Embracing Sacrificial Love Through Surrender and Forgiveness
Summary
Today, we gathered to celebrate the nurturing, sacrificial love that shapes our lives—whether through mothers, parents, teachers, or those who serve in our community. We honored Kristen Weschler’s ordination and the selfless work of our Sunday school teachers, recognizing that true love is often expressed in unseen acts of sacrifice. On this Mother’s Day, we reflected on the ways those who care for us give up their own comfort and desires for our sake, modeling the kind of sacrificial love to which Christ calls us.
Drawing from Dostoevsky’s parable of the onion, we explored the dangers of holding too tightly to what we have—our “onions”—and the ways our fear and self-protection can keep us from sharing God’s grace with others. The story challenges us to ask: What are we unwilling to let go of? Is it our reputation, our sense of security, our need to be right, or our desire for control? Jesus’ invitation is clear: to follow him, we must deny ourselves, take up our cross, and surrender those things that keep us from loving fully.
This surrender is not about self-loathing or denying our needs, but about letting go of our ego and trusting that God’s love is enough. The process of surrender is echoed in the 12 steps of recovery, which teach us to turn our will and lives over to God, to examine ourselves honestly, and to make amends. True surrender is not a one-time event but a continual process of letting go, accepting our imperfections, and allowing God to fill us with love.
The story of Louie Zamperini, who endured unimaginable suffering and ultimately found peace through surrender and forgiveness, reminds us that letting go of resentment and the need for control opens us to God’s transforming love. Whether in parenting, relationships, or our own spiritual journey, we are invited to trust that God’s grace is sufficient. When we empty ourselves, we make room for the power of Christ’s sacrificial love to work in and through us, bringing peace, healing, and a love that will never let us go.
Key Takeaways
- Sacrificial love is often hidden in the ordinary acts of care and service that go unnoticed. Whether it’s a parent giving up the last piece of food or a teacher preparing lessons, these daily sacrifices reflect the heart of Christ, who calls us to give of ourselves for others. True love is measured not by what we keep, but by what we are willing to give away. [22:49]
- The parable of the onion challenges us to examine what we are clinging to—our “onions”—that prevent us from sharing God’s grace. Fear of scarcity, desire for recognition, or the need to be right can all become barriers to generosity and community. The invitation is to trust that God’s love is abundant and to let go so others may also be lifted up. [48:13]
- Surrendering to God is not about self-denial for its own sake, nor is it about self-hatred. Rather, it is the process of letting go of our ego—our need to be in control, to be perfect, or to be seen as good. When we surrender, we discover a deeper security rooted in God’s unconditional love, freeing us to live authentically and generously. [54:42]
- The journey of surrender is ongoing and often uncomfortable, as it requires us to accept our imperfections and limitations. The 12 steps of recovery offer a powerful model for this process: admitting our powerlessness, turning our lives over to God, and making amends. Acceptance—of ourselves, others, and our circumstances—becomes a source of strength and peace, not weakness. [01:01:17]
- Forgiveness and letting go of resentment are essential to experiencing the fullness of God’s love. Louie Zamperini’s story illustrates that true freedom comes not from holding on to our pain or our need for justice, but from releasing it to God. When we surrender our hurts and trust God’s sufficiency, we are filled with a peace that surpasses understanding and a love that transforms even our deepest wounds. [01:09:01]
Youtube Chapters
[00:00] - Welcome
[08:07] - Celebrating Kristen’s Ordination
[09:27] - Gift of the Stole and Community Recognition
[10:41] - Announcements and Embracing Community
[21:38] - Children’s Time: The Sacrifice of Parents
[22:49] - Teaching Sacrifice and Recognizing Teachers
[45:36] - The Parable of the Onion
[47:12] - Lessons from the Parable: What Are Our Onions?
