Embracing Discipleship: The Call to Self-Giving Love

Today’s reflection centers on the profound meaning of our baptismal vocation: to be true disciples of Jesus by carrying our crosses and surrendering our will to God. This calling is not about rejecting or hating others, but about choosing to love the Lord above all, making that love the foundation of every relationship in our lives. We celebrated the beautiful witness of Carol and Tom’s 60 years of marriage, a living example of self-giving love, and honored Deacon Kevin’s 29 years of ordained service—reminders that discipleship is lived out in daily acts of sacrifice and faithfulness.

We also marked Grandparents’ Day, recognizing the vital role grandparents play in nurturing faith, often being the first to teach us how to pray and guiding us to church. Their prayers and example shape generations, and we are called to honor and pray for them, whether they are with us or with the Lord.

The heart of discipleship is captured in the paradoxical saying: “If you die before you die, then you won’t die when you die.” This is not a morbid focus on physical death, but an invitation to die to our old, selfish selves so that we may truly live. Baptism is the first “death” we experience—the death of the old self—yet this old self often tries to reassert itself, leading to a daily spiritual battle. Like the cartoon image of the angel and devil on our shoulders, we are constantly choosing between selfishness and self-giving love.

Carrying our cross means embracing the daily sacrifices required in our vocations: parents waking early to care for sick children, spouses choosing each other over personal comfort, volunteers giving their time and energy, and priests responding with patience and love. These acts of self-denial are not ends in themselves but are the means by which we become light for others, just as a candle fulfills its purpose by burning itself to give light.

The lives of newly canonized saints Carlo Acutis and Pier Giorgio Frassati remind us that holiness is not about perfection, but about offering our ordinary joys and struggles to God. Their youthful faith, love for the Eucharist, and service to the poor challenge us to see our lives as gifts to be poured out for others. In dying to ourselves, we discover the true purpose of our existence and the promise of resurrection. If we die to ourselves now, we will not die eternally, but live with Christ forever.

Key Takeaways

• 1. Baptismal vocation is a call to daily self-surrender, not just a one-time event. To follow Christ means to continually choose Him above all else, letting His love shape every relationship and decision. This surrender is the foundation of authentic discipleship and the source of true freedom. [16:50]
• 2. The paradox “If you die before you die, then you won’t die when you die” invites us to embrace spiritual death to our old selves. This is not about physical death, but about letting go of selfishness, pride, and comfort so that we can receive the fullness of life Christ offers. The daily battle between the old and new self is where true transformation happens. [37:35]
• 3. Carrying the cross is not merely enduring suffering, but actively choosing to love and serve others at personal cost. Whether as parents, spouses, volunteers, or clergy, each act of self-giving is a participation in Christ’s own sacrifice. The cross is inseparable from the resurrection; our sacrifices are seeds of new life. [39:08]
• 4. The image of the candle teaches that our purpose is fulfilled only when we give ourselves away. Just as a candle must burn to give light, we must “die” to ourselves to become a source of warmth and hope for others. Holding onto our lives for ourselves leads to emptiness, but self-gift brings true meaning and joy. [48:56]
• 5. The saints, especially those like Carlo Acutis and Pier Giorgio Frassati, show that holiness is possible in ordinary life. Their struggles and imperfections did not disqualify them; rather, their willingness to offer everything to God made them radiant examples. We are called not to polish away our humanity, but to let God’s grace shine through our real, imperfect lives. [25:49]

Youtube Chapters

• [00:00] - Welcome
• [16:50] - Honoring Carol and Tom’s 60th Anniversary
• [18:38] - Blessing and Confession
• [22:02] - Children’s Welcome and Grandparents’ Day
• [23:22] - The Importance of Grandparents
• [24:38] - Learning Faith from Grandparents
• [25:49] - Saints Carlo Acutis and Pier Giorgio Frassati
• [37:35] - The Paradox of Dying Before You Die
• [39:08] - Carrying Our Crosses in Daily Life
• [48:56] - The Candle: A Lesson in Self-Gift
• [60:06] - Eucharistic Prayer
• [64:11] - Prayers for the Church and the Faithful Departed
• [71:19] - Sending Forth Eucharistic Ministers
• [81:55] - Final Blessing and Reflections on Marriage
• [84:53] - Special Blessing for Carol and Tom
• [87:52] - Closing Blessing and Dismissal

Bible Reading

Luke 14:25-27 (ESV) — > Now great crowds accompanied him, and he turned and said to them, “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.”

Romans 6:3-4 (ESV) — > Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.

Observation Questions

1. In Luke 14:25-27, what does Jesus say is required to be his disciple? What does he mean by “carrying your cross”?
2. According to Romans 6:3-4, what happens to us in baptism? How is baptism described in terms of death and new life?
3. The sermon mentioned the phrase, “If you die before you die, then you won’t die when you die.” What does this phrase mean in the context of the message? [[37:35]]
4. What examples did the pastor give of people “carrying their cross” in everyday life? [[39:08]]

Interpretation Questions

1. Why do you think Jesus uses such strong language about “hating” family and even one’s own life in Luke 14? What is he really asking of his followers?
2. The sermon says baptism is like a “funeral for the old self.” What does it look like for someone’s “old self” to try to come back to life? [[39:08]]
3. The pastor compared our spiritual struggle to a cartoon with an angel and a devil on our shoulders. How does this image help us understand the daily battle between selfishness and self-giving? [[39:08]]
4. The lives of saints like Carlo Acutis and Pier Giorgio Frassati were described as “ordinary” but holy. What does their example teach us about what it means to be a disciple? [[25:49]]

Application Questions

1. The sermon talked about “carrying your cross” as making daily sacrifices for others—like parents caring for sick kids, spouses choosing each other, or volunteers giving their time. What is one area in your life right now where you are being called to “carry your cross”? [[39:08]]
2. The phrase “If you die before you die, then you won’t die when you die” is about letting go of selfishness and pride. Is there a specific habit or attitude in your life that you sense God is asking you to “let die” so you can live more fully for Him? [[37:35]]
3. The pastor used the image of a candle: it fulfills its purpose by burning itself to give light. In what ways are you being called to “burn” for others—to give of yourself, even when it costs you? [[48:56]]
4. Grandparents were honored for passing on faith and teaching prayer. Who has played a “grandparent” role in your faith journey? How can you honor or thank them this week? [[23:22]]
5. The saints were not perfect, but they offered their ordinary lives to God. What is one “ordinary” part of your life that you can offer to God this week—at work, at home, or in your relationships? [[25:49]]
6. The sermon mentioned the daily battle between the “old self” and the “new self.” What is one practical step you can take this week to choose self-giving love over selfishness? [[39:08]]
7. The message said that holding onto our lives for ourselves leads to emptiness, but self-gift brings true meaning and joy. Can you share a time when giving of yourself brought unexpected joy or purpose? [[48:56]]