Embracing Forgiveness: Love Beyond Offense
Summary
Living without offense is not about never being offended, but about learning how to respond when offense inevitably comes. The heart of this journey is not simply avoiding conflict or pretending that nothing bothers us, but rather developing a deep capacity for forgiveness and love. Offense is a part of life—people will annoy us, disappoint us, and even hurt us. But the real issue is not the offense itself; it’s whether we are willing to forgive and love as God has loved us.
Scripture calls us to “put up with one another,” not in a superficial or begrudging way, but with the same patience and grace that God extends to us. This means tolerating the quirks, flaws, and habits of those we are called to love, even when they don’t change. It’s not about excusing harmful or dangerous behavior, but about letting go of the petty annoyances and irritations that so often trip us up. We are reminded that just as there are things about others we don’t like, there are things about us that others must put up with as well.
Human love is limited and often conditional, but God’s love is unconditional and enduring. We are called to love with His love—a love that is patient, kind, not easily angered, and keeps no record of wrongs. This kind of love doesn’t just act kindly on the outside, but genuinely thinks well of others on the inside. It doesn’t rejoice when others fall, but bears, believes, hopes, and endures all things.
Forgiveness is not weakness; it is power. When we forgive, we set ourselves free from the toxic grip of resentment and bitterness. Unforgiveness keeps us tethered to the very people and pain we want to escape. True forgiveness is a pardon—a legal release that says, “You don’t owe me anymore.” It’s not about denying the hurt or pretending it didn’t happen, but about refusing to let it define us or our relationships.
Ultimately, we are called to forgive, put up with, and pardon others as God has done for us. He has put up with our flaws, forgiven our sins, and pardoned us—granting us grace instead of what we deserve. The invitation is to extend that same grace to others, even when they don’t deserve it, just as we have received it undeservedly from God.
Key Takeaways
- Putting Up with One Another Is an Act of Love, Not Resignation
Tolerating the flaws and habits of others is not about settling for less or excusing bad behavior, but about loving people as they are, just as God loves us. This requires a shift from performance-based human love to the unconditional love of God, which empowers us to accept others without demanding they change first. [07:36]
- God’s Love Is the Only Source Strong Enough for True Forgiveness
Human love is limited and often runs out when faced with repeated offenses, but God’s love is patient, kind, and enduring. Only by relying on His love can we forgive and continue to love those who have hurt or disappointed us, without growing bitter or resentful. [08:52]
- Forgiveness Is Freedom, Not Weakness
Forgiveness is not letting someone off the hook or pretending the offense didn’t matter; it is releasing ourselves from the prison of resentment. When we refuse to forgive, we remain bound to the pain and the person who hurt us, but forgiveness sets us free to move forward in peace. [16:21]
- Pardon Means Refusing to Re-Penalize Others—or Ourselves
True forgiveness is like a legal pardon: it acknowledges the wrong but chooses not to hold it against the person any longer. When we keep bringing up past offenses, we not only re-penalize others, but we also lock ourselves in a cell of bitterness. God calls us to let it go, just as He has let go of our offenses. [19:04]
- We Are Called to Love and Forgive as God Has Loved and Forgiven Us
The ultimate motivation for putting up with, forgiving, and pardoning others is the example of God’s grace toward us. He has put up with our failures, forgiven our sins, and pardoned us completely—not because we deserved it, but because of His love. We are invited to extend that same grace to others, even when it feels impossible. [21:06]
Youtube Chapters
[00:00] - Welcome
[01:00] - Setting Expectations for Encountering God
[03:01] - The Cost of Anger and Choosing to Let Go
[04:16] - Addressing Offense: When You Can’t Overlook It
[05:30] - Learning to Put Up with One Another
[07:36] - God’s Ways vs. Our Feelings
[08:52] - Human Love vs. God’s Love
[11:00] - The Depth of God’s Love in 1 Corinthians 13
[14:07] - Love Bears with People and Their Habits
[16:21] - The Power and Freedom of Forgiveness
[19:04] - The Legal Pardon: Letting Go for Good
[20:30] - The Real Problem: Love, Not Offense
[21:06] - Forgiving as God Has Forgiven Us
[23:00] - Remembering God’s Grace and Pardon
[24:44] - A Personal Encounter with God’s Forgiveness
[27:25] - Extending Grace to Others
[28:39] - Closing Prayer and Invitation to Love
Study Guide
Small Group Bible Study Guide: Living Without Offense
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### Bible Reading
Colossians 3:13 (ESV)
> "bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive."
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV)
> "Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."
Proverbs 19:11 (ESV)
> "Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense."
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### Observation Questions
1. According to Colossians 3:13, what two actions are we commanded to take toward one another, and what is the reason given for doing so?
2. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, what are some specific qualities of love that Paul lists? How do these qualities relate to how we handle offense?
3. Proverbs 19:11 says it is a person’s “glory to overlook an offense.” What does this suggest about the value God places on letting things go?
