Embracing Humility: The Biblical Approach to Judgment
Summary
### Summary
In today's sermon, we explored the profound topic of judgment and how it affects our relationships and spiritual lives. We began with a story about Pastor Chuck Swindoll, who learned a valuable lesson about not jumping to conclusions when he misjudged a man who fell asleep during his sermons. This story set the stage for our discussion on the biblical principles of judgment as taught by Jesus in Matthew 7:1-6. Jesus instructs us not to have a judgmental or critical spirit, emphasizing that only God, who knows all and sees all, is qualified to judge.
We delved into five key biblical principles to help us navigate our natural inclination to judge others. First, we should avoid having a judgmental spirit, as it is not our place to judge others. Second, we should give people the benefit of the doubt, recognizing that we often lack the full context of their actions. Third, we must evaluate our own lives before criticizing others, ensuring that we are not guilty of the same faults. Fourth, we should fix our own problems before pointing out the flaws in others. Lastly, we should offer help and advice only to those who are willing to accept it, understanding that not everyone will appreciate or heed our counsel.
These principles remind us to approach others with humility, empathy, and love, reflecting the character of Christ in our interactions. By doing so, we not only foster healthier relationships but also grow in our own spiritual maturity.
### Key Takeaways
1. Avoid a Judgmental Spirit: Jesus teaches us not to have a judgmental or critical spirit because we are all imperfect and saved by grace. Judging others harshly not only harms our relationships but also puts us in a position that only God should occupy. We must remember that our limited perspective cannot fully grasp the complexities of another person's life. [08:18]
2. Give People the Benefit of the Doubt: Often, we judge others without knowing the full context of their actions. By giving people the benefit of the doubt, we practice empathy and understanding. This approach not only fosters better relationships but also aligns with the biblical principle of loving our neighbors as ourselves. [11:31]
3. Evaluate Your Life First: Before criticizing others, we must first examine our own lives. Jesus uses the metaphor of a plank in one's eye to illustrate the importance of self-reflection. By addressing our own shortcomings, we become more compassionate and less likely to judge others harshly. [19:55]
4. Fix Your Own Problems First: It's crucial to remedy our own issues before pointing out the flaws in others. This principle encourages us to lead by example and ensures that our advice is credible and sincere. When we focus on our own growth, we become better equipped to help others in a meaningful way. [31:38]
5. Help Those Who Will Accept It: Jesus advises us to offer help and advice only to those who are willing to accept it. This principle helps us avoid unnecessary conflict and ensures that our efforts are directed towards those who are open to change. It also reminds us that ultimately, it is God's role to transform lives. [36:41]
### YouTube Chapters
[0:00] - Welcome
[01:35] - Introduction: The Story of Pastor Chuck Swindoll
[03:20] - The Problem of Judging Others
[05:01] - Biblical Principles on Judgment
[06:47] - Constructive Criticism and Discernment
[08:18] - Principle 1: Avoid a Judgmental Spirit
[09:52] - God's Role as the Ultimate Judge
[11:31] - Principle 2: Give People the Benefit of the Doubt
[13:02] - The Importance of Context
[14:48] - The Dangers of Jumping to Conclusions
[16:24] - Balancing Empathy and Wisdom
[18:15] - Principle 3: Evaluate Your Life First
[19:55] - Self-Examination and Hypocrisy
[21:38] - The Story of Reverend Potter
[23:09] - Practical Steps for Self-Examination
[24:41] - Confession and Acknowledgment of Sin
[26:43] - Principle 4: Fix Your Own Problems First
[28:22] - Leading by Example
[30:00] - The Story of the Soloist
[31:38] - Principle 5: Help Those Who Will Accept It
[33:19] - The Importance of Practicing What We Preach
[35:02] - Discernment in Offering Advice
[36:41] - Conclusion: Let God Be the Judge
Study Guide
### Bible Study Discussion Guide
#### Bible Reading
- Matthew 7:1-6
- Romans 14:10-13
- James 4:11-12
#### Observation Questions
1. What does Jesus mean when He says, "Judge not, that you be not judged" in Matthew 7:1? How does this set the tone for the rest of the passage?
2. According to the sermon, what was the main reason Pastor Chuck Swindoll misjudged the man who fell asleep during his sermons? [01:35]
3. In Matthew 7:3-5, Jesus uses the metaphor of a speck and a plank. What is the significance of this metaphor in the context of judgment?