[48:13] - Naming Our Onions: What We Struggle to Let Go
[49:06] - Jesus’ Call to Sacrifice and Suffering
[51:36] - Peter’s Struggle and Jesus’ Rebuke
[52:13] - Taking Up Our Cross: Choice and Sacrifice
[53:14] - Denying Ourselves: Letting Go of Ego
[54:42] - The 12 Steps and Christian Surrender
[56:41] - The Third Step: Turning Our Will Over to God
[57:53] - Grace, Ego, and the Struggle to Surrender
[59:11] - True Security in God’s Love
[01:01:17] - Acceptance, Surrender, and Spiritual Growth
[01:03:03] - Louie Zamperini: A Story of Surrender and Forgiveness
[01:09:01] - The Power of Forgiveness
[01:10:22] - Letting Go of Control in Relationships
[01:14:10] - Blessing and Sending Forth
Study Guide
Bible Study Discussion Guide: Sacrificial Love & Surrender
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### Bible Reading
Matthew 16:24-26 (NIV)
> Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it. What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul? Or what can anyone give in exchange for their soul?”
Matthew 5:44 (NIV)
> But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
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### Observation Questions
1. In Matthew 16:24-26, what does Jesus say is required to follow him? What does it mean to “deny yourself” and “take up your cross”?
2. According to the sermon, what are some examples of “sacrificial love” that often go unnoticed in daily life? ([22:49])
3. In the story of Louie Zamperini, what did he have to let go of in order to find peace? ([01:09:01])
4. What is the “parable of the onion” about, and what does the onion represent in our lives? ([45:36])
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### Interpretation Questions
1. Why do you think Jesus connects following him with self-denial and taking up a cross? What might this look like in real life, not just in theory? ([49:06])
2. The sermon mentions that surrender is not about self-hatred, but about letting go of ego and control. Why is this distinction important for Christians? ([54:42])
3. In the parable of the onion, the woman’s refusal to share kept her from being saved. What are some “onions” people today might cling to, and how can this affect their relationships with God and others? ([48:13])
4. Louie Zamperini’s story highlights the power of forgiveness. Why is forgiveness so closely tied to surrender and peace, according to the sermon? ([01:09:01])
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### Application Questions
1. Think about a time when someone made a sacrifice for you that you didn’t notice at the time. How did it impact you when you realized it? Is there someone you need to thank for their hidden acts of love? ([22:49])
2. What is one “onion” (something you hold onto tightly—like control, reputation, or being right) that you struggle to let go of? How does holding onto it affect your ability to love others or receive God’s grace? ([48:13])
3. The sermon says surrender is a continual process, not a one-time event. What is one area of your life where you need to practice ongoing surrender to God? ([56:41])
4. When have you found it hard to forgive someone? What helped you move toward forgiveness, or what is holding you back? How might surrendering your hurt to God bring you peace? ([01:09:01])
5. In what ways do you try to control situations or people, especially in your family or close relationships? What would it look like to “let go” and trust God more in those areas? ([01:10:22])
6. The 12 steps of recovery include making amends and accepting our imperfections. Is there someone you need to make amends with, or an imperfection you need to accept in yourself? What is one step you can take this week? ([01:01:17])
7. Jesus calls us to love our enemies and pray for those who hurt us. Is there someone you need to pray for this week, even if it’s hard? What might change in your heart if you do? ([01:09:01])
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Closing Prayer Suggestion:
Invite the group to pray for courage to let go of their “onions,” to trust God’s love, and to be filled with Christ’s sacrificial love for others.
Devotional
Day 1: The Call to Sacrifice and Surrender
True discipleship means denying ourselves and letting go.
Jesus invites each of us to a life of sacrifice, not just in grand gestures but in the daily willingness to let go of our own desires, comforts, and even our need for control. This call is not about self-loathing or neglecting our needs, but about loosening our grip on the things we hold most tightly—our “onions”—so that we can follow Him more fully. When we choose to deny ourselves and take up our cross, we open ourselves to a deeper experience of God’s love and purpose, trusting that in letting go, we are actually being filled with something far greater than what we could hold onto ourselves. [49:56]
Matthew 16:24-25 (ESV)
Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it.”
Reflection: What is one “onion”—a comfort, habit, or desire—you sense God inviting you to loosen your grip on today, so you can follow Jesus more freely?
Day 2: Letting Go of Ego and Embracing Grace
Surrendering our ego allows us to receive God’s unconditional love.