4. The sermon described “putting up with one another” as an act of love, not just resignation. What are some examples from the sermon of things we are called to put up with in others? [[05:30]]
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### Interpretation Questions
1. The sermon says, “Most of us don’t have an offense problem; we have a forgiveness problem and a love problem.” What does this mean, and how does it shift the focus from the actions of others to our own hearts? [[04:16]]
2. Why is human love described as “performance-based” and limited, while God’s love is described as unconditional and enduring? How does this difference affect our ability to forgive? [[08:52]]
3. The pastor explained that forgiveness is not weakness but power, because it sets us free from resentment. How does unforgiveness keep us “tethered” to the person who hurt us? [[16:21]]
4. What does it mean to “pardon” someone in the context of forgiveness, and how is this different from simply excusing or forgetting the offense? [[19:04]]
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### Application Questions
1. Think of a recent situation where someone annoyed, disappointed, or hurt you. Did you “put up with it” or did you let it become a source of offense? What would it look like to respond differently next time? [[05:30]]
2. The sermon challenged us to love people as they are, not just as we wish they would be. Who in your life do you find it hardest to “put up with,” and what is one practical way you can show them patience or kindness this week? [[07:36]]
3. The pastor said, “You can’t, but love can.” When you feel like you can’t forgive or put up with someone, what would it look like to rely on God’s love instead of your own? [[08:52]]
4. Is there someone you have forgiven in words, but you keep bringing up their offense in your mind or in conversation? What steps can you take to truly “pardon” them and let it go? [[19:04]]
5. The sermon described forgiveness as a “legal pardon”—a choice to not hold the offense against someone anymore. Is there a specific person or situation where you need to declare a pardon? What would it take for you to do that? [[19:04]]
6. The pastor asked everyone to remember a time when God put up with, forgave, and pardoned them. How does reflecting on God’s grace toward you change your attitude toward those who have offended you? [[26:39]]
7. The message ended with an invitation: “Give to someone who is undeserving what I just gave you.” Who is God bringing to your mind right now, and what is one step you can take this week to extend grace to them? [[27:25]]
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Devotional
Day 1: Put Up With One Another in Love
To live without offense, we must learn to put up with one another—not just tolerating, but accepting people as they are, even when their habits, flaws, or weaknesses annoy us. This is not about ignoring serious harm, but about letting go of petty irritations and choosing to love people despite their imperfections. Just as others put up with things about us, we are called to extend the same grace, refusing to let minor offenses weigh us down or keep us in a place of resentment. When we put up with others in love, we create space for peace and unity, reflecting the patience God shows us every day. [07:36]
Proverbs 19:11 (ESV)
Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.
Reflection: Who is someone in your life whose habits or quirks have been getting under your skin? What would it look like to “put up with it” in love this week, rather than letting it become a source of offense?
Day 2: Forgive as the Lord Has Forgiven You
Forgiveness is not weakness; it is a powerful act that sets you free from the grip of past hurts. When you forgive, you are not excusing the wrong or pretending it didn’t happen, but you are choosing to release the offender from the debt they owe you, just as God has pardoned you. Unforgiveness keeps you tethered to pain and to the person who hurt you, but forgiveness breaks those chains and allows you to move forward in freedom. Every time the memory resurfaces, remind yourself that you have already pardoned it, and refuse to rehearse the pain. [16:21]
Colossians 3:13 (VOICE)
Put up with one another. Forgive. Pardon any offenses against one another, as the Lord has pardoned you, because you should act in kind.
Reflection: Is there someone you need to forgive today—not for their sake, but for your own freedom? What step can you take to release them and yourself from the cycle of hurt?
Day 3: Love That Puts Up With People and Their Flaws
Human love is limited and often conditional, but God’s love is patient, kind, and enduring. True love doesn’t just tolerate people; it puts up with them and the things that come with them, without resentment or bitterness. This love is not just about outward actions but also about the thoughts and attitudes of your heart. God’s love thinks no evil, rejoices in the truth, and endures all things. When you love with God’s love, you are able to bear with others genuinely, not just in appearance but in spirit, letting love overflow even when it’s hard. [14:07]
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (ESV)
Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Reflection: In what ways have you been “putting up with” someone outwardly, but harboring negative thoughts inwardly? How can you ask God to help you love them genuinely, both in action and in your heart?
Day 4: Remembering God’s Grace—He Put Up With, Forgave, and Pardoned You
God has not only put up with you, but He has forgiven and pardoned you, withholding the punishment you deserved and giving you grace instead. When you remember the times you have fallen short and how God met you with love, forgiveness, and restoration, it humbles you and fills you with gratitude. This grace is not just for you to receive, but also to extend to others, even when they don’t deserve it. As you reflect on God’s mercy in your own life, let it move you to show the same mercy to those who have wronged you. [26:39]
Psalm 103:10-12 (ESV)
He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his steadfast love toward those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far does he remove our transgressions from us.
Reflection: Think back to a specific time when God forgave you and showed you grace you didn’t deserve. How can remembering that moment help you extend grace to someone else today?
Day 5: Give to Others What God Gave to You
God calls you to give to others what He has so freely given to you: love, forgiveness, and pardon. Even when it feels impossible, and even when the other person doesn’t deserve it, you are invited to let God’s love spill over from your heart onto those who have offended you the most. Sometimes this means forgiving someone who is no longer present, or letting go of resentment that has lingered for years. As you open your heart to God’s love, ask Him to help you love like He loves, setting your heart free and spreading His love wherever you go. [27:52]
Ephesians 4:32 (ESV)
Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Reflection: Who is the person God is prompting you to give love, forgiveness, or pardon to today—even if they are no longer in your life? What practical step can you take to release them and let God’s love flow through you?
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