4. How does Romans 14:10-13 and James 4:11-12 reinforce the message of Matthew 7:1-6 about judgment?
#### Interpretation Questions
1. Why is it important to avoid having a judgmental spirit, according to the sermon and Matthew 7:1-2? How does this principle affect our relationships? [08:18]
2. What does it mean to give people the benefit of the doubt, and how does this align with the biblical principle of loving our neighbors as ourselves? [11:31]
3. How does self-examination help us become less judgmental and more compassionate, as illustrated by the metaphor of the plank and the speck in Matthew 7:3-5? [19:55]
4. Why does Jesus advise offering help and advice only to those who are willing to accept it, as stated in Matthew 7:6? How does this principle help us avoid unnecessary conflict? [36:41]
#### Application Questions
1. Reflect on a recent situation where you judged someone without knowing the full context. How could you have approached the situation differently by giving them the benefit of the doubt? [11:31]
2. Think about an area in your life where you might be critical of others. How can you apply the principle of self-examination to address your own shortcomings first? [19:55]
3. Have you ever offered advice or criticism that was not well-received? How can you discern when it is appropriate to offer help and when to hold back? [36:41]
4. Identify a relationship in your life that has been strained due to judgmental attitudes. What steps can you take to approach this person with humility, empathy, and love? [08:18]
5. How can you practice leading by example in your community or family, especially in areas where you have been critical of others? [31:38]
6. Reflect on a time when you received constructive criticism. How did it impact you, and what can you learn from that experience about offering advice to others? [06:47]
7. Consider a person in your life who might be struggling but is not open to receiving help. How can you show them love and support without being judgmental or critical? [36:41]
May this guide help you engage deeply with the sermon’s message and apply these biblical principles to your daily life.
Devotional
Day 1: Cultivating a Non-Judgmental Spirit
Jesus teaches us not to have a judgmental or critical spirit because we are all imperfect and saved by grace. Judging others harshly not only harms our relationships but also puts us in a position that only God should occupy. We must remember that our limited perspective cannot fully grasp the complexities of another person's life. By refraining from judgment, we allow ourselves to be more open to understanding and compassion, which are essential for building strong, loving relationships.
When we judge others, we often do so without knowing their full story or the struggles they face. This can lead to misunderstandings and unnecessary conflict. Instead, we should strive to see others through the eyes of Christ, who loves unconditionally and offers grace freely. By doing so, we reflect His character and create an environment where people feel valued and understood. [08:18]
Romans 14:10-12 (ESV): "Why do you pass judgment on your brother? Or you, why do you despise your brother? For we will all stand before the judgment seat of God; for it is written, 'As I live, says the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.' So then each of us will give an account of himself to God."
Reflection: Think of a recent situation where you judged someone harshly. How can you approach that person with more understanding and grace today?
Day 2: Extending the Benefit of the Doubt
Often, we judge others without knowing the full context of their actions. By giving people the benefit of the doubt, we practice empathy and understanding. This approach not only fosters better relationships but also aligns with the biblical principle of loving our neighbors as ourselves. When we assume the best in others, we create a culture of trust and respect, which is essential for healthy community life.
Giving others the benefit of the doubt means recognizing that we do not have all the information and that there may be valid reasons for their behavior. It requires us to be patient and to seek to understand before making judgments. This practice can transform our interactions and help us to build deeper, more meaningful connections with those around us. [11:31]
Proverbs 18:13 (ESV): "If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame."
Reflection: Think of someone you have judged without knowing their full story. How can you reach out to them and show empathy and understanding today?
Day 3: Self-Examination Before Criticism
Before criticizing others, we must first examine our own lives. Jesus uses the metaphor of a plank in one's eye to illustrate the importance of self-reflection. By addressing our own shortcomings, we become more compassionate and less likely to judge others harshly. Self-examination helps us to recognize our own need for grace and to extend that same grace to others.
When we take the time to evaluate our own lives, we become more aware of our faults and more humble in our interactions with others. This humility allows us to offer constructive feedback rather than harsh criticism. It also helps us to build credibility and trust, as others see that we are committed to personal growth and integrity. [19:55]
Galatians 6:4-5 (ESV): "But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. For each will have to bear his own load."
Reflection: What is one area of your life that you need to examine more closely? How can you address this area before offering criticism to others?
Day 4: Addressing Personal Issues First
It's crucial to remedy our own issues before pointing out the flaws in others. This principle encourages us to lead by example and ensures that our advice is credible and sincere. When we focus on our own growth, we become better equipped to help others in a meaningful way. Addressing our own problems first also prevents hypocrisy and builds trust in our relationships.
