Embracing God's Seasons in Relationships and Parenting

 

Summary

In our relationships, we encounter various seasons, each with its own significance and purpose. As we navigate through love, marriage, and parenting, it is essential to recognize that God orchestrates these seasons with divine wisdom. He is a God of order, and His design for our lives, including our relationships, is intended to bring us joy and fulfillment.

Starting with love, we must understand the importance of putting everything in its proper season. God's timing is perfect, and when we align our lives with His seasons, we avoid unnecessary heartache. For instance, the Bible cautions us not to awaken love before its time. This principle applies to our sexuality and emotional intimacy. God designed sex to be a beautiful expression of love within the covenant of marriage. When we honor this design, we experience the fullness of joy that God intends for us.

In marriage, we must not confuse our spouse with our Savior. No human being can fulfill the deepest longings of our soul—only God can. When we look to our spouse to complete us, we place an impossible burden on them. Instead, we should pursue God first, knowing that as we draw closer to Him, we naturally grow closer to our spouse. This pursuit is ongoing; it doesn't end with the wedding vows but continues throughout the marriage.

For those who are single, the focus should be on becoming the person you're looking for is looking for. Instead of searching for someone to complete you, strive to be a complete person in Christ. When you meet someone who aligns with your values and faith, you'll be ready to enter into a relationship that honors God.

When it comes to parenting, the goal is to raise our children to release them into God's plan for their lives. We must trust that God has a unique purpose for each child and that our role as parents is to guide them towards that destiny. We can't be perfect parents, but we can be praying parents, interceding for our children and entrusting them to God's care.

Finally, we must fight to kill unrealistic expectations in our relationships. Expectations can create a debtor-creditor dynamic that robs the joy and blessing from our interactions. When we release these expectations, every act of love becomes a gift, and our relationships can flourish in newfound freedom.

Key Takeaways:

- God designs the seasons of our lives, including our relationships, to bring us joy and fulfillment. When we trust in His timing and order, we experience the blessings He has in store for us. ([03:37])

- Marriage is not about finding someone to complete us; it is about pursuing God together and growing closer to each other in the process. Our spouse is our partner, not our savior, and our ultimate fulfillment comes from God alone. ([15:56])

- For singles, the journey isn't about finding the perfect match but about becoming a whole and healthy individual in Christ. When you are the right person, you attract the right person. ([09:49])

- Parenting is a sacred task of raising children to step into their God-given destiny. We must raise them with the intention of releasing them, trusting that God loves them more than we ever could and has a plan for their lives. ([25:07])

- Unrealistic expectations can hinder the growth and joy in our relationships. By killing these expectations, we open the door to experiencing genuine love and appreciation for the blessings our loved ones bring into our lives. ([21:27])

Study Guide

### Bible Study Discussion Guide

#### Bible Reading
1. Ecclesiastes 3:1 - "To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven."
2. Song of Solomon 2:7 - "Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires."
3. Colossians 2:9-10 - "For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form, and in Christ you have been brought to fullness. He is the head over every power and authority."

#### Observation Questions
1. What does Ecclesiastes 3:1 suggest about the nature of our life seasons and God's role in them?
2. According to Song of Solomon 2:7, why is it important not to awaken love before its time? ([03:37])
3. How does Colossians 2:9-10 describe our completeness in Christ? ([15:56])
4. What are some examples given in the sermon of how unrealistic expectations can hinder relationships? ([21:27])

#### Interpretation Questions
1. How can understanding that "to everything there is a season" (Ecclesiastes 3:1) help us navigate difficult times in our relationships?
2. In what ways does the principle of not awakening love before its time (Song of Solomon 2:7) apply to modern dating and relationships? ([03:37])
3. How does recognizing that we are complete in Christ (Colossians 2:9-10) change our approach to marriage and other relationships? ([15:56])
4. What are the potential consequences of placing unrealistic expectations on our spouses or loved ones? ([21:27])

#### Application Questions
1. Reflect on a current season in your life. How can you trust God's timing and order more fully in this season? ([03:37])
2. If you are single, what steps can you take to become the person you are looking for is looking for? How can you focus on becoming whole in Christ? ([09:49])
3. For those who are married, how can you ensure that you are not looking to your spouse to fulfill needs that only God can meet? ([15:56])
4. Parents, how can you shift your mindset to "raise to release" your children into God's plan for their lives? What practical steps can you take to trust God more with your children's future? ([25:07])
5. Identify one unrealistic expectation you have placed on a loved one. How can you work to release this expectation and appreciate their acts of love as gifts? ([21:27])
6. How can you cultivate a habit of praying for your children or loved ones, trusting that God has a unique purpose for their lives? ([26:03])
7. Think of a recent conflict or disappointment in a relationship. How might releasing unrealistic expectations have changed the outcome? What can you do differently next time? ([21:27])

Devotional

Day 1: Embracing God's Timing in Love
God's perfect timing in love is designed to protect and fulfill us. When we trust in His seasons, we align ourselves with a divine order that is meant to bring joy into our relationships. Love is not something to be rushed or taken lightly. It is a profound and sacred expression that flourishes in the right context. The Bible warns against awakening love before its time, emphasizing the importance of patience and trust in God's plan for our relationships. This principle is particularly relevant when it comes to physical and emotional intimacy. By waiting for the appropriate season, specifically within the covenant of marriage, we can experience the fullness of love as God intended. This approach helps us avoid the heartache that often comes from premature commitments and allows us to build a foundation of trust and mutual respect that will sustain a lasting relationship.

"Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine; your anointing oils are fragrant; your name is oil poured out; therefore virgins love you. Draw me after you; let us run. The king has brought me into his chambers." (Song of Solomon 1:2-4 ESV)

Reflection: How can you practice patience and trust in God's timing for love in your current season of life? [03:37]

Day 2: Marriage as a Joint Pursuit of God
Marriage is a partnership where both individuals are called to pursue God first and foremost. This pursuit is the foundation upon which a strong and enduring marriage is built. It is not about finding someone to complete us, but rather about growing together in our relationship with God. When we place the burden of fulfillment on our spouse, we set ourselves up for disappointment. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings of our hearts. As we each draw closer to Him, we naturally grow closer to each other. This spiritual journey does not end at the altar but is a lifelong commitment that strengthens the marital bond and enriches the love shared between spouses.

"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 ESV)

Reflection: In what ways can you and your spouse (or future spouse) actively pursue God together to strengthen your relationship? [15:56]

Day 3: Wholeness in Singleness
For singles, the focus should not be on seeking someone to complete them but on becoming whole in Christ. This journey of personal growth and spiritual maturity is about developing into the person that aligns with the values and faith you desire in a partner. By cultivating a complete and fulfilled life in Christ, you become more attractive to those who share your commitment to faith and values. This approach ensures that when you do enter into a relationship, it will be one that honors God and is built on a solid foundation of mutual respect and shared beliefs.

"For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit." (1 Corinthians 12:13 ESV)

Reflection: What steps can you take to become more spiritually and emotionally whole while you are single? [09:49]

Day 4: Parenting with Purpose and Release
Parenting is a divine responsibility that involves guiding children towards their unique destiny in God. It is about nurturing them with love, wisdom, and prayer, and then trusting God enough to release them into His plan for their lives. Parents are called to be stewards of their children's hearts, teaching them to follow God's path. This task requires faith and the understanding that God's love for our children surpasses even our own. By entrusting our children to God's care, we can rest in the assurance that He has a purpose for each of them and that He is faithful to complete the work He has begun in their lives.

"Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth." (Psalm 127:3-4 ESV)

Reflection: How can you more effectively guide and then release your children into God's plan for their lives? [25:07]

Day 5: Releasing Unrealistic Expectations
Unrealistic expectations in relationships can create tension and disappointment, preventing us from appreciating the true blessings of love and companionship. When we release these expectations, we allow every act of kindness and love to be received as a gift, rather than a debt owed. This shift in perspective can transform our relationships, fostering an environment of gratitude and freedom. By letting go of the debtor-creditor dynamic, we open ourselves up to the joy and fulfillment that come from genuine, unconditional love.

"Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. For if anyone thinks he is something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself." (Galatians 6:2-3 ESV)

Reflection: What specific expectations can you let go of today to improve a relationship that is important to you? [21:27]

Quotes

- "Love was not a noun. Love's a verb, it's something you do." [22:26](Download | Download)

- "Become the person you're looking for is looking for." [09:49](Download | Download)

- "God is a god of order and when I say put everything in Seasons... it's not to ruin your fun, it's not to make life awful and not cool, the seasons are there truly for your benefit." [06:45](Download | Download)

- "Marriage is not about finding someone to complete us; it is about pursuing God together and growing closer to each other in the process." [15:56](Download | Download)

- "We raise to release... I'm not just releasing them into the scary world; I'm releasing my kids into God's plan and Destiny for them." [24:05](Download | Download)

- "You'll never be a perfect parent but you can be a Praying parent." [26:03](Download | Download)

- "When you drop expectations everything they do for you is a blessing... you feel blessed by everything they bring to the table because you don't expect it of them." [19:57](Download | Download)

- "Fight to kill unrealistic expectation. Expectations are not just about household chores... when you live in a relationship where you feel like the spouse owes you, you rob them of the potential of blessing you." [16:55](Download | Download)

- "God has a Destiny for your children... when you pray for them it has a way of doing more than you could ever do with all the planning and all the workshops that you could ever attend." [26:35](Download | Download)

- "If you treat church as optional, you will raise kids who treat Jesus as optional." [30:00](Download | Download)

Chatbot

  • I'm an AI bot trained specifically on the sermon from Feb 12, 2024. Do you have any questions about it?

Transcript
What was the most surprising thing in this sermon?
Were there any personal stories shared?