Embracing Forgiveness: A Journey of Grace

Devotional

Day 1: Forgiveness as a Reflection of Divine Grace

Christian forgiveness is fundamentally different from secular forgiveness. It is rooted in the grace and sacrifice of Jesus Christ. We forgive because we have been forgiven by God, not because the offender deserves it. This divine model of forgiveness calls us to extend grace even when it is difficult. Christian forgiveness is a reflection of the grace we have received from God. It is not based on the merit of the person who has wronged us but on the unmerited favor we have received through Jesus Christ. This kind of forgiveness is a powerful testimony to the transformative power of God's love and grace in our lives. It challenges us to rise above our natural inclinations for retribution and to mirror the forgiveness that God has extended to us.

In Colossians 3:12-14, we are called to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, and to forgive as the Lord forgave us. This passage underscores that our ability to forgive is a direct reflection of our understanding and acceptance of God's forgiveness. When we forgive, we are not only obeying a command but also participating in the divine nature of God, who is rich in mercy and grace. [01:13:59]

Ephesians 4:32 (ESV): "Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you."

Reflection: Think of someone in your life you need to forgive. Can you ask God to help you begin to extend His love and forgiveness to them today?

Day 2: The Cost of Forgiveness

Forgiveness is not cheap or easy. It involves a conscious decision to bear the cost of the offense, just as Jesus bore our sins on the cross. This process can be painful and requires us to relinquish our desire for retribution. True forgiveness is a sacrificial act that mirrors the love of Christ. When we choose to forgive, we are essentially absorbing the pain and cost of the offense, much like Jesus did for us. This act of bearing the cost is not a sign of weakness but of profound strength and love.

Forgiveness requires us to let go of our right to retaliate and to trust that God will bring justice in His own time and way. It is a deliberate act of the will, empowered by the Holy Spirit, to release the offender from the debt they owe us. This kind of forgiveness is transformative, not only for the person being forgiven but also for the one who forgives. It frees us from the bondage of bitterness and allows us to experience the fullness of God's peace and joy. [01:23:55]

Matthew 6:14-15 (ESV): "For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."

Reflection: What is one offense you are holding onto that you need to release? How can you begin to bear the cost of that offense today, trusting in God's justice?

Day 3: Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation

Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same. While forgiveness is a personal decision to release the offender from the debt of their offense, reconciliation requires mutual willingness and effort from both parties. Sometimes, reconciliation is not possible, but forgiveness remains essential for our spiritual well-being. Forgiveness is a unilateral act that we can choose to do regardless of the other person's response. It is about releasing the burden of the offense and finding freedom in our own hearts.

Reconciliation, on the other hand, involves the restoration of a relationship and requires both parties to be willing to work towards healing and rebuilding trust. While forgiveness is always possible, reconciliation may not be, especially if the other person is unrepentant or unwilling to change. However, our inability to reconcile should not prevent us from forgiving. Forgiveness is about our own spiritual health and obedience to God, while reconciliation is about the restoration of relationships. [01:29:15]

Romans 12:18 (ESV): "If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all."

Reflection: Is there a relationship in your life where reconciliation is not possible? How can you still choose to forgive and find peace in your heart?

Day 4: The Imprisonment of Unforgiveness

Refusing to forgive keeps us emotionally, spiritually, and even physically imprisoned. Unforgiveness makes us victims of the offense and the offender, holding us captive to past hurts. By choosing to forgive, we free ourselves from this bondage and open the door to healing and peace. Unforgiveness is like a poison that we drink, hoping it will harm the other person, but it only harms us. It keeps us chained to the past and prevents us from moving forward in freedom and joy.

When we hold onto unforgiveness, we allow the offense to continue to have power over us. It affects our mental and emotional health, our relationships, and our spiritual well-being. Forgiveness is the key that unlocks the prison of unforgiveness and sets us free. It allows us to let go of the past and embrace the future with hope and peace. [01:35:50]

Hebrews 12:15 (ESV): "See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no 'root of bitterness' springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled."

Reflection: Are you holding onto any bitterness or unforgiveness that is keeping you imprisoned? How can you begin to release it and find freedom today?

Day 5: The Impact of Forgiveness on Our Testimony

Our ability to forgive affects not only our personal spiritual health but also our witness to others. Unforgiveness tarnishes our testimony and can cause others to stumble in their faith. By embodying forgiveness, we reflect the love and mercy of Christ, inspiring others to follow Him. Our lives are a testimony to the world of the transformative power of God's grace. When we forgive, we demonstrate the reality of God's love and forgiveness in a tangible way.