Our egos often drive us to seek approval, control, and recognition, but these are false securities that keep us from experiencing the fullness of God’s grace. True surrender is not about giving up our value or worth, but about letting go of the need to prove ourselves and accepting that we are already loved by God. When we release our ego’s grip, we find a deeper security in God’s love, which frees us to live with humility, acceptance, and peace, no longer striving to earn what has already been given. [54:42]
Ephesians 2:8-9 (ESV)
For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
Reflection: In what area of your life do you find yourself striving for approval or recognition? How might you let go of that striving and rest in God’s grace today?
Day 3: The Power of Surrender in the Midst of Struggle
Surrendering control opens us to God’s transforming power.
Surrender is not a one-time event but a continual process, especially when we face suffering, disappointment, or the temptation to hold onto resentment. Like Louie Zamperini’s journey from anger and revenge to forgiveness and peace, we are invited to let go of our need to control outcomes or hold onto past hurts. In surrendering, we discover that God’s power is made perfect in our weakness, and that true freedom and healing come when we trust God to work in and through our struggles. [01:09:37]
2 Corinthians 12:9 (ESV)
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Reflection: Is there a struggle or hurt you are holding onto? What would it look like to surrender it to God and trust Him with the outcome today?
Day 4: Acceptance as a Pathway to Spiritual Growth
Accepting ourselves and others leads to deeper union with God.
Spiritual growth involves not only surrender but also acceptance—of ourselves, our imperfections, our past, and the people around us. Acceptance is not resignation, but a powerful act of trust that God is at work in all things, even in our flaws and failures. As we accept what is, we open ourselves to God’s love and allow Him to transform us from the inside out, moving us toward a life marked by love for God and neighbor. [01:01:17]
Romans 15:7 (ESV)
Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.
Reflection: What is one area of your life or relationship where you need to practice acceptance today? How can you invite God’s love into that space?
Day 5: Trusting God’s Abundance and Letting Go of Scarcity
Trusting in God’s sufficiency frees us to share and love generously.
When we hold tightly to what we have—whether it’s resources, recognition, or control—we operate from a mindset of scarcity, fearing there won’t be enough for us if we share with others. But God invites us to trust in His abundance, believing that there is enough love, grace, and provision for all. As we let go and surrender, we become channels of God’s generosity, lifting others up and discovering the joy and peace that come from living with open hands and hearts. [47:12]
Philippians 4:19 (ESV)
And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Reflection: Where do you find yourself tempted to hold back out of fear there won’t be enough? How can you trust God’s abundance and share more freely today?
Quotes
And when we allow ourselves to be emptied, to be powerless, to sacrifice, to surrender, what we discover is that there is a power far greater than ourselves that longs to work within us. And that is the power of Jesus' sacrificial love. So, when we are empty, we find instead we are filled. [01:02:26] (25 seconds)
And when we know that we're already loved and we trust that, then we can let go. We can let go of being right. We can let go of having control. We can let go of being recognized. We can let go of all of these things. Because we know that God sees us, that God loves us, and then that just allows us to let go. [01:00:18] (25 seconds)
Surrendering, then, is not giving up, as we tend to think. Nearly as much as it is a giving in to the moment, the event, the person, and the situation. Those first three steps, which I think Anne Lamott quotes as saying, I can't. God can. I think I'll let God. You know, that's very much like what happens in our spirituality. [01:01:17] (30 seconds)
It takes each of us a long time just to accept, to accept what is. To accept ourselves, ourselves, others, the past, our own mistakes, and the imperfection and idiosyncrasies of almost everything. I love that. Everything's imperfect. We weren't designed to be perfect. Acceptance becomes the strangest and strongest kind of power. [01:00:47] (30 seconds)
So that he demonstrated that, you know, he would rather surrender, be powerless and vulnerable than have us try to figure out what we have to do to earn God's love. Because it's not about earning God's love. It's that we're already loved. [00:59:58] (19 seconds)
And Jesus calls us to forgive. And I need to tell you that Jesus has replaced that hatred in my heart with love and forgiveness for you. He finally let go of that onion. And what he discovered was an amazing peace. He said, I never thought about it again in terms of me being a victim. I only thought about how God was with me the entire time, and I didn't even know it. [01:09:01] (36 seconds)
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