Freud found that people had intensely strong Wills made it hard for the therapist to break through their defenses, but once they did, once people saw why they were neurotic and miserable, then they, when they achieved Insight, they could change rather easily. [02:39:31]

Self-regulation failure, he says, is the major social pathology of our time. What is self-regulation failure? While it was described this way a couple thousand years ago by a man named Paul when he was writing a church in Rome: I have a desire to do good but I can't carry it out, for I do not do the good that I want to do, but the bad I do not want to do, this I keep doing. [03:11:08]

Proverbs 25:28 says that a person who lacks self-control is like a city whose walls are broken down, vulnerable to attack from any different direction. Or when Paul talks about the fruit of the spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, and so the climax of the list is self-control. Or Paul says to his young friend Timothy, for God did not give us a spirit of timidity but of power and of love and of self-control. [04:06:46]

You have a finite amount of willpower, and it becomes depleted when you use it. Quite famously, he often says it's like a muscle. You do push-ups and then eventually you can't do any more push-ups till you rest a while. Second lesson, you use the same stock of willpower for all manner of tasks. [04:47:40]

People who have more self-control have less need to use willpower because they're beset by fewer Temptations and inner conflicts. The better at arranging their lives so they avoid problem situations. People with good self-control mainly use it not for rescue in emergencies but rather to develop effective habits. [08:23:58]

They engage in a way of life so that I will naturally think thoughts that are true and have desires and emotions that are healthy and perceive the presence of God and other people so that I want to help them and have impulses to action that will be good and contribute value around me. [09:05:45]

The will is not blind. The will is attached to our intellect and we know what is good and it turns out with the will that you know my big problem is I have an appetite I want to do this but I know this is good I have a conscience. Now if I choose to move in the direction of my conscience over time my will for what is good will grow stronger. [09:54:60]

The right order of life is that my will tells my mind what to do and my mind tells my body what to do my body obeys it. When I get messed up my body is in charge my appetites and my mind becomes obsessed with that and then my will gets enslaved to whatever my appetites are. In our day we call that addiction and the Bible's day it was called idolatry. [10:33:30]

There is one act of the will that does not deplete it that actually strengthens and does not rob it and it is surrender, and you can do it right now. Just take your hands and open them up like this and say these words: God, your will be done. I want your will for my life, God. [11:49:60]

But today whenever the thought comes to mind whenever you're confused whenever you find yourself tempted whenever there's a thought you don't want to think or a feeling you don't want to feel or an Impulse you don't want to give into or a performance that you feel like you're not up to, your will be done. [12:52:27]

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