Forgiveness is a powerful witness to the world of the gospel of Jesus Christ. It shows that we have experienced God's forgiveness and are willing to extend that same grace to others. Our ability to forgive can inspire others to seek God's forgiveness and to experience His love and grace for themselves. It is a testimony to the world that God's love is real and that it has the power to transform lives. [01:36:35]

Matthew 5:16 (ESV): "In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven."

Reflection: How does your ability to forgive impact your testimony to others? What steps can you take to ensure that your life reflects the love and mercy of Christ?

Sermon Summary

### Summary

Today, we delved into the profound and often challenging topic of forgiveness. We began by reflecting on the tragic story of Chris Williams, who lost his wife and children in a car accident caused by a drunk driver, yet chose to forgive the young man responsible. This story set the stage for our exploration of forgiveness, both in personal and societal contexts, such as the Me Too movement and the aftermath of apartheid in South Africa.

We turned to Colossians 3:12-14, which calls us to clothe ourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, and to forgive as the Lord forgave us. This passage underscores that Christian forgiveness is distinct from secular forgiveness; it is rooted in the grace and sacrifice of Jesus Christ. We are called to forgive not because it is easy, but because it mirrors the forgiveness we have received from God.

We examined the parable of the unforgiving servant in Matthew 18:21-35, which illustrates the vastness of God's forgiveness and the expectation that we extend the same grace to others. The servant, forgiven a massive debt by his master, fails to forgive a minor debt owed to him, highlighting the hypocrisy and consequences of withholding forgiveness.

Forgiveness is not about forgetting, condoning, or instantaneously resolving the pain. It is a deliberate choice to bear the cost of the offense, just as Christ bore our sins on the cross. True forgiveness may not always lead to reconciliation, but it is essential for our spiritual health and freedom. Unforgiveness imprisons us and tarnishes our testimony as Christians.

In closing, we were reminded that our path to a healthy future must cross the bridge of forgiveness many times. Forgiveness is a continuous journey, one that requires us to lean on God's grace and strength. As we strive to forgive, we embody the love and peace of Christ, inspiring others to follow Him.

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Key Takeaways

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2. The Cost of Forgiveness: Forgiveness is not cheap or easy. It involves a conscious decision to bear the cost of the offense, just as Jesus bore our sins on the cross. This process can be painful and requires us to relinquish our desire for retribution. True forgiveness is a sacrificial act that mirrors the love of Christ.

3. Forgiveness vs. Reconciliation: Forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same. While forgiveness is a personal decision to release the offender from the debt of their offense, reconciliation requires mutual willingness and effort from both parties. Sometimes, reconciliation is not possible, but forgiveness remains essential for our spiritual well-being.

4. The Imprisonment of Unforgiveness: Refusing to forgive keeps us emotionally, spiritually, and even physically imprisoned. Unforgiveness makes us victims of the offense and the offender, holding us captive to past hurts. By choosing to forgive, we free ourselves from this bondage and open the door to healing and peace.

5. The Impact of Forgiveness on Our Testimony: Our ability to forgive affects not only our personal spiritual health but also our witness to others. Unforgiveness tarnishes our testimony and can cause others to stumble in their faith. By embodying forgiveness, we reflect the love and mercy of Christ, inspiring others to follow Him.

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[00:00] - Welcome
[60:23] - Announcement of New Co-Lead Pastors
[62:20] - Story of Chris Williams
[64:40] - The Me Too Movement and Forgiveness
[67:33] - Desmond Tutu and Apartheid
[69:15] - The Challenge of Forgiving Deep Hurts
[72:02] - Colossians 3:12-14: A Call to Forgiveness
[73:59] - Christian vs. Secular Forgiveness
[75:55] - Jesus' Example of Forgiveness
[77:16] - The Bridge of Forgiveness
[79:44] - The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant
[83:55] - The Cost of Forgiveness
[89:15] - Misconceptions About Forgiveness
[95:50] - The Consequences of Unforgiveness
[96:35] - The Impact on Our Testimony
[99:00] - Closing Prayer and Song

Bible Study Guide

### Bible Study Discussion Guide: The Power of Forgiveness

#### Bible Reading

**Colossians 3:12-14**: "Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."
**Matthew 18:21-35**: The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant.