By working on our own issues, we demonstrate a commitment to personal growth and integrity. This not only benefits us but also sets a positive example for others to follow. When we lead by example, our advice and support become more impactful and are more likely to be received well by others. [31:38]
Matthew 7:3-5 (ESV): "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye."
Reflection: What is one personal issue you need to address before offering advice to others? How can you take steps to work on this issue today?
Day 5: Offering Help to the Willing
Jesus advises us to offer help and advice only to those who are willing to accept it. This principle helps us avoid unnecessary conflict and ensures that our efforts are directed towards those who are open to change. It also reminds us that ultimately, it is God's role to transform lives. By focusing our efforts on those who are receptive, we can make a more significant impact and avoid frustration.
Offering help to the willing means being discerning about when and how we offer our support. It requires us to be sensitive to the needs and readiness of others, recognizing that not everyone is in a place to receive our advice. By respecting their boundaries and timing, we show love and respect, and we allow God to work in their lives in His perfect timing. [36:41]
Proverbs 9:8-9 (ESV): "Do not reprove a scoffer, or he will hate you; reprove a wise man, and he will love you. Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser; teach a righteous man, and he will increase in learning."
Reflection: Think of someone you have tried to help who was not receptive. How can you adjust your approach to offer support only to those who are willing to accept it?
Quotes
1. "Whether we admit it or not, we all judge others. We judge people we don't know just by the way they look and they dress. We judge people's motives based on what they post on social media. We judge people's actions and their decisions without knowing the full context. We judge someone's personality through only one interaction, not even considering if maybe they were just having a bad and stressful day. We judge their relationships with others based only on what we see. And we judge a person's character and reputation without taking the time to find out what is the real story." [01:35] (51 seconds)
2. "The reason we're not to judge others is because we are all imperfect, inadequate, and deficient as sinners, yet saved by grace. None of us have reached the perfect standard of holiness and righteous living that God has set. And since we have not, then we are in no position to judge others." [05:01] (21 seconds)
3. "We should also note that Jesus didn't mean that we should turn off our brains and not critically judge someone based on what we obviously see. He's not teaching that we should naively accept everything someone tells us or believe the stories we hear uncritically. The Bible has many verses that balances this extreme thought, encouraging us to critically use our brain. He tells us to be wise as serpents, to be aware of evil people, to recognize that there are liars out there and that there are false preachers and teachers." [06:47] (47 seconds)
4. "Give people the benefit of the doubt. It was F.B. Myers, I believe, who once said that when we see a brother or sister in sin, there are two things we do not know. First, we do not know how hard he or she tried not to sin. And second, we do not know the power of the forces that attacked him or her, that caused him or her to sin. We also do not know what we would have done in the same situation." [11:31] (32 seconds)
5. "When we give people the benefit of the doubt, it means we don't immediately think bad about someone or think of the negative aspects of things, because we could be wrong in our assumptions, especially if we have jumped the conclusions. Imagine you made plans to meet up with a friend for coffee, but they are late and they don't tell you why. You message them, but they don't reply. You call them, there's no answer, and you don't get a call back. What happened?" [11:31] (33 seconds)
6. "Evaluate your life first to see if you have any unresolved character issues before you judge and criticize someone else for doing that which you have not dealt with yourself. You see, my friends, the height of hypocrisy is if you judge others for what you yourself are guilty of." [19:55] (23 seconds)
7. "When we have carefully examined areas in our life that need to change, we acknowledge our sins and deficiencies and confess them to the Lord and ask for forgiveness. As King David writes in Psalm chapter 32 verse 5, I acknowledge my sin to you and my iniquity I have not hidden. I said, I will confess my transgressions to the Lord and you forgave the iniquity of my sin, Selah. Like David, we declare, I have not hidden my sins because I know I have shortcomings." [24:41] (41 seconds)
8. "Fix your own problems first before you point out and deal with the problems of others. There are so many people today who like to mind everyone else's business and give unsolicited advice to everyone's problems, but they have not worked out their own issues first and are not accepting of others' help. They do not lead by example." [28:22] (24 seconds)
9. "Jesus calls people who are judgmental and critical without fixing their own problems first, He calls them hypocrites because they are deluding themselves. They do not deal with their own issues first because when they do, they will be able to clearly deal with the issues of others." [31:38] (24 seconds)
10. "Help and give advice only to those who will accept it. This helps us from justifying our judgmental attitude and critical spirit, but it also reminds us that it is not necessarily our place to change people who do not want to be changed. Like with judgment, ultimately, it is the work of God to change lives." [36:41] (21 seconds)