#### Observation Questions

What virtues does Colossians 3:12-14 encourage believers to clothe themselves with, and how are these related to forgiveness? [01:12:02]
In the parable of the unforgiving servant (Matthew 18:21-35), what was the servant's reaction after being forgiven a massive debt, and what does this reveal about his understanding of forgiveness? [01:19:44]
How does the story of Chris Williams illustrate the concept of bearing the cost of an offense in forgiveness? [01:02:20]
What are some of the consequences of unforgiveness mentioned in the sermon? [01:35:50]

#### Interpretation Questions

How does Christian forgiveness, as described in Colossians 3:12-14, differ from secular forgiveness? [01:13:59]
Why is it significant that Jesus used hyperbole in the parable of the unforgiving servant to describe the extent of forgiveness? [01:19:05]
What does the sermon suggest about the relationship between forgiveness and reconciliation? Can one exist without the other? [01:29:15]
How does the refusal to forgive imprison us emotionally, spiritually, and physically, according to the sermon? [01:35:50]

#### Application Questions

Reflect on a time when you found it difficult to forgive someone. What steps can you take to begin the process of forgiveness, even if reconciliation is not possible? [01:29:15]
The sermon mentioned that forgiveness is a continuous journey. How can you remind yourself to lean on God's grace and strength in moments when forgiveness feels particularly challenging? [01:17:16]
Think of a person or situation where you have withheld forgiveness. How has this affected your spiritual health and freedom? What can you do this week to start letting go of that unforgiveness? [01:35:50]
How can embodying forgiveness in your daily life inspire others to follow Christ? Can you think of a specific instance where your act of forgiveness might have impacted someone else's faith journey? [01:36:35]
The sermon highlighted the importance of bearing the cost of the offense in forgiveness. What does this look like in practical terms in your life? Are there specific actions you can take to bear this cost more willingly? [01:23:55]
How can you cultivate the virtues listed in Colossians 3:12-14 (compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience) in your interactions with others this week? [01:12:02]
Reflect on the statement, "Our path to a healthy future must cross the bridge of forgiveness many times." What are some practical ways you can prepare yourself to cross this bridge repeatedly in your life? [01:17:16]

This guide aims to help your small group delve deeper into the topic of forgiveness, understand its biblical foundation, and apply these principles in their daily lives.

Sermon Clips

1. "Our vision at Smyth Street Church is and continue will will continue to be we exist to inspire people to what? Follow Jesus. That's what we're we're gonna be about." [01:00:23] (16 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

2. "As believers in Christ, Christian forgiveness is very different from secular forgiveness. Those are two different concepts. Secular forgiveness is based on human and merit or goodness it is moralist whereas christian forgiveness hear me clearly christian forgiveness is exclusively based on a response to the gospel to grace we forgive as he forgave us through the willing sacrifice of christ jesus." [01:13:59] (40 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

3. "Your path to a healthy future must cross a bridge called forgiveness. And by the way, you will have to cross it many times. Many times. Peter asked Jesus a really interesting question. Lord, how often will my brother sin against me and I forgive him? How often do I need to cross the bridge called forgiveness?" [01:17:16] (30 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

4. "To forgive is to make a choice to suffer the cost of the offense. Can you say it with me out loud? To forgive is to make a choice to suffer the cost of the offense. In Desmond Tutu's book, you see the pain and the difficulty that they went through in reconciliation and healing as a nation. It was not easy. And he said, true reconciliation is not cheap. It cost God the death of his only begotten son." [01:24:33] (39 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

5. "Forgiveness is not always instantaneous. Wham! I forgive you. Woo! I'm great. Wait, sometimes we have to forgive and forgive and forgive and forgive and what? And forgive." [01:31:32] (20 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

6. "The moment you refuse to forgive someone you become a victim and a prisoner of that person in that situation. Can I say it again? The moment you refuse to forgive someone you become a victim of that person in that situation. They have a hold on you." [01:35:50] (28 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

7. "Our lack of mercy and forgiveness our lack of love for others affects the people around us. It affects our marriages. It affects our kids. It affects your kids. And your unforgiveness affects my kids. It affects all of us. It affects your friends. It affects the people you work with. It affects the people you study with. They look at that and they say What? That is not reflective. That does not inspire people to follow Jesus." [01:36:35] (37 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

8. "The main point that we've tapped today is that we are to forgive because the Lord forgave us. And then it goes on to say read with me and over all these virtues put on love which binds them all together in perfect unity let the peace of Christ ruling in your hearts since you were called to peace and be thankful." [01:39:00] (28 seconds) (Download raw clip | Download cropped clip)

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